Do you think the time is right?

[mummy2lilly]

Hi all. Im just wondering what you think. Do you think it is to soon to start trying for another bubby as mine is 4 months old but i just feel the need to have another one with my partner he wants a bubby aswel but im just a little worried about what people will think etc and is the timing right.

What do you all think?

[SassyMummy]

It's not really anyone's business but your own... so if it's right for you, then I can't see why you shouldn't.

However, I wouldn't. At 4-months-old, DD was fine. I could have easily had another 15 babies and coped well (well, exaggeration obviously, but ykwim). As she got older though, she became far more difficult, not because she became a difficult child, just because as they become more mobile, they tend to be harder work IME.

I wouldn't have wanted a tiny baby and a young toddler - that would have near killed me, I think.

I'd also be thinking about my body - pregnancy is such a huge thing, and takes its toll on your body. I'd want my poor body to recover before putting another huge strain on it.

A lot of people have a baby not long after having their first - the woman in the hospital bed next to mine had a 12 month old at home when we had our daughters... so she pretty much fell pregnant when her first was 3 months old. She was lovely.

It's really up to you... the above is just what I'd consider myself when making the decision.

[bunintheoven12]

I know what you're feeling but if it was me I would enjoy this baby. This time passes by so so fast. Of course you know what's best for you in the long run. Goodluck with your decision.

[JackzMumma]

My SIL had her's 11 months apart:yes:. She tried for 2 years to get pregnant, then had her daughter, then 3 months later found out that she was pregnant again. And had her son 15 days before her daughters 1st birthday:p. She was in major shock!!:eek: But she wouldn't change it for the world. She has always wanted 4 children, but unfortunately has not succeeded in concieving number 3. It's been 2 years now. :(

I think do what you feel is right, they'll be close friends!!:yes: Who cares what anyone else thinks. I've always had the 2 year gaps!!

Unfortunately, you just don't know what the future holds!!:D

[MothersMilk]

Only you and your DF can decide when is the time for you to ttc a second child.
Think about it, talk about it and make the right choice for you :yes:

Who cares what anyone else thinks - it is your life.

[chamber]

No, in don't think this is perfect time. I will suggest you give minimum 2 years gap. It is help to you and your baby also.

thanks

[mummy2lilly]

hi all my partner and i have both decided to start for another bub as we want our bub to be close in age so they can be great friends and my partner n i think 2 years is a bit long as the oldest may get jealous of the new addition but if they are a year she wont really understand:)

[MsMummy]

They once interviewed a psychologist on one of those morning TV shows about gaps between baby.

His comment was that if you're coping well with one, then you could probably have another one.

Personally, I'm savouring every moment and milestone of my baby, and don't want to split my attention while he's so young.

I also feel like my body and mind needs a good recovery period.

Plus the toll on the finances!:)

Anyway, we all make our own choices based on our own circumstances anyway.