Is this normal.Opinions please!!!

[sunnyflower]

Can i have some honest opinions please?

I have a ds who is 7 and a couple of weeks ago my ds and my cousins ds were sprung talking about the fact that they had pulled their pants down and checked out each others bits.My cousins ds is 6.

A week ago they were playing and i overheard them talking and they said they were going to pull their pants down again and when i confronted my son about it he told me that he asked my cousins ds to pull his pants down,not the other way round.

I asked him did anyone touch anyone and he said no.

It makes me feel a bit odd. Should i be concerned or is this just normal?

[Pax]

I dont think it is really that bad, it is socially inappropriate though.. so i would tell him that you understand him being curious but its not allowed, that people do not show each other their private parts and especially do not touch others private parts.

i wouldnt make a huge deal out of it, but i would tell him it is not allowed and that other children may find it upsetting and not like him if he does it in front of them.

i remember a kid in primary school that did it and he freaked me out. because i was drilled as a little kid that it is wrong, obviously he wasnt. i disliked him for the rest of primary school

so it might be worth letting him know.

[Mrs Nietzsche]

Totally normal.

[Hollywood]

I come from a normal, happy family and remember doing this sort of thing at that age (with a boy the same age who was likewise just as normal), it was all very innocent and IMO quite normal, all part of young kids exploring. I was never abused, and have turned out fine.

My mum was always vigilant with us and never let us out of her sight with other adults, but with others kids this sort of thing happened occasionally and IMO were nothing to worry about.

[lambjam]

It's completely normal (and necessary) for kids to be curious and want to explore this stuff.

However, I think it's really important to drill the message into them from early on that these parts of their body are private, not shameful or dirty but private, and off limits to others. If the child finds themselves in a dangerous situation where an adult or older child is behaving inappropriately, they need to know that it goes against the rules. I think this also applies to talking about sex and our bodies; we talk openly at home, but I've instilled in my 8 year old that if any other adult tried to talk to him in the same way he would need to tell us and get help.

[kar]

Agree with the pps, it is a completely normal developmental phase for kids to do "show and tell". A talk about privacy is all that is in order.

[JabberJaw]

I agree with everyone else, normal.

[julietv8]

:goodvibes: NORMAL! I remember doing it with my cousins when I was a kid, but :iagree: with the above posts that a chat about what is appropriate may be in order.

[delirium]

Totally normal.


A talk about privacy is all that is in order.

:iagree: with both these posts.

[Mumtotwokids]

It's completely normal (and necessary) for kids to be curious and want to explore this stuff.

However, I think it's really important to drill the message into them from early on that these parts of their body are private, not shameful or dirty but private, and off limits to others. If the child finds themselves in a dangerous situation where an adult or older child is behaving inappropriately, they need to know that it goes against the rules. I think this also applies to talking about sex and our bodies; we talk openly at home, but I've instilled in my 8 year old that if any other adult tried to talk to him in the same way he would need to tell us and get help.

:iagree::iagree:

[Pax]

does that mean us that didnt compare private bits as kids are NOT normal? :confused:

how do you judge normal anyway?

for me its not normal to do this, but i dont think of it as a 'bad' thing its just not what i would consider normal

as far as i know, none of my 4 older kids have compared thier bits with other kids

i dont think it is normal:no:

BUT i dont think it is unhealthy/abnormal either.

i cant really place it.

i mean only a few hundred years ago humans started wearing clothes in this part of the world.. so what is normal hey :D