Confused

[etran]

I'm so confused about what to do. i'm about to go through my second abortion which i am not sure about. the first time i had an abortion was last year, when i first had twins but then one of them had serve abnormality. My doctor advised me not to keep it for my safety.

I'm about 15 weeks pregnant, and just when i thought that things well good between me and my partner, i found out that he actually does not want this kid. I personally can't go through another abortion. I feel that i still haven't recovered from the last abortion and have been depressed about the last one and still is.

I don't know what to do.... i do want to keep this baby... If i was to go through the abortion, its only because he wants me to...

What should i do?:confused:

[youngmumof3wa]

I'm so confused about what to do. i'm about to go through my second abortion which i am not sure about. the first time i had an abortion was last year, when i first had twins but then one of them had serve abnormality. My doctor advised me not to keep it for my safety.

I'm about 15 weeks pregnant, and just when i thought that things well good between me and my partner, i found out that he actually does not want this kid. I personally can't go through another abortion. I feel that i still haven't recovered from the last abortion and have been depressed about the last one and still is.

I don't know what to do.... i do want to keep this baby... If i was to go through the abortion, its only because he wants me to...

What should i do?:confused:

I think there is a differance between aborting due to medical reasons and aborting a healthy baby.

If you want this baby then I do not think he can make you abort.

You need to think about the long term. Can you live with aborting a healthy baby, these are things you live with forever, as you know as you said you have had an abortion before.

[NibbleCurlynBub]

I'm so confused about what to do. i'm about to go through my second abortion which i am not sure about. the first time i had an abortion was last year, when i first had twins but then one of them had serve abnormality. My doctor advised me not to keep it for my safety.

I'm about 15 weeks pregnant, and just when i thought that things well good between me and my partner, i found out that he actually does not want this kid. I personally can't go through another abortion. I feel that i still haven't recovered from the last abortion and have been depressed about the last one and still is.

I don't know what to do.... i do want to keep this baby... If i was to go through the abortion, its only because he wants me to...

What should i do?:confused:
Start a new thread, first up. ;)

Click HERE (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=284) to post that in your own, shiny, new thread so that people can reply to your post better. :)

[xkwzit]

I've moved these posts to a new thread for you etran (ps, if you don't like my choice of title, just PM me and I'll edit it for you to whatever you want).

Cheers

[2girls&1angelboy]

I'm so confused about what to do. i'm about to go through my second abortion which i am not sure about. the first time i had an abortion was last year, when i first had twins but then one of them had serve abnormality. My doctor advised me not to keep it for my safety.

I'm about 15 weeks pregnant, and just when i thought that things well good between me and my partner, i found out that he actually does not want this kid. I personally can't go through another abortion. I feel that i still haven't recovered from the last abortion and have been depressed about the last one and still is.

I don't know what to do.... i do want to keep this baby... If i was to go through the abortion, its only because he wants me to...

What should i do?:confused:

i had a termination in 2003 i regret it everyday
i wanted to have the baby i was 16 at the time my SIL got in2 my DP head n then pressured me in2 having a termination, i wish i listened to me i have kept scan pics paperwork from the hospital the arm band i had to wear on the day


i hope u make the decission that u r happy with whichever way u decide

[etran]

xkwzit thanxs for moving it to another thread.

thank you ladies for your advice and you guys are right if i want to keep it then i should. its perfectly healthy as far as im concerned. im not actually too old but im not young either, im 24 this year and i know that i can do this. the hard part is facing my parents.

I went to the clinic today and the doctor that spoke to me asked me if i was sure about this? i just looked at him and said no and i dont know why im here today either. i was very sad and i just couldnt make up my mind so i left. I just couldnt go through with it.

I'm glad that i walked out. I think that was the only thing i was certain about at that time.

[Rebdot]

Im in the exact same situation as you!

My partner and i lost our baby at 20wks and then he wanted to try again,

and we did and we got pg and now he has decieded he dosnt want kids right now and i said its too late and he said no we can get an abortion!

were both catholic, i dont know if his serious or just having some sort of life crisis.

[etran]

why are men so confussing???? they dont understand the drama and pain we have to go through jus because they say that they change their minds....

its wrong to jus have an abortion, for no real reason and the fact that your partner was trying for another baby. my partner was the exact same thing. im about 19 weeks now, so there no turning back for me.

I went ahead and followed my heart and kept the baby. i told my partner that i rather raise this child alone knowing that i can give it my best. we are still together, but i feel like i have done everything on my own.

i've been to all the doctors by my self and organised all the ultra sounds and been reading books. he hasnt done anything. i rather be a single mum.

gudluck with it. follow your heart. ask him why his not ready for kids.

gudluck

[MamaKoala]

I'm glad you didn't go through with it because of him. I think there is no greater reason NOT to terminate when it is something you don't want but something you'd do for a man because he is unhappy with a situation he helped create.

I was faced with the same situation when I first found out I was pregnant with this baby and there was no way I even considered it. He has since come around and is almost as enthusiastic about meeting our daughter as I am. We are not together (complicated) but I'd rather be by myself with my children than live with the guilt with him.

Take care of you and your baby. You will feel so happy with your decision when you meet your bean. I hope you have other support around you. You can do this. And because you are happy, you made the right choice for you.:sunshine: