my attached baby

[nothanksbye]

I really need all the most positive replies! if you have a negative one, please post it but dont be offended if I ignore it!:p

My little girl is 5 weeks today. Being my 3rd bub she spends alot of time being moved around, car seat, bed, bassinette, swing...etc.

I hate it. Her first words will be wait a minute, be right there...

So i have changed all my usual parenting skills. She now lives in my ergo or on me.
My family are absolutely aghast at my parenting.

Rod for my back , spoilt etc etc.

I need to hear why attachment parenting works!
It was never something i planned or looked into so I have no reason other then it just feels right.
The only time my bub is away from me is if she is in the car or on her daddy.
We sleep, bathe, eat and play together.

She is thriving and is so settled. Sleeps 11 till 7 but my family cant help but attack.

S please any positives about what I am doing as right now i guess i just really need validation that I am ok. All us mums need some positive pats on teh back and I am not getting them right now lol.

Thanks in advance.

[Mrs Nietzsche]

You are absolutely doing the right thing!

In fact, 'attachment' parenting is the only parenting method proven to reduce crying (sorry can't remember where I read that, but it was in a study on cholic).

I kept my DS on me til he was about 3-4 months.. and then he slowly just became more independent (probably as he got more physically independent and able to explore the world).

My DD took longer.

I don't really understand how you are making a rod for your back on this one tbh - I know there's no way I can get through the first few months and do what i need to do without wearing baby.

Feeding baby to sleep... now that feels like a rod for my back now .. but even that does pass.

[Jender]

if it works it works - everyone's opinions are irrelevant

[nothanksbye]

if it works it works - everyone's opinions are irrelevant

of couse just sometimes its hard as a mum and you just want to hear positives..thats all.

[peanutbutter&jelly]

She sleeps. She seems happy. She is growing.
She is thriving!!
Is there really anything more positive than that?
Find a really beautiful picture of the 2 of you together, I bet there's one that just pulls at your every heartstring. Thats why your doing this. Stuff what other people think, this is your baby, raising it the way YOU want to.
My bub wasn't a good sleeper like yours, its taken 14 months of no crying, sleepless nights and loads of ergo & sling carrying for him to finally sleep for hours and hours consecutively.
If you and bub are happy, your family (immediate - ie. your other kids & hubby) are happy, don't worry about what other people think!
AP is awesome, hopefully soemone with some other positives will pop in too.

[MsMummy]

I'm not an attachment parent (we co-sleep and use the Ergo a lot but not true AP), but my partner explained attachment theory to me to the end that the more attached and secure a baby feels, the more confident and independent they will likely become.

So, it can help promote the opposite of what people say is AP's downfall.

Sorry, I don't have much else to add, but I think it's wonderful and boo to your family for giving you a hard time.:)

[NibbleCurlynBub]

I've just gotten to the point of 'Oh ok, guess we will see then.'
Really, there is no arguing with some people.

My DS2 is in his carrier whenever we are out. Always. He loves it, I never hear a peep out of him while he is in it.
That, to me, is enough positive evidence to support it.

The idea is with attachment parenting to give bub a secure safe place from which to explore the world. When something bad happens to you, your instinct is to go back and seek comfort, right?
Children need the reassurance that you will be there. If you give them that, they are all the much braver and confident for it. :)

[Bexta]

Oh, I hate the term 'Rod for you back'!!! :rolleyes: I have a clingy baby this time around... the sling, it helps him fit into our family & be a part of everything. What works for you, your bub & your family. :)

[NibbleCurlynBub]

As do I... He is no rod, I LIKE my baby. :doh:

[justmum]

As do I... He is no rod, I LIKE my baby. :doh:

LOL! I agree.

At 4 months, my DD who has spent so much of her life in my arms, in my bed, in the ergo, etc is such a settled baby. She isn't very demanding at all.

[NibbleCurlynBub]

:yes: I'm finding exactly the same thing with DS2.

Wish I'd known how to make my carrier (or that they actually sold the kind I wanted!) when he was born. Life would have been SO much easier.

ETA: And the fact that it feels right to you should also tell you that its a good idea!

[cmd'smum]

Your baby girls sounds very happy, content and loved so you must be doing a wonderful job! :yes:

I carried DD2 in a HAB most of the time in the first few months and was given the "rod for your own back comment" a few times. My answer: "We are both happy and it works for us"! :D so :raspberry::D

[Manxie]

I carried dd2 until my back couldnt handle it any more. Rod for your own back pffffffttt.

Sounds like you are doing a great job:thumbsup:

[LoveMyBoys]

Some people are never happy unless your doing things their way....but even then your probably doing it wrong:rolleyes:
Ive never considered myself an AP....i just do what feels right......and that means having my baby with me all the time (except we dont co-sleep)
So if it feels right for you, dont let anyone tell you different......im sure you wont be still wearing and co-sleeping when your bub is 18!!! Babies are meant to be enjoyed!! :D

[nic28]

sounds like your doing a fantastic job because you are going with your instincts and following your babies lead...seriously i am sick of hearing people saying things like that to me...."oh you'll pay for that later" BIG DEAL- at the end of the day it has nothing to do with anyone else- your the one doing it and if your not complaining then shut up everyone else!! Hahaha

well done, all I can say is that I wish there were alot of other mothers out there like all you ladies, I really think our children are better off and will be much more secure, confident, sensitive adults!!

[cookie087]

I say keep doing what your doing! Your baby seems very happy and content and thats all anyone can ask for with a baby. And if bub is happy and content, your obviously doing something right, regardless of what others say. Keep going with what you feel is right and natural, and youll keep having a thriving bub. After all a happy mum is a happy bub!

[traseal]

Rod for my back , spoilt etc etc.



She is thriving and is so settled. Sleeps 11 till 7 but my family cant help but attack.




I get the rod for my back...i just tell them its my back and i have to deal with any consequences, that generally shuts them up.
I think you answered yourself.....she is thriving and is settled.....whats there to argue??
You are doing a great job. criticise as they may, you will reap the rewards :yes:

[Oya]

It works because your babies don't lose their trust for you, therefore can establish a stronger bond.