Help - at the end of my tether!!!

[Harmony83]

Hey guys, normally I never have a problem with comforting my DS to sleep, it used to be that we would cuddle him while giving him a bottle and he'd fall asleep in our arms and we would put him to bed where he would sleep for 2 hours during the day or all night, only waking once. But for the past week, he hasn't been falling asleep with the bottle, today I spent half an hour rubbing his back to sleep, as soon as I stopped patting he'd wake up screaming and I had to start all over again, I thought I would try a sought of controlled comforting to see if it would help, I only lasted about 30 seconds, and it didn't help at all, I have put a pillow on his back so it still feels like my hand is there.... It has been like this for the past week, my back is killing me from bending over the cot to pat him off to sleep and because he doens't get his solid 2 hours he is cranky all day! At night he wakes up at least 7 times to be resettled after about the third time we put him in bed with us... Does anyone have any ideas how I can help him get to sleep on his own without cc??? Please Help...

Also I was wondering if anyone could recommend a toddler book to cover sleep issues, gentle discipline etc?? There are so many on the market!

bugger the pillow didn't work I have to go settle him again...:(

[Avajaynes Mum]

Hi
GO to saveoursleep.com.au it is great my DD at 6mths stopped sleeping through the night and at 9mths Id had it so I got onto the tizzie hall web site, and she has slept though since. Now 14 mths the good thing with tizzies routine is you teach them to self settle they go in awake and you stay in the room till they are asleep well thats what the 9-12mth routine does, she has different teniques for different ages. I tweeked the tecnique to suit Ava and did our own routine as far as times she went to bed (day and night). hope Ive helped a bit if you decide to go this way im here to help it is time consuming but well worth it
P.S You have to purchase the routines I recommend a package under $40. Good luck :fingerscrossed: :sleeping:

[Tea Lady]

Oh, that doesn't sound like fun :( I wish I had some great advice to give, but I'm afraid I don't. I do have lots of sympathy though - do you want that?

My 16 month old bfs to sleep in the day and we sit in the room with her till she falls asleep at night, so I'm obviously no expert! Hang in there - he might just be feeling a bit off this week - ? Would you consider giving Riverton another go?

Hope it gets easier for you. :hugs:

[blueeyes]

Hi

If you dont like the CC idea (I cant do it either) you can try looking at Elizabeth Pantley's book No Cry Sleep Solutions. She has a range of different methods to try to aid children to sleep.
I personally cant help you my boy sleeps well (not long enough during the day) but still well.

Hope you find some ideas to try and help bub to sleep!:fingerscrossed:

Mel

[TLCC]

We used to have the same problem and actually made it worse by rocking her to sleep and then placing her in her cot. We also didn't want to do CC.

our solution was the Baby Whisperer who has a pick up put down technique. She has a book which is great and also covers a lot of different ages (there is a website too). Basically when they don't stand up themselves you pick them up, give a cuddle and once they stop crying you put them back into the cot. You can talk to them to soothe them so they know they are safe and your there so its not as harsh as some of the CC techniques.

We didn't start till DD was maybe 13 mths which takes longer because they can stand straight back up. The first few nights it took about 30 pick ups but after a week she was really good. We can now put her in and she waves to us and we can leave straight away (she is now 21 mths).

We have had a few issues with sleeping since we got this strategy working and a lot of the time it was something else bothering her - usually teeth or wind or tummy ache from eating something new so maybe try and rule them out aswell so you know you are really just dealing with a stubborn sleeper. Also as they get older their routine will change so it may be a timing issue during the day where they can stay awake a bit longer. Try putting your DS down 10 or 15 minutes later maybe and see if thats the issue.

Sorry this has turned out to be a long winded post. Hope some of it is useful.