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Team Blue
08-05-2009, 13:32
Yesterday was my 3 monthly appointment with my gyno. Since having DS2 11 months ago, I have suffered menorrhagia (heavy/flooding menstrual cycle) to the point where I am now underweight by 5 kgs and cannot put the weight back on. Im in agony anytime is decided to come, live on painkillers and generally get very down/depressed and moody.

My cycle is erratic, flooding, lasts up to a month and makes me anemic, getting my iron levels back up is a struggle.

I had a D&C in December last year. It helped for a month, only to have the problem come back again.

No amount of tablets, hormonal shots, mirena etc is stopping this.

Yesterday, we found huge the varicose veins also inside my uterus have doubled in the last 3 months, so lucky me has two problems!

He has two solutions for me:

1. Endometrial Ablation, where they burn the lining of my uterine wall, thus reducing the thickness, severity and length of my periods.

This procedure is successful in 90% of women, over the age of 40 though as it after the age of 40, your body slows and reduces the thickness of your lining to be shed during menstration... in someone my age (27) it would regrow in a year as Im at the peak of my fertility.

2. A hysterectomy - leaving my ovaries to prevent instant menopause.

Some people might think this is extreme given my age, but if you look at my background and family history...

All the women on my mother's side have had hysterectomy's by the age of 40, their problems starting at my age after having their children (I have two)

My gyno has already admitted that he doesn't have much hope for the ablation as my age is hindering it and the problems would come back in a year.

Given both sets of problems, he has told me that in no circumstances am I to get pregnant again, if I did, I would most likely only get to 20 weeks and the veins would rupture and I could seriously bleed to death or be very close to it. Very scary!

Luckily, DH and I have decided that we are finished having children and he had the snip last year, we are thankful for the two children we do have.

Still, being told that NO MORE is daunting and strips you of something I could do! Have children, now my body is broken :(

I have until October to make this decision as my Private Health see it as a pre-exsisting condition as I suffer endometriosis in the past, the 12 month clause ends in November but my next appointment is Oct.

My gyno is supportive of both options I decide, incredibly lucky to have him as my specialist.

So I guess the point of this post is, I need some advice, and information from anyone who has had one and the procedure.

DS1 starts school next year so I really want to get this sorted before school starts to prevent any upset in his first year of his schooling life. I would have the ablation, but I really dont want it to come back in a year and have to then just go to a hysterectomy, I just want it over, but at the same time, feel like I would be loosing the one thing that makes me female!

Do they do hyseterectomy's through the stomach like a C Section still or vaginally like 80% of the USA procedures? That's one of my major concerns.

KatiesMum
08-05-2009, 14:45
TBH in your situation I would have the hysterectomy.

If your DH has already had a vasectomy, and you have accepted that you cant have any more children for your health issues .... then the emotional aspect of it will be a bit easier to accept.

It can still be difficult as it is just so final .... but if the chances are that the other solutions wont work very well, then I would go for it.

I cant answer your questions about the procedure though as I dont know ....

Just wanted to give you some :hugs:

:flowerz:

Team Blue
08-05-2009, 14:50
Thank you Julie :goodvibes: DH and I are still trying to come up with a decision, I want him as involved as he can be as he's my husband. He's already told me that whatever the decision I make, he will stand 100% behind me and support it.

He's just worried about me suffering like this forever. He sees it as very unfair myself missing out on an entire summer swimming with the kids because I couldn't wear swimmers whilst he was having a great time with the kids and me being in pain all the time.

Not to mention it can play havoc with our sex life :o Not that he has complained ONCE, he's a gem. :goodvibes:

Thanks again Julie :hugs:

Luna Lovegood
08-05-2009, 14:58
I would also have a hysterectomy in your situation.

:hugs: I hope you find the answer you're looking for.

You DH sounds so lovely. :goodvibes:

Team Blue
08-05-2009, 16:09
Thanks hun :hugs: He is certainly a gem :goodvibes:

Im swinging more towards the hysterectomy, luckily I have 5 months to decide, I'm guessing I'll change my mind 1000000 times between now and October :o :laughing:

Im seeing Mum tomorrow, so Im going to have a good D&M with her, she will support me on either decision also.

mummeeto2
08-05-2009, 17:29
Mum had a total hysterectomy about 6 years ago for cysts & fibroids. Hers was thru the stomach like a c-section, around the pubic hair line. She now only has a small scar, had no major problems after the op except her hormones went a bit crazy but that's under control now. For her it was an easy decision to have the op, she was 50 & well and truly finished having kids, the only alternative for her was to keep having flooding periods that never seemed to stop.

I hope whichever option you choose goes well for you :hugs:

Team Blue
08-05-2009, 18:41
When you say that her hormones went a little crazy, sorry to be nosey, but how so? I have been reading up on the procedure and that is a side affect that stuck out for me.

I dont want to turn into a screaming banche or a blubbering mess etc :o

How did they bring it under control?

I spoke to DH about it tonight, my mind is about 70% made up towads the hysterectomy.

Veritas
08-05-2009, 21:07
My mum had ablation done oh probably close to ten years ago now I think..... maybe a little less.... she is 47.....

She has had some recent changes that mean she is staring down the barrell of a hysterectomy probably within the next 12 mths, but has been pretty much ok up until now....

Like you, all the women in my family have had hysterectomy's by their early-mid 40's, so I am a little anxious as to what might lie ahead of me in the years to come.....

:hugs:

mummeeto2
08-05-2009, 21:34
When you say that her hormones went a little crazy, sorry to be nosey, but how so? I have been reading up on the procedure and that is a side affect that stuck out for me.

I dont want to turn into a screaming banche or a blubbering mess etc :o

How did they bring it under control?

I spoke to DH about it tonight, my mind is about 70% made up towads the hysterectomy.

She wasn't emotional, it took nearly a year to find the right hormone replacement treatments for her. The tablets didn't help with the hot flushes at all and the hormone patches wouldn't stay stuck to her skin for the time they were suppossed to. She ended up seeing a natropath & using a natural/herbal remedy. She's really good now, though I'm not sure if she's still on the natural/herbal stuff

Amara
08-05-2009, 21:36
An old friend of mine had one at around your age after sustaining major damage having twins. She did complain about change of life symptoms but she said it was better than what she was experiencing prior to getting it done.

MrsTwith3
08-05-2009, 23:57
My little sister had a hysterectomy done just over 12months ago now. She had finished having her kids(4 of them) and suffered from a severe uterine and vaginal prolapse. She was originally only going to go in to have her tubes tied but the Gyn told her that due to the severity of the prolapses a hysterectomy would be inevitable within the next few years so she hada choice- tubal ligation 1st then a hysta in a few years time. She weighed it up and chose the hysta.
It was done vaginally and the ovaries were left so she could go through a natural menopause when it is her time (she was only just 31yo). She has had no problems since with her hormones but that is because she still has her ovaries.
All the very best with your decision and Im so happy to hear your DH is so supportive and caring.

Team Blue
10-05-2009, 10:12
Thank you for replying! Im encouraged to read that it can be done vaginally, Im hoping my gyno has the expertise in doing so :fingerscrossed:

He advise due to my age, he will leave my ovaries so my body can naturally go through menopause instead of instantly if he removes them.

I'll be most likely getting the hysterectomy. It'll be around Xmas time, I know, a full on time, but DH has time off at Xmas, My mum is moving to where we are from interstate and I also want to get it all done before DS1 starts school next year and there is no disruption to his first year, having him settled and comfortable in his first year is really important to us.

ccwa1
18-09-2009, 01:52
TEam Blue - any update?

I am having a hysterectomy laprascopically tomorrow - we have 3 children, 8 YO, 6yo and a 4month old baby whom I'm still breastfeeding.

Very hard decision for me too, but really I ended up with no choice.

I am scared, but we'll see what the future brings...