Do you want more?

[Jensha]

Having only the one child right now. Do you plan to have more? I only have my DD for now due to not being in a relationship. I will be happy if she is my only child but I do strongly yearn for more children one day.

Right now the only thing stopping me is not being in a healthy relationship. I often wonder if I was then would I already have another or would I be pregnant or TTC right now:p.

I'm going to add a poll:yes:

[Chunkydunks]

Yeah we want 2 or 3 more. We'll see what happens.

[Bunnyhugs]

I voted Other. I'm pregnant with #2 now and as much as I'm happy about it and want this baby and yes we did TTC, I have to be honest in that I think I'd have been happy just with DS.

Does that make sense?

[Jensha]

I voted Other. I'm pregnant with #2 now and as much as I'm happy about it and want this baby and yes we did TTC, I have to be honest in that I think I'd have been happy just with DS.

Does that make sense?
Yeah it does. I feel comfortable with just DD. I feel happy with my parenting choices and style. Having another child would throw that all into turmoil. So I understand being happy with just one. I feel the same. But I can't shake the feeling I want more at the same time lol.

[tyler's mum]

I always wanted alot of kids but im happy with just tyler. I still have nitemares about my labour and never want to go through that again

[Jensha]

I had a tough labour and hospital stay but I must be loopy because I am excited to experience labour again. I have no idea why.

[Benji]

:yes: more than anything.

All I've ever wanted to be is a mum and wife and being single has set me back a lot, but I still hold hope.

I want to be happily married before I have more children though, I don't want a repeat event of DS's father and that whole shenanigan.

As distressing as my son's birth was, as bloody sleep deprived and exhausted as I was, it's all worth it.

[nugglyboysmum]

I have a yearning for another baby quite a bit. However when reality hits I realise that onw cild is more than i can handle. DH doesn't wnat any more kids so unless i desperately want another then DS will be an only child.

ATM I am looking after my 6 week old nephew for a couple of hours, it is so lovely to have those snuggles and having been a mother before i now know what im doing and find it quite easy, however it he were my baby i would be a lot less relaxed. Also i am so enjoying having a life again now, have just started to have a social life again and I dont know that i ever want to give that up again

[Ana Gram]

No, I don't want any more children. If I was able to be sterilised, I would.

[Teley]

Yes, at least one more. Through a fertility clinic if need be:).

[SassyMummy]

I want more... but not until myself and my partner are ready. I'm in no rush to have more, though I have found myself a little clucky lately.

I'd have a maximum of 2 more...

[SimplyMum]

My heart and my brain are in 2 very different places right now.

My heart desperately wants more.

My brain says not yet.

Like a pp has said- first time round was not ideal for me and this time (or next time) I want to do it 'right'. I want to be married, and I want it to be planned.
Also, I want DS to be in school when I have another- I want to be able to spend some quality time with bub #2.
I'm also enjoying life at the moment. I can read my book without too many interruptions, I can have a shower so I'm afraid of 'messing that up'. Life at the moment is too good to mess with- that still doesn't stop the yearning though.:rolleyes:

[naiwen]

While I often change my mind on this ATM I just do not want any more.

Just as an example DS has 3 medical appointments tommorrow and how would I manage his therapy with a newborn?

So yeah I just want to focus on DS right now with no distractions :thumbsup:.

[Kayangel]

Im a single mum so having more children isnt in the near future.

BUT...

Yes, i do want more children, i have a really strong desire to have more and if i didnt have anymore children i would honestly be really sad and heartbroken dont get me wrong, i love my DS to death and feel so blessed to have him but i would to experince this again, pregnancy, labour, birth, the joy is a newborn and watching ur baby grow.

I would love 4 kids so thats another 3 to come :p well i can only hope.

[shelle65]

Some days I do, some days I don't.

The days when I spend a lot of time on bubhub I do :laughing:

Some days I get excited about a future with just DD, I imagine my career progressing rather than being put on hold again, having enough money to send DD to the school I want her to go to, having enough money to buy a house and have "stuff" and do things that we can only dream about now.

Other days I don't care about any of that and just want another gorgeous little bub to cuddle and love, and for DD to have a sibling.

DP says no way, definitely no more. But he is only 25 and a uni student at the moment, I can imagine him changing his mind in a few years if our lives settle down a bit.

[Shepherd]

No I don't think so. DD is now 5 and time has passed so quickly and there has just been no 'desire' for more. It is a fun easy stage now too with one where I can do what I like because she is independent but when I do spend time with her its nice and easy and enjoy doing stuff with just her and I and not taking a baby along to be honest.

[Jeclipse]

I know a way to cure the want for another child
Get a dog!!
I swear I'm so put off by even the thought of another child atm...

Our furbaby is waking at 5:30am, then of course wakes DS in the process..
And then its a fight all day to get Heath off the dog, etc etc...

I'm slowly going insane :rolleyes:

[battlecrumpet]

Yep I'd like one more....better happen soon or I'm gonna be waaaaay too old for all this :)

[Stella1]

Happy with just one. There have been a couple of times I have entertained the thought of another child, then I look at our circumstances and think about the practicalities and any thought of more kids disappears.

[siblingdream]

I want more kids - always hoped for a family of four, but due to my ovaries shutting up shop waaaaay too early, I need help and haven't yet been able to find another :angel: to help me. I am so blessed to have my gorgeous DD though and if that is "all" I end up with I will still consider myself blessed beyond measure!!

Having said that, for those who only want one and know that is true for them in their hearts, I'm really pleased that you have what you want - I'm only saying what I want (hope that makes sense).

:fingerscrossed: good luck to all those wanting more too!

[MumNeedsCoffee]

I'm definitely only have one.
I had terrible post natal depression/psychosis and I just can't risk going through it again.
I really hate that people seem to ask all the time 'so when are you having the next one?', DD is only 6 months old.

[Happy2be3]

Skye, i'm sure most of us here (parents of lone children) totally understand how you feel when ppl say "so, whens the next one coming along??" :geek:Grrrrrrr is all I can say!

I answered 'other' in the poll.. I DO want another child for my sons sake:goodvibes:, plus I always said i'd either have 2 kids or none at all.. BUT I had a terrible labor, hospital stay, PND and PTSD.. so I'm too terrified to do it all again. Not to mention that DS is a handful and I cant possibly imagine adding another child to the mix:no:

[sunnyflower]

yes i would like another child:)

but realistically i won't be:no:

[TacoFest]

No I am happy to just have my DD. I had a terrible birth experience and nearly died. I cannot and wouldn't want to risk that again and not be around to see my child grow up.

I am very happy to just have one child.

[IndigoJ]

Yep absolutely want more, i did only want one, but after DS was born i changed my mind, three or four sounds good to me now :)

[IndigoJ]

I know a way to cure the want for another child
Get a dog!!
I swear I'm so put off by even the thought of another child atm...

Our furbaby is waking at 5:30am, then of course wakes DS in the process..
And then its a fight all day to get Heath off the dog, etc etc...

I'm slowly going insane :rolleyes:

Didnt work for me :laughing: I have three large breed dogs, nad i still want another baby :laughing:

[ThomasMum]

I won't even if I can. One is just perfect. And thankfully my DH is very supportif about this.

Yes we do get sick of the question of, "when is the next one" :laughing: we never replied them bc we dont owe them any explanation :yes: esp to those nosey people lol

[Lily_Pad]

Sometimes I think I'd like to have another. I so so so want a son. The thought of a little boy looking up to his daddy and rolling around wrestling on the floor with him... just makes me melt :goodvibes:

But then I remember labour... birth... the hospital stay... the first few weeks... *shudder*. I'd be happy just with DD. :)

[ACT1]

I've always wanted more than just the one I have and I've worked hard to change that but to no avail. As much as I love my son, one is not enough, especially now that he's older and no longer needs me. My house is so empty without the liveliness that kids bring.

[JJJRain-crew]

99% of the time, no... My pregnacy was normal, an easy 5 hour labour... I felt connected to my dd straight away even though I was worried I wouldn't. I really would go to any lengths for her.
I feel anxious seeing mums with two or more kids, to imagine myself as a mum to more, although I think I'd probably manage, I think I would start to become resentful and emotionally detached, I want to focus on dd, I want to share many adventures with her without having to worry about a baby... or how much longer I need to put my own life passions on hold.
I dont relate to other ppls newborns, babies dont even seem human to me untill they are about one! they make me feel uncomfortable, the only way I can see myself being pregnant again was if my DD one day wanted a child but was unable to carry one herself.
if the question was 'Would I have another child if I didnt have to be pregnant or go through the newborn phase, and had a part time nanny'...I'd have said, maybe one day after a very long process of careful consideration!
Thank God my fiance understands!

[BabyJoy]

I would do anything to get pregnant again.... I don't understand why DH and I have been cursed with "unexplained secondary infertilty" when all we want is to love and cherish another little baby. DD talks all the time about "when she gets her baby sister..." It breaks my heart. And the next person that says "don't worry, it will happen"... is going to get a slap in the face!

[Teley]

I would do anything to have another one.....well, almost anything. I would like another one, now:gloomy:.

[bubbleandme]

i do but..

i don't feel the 'urge' to at the moment, as i'm only 18 and have 'all of my life ahead of me' :rolleyes: and i want to do it 'properly' next time. have mum dad and the two kids sort of thing, that sort of family and i want to finish uni, be financially secure, buy a house and all that 'normal' stuff.. plus ollie and i are a pretty good team, and he's a pretty awesome bubba so, kinda irrationally i'm scared that cause ollie was so good, i wont be able to cope with a more difficult newborn (does that make sense?)
but then, my heart breaks when ollie lights up around other kids, cause i know he'd be an awesome brother and i can't give that to him, not for another ten or so years...

it really breaks my heart.

so i guess, yes i want more kids, but not just yet.

gah, life is crazy.

love emma

[katieandjake]

YES! i want more now! i have a boyfriend, not jakes dad IYKWIM??? but hes not exactly ready for kids yet...so thats hard when im more in to the mothering caring, looking after small helpless things lol. its quite sceary how much i want a kid right now...however i now know the benifits of waiting to have more because jake starts school next year and im going to be freeeeeeee FREE i tell you. so thats quite exciting. looking forward to concentrating on myself for a bit, having the freedom to do as i please during the week whilst hes at school. lucky my partner agreed 2 years til i get a child out of him so thats not too long...but jake will be 7 by then OMG.

okey im rambling on now.
lol
cheers

[Myztiks#1Fan]

:no: pretty positive i am done having children. i have my one little man and he is all i need or could want. i am still young though and my mind might change maybe when i eventually repartner up again, but in all honesty, really not even sure that could change my mind