2BHappy
18-05-2009, 14:09
Hi! Everyone
let me tell you all a little about our situation.
I have 2 step children 9,12 and a bio daughter 2. My husband & I have been married for a 8 years, kids live with there mum and step dad and little sister. Things seemed to be going ok.
SS was over on the weekend, we had a lovely time. SD had other commitments and stayed home which is fine by us. When it was time to go home SD said he didn't want to leave and asked his dad if he could live with us, he has been asking for a while and we always don't act on it. DH told him he would have to discuss with me and his mother. SS came up to me and asked could he live here. Ofcourse I said yes but we will have to talk to your mother. SD questioned DH and I as were he would go to school if he lived here and how would things work and so on. We didn't think anything of it and just answered his ramdom questions. DH spoke to Bio Mum and ofcourse she was a sad that her son didn't want to live there and said that she would talk to her about it. SD went home and told his mother we want him to live here and that it's all been arranged and that's not the case at all, nothing is arranged and as we told SD we would all talk about and if it's something he really wants then we will make a decision. Anyway Bio rang up and blusted us up and told us to stop making him choose. The problem is we never made him choose we aren't horriable people. What makes me sad is what if SS really wants to live here and his mum not letting him may affect him later in life. :confused: I just want the kid to be happy! Any advice would be helpful :)
let me tell you all a little about our situation.
I have 2 step children 9,12 and a bio daughter 2. My husband & I have been married for a 8 years, kids live with there mum and step dad and little sister. Things seemed to be going ok.
SS was over on the weekend, we had a lovely time. SD had other commitments and stayed home which is fine by us. When it was time to go home SD said he didn't want to leave and asked his dad if he could live with us, he has been asking for a while and we always don't act on it. DH told him he would have to discuss with me and his mother. SS came up to me and asked could he live here. Ofcourse I said yes but we will have to talk to your mother. SD questioned DH and I as were he would go to school if he lived here and how would things work and so on. We didn't think anything of it and just answered his ramdom questions. DH spoke to Bio Mum and ofcourse she was a sad that her son didn't want to live there and said that she would talk to her about it. SD went home and told his mother we want him to live here and that it's all been arranged and that's not the case at all, nothing is arranged and as we told SD we would all talk about and if it's something he really wants then we will make a decision. Anyway Bio rang up and blusted us up and told us to stop making him choose. The problem is we never made him choose we aren't horriable people. What makes me sad is what if SS really wants to live here and his mum not letting him may affect him later in life. :confused: I just want the kid to be happy! Any advice would be helpful :)