MIL needs a life - HELP!

[mummajuice]

I hate to sound really ungrateful but I need to have a gripe about my MIL or else I fear my head is going to explode!!!!

DH and I moved on account of his work and stayed with his mother for the first few months while we waited for our house to settle. It was during this time that I first noticed that his mother takes a very intense interest in our lives. I found out I was preg during the 2nd month of living with her and as we had previous miscarriages we asked that she not tell anyone our news until the "danger zone" had passed but within days I found out that she had told everyone!!!

Anyways fast forward to now DD is almost 4 months old and MIL is getting worse! She comes over every 2 days through the week and most weekends, giving me unecessary advice that she has acquired from work mates. DH had a stranger walk up to him in the shopping centre and say that she knew him from photos his mum shows and knew all about DD's cough, cold, snot, sleeping patterns, dirty nappies etc, etc. I know she's proud but I wish she'd shut up a bit!!

Also she tries to get me to start DD on solids and tells me how her kids started at 8 weeks! She ignores my requests to put DD in her cot according to the SIDS advice and always puts her to sleep when I want her awake, resulting in DD waking up through the night cause her routine is messed up!

Does anyone think that I am over-reacting?? How can I get her to tone it down a bit????:banghead:

[Mum&bubs]

Awww honey i know how bad MIL's can be; i have a devil of one too. She does sound like a proud grandmother but the things she has been doing would drive me crazy too. I would probably just ask DH to ask her to tone it down a bit..always leave the dirty work to them :D
Good luck! :hugs:

[mum2bubba]

You need to be firm with her and tell her (to her face) to mind her business. Next time she does or says something that you don't agree on (especially when you've told her not to) say to her "you've raised your child(ren), Annika is my child and I will raise her how I want, if you don't like it get lost" or something like that, believe me if you don't stand up to her she will be forever telling you how to live your life and I'm not just talking about raising kids. Best of luck :thumbsup:

[mumoftwoboys2005]

Even though MIL's can be painful sometimes, please be thankful that you've got one. I don't (and unfortunately, I never got to meet her) My Mum does her duty by dropping in 1 day a week and that's it. No babysitting, no nothing. It's just me and DH. :thumbsup:

[*Chels*]

i feel ya pain-mines the same!!!!
i had to get DF to have a harsh word with her to tell her to back off.the longer you let it go on,the longer she will keep crossing the line.put her in her place now!!!
good luck with it all:hugs:

[PhAnToM]

Here's something that works for me and means you can never have anything held against you...

You deal with issues related to your side of the family and your DH deals with issues to do with his side of the family.
That way she can never twist your words and cause issues between you and DH (cos technically, you didn't say any words to her) and also parents take things better from their own kids. If it comes from an in-law, you will be sure the next time someone stops your DH cos they recognise him from pics, they'll have more to say about what they heard about his wife than what they heard about about your DD's snotty nose and cough.

Funny how it seems like I am the one who has to have more words than DH. But then I'm fortunate in that my in-laws live overseas! :D

I'd say get your DH to tell your out-law to tone it down.