Telling a friend on IVF your pregnant

[Mum trying to balance]

Some very close friends have been amazingly supportive of us during the pregnancy and birth of our two children . However they have been trying to get pregnant themselves for some time and recently had their first round of IVF but suffered a miscarriage.:(

Since then my girlfriend especially has been more emotional and sensitive especially about any preganancy news.

We have just found out we are pregnant again and although we are excited we really feel for our friends. Is there anything we should consider when we tell them our news as I don't want them to feel that they can't cope spending time with us or that there is a need for children in order for us to have a wondeful friendship

[PhAnToM]

Hi Mum trying to balance! :wave:

I have opened up to post a reply to you before and then closed it up not really sure what to say.
But looking at the number of views, i think it's a common problem.

Firstly, congratulations to you on your pregnancy! :smiliedance:
I hope you have a comfortable and healthy pregnancy.

As for the friends, I can imagine it would be very awkward for you. I'm sorry because it seems like this situation has taken a bit of the joy out of your announcement.

It might give them a bit of a "why not us??" feeling, it's human nature i think. But i don't think they'd want to stop socialising with you. I mean you say you already have 2 children and they didn't stop seeing you guys then.

I'm sure they will be happy for you once the initial shock passes after hearing about your great news!

Good Luck! :thumbsup:

[SuperWoman]

Hi there, this is a hard one for you, and I totally understand. My best friend got pregnant while I was doing IVF treatment and lets just say I think it was harder for her than it was for me. She used to watch what she said and didnt want to speak to me about her pregnancy and I felt so sorry for her because it was her first pregnancy and such a special time for her. If your friend loves you she will be happy for you no matter what, she might feel envious of you, which is totally normal for her because I felt the same way and at times it was hard but it was more of my own issues that affected me and not my friends pregnancy. Just be there for her and support her and nothing should harm your friendship.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!:smiliedance: