do you get bored or lonely as a SAHM?

[hippymumof2]

Hi, I am 23 and have 2 beautiful boys almost 2 and 10wks, however I am finding myself feeling very bored and isolated some days. I finished work when I was 6 mths pregnant so I feel very out of touch with 'adults'
My husband works long hours 6 days a week, and most of my friends haven't had children or else live out of state.

Does anyone else ever feel like this? I'd love to chat dais_y81@hotmail.com
Em

[mumofethan]

Hi Em,

I feel like this all the time... I am a SAHM in a small country town...

I am 22 with a 10mth old son.

I have added u to my MSN.

my MSN is emilinya@hotmail.com

:D

Michelle

[onabreak]

Hi hippymumof2

I am a SAHM aswell. I have been off work since October 2004. At first I found it very hard, frustrating and boring at the begining being home all the time with only a baby to talk to. I went through a rough patch crying all the time to my DH saying that I have no friends, no one likes me, I'm bored, what can I do.

He told me to get off the lounge, stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something. So I did and have never felt like that again. I am now catching up with my friends, even some I have not seen for 8 years. I go for walks and go to the shops for a bit of therapy. Now that my DD is 8 months old it is more enjoyable playing with her and watching her grow up and change every day.

My DH has said to me that he does not expect me to go back to work at all. I love being a SAHM and wouldn't change it for the world. Plus I run my husbands business from home so that does require me using my brain now and again.

If you feel like you are getting bored you will be surprised how many things are out there for you to do and enjoy. If you feel like a chat send me a private message and I will get back to you. :)

[Refresh]

HI, I am a SAHM (well mostly) as well. I must say that I love it but I have found it really important to have some other SAHM close firends around. I have added you to MSN. Whereabout in QLD are you?
Katie

[BugBias]

Hi all,

I am a young SAHM and I am lonley all the time... I love my kids and being with them I just find it so isolating, I had them in my early twenties and have found it hard to relate to my friends from uni, so if anyone wants to chat I'm never too far away
MSN: kmoyse32@hotmail.com

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:p DD Elara Ruby 3
:cool: DS Tobias Stephen Neil 4.5 months

[maybe1more]

Hi all, Iam also a SAHM. I have a two year old son Connor and Im 9 weeks pregnant with bub number 2. Im very bored at home most of the time, theres only so much shopping you can do! My son sleeps for 2 to 3 hours dueing the day so i have to make sure if im going out that i have to be home in time for his sleep. Thats basicly my every day routine! (exciting stuff). Thats why i decided to have another baby, i thought if im home with one i might as well be home with two! Ill probably have my hands full with another baby on the way be at least i wont be bored! I`d love to chat so feel free to email me jenn007andahalf@hotmail.com :)

[Terrible2+1cutie]

Hi i am a SAHM to 2 boys Blaze 22 months and Bailey 7 months, even though with 2 young boys i am flat out most of the time, i would love to chat as i get lonely with just the kids as company most of the time. My msn is catherinetad@hotmail.com.

[moggs]

Hi

When Molly was a babe I was more lonley (and tired) than anything. As she's got older though there has been more things to do.

We now have quite a busy social life! We go to playgroup once a week, and if it's raining and we're bored we go to the local playcentre. It's great because I bring a book or magazine while molly plays. When I have no money, we go to the park (so I get a good walk for exercise). I admit I find the park boring mostly because i'm not a kid.

I also use the local toy library which gives molly new toys for a few weeks and when she's bored we trade them. I also am studying a home course in counselling. I love being at home (i don't say that to make you feel bad). I think maybe you might like to go back to work and that is okay too. I sometimes feel that I can't amuse Molly enough where as daycare probably has more social interaction and activites. I can't afford it though and am considering getting her into 3 yr old kinda. We'll just have to see. I'd be really bored then if she goes to kinda!

Lately we've been able to have the best conversations and I find her very amusing but draining and frustrating at the same time. It is like a rollercoaster being a mummy.

Hope i've given you some ideas

love moggs xx

[Ryally]

Hi there,

I'm new to Sydney (two weeks today) and finding it a little isolated and frustrating having my toddler at home with me fulltime instead of going to creche twice a week as she was where we were living before. I get my release through the internet, chatting on groups, emailing family and friends around Australia. I have my broadband and foxtel and a messy house to keep me occupied but sometimes it would be nice to drop in on a friend in person for a cuppa or vice versa. When it gets bad and I feel really lonely, I'll go through my little black book and ring everyone I know LOL!

I have ideas to make things like cot quilts etc to sell at the Parklea markets or on ebay as a way of earning a little $$ from home. Also a way of staying in touch with adults. I can't go back to work as such since I'm ten weeks away from having my second bubba. I prefer to be a SAHM anyway as it suits our lifestyle (hubby goes away quite a bit for work)

I think the guilt that I'm not enough to entertain my daughter is what's getting to me the most. She wants to play and run around and I'm too big and sore to do anything. Just walking up the stairs or hanging a load of washing on the line exhausts me. I have no idea what it will be like with a bored toddler and a newborn and I'm a little anxious thinking about it to be honest.

Anyway, I'm always home (I'm a happy homebody lol) so you can always email me and will get a response within a few mins. My email is on my bubhub profile :)

All the best
Helen

[aardvark]

When I was a SAHM last time, I would exercise every day, which got me out of the house, and mixing with other SAHMs, which was quite good.

Next year when I am a SAHM again with baby #3, in addition to the exercise, I'll be doing more of my Master's degree than I am at present - 2 subjects per semester rather than just 1 subject per semester, by distance education, so I doubt I'll have time to be bored or lonely.

[the_original_duchess]

hi my name is danielle and im a SAHM of 2, an almost 2 yr old boy and a 3 month old littl girl. i do find is very boring and tiring at home by my slfe. well lets face it my son isn't the best conversation in the world. my husband works very long hours 6 days a week and i have few friends in the same situation as me. most of my school friends have drifted away,they have different lives and priorities. i gusee its hard because i never imagined being married at 18 and having 2 kids by the age of 20. i want to be able to talk to someone that understands what im going through. and have a conversation that doesn't consist of changing a nappie, whats happening on play school or where my sons favourite toy is because he has lost it yet again. you can add me to your msn or e-mail me, my addy is daniellesommers84@hotmail.com
anyway write back soon, danielle. :p

[Briannabear]

Hi! Im a SAHM with a nearly 7 month old baby. I find that some days can get pretty boring and lonely - Im happy to chat msn or email! My addy is mjskehan@bigpond.com :)

[lisa&boys]

Omg I am so hearing you in the isolated and lonely and have hardly any adult company...

I have just joined and posted a post in victoria section.

Looking forward to getting to know you all

cheers

[Melissa1983]

Hello
I know excatly what you mean.I have been SAHM for 7 months. I have 2 daughters, Mikayla who is nearly 3 (Nov) and Abby who is 21 months, getting a adult conversation out of them isn't possible. My husband is in the Navy so i really only get to see him at night. By then time we get the girls to bed i am ready for bed, as i am tired because i am bored. It has been really hard meeting people as we have moved to Melbourne last year, and now we are off again. I am oringal from townsville, and i found i lost my of friends when i had Mikayla at 19. They just seem to vanish go out partying and i couldn't because i had Mikayla. Since i have been on here i have found a few new friend, (havent actually meet, just spoke to). The girls on here are wonderful and very easy to write to.. they give get advice. :)
Sorry if that doesn't make sense.
Feel free to email me if you like. melissa_wetherell@hotmail.com

Bye
Melissa

[lisa&boys]

Thanks mel.
I know exactly what you were saying. It must be really hard with navy existence.

Feel free in ading me to msn if you like
lkavenagh@hotmail.com

hugs

[jembelina]

right now, my couch is covered in folded washing i need to put away... there are at least 2 more loads to do...the toilet could do with a scrub... i need to pick up my vacume cleaner that is being repaired... there is still a bag of vegies on the kitchen floor to put away... i'm not sure if i wiped the highchair after lunch... etc... etc... how is it i still find time to get so bored???? don't worry, i'm not neglecting my child too...he is fast asleep...aahh :D and clean! i just find, as a SAHM there is a never ending list of things to do, but some days i still get bored - i guess housework isn't quite the same as sitting down with a good friend, a HOT cuppa and a good old girlie chat! Then the days when i do meet a friend for coffee i end up spending the whole time thinking about all the things i should be doing at home, not to mention checkng my watch every 2 minutes so i can get home in time for naps or lunch or dinner or bath or whatever :)

I wouldn't swap what i do for the world, i really do love it :D

[melzy]

Hi hippymum,

I am a SAHM also with a 2 and a half yr old daughter and some days I just feel like I am going 'nuts'. There is only so much housework you can do (if you want to do it) and so much Hi5 or playschool you can watch. My partner sometimes becomes a bit of a smart *** and says I do nothing but I think if my daughter wasn't here do you really think I'd be home painting, drawing, cutting and pasting, reading kids stories or watching cartoons? I love my daughter and enjoy spending every moment with her, don't get me wrong, but heck I miss my own time. I feel a bit selfish saying it but I am sure we all feel the same. I miss my longer showers, quiet time, time for me to crank the music up or whatever. The quiet time I get is on the toilet and that is if I am lucky. I have recently moved interstate too so I find things extra hard and I have left my family and friends behind, especially I miss my sister. I miss that call where you can ring for a whinge, or to say I'll be there in 10mins, put the kettle on. Mate, you are not alone. If you want to drop me a line you are more than welcome as it'd be nice to have a new friend.

[wattle]

I have finally downloaded msn messenger. I haven't got a clue how to use it, so if anyone wants to chat please add me to your list. I'd love to chat. :)]
zenca99@hotmail.com