Would you want to know....

[shaz77]

Hi, I was just wondering what you all think. My best friend went to see her GP as she was worried she was pregnant (although she had just given birth 8 weeks ago!) and got a positive HPT but was spotting. The gp was very unhelpful and said that we make it harder for ourselves by testing early. Most miscarriages go undetected as they occur in the first few weeks so we think af is just a week or two late.

So my question is do you think its harder to find out your pregnant and then miscarry, rather than wait for symptoms and missed a couple of afs? My heart breaks for those who have M/C recently and I don't know if I would want to know......your thoughts????



P.S. To those who have recently lost a bubba :hugs: to you and I hope that you do not find my question offensive.

[Amara]

For sure I'd want to know.

I've had 3 losses around the 5 week mark. If I hadn't tested early I may not ever have known I was pregnant at all. Far better to have all that excitement, hope & worry than to never know about it at all.

[Craftymum]

I was lucky to see those 2 lines on the HPT last week when I tested the day AF was due and she didnt show..... I was so excited and had a BT done which confirmed HCG of 25, low but there. about 6 days later I started spotting and heavy bleeding, a further HCG blood test showed levels had dropped to 12 indicating a miscarriage. I was devastated and heart broken as I had gone from such a high to such a low after such a long time of TTC too - 21 months. BUT the positive I took from it is that my body atleast tried to do something, and that is a step in the right direction and an inspiration to keep on going. If it hadnt of tested and just thought my AF was a week late I would never of known my body tried to make our 2nd child. Better to have some inspiration than none at all :)

[bada]

I would not want to know


ETA just read the previous post and I think in that situation I would want to know :hugs:<< for you craftymum

[Baldie's Mum]

Going through IVF we get to know whether we like it or not! :rolleyes: I do prefer to know, but only because i think to myself, a little bit closer a little bit closer! I have had 2x m/c.
DH on the other hand doesnt want to know. He doesnt think it makes any positive difference to him, only negative thoughts. Thats him though. Men go through TTC very differently. :yes:

CM--> :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[1983Bella]

I had my first m/c at around 5 1/2 to 6 weeks. It was one of the hardest things I have ever been through in my life. I waited till AF was 4 days late b4 going and having a HPT. My levels were fine for that stage of pregnancy but a few days later I started to bleed. In a way I think maybe I should wait till AF is a week or two late just in case I have another m/c but I would rather know that I did fall pregnant then to not know at all.

[sherbie]

I had an early m/c in March, I got 2 positive HPT's and then AF arrived 2 days later. I'm glad I found out though as it shows that I can fall pregnant, and when I spoke to my Dr about it she said it was a good sign that I fell pregnant and that it is really common to have an early m/c. So overall as hard as it was going from such a high to a huge low I am happy I found out.

[ttc4pink]

I lost a bub in January. I only knew for sure for 2 days before we lost bub though I had plently of symptoms (this also would have been my 4th) and I'd known for a little while that I was pregnant.
As much as it broke my heart I would still want to know again.

[3blue&1pink]

I am going to be the odd one and say I wouldn't want to know but I know that I would already know anyway.

I have known with all 6 (4live 2loss) of my pregnancy's that I was expecting before I seen the Dr.

[Pebblez]

I would def want to know. DH and I started trying in Feb and in the 1st month it was :bfp: then a few days later af came (when she was due) and the dr said it was an early m/c. Even though I was upset because I really want a baby, it was good to know that we can fall pregnant and so the dream is possible.