If you had a choice, would you have more children?

[Sammy76]

(This is for single parents only)

The older my son gets (and the older I get) the more certain that even if I met someone wonderful, I am pretty sure I wouldn't want to have any more children.

I want to only be working part time whilst my son is young, so by the time my son goes to school, I will be close to 36, and I am lately uncertain if i am even in the career that I will pursue for the rest of my working career. That means maybe more study.

I feel like I am running out of time!!

So to have another child in my future-well, I wouldn't know how it would be possible to juggle it all.

Plus I am so loving it as my son gets older. I felt so overwhelmed when he was younger.

What do all you single parents think for your own situation?

[Bubmum]

Hey chickaboo...you know I want more kids, no secrets there....
We're spending the weekend with J... And I am thinking bad evil thoughts.:laughing:

[Teley]

I'm planning on another some time in the future!

[Ana Gram]

No. I don't want any more children. I wish I could find a doctor who would sterilise me but haven't thus far.

[Hokey Pokey]

Definately, I'd have a few more :yes:

[Bountiful]

I'd love to have another child, although I'm studying towards my Nursing degree at the moment so ideally I want to finish Uni before I consider having another baby ... and there's also the issue of me having a partner :laughing:

In all seriousness though, while I want another child, my DS has Autism and I struggle with the fear that any subsequent children would also have the disorder :(

[nugglyboysmum]

I would dearly love more children. I am kinda single atm, left DH 7 months ago due to many issues, the main one being that he doesnt like kids nad doesnt want any more, however our plan was to have a large family when we got married. We are getting psych help atm, but i cant see him compromising on this, and i dont hink i want children with a man who doesnt enjoy family time. SO, if i ever get the chance again, i would LOVE more kids

[Myztiks#1Fan]

not atm but maybe in a few years when i get myself together and life is definately more settled for coop and myself.

ultimately, i dont to be a single mother to any more children, if i have more, i would like to have a partner.

[MummyDaddy]

OK - so I said unsure.

The truth is this.

I like my life with one child.

I don't really want to complicate it by having another.

I would need to really really really really be in love with the person and they would really really really really need to want one.

I'm a bit selfish, i'm happy with one. We have a life where baby girl is around children constantly and live in a big city so she gets the interaction. There is no real problem with her having siblings as she has 2 step brothers and step sister, so I don't feel I need to provide siblings.

It's two years of my life that I could be having fun with her, enjoying my career and life. Two years out... it's a big decision.

I think i'm too selfish to do it again.

Plus, my hands are ruined from the first time around, I really don't think I could go through the carpel tunnel again.

As said - my new partner would have to be freakin' amazing for me to even consider it.

I just think the answer is no... I don't want another one and i don't feel the need to have another.

There is no burning desire in my womb to go through all of that again.

I just love my bobbin and I love it being me and her and my male friend.

PS. Even though i'm not that old - I actually feel too old to go through that all again.

[SPC]

I'm planning on having another baby next year. I'm not sure how, probably IUI with a donor. I really don't want Esme to be all alone, especially if anything were to happen to me. I also think having two is easier, eventually, because they have a playmate. I don't want to wait, as I want a close gap so I'm not out of the workforce too long and I'm nearly 36. In for a penny...

[Mama32]

Yes i would. i want my son to have brothers and sisters. But with divorce and no partner that seems impossible.

[Veritas]

I would love for P to have a sibling... and the sooner the better....

However, I love being a SAHM.... and I love being a single mum.... if I was to do have a child within the realms of a relationship I would have to be 1000% sure it was for real..... IYKWIM.....

Ideally I would love to have another child within the next two years, I would preferrably like to be done by 35.... but financially I probably would find it difficult to justify IUI within the next two years, so it is unlikely....

I do love it being just the two of us, and that I can devote absolutely everything to her.... although I do think she would make a wonderful big sister.....

I'd never say never I guess...

[ilee]

i would love to have at least another baby. but being a single mum really complicates everything. i couldn't do it again on my own! i would need to find somone very commited before i became pregnant again. also i don't want my firrst dd to be pushed aside. this happened to me when i was little, when my sister came along her father didn't like me anymore and i couldn't do anything right! so its very complicated. short answer is yes but!!

[Teley]

Wow! So many people wouldn't want to do it single again, I'm quite surprised. I wouldn't mind doing it single, after all the harassment I have received from ex after the break up I'd be kind of glad just to have nobody on the scene.

I really want to go through IUI eventually or something. I just don't know if I'll be looked at funny due to my age:o. I had DS at 17 and I don't want an age gap too big, so if I go there at an "acceptable" age of even 30, he'll already be 13! What do you guys think?

[MummyDaddy]

MissPhantom, I think you and Heytch are more evolved in your thinking of procreation than us and you should GO FOR IT !!! I don't see a problem with IUI or doing it on your own.

For me, my answer related to pure selfishness, in that I don't want another child. But if I had a partner and they did - then I might consider it.

But I think for anyone who wants a second, then anyway they come to motherhood is fine. :yelclap:

[JadeyBaby2]

Nope - I'm done, this egg bank is closed!!!! lol.

When DS was younger I always thought I'd like to have another child. I'd kept all of his clothes and toys etc. Then I started my career going and was really content with my life and just having DS - I'd planned a Rome/Venice trip for Sept last year (which DS & I obviously didn't go on) and bought a nice car etc - you know - life was great.
Then BOOOMM!! lol......pregnant. Yes, there was 'irresponsible' actions that took place so it shouldn't have been such a shock to me, but I was at first quite devastated.
Now - I would never ever take anything back. I'm such a bigger better stronger person for having DD........but there's no more for me!!! Even if the love of my life begged me!! lol I'm happy to take on a 'blended family' situation, just not willing to do the whole pregnancy, baby thing again.

[SmileyBJ]

Deffinately want more children. Not sure when, i know im not ready yet though.

Ive always said i'd hate to be a single mum again, but honestly I hated it because of my ex not because i was alone. I would consider IUI in the future, but i also have plenty of time up my sleeve :)

Ds and I are really happy with just the two of us, he is my entire life and i love it!

[BlakeNatsMum]

Nope we are all done and dusted after our third.. No more for me!..

[Jensha]

Yes yes yes yes and um yes:p
I so want more children. The yearn is very strong. I really have enjoyed all the different 'age stages' with DD thus far. I know I have it in me to be a loving mother to more children. The most important thing for me though is to be in a stable long term relationship with a good partner who would be a good Father. Even though I strongly want more children I would be very happy if it to work out that DD would be my only child.

ETA - I love being a single mum. And I'd happily have another as a single mum. But my thoughts and needs aside. I would feel guilty for bring another child into a fatherless family. I didn't plan to be single when pregnant with DD but it happened. It's for the best considering who her father is but I don't know if I could willingly on purpose do it. I sometimes wish I could...cause honestly I'm so clucky sometimes and so badly want another child and for DD to have a sibling. And the gap is only getting larger. I never pictured myself having a large gap but I guess thats what life has in store for me.

[munchie]

when the RIGHT person comes along and I know in my heart it is right, that will be when I have another child. right now, meh..

[Tieko]

Yes definately! I already have two but I still plan to have another two more! :bee: I have been seeing my bf for a little while and hopefully if all works out well then we will have our first bub together sometime in the next two years (I don't want to wait too long as my boys will be 7 and 5 this year!!) I absolutely hate bing pregnant but the bubbas at the end would definately be worth it. As for the single mum thing, I absolutely love being a single mum (have been for 2 years now) and to be honest I find it more work with a partner - more cooking, more washing etc etc. I wouldn't consciously be a single mum but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if it ended up that way, I mean I already have two...whats a few more??