DS and his quirks..is it abnormal??

[iMischa]

hello everyone!

Ds has always been a mummys boy, from the minute he was born he wanted to be attached to my hip..which at times were very full on for me, he wanted nothing to do with DH in the first year or so..would just scream and scream until he was back with me.

when DH and i got married last year, he refused to recognise that it was DH and I getting married, he insisted that it was him and i tieing the knot lol..

whenever dh and i have a cuddle...its like ds has a radar..he could be in another room and he instantly runs in and gets in between us and hugs me and pushes daddy away... or cires "where's my cuddles??" its like they end up fighting over me.. is this normal? does he have an abnormal attachment to me?

he says about 50 times a day "i love u mummy", constantly wants cuddles... and cries when its time for bed "but mummy i will miss you"

i'm worried that when its time for school next year hes not going to be able to function without me? not only that when this new baby comes along...will Ds's world come crashing down when im not just 'his' mummy anymore??

dont get me wrong, i love having a very loving, sensative little boy, hes my angel...but for his sake is this getting out of hand? is this going to end up causing problems for him??

anyone experienced this sort of thing?

[sweetseven]

My third daughter was very Mummy-dependant. As a baby, she was completely uninterested in her father, and couldn't bear to be separated from me. If I tried to go to the toilet without her, she would scream the whole time. I had to shower with the door open, because even the foggy shower door was objectional to her.

If one of her older sisters were sitting on my knee, she would crawl over and push them off. #4 was due when #3 was 2yr, and I was concerned that she would be jealous of the baby. However it was the opposite. Her first words upon seeing the new baby were filled with awe "Mum got a baby". Then after that she was of the attitude that it was her baby, not mine. She didn't object to me spending time with the baby instead of me spending time with her. She objected to the baby spending time with me instead of the baby being available for her to play with.

Also, much to my surprise, she had no problems when going to activities for her. She also started Sunday School at church at 2yrs, and would happily trot off to the Sunday School room with all the other youngsters. However, at home, if I tried to go somewhere, she would still object. She still insisted on coming in the bathroom whilst I had a shower, and if I tried to go to the shop to buy a loaf of bread without her, she would let the whole neighbourhood know.

As a school aged child, she was accepting of me going places, and I was able to go shopping without her. It sounds like such a small thing, but that was a big step and felt like a breath of freedom to me.

She is now 10yo, and no longer shows any signs of her mummy-dependance that she had from very young. She has always been very enthusiastic with her emotions, so according to her I am either "the best Mum in the world and she loves me so much" or "the worst mother ever and she hates me".

Oh, and I should also note, that she is now probably the most independant of my daughters also.