big wedding vs big honeymoon

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DP and I have decided that our current "we are saving towards..." is a wedding/honeymoon :yelclap:

The thing is: I think DP has a different idea about what weddings cost. He wants a big wedding with a lot of guests (Probably 200ish from what he was saying), and then a nice big holiday overseas for our honeymoon.

I was saying how it was funny how you have to draw the line somewhere in your relatives, and not invite people past that line. This seemed to be a foreign concept to him, and he seems to think that you "have to" invite everybody. :confused: I also know he wouldn't be ruthless in which of our friends to invite either.

If it was up to me, we would have max 100 guests.

We are both students with casual/PT jobs, and are currently saving about $2000/month, and, obviously, cannot afford this extravagant dream wedding of his.

My family has a beautiful farm on the river, which I have always wanted to get married at. It would also cut costs since the location would be free. Only thing is: it is currently for sale. By the time we save the ridiculous amount of money he needs to spend, it will probably be sold, then we'll have to pay for a location too!

AHhhh :dizzy:

This whole wedding thing is stressful already.

Anyway, the whole point of this post is: I have some questions!

A) did anyone else have 2 people with completely different ideas of the wedding? :rolleyes: how did you overcome it etc?
B) how much did your wedding cost? (including honeymoon, and briefly describe your wedding/honeymoon)
C) DP seems to think that the groomsmen are supposed to buy their own suits :confused: seems strange to me... is this true?

okay, i guess that will do for now haha

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Our wedding cost $6000 and we had 60 guests. We got married in a gorgeous garden and then had our reception in the function room of a motel.

The girls bought their dresses (as they had input and it's definitely something they'll wear again) and the boys paid for their suit hire.

Our honeymoon was on the coast in a friends holiday house, so accomodation was free. I guess we spent maybe $1000-$1500 on that.

There wasn't an issue really about each of us wanting something different from eachother. I organised it, checked with him what he wanted etc etc and that's how it happened :D

Tell your DF when thinking about the guest list to consider this - who on your guest list would you take out to dinner and spend $100 per head on them? 'Cos essentially, that's what you're doing when you invite them to your wedding.

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$6000 for 60 guests, that sounds like my kind of wedding! In hindsight, would you spend more, less, or about the same? Like, were there a few things, looking back, you would've liked to splurge on?

DP is talking about getting a "wedding loan"... I am horrified. I do not want to be paying off a day that we have already had! ONE DAY!

Thanks for the advice, I'll tell him about that $100 per head thing. I might start telling him how many relatives his pay cheques can feed each week haha

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No, I can't think of anything I would have spent more money on, or less. Not for the wedding anyway but if we'd had the same amount again, I'd have gone overseas for our honeymoon, but loved the time on the coast with DH anyway cos we were together.

You know what helped me? I looked into wedding 'traditions' and when I realised why they started, the feminist in me revolted against the system LOL!!!

It comes down to what you feel you really CAN'T do without on your day. Do you really care about cool cars? Or do you just need something to get you to and from reception etc? We had 2 white commodores from Hertz which came already decorated and cost $99 each for the day. They looked the part and we didn't want photos with the cars or anything. In hindsight, if we had friends with nice new cars, we'd have used them and not bothered hiring them.

Also didn't have chair covers at the reception. People sit on them anyway so you can't see the chair. Unless it's a really gross pattern or mismatched chairs, why spend $5-$10 each to cover them?