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[Kaileysmum]

Hello,

I had heaps of trouble with BF with dd and ended up giving up when she was a week old. We didnt seem compatible, and she was so hungry and cryed all the time. (just wanted to add I have what they called semi-flat nipples, they arent flat but they arent very big either, I think that made it hard for her to attach)

My question is when I have another baby will it be the same??? Can you have one bad BF experience and one good one?? I would like to BF when I have another child. So I just wanted some information from you BF mothers.

[Oscar's mum]

Yes you can have a bad experience and a good experience the next time! Same as you can have a great experience the first time and a horrible experience the 2nd time!;)

[Goosie22]

Hi,
Get help with the second one, an LC and ABA will give you the support you need. Go to Breastfeeding classes at your hospital or ABA, read a good book on breastfeeding (sue cox). Try and have an idea about trouble shooting based on the problems you faced last time.

Adding Try to remember that it takes a while to learn a new skill (you and baby) and as such being patient and sticking with it will make sure you succeed in the end
G:)

[bec79]

Having only had one baby, I can't speak from experience. I can add that I had a difficult first couple of months whilst DD and I were getting 'the hang of it'. There were many times when I thought it would be best to just give up and go with formula. (I even tried a few times, but dd wouldn't take a bottle).
I look back now and am really glad that I percivered (sp). One day it just all 'came together' and it turned into a satisfiying experience.
Now that dd is almost 11 months and weaned to only 2 feeds a day, I feel like it is all 'coming to an end' IYKWIM? In retrospect I am so proud of myself for b/feeding her for this long.
So, my point is (yes, I do have one) please don't sell yourself short when it comes to what you think you are cabable of. With the right support you can do it!!

[jackieb76]

Hi Kaileysmum,

I have a 6 year old daughter who I had a lot of trouble breastfeeding and was only able to for around 3 weeks. I also had very flat nipples and she fussed something terrible at the breast and was very impatient waiting for my letdown. I thought that it would be so easy and when I had seen other women do it I thought that it was something that would just come naturally.

I now feel that I did not know enough about what support was out there and nor did I know where to look for it. I had a lactaction consultant in hospital but as soon as I got home I found it very difficult and awkward and I would dread every feed, so I expressed for a little while until my milk started to diminish and I was only expressing around 10ml and felt I had to buy some formula because I didn't even have enough for the next feed.

When I was pregnant for the second time I was feeling so determined to breastfeed so I read as much as I could about it (attachment, positioning etc) and also subscribed to the ABA and went to a seminar held by them. I had my second daughter in February this year and it was tough in the beginning and my nipples were sore as they got used to my daughter feeding. I asked the midwives in the hospital to help me attach her at EVERY feed for the first few days (and nights) so that I could work at getting her on right. When we came home from hospital the midwives came and saw us and again I got them to check the attachment. I must admit that for the first 6 weeks it was hard but I am so glad that I persisted.It also is generally a lot easier second time around as you are much more confident with the baby and everything is not so new and strange (you are much more confident in your ability to cope because you have done it all before). It really does get easier and now at 4 months on we are going great and I hope to feed as long as we can.

Just be confident that you can do it and take all the help that you can get, don't be afraid to ask for it. Believe in yourself and you will do it and if you don't that's ok too because you know you have given it your best shot.

Take care and good luck.

Jackie :thumbsup:

[Kaileysmum]

Thanks guys for the replys. When I get pregnant with no.2 I will do lots of reading out breastfeeding and go to a LC before.

[Tamz]

hi

i had problems bfing at the start, i nearly gave up 3 times. 9.5months later, i still need to feed DS in a dark room coz he gets too distracted and will look around, pull off constantly etc.

i know my next one will be easier...it will have to be! :rolleyes:

like the other girls said, contact ABA and get a lactation consultant out. i think there is a kind of sheld you can get for flat nipples

one suggest is maybe before breastfeeding, 'play' with your nipple or get some cold water or ice and put it on the nipple to make it go 'hard' so it sticks out before feeding. this also helps with attachment too :)

Tamz