im scared!!

[michelle87]

hi, this is a complicated problem but will keep it short. my partner and i have a 2 year old son together. im 22 and he is 33 and we have a really good life were a very loving family. my partner had a relationship when he was very young and had 3 kids a daughter who is 15, another daughter who is 13 and a son who is 10. when the relationship broke down she left first and then came back year and half later pregnant (a boy whos now 8) and took the kids gave all false adress phone numbers etc. my partner hasnt seen the kids since but has tried to regain contact through family courts etc. now heres what im scared of. we recieved a letter the other day saying that the mum has gone to jail and wont be getting out for a very long time so all of a sudden we are going to go from having 1 kid, to 5 kids (we will be forstering the child that isnt related to my partner as so the kids dont get split up). it sounds like these kids havent had the best upbringing so we would love to be able to give these kids a chance of having a normal life. first i was in shock and now im just plane scared im 22 and going to have 5 kids. i just need some reassurance or advice thanks like i said before im scared.

[Mummaholic]

Good luck! :hugs:

[Ollibot]

Wow,
Good on ya for being open to it, I'm not familiar with the ins and outs of it here, but I would think, giving the situation, you might receive some sort of support form social services?

[KatiesMum]

Wow - that will be pretty tough ....

Wishing you the very best - :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[siansmum]

Firstly let me say, in my opinion, you are an absolute saint if you take on this HUGE new role and responsibility! My heart goes out to you and I can totally understand that you are scared - I would be too. My husband has two girls from a previous marriage and they live with us 50% of the time. We also have a little girl together. I find it extremely difficult to have my husband's girls living here for such a big chunk of the time, so I can only imagine how very hard it's going to be for you having an extra four children there all of the time, especially when you are so young and one of the children is only seven years younger than you.
You are going to need loads of support, both physically and emotionally, so I really hope that you have family who you can call on to help you out. Please try to remember to take time out for yourself (much easier said than done), and also time out for just you and your husband - you're going to need it.
I really and truly wish you all the very best with this daunting change of life.