Should I go...

[munchie]

dletey!

[SPC]

Perhaps you need a deposit?! A good behaviour bond?? Or just tell him you need seven days notice, at least, to uproot yourself.

[Veritas]

If you feel uncomfortable or unprepared, then I would say no....

He can't expect that you organise yourself and your child in a matter of days for an impromptu trip at his whim....

Going forward, if you do as he wishes now, will he expect that he can do the same next time he wishes to see his daughter?

Why can't he fly to you?

[MummyDaddy]

What happened last time?

Can you choose where you stay and where he sees you?

Do you have a friend down there that can be with you at the visits?

Does he intend of taking the child away without you there?

I'd be getting a lot of things set in stone before doing anything.

It would be easier for him to fly to you and stay somewhere and would cost the same.

Sounds like a lot of effort on your behalf and zero on his.

I wouldn't be doing him any favours if he has never shown himself to be a standup guy.

[Bubmum]

No no no...he can come to you. I fhe can afford to pay for your flights, and accomodation, then he can afford to come and see you.
Only go if you want a free holiday. He probably thinks he is being generous, but it sounds pretty dicey and gives him the ultimate control if he is bankrolling it.

[fireflights]

Just on superficial observation...NOOOOO!!!!!!. Ditto to the above posts. There is a fine line between compromise (i.e. code for not wanting your child to pay the consequences for unhealthy relationships) and being manipulated. I guess only you know the answer to that, but from the tone of your post - my opinion is NO!

[Issey]

:( personally i don't think it is a good idea to drop everything and do as your X wants you to do.

if you are keen to go it should definately be arranged in advance (not 2 days) and everything booked and paid so you know what you are doing.

i really feel that it is his responsibility to visit you though.

[munchie]

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[Mum2Bella]

IMO i would go,its a chance for you n your daughter to get away if he is paying for the fare n accommodation that could be classed as child support(you will need to double check this)
make sure you get the ticket n its a return ticket,make sure he wont be staying in the same hotel room etc.

weigh up you pros n cons

[munchie]

Dlete