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tinytotsmum
01-05-2009, 13:26
hey ladies thought i would kick us off as today is the first of may. wow the time has gone so fast.
as for us still waiting to see specialist for em but we are getting through have started my anti depressants adn havent had any side affects as of yet but this is the third day so things seem to be going well feel a little happier but not really any different but supposivly can take up to 2 weeks before it starts to work.
ems soft spot sunk again yesterday and i think it is still a tiny bit sunk today but seeing midwife soon today for my mums group so i can ask her. poor little em has only been gaining 10gm a day which is like stuff all really when min is between 25 -30gm a day. so she has only just clear 4.5kg at 7wk.
she seems to have gotten the pains back but last night she slept 7 hours bummer she went to bed at 6 though so she woke up at 1:30 but i went to bed at 7:30 so i had a pretty good sleep before she woke.
well anyways chat to ya all soon mwaa.
LivingINhope
01-05-2009, 13:52
Damn it Sebastian has croup and Lucius is coughing and sneezing, I am also sick. I hate being sick and its so hard when the kids are sick because sleep deprivation (for me) stops me getting through the sickness.
Hope your all well today:yes:
while we're on the subject of illnesses/ailments, I have an ingrown toenail and a whopping great big coldsore on my lips...I look like I've been smacked in the mouth :gloomy: I couldn't remember why I never used to cut my toenails short before I was preggo...now I remember...stupid ingrown nails...
subaruforestermum
01-05-2009, 14:49
LIH - hope you and the family get better soon.
tj - hope you can get into a specialist soon for bub. I havent read through all the other thread as there is so much and little time, can I ask what is happening with her to need a specialist. Only cos if the doctor is concerned about the immediate health of bub, they can write you a letter to take to the emergency department at hospital, and you get seen by a paed that day! What happened with DS when he was 6 weeks, so might not be of any help to you with that info but just share in case.
Well I just got back from doctors, I have some infection which is causing the clots, I also need further blood tests as last results showed only slight improvement on one but no improvement on the other, so my liver & kidney is still not functioning properly!!! And Indie has oral thrush, so got some nilstat for her!And I'm now seeing a physioist for my back, but have to take both kids along worst luck, makes it difficult as DS gets bored there for an hour and Indie just has issues with her pram!
Karice - hope your DP works hi sh!t out. DP and I seperated after DS was born as he went through similar sh!t, now he regrets having missed out on those 3 months we were seperated for! But done us both a lot of good. Hopefully doesnt come to that for you. :hugs: if only men communicated more and better, things would be easier.
Oh just a bit of exciting news on my front, since falling pregnant I've been losing weight, well I've dropped down 5 sizes:smiliedance::smiliedance::smiliedance:... But means I'm wearing baggy as clothes now..so happy.
Oh weighed Indie at chemist and she is 4.02kg, and is 5 weeks on Sunday (she is a non stop hungry little girl)...but she is still in 5x0's and some 4x0's apart from bonds suits as they are always smaller make so she's in 3x0's...
Afternoon ladies :) Big hugs to those of you sick and/or with sick bubs. Just remember, illness is only temporary - you will all feel better soon. :yes:
Abi is doing ok - smack in the middle of her 6 week growth spurt I think because I've had nothing but constant grizzles and non stop feeding, more or less, for the last 2 days. But she had put on some good weight on Tuesday - up to 3.84kg. That's nearly 400 grams in a week and a half - not bad for a bf bub. Hopefully by this weekend she should be near 4kg.
Hope you all have a wonderful weekend, anyway. Since bub is finally asleep, I'm going to make a cuppa tea and play WoW for a while :)
:wave:
ETA - we must have posted at the same time suby. 4kgs and in 00000s? Wow, Abi wasn't even 3kg and didn't fit into 00000s lol. I guess those kg guides on clothing really are only a guide - or Abi's a big baby. Abi's not quite 4kg and already fitting into some 00s. Mostly wearing 000s, and the couple of 0000s I have are too small on her. She's still cute tho ;)
Just Add Water
01-05-2009, 15:33
Quick one (no, really LOL).
Has everyone seen this thread? I love it. I think it's my favourite thread on BubHub. Makes me all warm to do nice things for people :) Go through it, perhaps you can help someone, or they may be able to help you.
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?p=3693526&posted=1#post3693526
Big :hugs: to all of you who are sick and/or have sick bubbas. Hope you are all feeling better soon.
Karice - Hope things are soon better for you at home. It's hard enough dealing with a newborn without partner issues as well.
We've had a really unsettled day here. William had got a lot better about having his daytime sleeps but today he has been crying so much that I've had him in the sling most of the time. I'm so tired and would love a nap but can't see that happening. Oh well.
William is already in 000 clothes, haven't had him weighed for a while, really should do that next week.
ManekiNeko
01-05-2009, 18:54
Sorry I haven't been around last few days just had heaps to do. I had a quick skim through so I will try and do a few personals.
Kar It's good to hear your settling in with F's sleep paterns. I find that just going with what they want seems to work better than when I stressed about routine too. I am also handlinging Austin alot because I am super paranoid about leaving him to cry. My mum had alot of problems with her 2nd child a little girl who I think now must have had reflux although she didn't know then. They went to stay at a property where my fathers mother lived for easter when she was 2 months old. They told my mum she spoiled her by picking her up to much and that's why she was so unsettled. On good friday My dad told her if she picked up the baby he wouldn't help her again then they all stood around watching the baby cry in the bassinett for half an hour before she went to sleep. Mum said amanda was so upset she kicked herself from one end to the other. Mum wanted to check on her but grandma was mopping so she waited when she finally did she turned her over from her tummy and she was blue and too late for anything to be done. My mum always thinks to herself shoulda coulda woulda and I can't imagine how hard it must be to think that. That's why I don'tever leave Austin to cry because I couldn't handle the thought of if only i had of.
Karice I don't think you're being unreasonable your dp is. He sounds alot like how I felt though when I had pnd. I didn't want to do anything with her in the begining because I felt inadequate and left it to wade. I also thought things about her or told her I wished she would shut up. It's hard to explain unless you felt it but it's as if you have no control and you do regret those things. Maybe getting help if he wants to would be a good idea... Then agian I know men aren't the easiest to make ask for help.:hugs::hugs::hugs:
Suby I would definately get checked out that is not something you can ignore. When you loose large pieces they can come from the uterine wall and leave a raw patch causing you to bleed heavily which can be dangerous. I hope everything turns out to be ok though but defs go tot a doctor.
Bongos I'ts good to hear Lily is giving you a bit more rest sounds like you deserve it. I have watched boys in the park and gosh they are definately more boistrous than girls. Ruby is driving me nuts as it is I don't know how ppl do it with boys seeing as they are very active but hey guess I'll find out in a year and a half.
Yeah New me I was so peeved I ended up buying a new swing I almost didn't but then I convinced myself I could sell it on ebay. I eman I don't care if they had of said look we don't have the room now can you take it back would have preffered that to wasting $500 worth of baby goods. Ruby loves those babushka dolls too and whenever she gets a new toy she has to bring it to bed it's funny hey haha.
HnB I hope jacob gets better soon poor little sausage remember ruby got something viral at 2 weeks it was awful watching her have the sniffles and not really being able to do much.
Pippa they grow so fast hey. Austin is 9 weeks and is now 5.9kg 60 cm and wore his first 00 today haha a wondersuit though so they are a bit small for a 00.
Oh LIH Croup that's terrible hope your lil ones get better soon. As for everyone else with sick bubs hope they get better soon too.
TJ I hope em is ok I can't imagine how stressful this must be for you especially with the depression.:hugs::hugs::hugs:
As for me I have been decorating the kids rooms and catching up on house work.
This is Ruby's room all done up http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=535191612&v=feed&story_fbid=74780568298#/album.php?aid=75327&id=658522883&ref=mf
Do you think I should put something above the table and chairs like cherry blossum decals or that woudl make it too cluttered? I am half way through Ausrtins room but need my cot they are ordering another piece which should be here in a week. I also am waiting for ikea to get their rocking chair in stock cos I can't wait to finish his room will post some pics when i do. Wade has been a bit better helping around and stuff so I guess I can't complaine about him this time haha.
Anyway better get to the rest of the laundry so I hope everyone else is doing well
tinytotsmum
01-05-2009, 19:09
SFM - em has pyloric stenosis which means the tube between her stomach and intestines is almost closed so i have to see aspecialist to get it fixed so she screams alot in pain and vomits heaps and doesnt really sleep for huge amounts of time except for when she is completely exursted. been a week now since she was diagnosed and can see specialist on tuesday if i can hold out that long without taking her to hospy before hand.
ETA, TALES - em is 4.5kg and in some 5 0's still but mainly 4 0000 tree o's still seem a little big with most.
wat does it mean wen they arch their back again?
ManekiNeko
01-05-2009, 20:10
The oesophagus is burning from the acidic reflux so they are attempting to straighten it out to avoid the pain.
i thought that was it, just thought id check;) thanks ts!
Hi girls,
Can you believe it's May already? It seems like only yesterday we were waiting desperately for March to come around and now our babies are getting bigger every day!
Tj - I'm so sorry you've had such a rough trot with little Em suffering from pyloric stenosis - it's a horrible thing to go through. A friend of mine's little girl had it too and once she had surgery was a different child. :hugs:
Kar It's good to hear your settling in with F's sleep paterns. I find that just going with what they want seems to work better than when I stressed about routine too. I am also handlinging Austin alot because I am super paranoid about leaving him to cry. My mum had alot of problems with her 2nd child a little girl who I think now must have had reflux although she didn't know then. They went to stay at a property where my fathers mother lived for easter when she was 2 months old. They told my mum she spoiled her by picking her up to much and that's why she was so unsettled. On good friday My dad told her if she picked up the baby he wouldn't help her again then they all stood around watching the baby cry in the bassinett for half an hour before she went to sleep. Mum said amanda was so upset she kicked herself from one end to the other. Mum wanted to check on her but grandma was mopping so she waited when she finally did she turned her over from her tummy and she was blue and too late for anything to be done. My mum always thinks to herself shoulda coulda woulda and I can't imagine how hard it must be to think that. That's why I don'tever leave Austin to cry because I couldn't handle the thought of if only i had of. - Tracy, that's so incredibly sad. I can't bear to leave millie to cry either, but that's solidified it for me even more. My heart is breaking for your mother, how horrific.
Tracy - Austin sounds as though he's growing so well - nearly 6kg - it's all too fast isn't it!
Suby - good to see you around! I've been wondering how you're going. You poor thing with your health worries, :hugs: I really hope it all gets sorted soon.
We're doing well here. Millie is now in 00 for one piece suits - she's 60cm already :o - but still wearing 000 for separates. I can't believe how fast she's growing. I feel like I am not able to absorb all this gorgeous little baby phase and before I know it she's going to be walking around. DH and I have chatted about more children, but he's thrilled with the 3 we have and doesn't want to have anymore kids. I don't feel ready to say goodbye to my child bearing years :( - he definitely won't change his mind. So I'm going to have to assimilate that and move on. I can't wait to go back to doula work - I miss being around pregnant and birthing women, and it's been 6 months since I attended at a birth - that time had flown. Now I am going to try to concentrate on getting into university and start studying again. Won't be for another year or two, but I was to get organised!
Anyone else ever just feel completely overwhelmed by their love for their kids? I get so emotional at the moment thinking about it! It amazes me how much our capacity to love grows to include each new child. I'm getting all gushy - I should go to bed, I'm tired, hormonal and emotional! Should stop looking at my birth pictures, that's what does it!!
ETA - Tommo - back arching is usually a sign of pain - is his reflux bad at the moment? DS1 used to arch his back during a feed when he was in pain due to reflux - so sad.
littledreams
01-05-2009, 20:44
Hi ladies!
I haven't been in here at all since Sylvie was born so I'm a little out of date with how the first couple of months with the new additions have been treating everyone. It has been pretty tricky for me second time around but things are starting to look up.
Sylvie is a BF bub but is piling on the weight, 840g in two weeks at last weigh in. We have a few issues with oversupply that we are trying to work out at the moment. Very chubby but super cute! She is in 000 at the moment but even some of these are too small. Better pull out the 00's.
I see a few of you are unwell - hopefully you are feeling better soon. It is so hard to stay on top of things when you are not 100%.
TJ - Oh how awful, your poor little girl. Good luck on Tuesday and for the next few days while you wait.
Tracy your mum's story is heartbreaking. I can never leave my girls to cry either as I am totally paranoid. Made me rush upstairs and check on them both. I do the hand on chest thing every night, all through the night - my mum thinks I am crazy. BTW Ruby's room is super sweet. Alexandra has the same little bed but we are picking up her new single tomorrow as she had an amazing growth spurt and is a bit cramped.
Nomadic - That thread is lovely. It's a bit like freecycle if you have that in your area. So many great things about it!
Sylvie is due to wake any moment now so I'm going to head back upstairs. Hopefully I make it back in here soon :)
Tracy, your poor mum, that is completely horrific.
My gorgeous DH said to me tonight "you know what i think we should just go with the flow and follow what F wants to do". Goodness I love how in sync with our baby he is.
Then he told me how in the Pinky McKay book he had been reading that she recommends trying to sleep with your baby at least once a day and told me that I should reserve afternoons for trying to nap in bed together. He did it yesterday when F couldn't settle but was exhausted by 4pm and I think he is a convert to co-sleeping!
ManekiNeko
01-05-2009, 20:58
Yeah it is a pretty sad story... I don't mean just cry I mean distresed at such a young age and I'm not saying if you leave your child to cry they are going to die. It's just that my mum has alot of regret because something did happen which know one can really tell her specifically why though. I feel for her becasue no mater how many times someone tells you it's not you're fault you just carry somemthing like that with you forever.
Oh Jeca I am starting to wish I had a chance at a third but I know there is no way DP would agree to it. They do grow so quickly I can't believe it's May.
Littledreams I don't recall meeting you so hi! :wave: Yeah I love toddler beds they are so cute and tiny. Ruby is pretty small even after her growth spurt so I think Ive ot another year in it but I think Austin being how big he is will need to go straight into a normal bed.
ManekiNeko
01-05-2009, 21:02
Kar I love co sleeping although Austin isn't as into it as Ruby. I used to sleep with Rubylying on my arm with it wrapped around her. I missed it heaps when she got bigger and didn't like sleeping like that.
tinytotsmum
01-05-2009, 21:41
hey ladies i just want to clarify something as i have had a few emails of worry.
dh would never ever hurt our daughter he is upset for 2 hours from giving our massive dog a small smack on the bum. the yelling mainly comes from me and dh helps me out but you have to understand with the way em is some nights we both have no sleep what so ever and then em will have a bad day and just scream constantly which is very very wearing especially when you can tell it is a in lots of pain cry and it is hard cos i cant do anything about it. the main yeller was me and then when i had the thoughts of smothering her to stop her crying that is when i went and seeked help and now i have 2 mothers groups and psyc appointments every week along with the medication and my midwife still sees me every week if not twice cos of em being sick.
i have found way s to manage but as i said he has only smarled at em once or twice and that was when i was in tears cos i couldnt cope he was tired and work a long day and the cats trash the house. but soon all will be better.
well anyway to all that have emailed me thanks for the concern but non is needed. my dad had an anger problem and i know who would hurt someone and who wouldnt and dh is definatly one who wouldnt.
sorry if my other post came across that way it was not ment to make him look bad mainly myself really.
sorry for any confusion.
morning everyone!
Karice - thanks for the day out yesterday! Did me a world of good too, didn't realise how "hermit crab" I was becoming until I got home. Great thing is I was on a high all afternoon and sorted a lot of stuff out that had been looming over my head for a lot longer than I should have let it.
Jeca - I know exactly how you're feeling atm, same way as me really. Birth pics and birth stories always turn me into an emotional hormonal mess. Still feeling jipped at DD2's birth, so just cry at those pics still. I guess that's why I so badly want a 3rd - for the birth experience I missed out on. I've thought a few times about some study to be a doula or even biting the bullet and trying to get into midwifery, but I just don't know how I'd cope with the sadder side of midwifery. Have you read "Labour of Love"(apparently there are 2 books of the same name, the one I'm referring to is a collection of stories written by midwives) - I highly recommend it, brings about a new appreciation for midwives and the work they do(the good, the bad and the ugly).
TJ :hugs:. I couldn't even begin to imagine the stress that you and your DH are going through. :fingerscrossed: the weekend goes quickly(and as little pain as possible) so that tuesday can bring you some good news.
TS - OMG Ruby's room is gorgeous! :hugs: to your mum, thank-you for sharing her story with us. It really helps to put things into perspective on the days when our little ones are crying and screaming away and you feel like you're not coping.
LD - I too am paranoid and check both my kids multiple times a night. I hate when they're in that deep deep sleep where their breathing is slower, I always just put a hand on each arm as if i'm about to move them in the bed and that's enough for them to take a deeper breathe and kind of shrug their shoulders - the relief when they do is almost overwhelming. So, I don't think you're crazy, 'cause I do it too!
SFM - If your physio is in brissy, I'd be happy to try to come along to help look after the kids during appointments if I can. You know where to get a hold of me if you need it. Glad you got to the doc and are getting all sorted out. Hopefully your health will be back in perfect condition soon. Had to have a giggle, we call our Indie Miss Indie too:D
I can't get back to sleep this morning. DH has a sore elbow, it's really inflamed, like he's been bitten by something but I can't see any bite marks(plus he was throwing up last night which is so unlike him). I have been so paranoid since I got up to feed Indie that something is going to happen to DH in his sleep if I go back to sleep, so now I can't sleep. Yep, I must be crazy. I just lay there for ages listening to him snore away and will check on him again shortly.
Just discovered that DH put his entire music collection on DD1's ipod(which I steal at any opportunity, 'cause she's got some fantastic games on it!). Wish I could find the cord to plug it in and charge it now though 'cause I've just about killed the battery and she's going to be so cranky when she realises:o. I'm pretty sure it's on DH's bedside table because they were uploading new games yesterday morning. So cute, their morning routine is to sit in our bed side by side and play games on their respective ipod and iphone while I sit and feed indie and catch up on the news.
Ok, I think this post is turning into a novel, off to trawl around and see what else I can find.:goodvibes:
Happy long weekend Qld girls!(and anywhere else that's having a public holiday on monday!).
Just Add Water
02-05-2009, 04:52
Morning NM - Hope your DH is okay. My DH doesn't go down often but when he does he does it in a big way, I suspect yours is the same.
What ipod does your DD have? Mine is a few years old now and just a basic nano one but I refuse to give it up - it was a present to myself as a reward for paying off a debt. Both DH & I had iphones but got rid of them as we had so many problems.
Hope everyone else is getting some sleep. :) B was really grizzly last night and wouldn't sleep for more than 20 mins on his own, just wanted to be held all the time. This is what he did before he got sick so I'm hoping he's not getting sick again. I ended up getting to sleep at 3 and then he woke up screaming at 5 for a feed. I've just now gotten him settled again, though he's not asleep and I'm buggered. My body is starting to want sleep again which is a good thing.
Now to hope that Miss 5 doesn't get up too early and that she does not wake with the horrible attitude she has had. Ugh, I have aleady told DH that he can be king of the kids today. I am going to do all the washing and ironing and he's in charge apart from that - he's SO lucky. LOL
Yep, DH gets a man-cold really bad, but he'll still work away so it hangs around(and I get to listen to how sick he is) for weeks. :rolleyes:.
DD1 is spoilt - she's got an ipod touch. It's funny when she is near one of our computers though, she thinks everything made by apple is touch screen:laughing:. I'm jealous you had an iphone, dh can't live without his(and is desperately awaiting the release of the 3.0 software so it intergrates better with our server(which is all mac too). DH's plan is that when a new generation iphone is released that i get his current iphone and he gets the new one, but I've said i'd be happy having dd's ipod and getting her the gen 2 ipod touch('cause it has speakers and i'd prefer that to her using her headphones all the time). But meh, we're on a "no new toys" budget atm(at my insistance!). It's just stuff we don't need to be spending money - I'd rather pile everything into paying off a personal loan that we've had for far longer than we had ever planned to have.
Anyway rambling... DD1 is up now too so off for some snuggles.
eeyorethedonkey21
02-05-2009, 05:07
well i went for my ultrasound yesterday afternoon and as soon as the chick put the scanner on my abdomen she saw a 5cm cyst on my right ovary. (oh joy) she thinks (like 80% thinks) that i ovulated last week (way too friggin fertile i only had nathan 5 weeks ago damnit) and it didnt release from my ovary properly. so i may have to go for another scan on day 2 of my cycle. i have my 6 week checkup on monday so i'll have to get my doc to ring up the hospital for the full report from my scan and blood tests i had last week.
all i can say is paul had better stay the hell away from me or i'll kick his a$$ :laughing: infact i said that to him and he said that he'd kick his own a$$ :laughing:
So much for my intended morning cuddles with DD1 - I've lost her to Diego.
Nomadic - I really hope B isn't coming down sick again. He's been sick enough so far to last him the whole of his first winter.
Oh dear Eeyore! I hope it's easily fixed. Had to :laughing: at your comment about DH.
Morning girls,
Karice, NewMe - sorry I bailed on the catch up yesterday - I needed to go see a friend who can't get out of the house very easily at the moment - her eldest is in a halo and brace at the moment so it's very hard to get her out and about. Anyway, it was so nice to catch up with her and her little girls are SOOOOO cute! I had DS2 with me and her eldest kept calling him boy cos she couldn't pronounce his name, Jethro, LOL!
NewMe - I understand what you mean about feeling a bit gipped about DD2's birth. DS1 was an emergency caesar and I felt as though I'd had that birthing experience taken away from me. It took me a while to get over it. But don't feel bad for feeling that way, it is normal and healthy to grieve for the loss of that experience. It's also where I found Birthtalk so invaluable - they really helped me to validate my feelings. It may be worth having a chat to them? And if you do go for #3 they have an amazing VBAC course!
eeyore - you are a fertile Myrtle aren't you! I hope DH keeps his distance and that your cyst isn't causing you too much discomfort. I had a large cyst when I was pregnant with Millie and it was so painful. It took until I was 19 weeks to dissipate.
Nomadic - I hope Miss5 is good to you today and that DH is charge of children! I've just kicked DH and the boys out to play football and play on the trampoline while Millie sleeps so I can indulge in some BH time LOL!!!
Oh and NewMe - I meant to mention, I am hoping to start Midwifery when Millie is a little bigger - I completely feel like it is my calling in life. I would absolutely love to be an independent midwife, so I guess we'll see what the government does about IM registration next year. I think that will really help me consolidate what I want to do. If it becomes very hard to practice as an IM I might reconsider and instead train as a childbirth educator.
TJ - having had a screamer myself I can completely identify with your feeling of frustration and understand that sometimes you do just want to shout and scream to get that frustration out. :hugs:
Tracy - perhaps your DP will change his mind about #3 in time? DH said no way to a third after we had DS2 but he was right on board when we went for it. It just took a little time is all! I think asking for #4 is pushing it a bit for my DH though LOL!!
Well, Millie went 7 and a half hours last night :yelclap:. Mind you that was from 7-2.30 but heck, it's pretty darn good! She then woke at 4 and 5 before I took her into bed with me where she slept until 9 :)! I'd kicked DH out of bed to attend to the boys by then so it was some lovely Mummy and baby time with my girl.
Well, it's a long weekend so I'm hoping that we can do something fun! Have a good one everyone!
Jeca, that is F's big sleep time too although last night it was to 1.30. I am doing a dream feed at 10/10.30 if I am still up in the hope of one day losing that 2ish feed.
Do you mean he was actually asleep from 7 or that's when you fed him?
Despite throwing notions of routine out the window here I am trying to start F's feed at 6/6.30 regardless of what has happened during the day and have him ready to start trying to go down at about 7/7.30ish. Last night he was asleep by 7.45 then went through to 1.30 with the dream feed at 10.
Then up at 5.45 and then 7.45 for a feed in bed. Then another feed at 10.15 after a 30 min cat nap.
I am finding he is feeding a bit more during the day (about every 2/2.5hrs with one longer stretch) but that is also because he wont sleep for any decent stretch during the day.
Morning Girlies :wave:
The IL's come back from their cruise honeymoon today, so DP's gone to collect them from the harbour/warf place, whatever it's called. Will be nice to have some visitors for a little while. Will also be nice to have my carport back after they leave lol. I've had my car parked under the maccadamia tree all week while we put their new car under the carport (its BRAND SPANKING NEW) and we live in a rough area so we thought we'd hide their car. Mine's old, if it gets stolen well, its insured. Put my car is covered in cr@p...litterally birds or bats or something have covered it with turds, its so gross.
Newme - its so funny that you said getting out of the house made such a difference yesterday. I too came home and sorted so much stuff out. Cady went back to bed for a few hours until DP came home and I zoomed around, got so much housework done. I've almost finished knitting those pants i was telling you about for her.
sorry, IL's have turned up will finish personals later :hugs: to all
MamaAfrica
02-05-2009, 15:06
Hi every1,
I hope all mums & bubba's r doing well.. especially the ones who aren't feeling too well. I really admire all the mums who r coping so well with sick little ones or looking after other kids as well... at the moment i've got my hands full with the 1!
I can't believe some babies r already sleeping for such long stretches. Z doesn't really ever go past 3 hours at nite without a feed & lately its been shorter. Last nite he just wanted to be feeding all the time... & was getting quite aggro... screaming here & ther even while he was sucking. Does that mean he's just going thru a growth spurt or cud it be something else?? I keep getting the comment from mil that i mite not hav enuf milk... Cud that be tru? I thought its just old school thinking..
He's still a smally.. we're still in 0000 at 5 weeks. But even then.. i'm amazed at how big he's getting & feel so sad about it :( I think for me No.2 will come sooner rather than later.
Anyways... my little man is looking for his cow...
mamafrica, perhpaps try expressing, offer it to him after a feed, see if he gobbles it down? might give you an idea of if you need to look at trying to get your supply up.
karice, dh going any better? i hope so, his attitude of late has been hideous...
Kar, we try and always have a feed somewhere b/w 7-8, and usually another b/w 9.30-11pm, then he goes down for a big sleep from say 11ish till (at the moment) 5am. generally he doesnt sleep much b/w 5pm-10pm, booo. lol.
Jeca, hopefully thats the start of smoe longer sleep stretches!!
rebecca, oh, crapola, is it something that can be sorted easily? :hugs:
nomadic, could he be going thru a growth spurt?
tj, i dont think there is enough help in the world to help you with a baby that screams all day and night, it is truly the most stressful thing you can go through (well i think so anyway) add sleep deprivation to it, well, holy moly, its just plain torture. i sure hope em gets her op soon, you wont know yourself when she gets better...
newme, ah, that bl00dy diego! lol, they're not revamping him too are they? (as they are dora)
ts, ruby's room is looking fab!
asf-well, sleep is evading me, i've never had trouble sleeping in my life, now, i cant get my brain to turn off, it takes me about 2 hours to finally get to sleep, and as you can imagine, frustrating! cause then im pretty much back up again. anyhoo, hopefully, its just a little faze eh.
J is doing a consistent 11pm-5am at the moment. he has started getting grizzly again, im wondering if he could be starting his 6 week growth spurt early? he would be 6 weeks yesterday per due dates, so he is actually 5 weeks old (born 1 week over, just incase im not explaining correctly;)) im really not sure. i was wondering if his reflux is getting worse, but he's not spewing horribly, and he isnt actually screaming, and he is sleeping, and the side effects of zantac dont thrill me... hmmm, tough stuff.
well, best get off the computer,
oh, there is a childcare hola stroller going cheap on ebay here, was thinking about getting it, anyoone had any experience with them??
Kar - Millie fed at 6.30 and was in bed by 7 last night before her long sleep - she'd been cluster feeding since about 5 though! She is erratic with her day feeding too - she'll have a couple of feeds close together and then she'll have a long sleep of 2-3 hours. Most of her day sleeps are an hour and a half though.
Karice - yuk at all that bird poo and stuff!
Tommo - no experience with that stroller - sorry! We have a P&T Sport, but I don't use it too much yet as I wear Millie in the hug-a-bub whenever we're out at the moment. I usually start using the pram from when bub hits 6 months - too heavy to carry all the time then!
I'm being watching by DS1 as I type so I think he wants to play Dora on the computer LOL! Better go - oh and letting down, perhaps Millie's about to wake up :)!
ergo best purchase ever.
that is really all i have to post!!
mama africa - i would think that at 5 wks feeding three hourly is quite normal if a pain in the bum! F is 9 wks old and started doing some longer stretches at around 7 wks I think.
iIf you are doing full BF it is unlikely you don't have enough milk - don't worry about the old fashioned ideas. F was definitely in 0000 at 5 wks. Re the yelling out while feeding maybe he has some wind or a little bit of tummy acid?
In the last few days F has gone back to wanting to feed max 3 hourly during the day and more like 2/2.5 - the trade off of a longer night sleep. Keep feeding on demand and your boobs will catch up in a day or two (just when he goes back to 4 hourly :laughing:)
If you really have any concerns re milk talk to a lactation consultant or your health nurse.
Raw cashews, almonds and peanuts (if no concerns re allergies) are all milk booster and fenugreek helps too (i have been upping my intake of these when i feel i need to boost the milk a bit and it really seems to help)
Sorry about that long winded and "know it all" sounding reply but suggestions about not enough milk are undermining if well intentioned.
Tash - get some sleep! I have started taking half an hour to get back to sleep after night feeds and it is driving me crazy. What are the xantac side effects?
TJ, hang in there, and it is probably a good idea for DP to find someone to talk to too.
Eyeore, hope you are feeling better soon, the second half of your post made me laugh. DH said to me the other day "well, we'll have to start dtd soon if we want number 2" whoa! slow down my friend!! We are both a bit baby mad in all senses at the moment.
Hi to everyone :wave:
:D:yelclap::smiliedance:
Put Josh on his tummy tonight and he pushed himself up and looked around!!!
He hates tummy time, and usually sits there till he cracks it and i turn him over.
He has been picking his head up since he was born, and can lift himself of your chest easily since birth too,
but tonight is the first night he has picked himself up from the floor:cloud9:
He also did HEAPS of goo's and gaa's and smiles:smiliedance:
This being my first bub, this stuff makes it all worth wild...
trifecta
02-05-2009, 19:17
errrgggh just lost my big post!
start again -
MamaAfrica - Jacob has recently started grizzling and crying on the breast and pulling away (with nipple still on mouth :o) but I'm pretty sure it's from my fast flow. I have too much milk if anything. I was expressing to keep a stock pile in the freezer but think this was increasing my supply even more. Now I just express if I'm full o milk and about to explode, usually early morning when J has had enough. If he's feeding more often then usual and your breasts feel empty, they may just be taking a bit of time to build up the extra supply he needs. Kar's made some good suggestions re supply.
Jacob is 7 weeks and mostly in 0000 execpt for bonds stuff.
Kar - You go girl! My DH thinks we shouldn't wait to long either for number 2, but well we haven't even talked about dtd or birth control yet so don't think it will be anytime soon.
Tommo - Hooray super Josh! Thats great.
My lil man is a bit better today thank goodness. He slept with us last night for the first time and I got so much more sleep! It makes a difference if you don't have to physically get out of bed to feed, but it's hard to keep track of how long he's fed for and times because I just fall straight back to sleep.
I don't really keep track of feeding times too much during the day, we fed when he wakes or before he sleeps or whenever he's rooting around looking for nipple :) Can I over fed? He's getting very podgy from such a small bubba when born.
ManekiNeko
03-05-2009, 08:19
New me what is it about dora and dieago Ruby is obsessed and you can't even speak to her when either is on... Not to mention she starts screaming their names as soon as the show starts haha.
Jeca I really wish he would but I know him and there is no way he would ever give into a third. I am looking foward to catching up this friday aswell seeing as I missed the last friday too.
Karice hope you have a good time with your inlaws here it's always good to have company especially when you're the one at home with bub most of the time.
Tommo I heard about this Dora revamp i think it's odd so it's actually true I thought it was just a rumour? What side effects does zantac have never noticed them with either apart from the fact they both hated the taste and would always try and spit it out. Austin has switched to losec which is frustrating because since zantac has worn off I need to wait for the losed to work and last couple of days he has been screaming again. Don't know if it has to do with his imunisation aswell. As for the tummy time i never did it with Ruby reflux babies tend to hate it because it agrivates the reflux. I actually don't see the point because Ruby is fine nothings wrong with her and I never did it with her because it caused her pain.
HnB I wish I had as much milk as you do it seems so much hard work to increase my supply it is happening though. Good to hear Jacob is getting better and you are getting more sleep maybe he is haveing a growth spurt.
Kar I think hormones must play a role in the cluckiness too but it would be nice to have them close and I do miss pregnancy strangely even though I hated it haha.
Mama you're right they do grow up too quickly one minute they're lil bubs next minute they are runnng round up to trouble hehe.
ok, so I have some info re bubs that are hard to put down for day sleeps.
Cady's 7 weeks now and for the last 2 weeks she's been increasingly difficult to put down for day sleeps, then of course by the time evening comes shes over tired a very grumpy. So last night, I'd had enough, and called the 24 hour child health line.
The nurse said that at around 6 to 8 weeks, bubs digestive systems are still immature but they reach another developmental stage, which makes their reaction to wind and belly cramps hit its peak. This can keep babies awake or even wake them up. She said once you reach 9 weeks it should start to ease off until around 12 weeks and it should be almost all gone.
So in the mean time, here are the coping techniques.
For those who like me have a fast/strong let down: First and biggest this is to stretch out the feed. Due to the let down, bubs will be gasping and gulping to keep up, swallowing more air and worstening the problem. Put bubs on, let the strong let down flow away into a towel or something, put bub on for no more than 10 mins. Take bub off, then spend 5 to 10mins burping bub over your shoulder. Not only will this help to bring up wind before it gets trapped in their bellies, but it also gives them a chance to let their milk settle a bit. Put them back on the same breast for another 10 mins or so. Take off again and repeat burping process. Then offer the second side. I personally do the second burp and then change Cady's nappy as I find she falls asleep on my shoulder, and she always seems to pee during a feed :o The nappy change wakes her up enough to finish her feed. Do a burp after the 2nd side offering also.
She reckons that the feed should be stretched out over 40 mins to an hour. It's a bit of a bugger in the wee hours of the morning for the night feed, but it was definately worth it, she went back down this morning with no issues so it must be working. I've also been giving her a little bit of infants friend during her feed which I've been a bit slack on.
She's also given me an awesome website, not sure if anyone has looked at it previously but its www.raisingchildren.net.au (http://www.raisingchildren.net.au) its got great advice on babies, kids and parenting. Everything from wrapping advice, to articles, nutrition, feeding, sleeping and settling, and even boring stuff like legal advice re parenting. Worth a look :yes:
ManekiNeko
03-05-2009, 11:05
Karice that's great she was so helpful. I rung 13 health when austin was sleeping pretty much all day in those early periods. I was a bit wierded out because my last child didn't sleep that long and he wouldn't wake up when I tried to wake him to feed so she told me to take him to hospital and she really scared me. Turns out he was just zonked haha. So I never caled back because that woman didn't sound that experienced and I ended up calling the maternity ward for adivice. So its good to know that you had a good experience and i will call them in the future.
I'm going to a wedding this weekend and I just wanted to share this cute pic of Austin in the outfit he's going to wear haha.
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=1670172&id=658522883&comments=#/photo.php?pid=1670172&id=658522883&comments=
karice, the link will prob be taken down by mods soon.
i've visited that one, nae suggested it quite a while ago, it is fantastic, i still jump on there regularly, as it has heaps of info.
We do the burping for J, if we dont, his reflux gets worse, so i do highly recommend good burps:)
ts, he is an absolute stunner:D
Tracy - I love that outfit, that's adorable!
JLeesmum
03-05-2009, 14:42
hello everyone...for all of u that dont know me, im ashlee, ive been hiding in the feb thread cos my son was born on the 1st march and i wasnt sure where i fitted in :wave:.
well...our first baby Jyden Lee was born on the 1st march weighing in at 3.080kgs, after a 9 hour 'perfect' labour (on gas and pethedine) DH and i were trying for this baby for 3 years so its amazing to finally have him here!. he had a mild case of jaundice for his first 3 days, but lots of sun and it cleared up!
i tryed to catch up on the may thread...im on limited time with J asleep..
Trac-thats so sad to hear about ur sister.
Jydens now 6kgs!! and JUST going into 00. he was BF for 4 weeks but i didnt have enough milk so i started FF.. he rolled over last week:yelclap:but it was kinda a fluke cos he was on a pillow...and hes started grasping toys!!! he slept 10 hours the other night, then i went to get him and he gave me the biggest smile:cloud9:
i hope that everyone with sick bubs get well soon!!!!
oh, and Jye doesnt sleep during the day either...much.. but he usually goes 6-10 hours at night :D most nights:smiliedance:...
MamaAfrica
03-05-2009, 15:57
Hi,
Kar & HubnBump- thnx for the advice about feeding. U were rite.. think he was topping me up bcos today i feel massive!! I thought it wasn't a problem with my supply but wen I hear the comment over & over again... I was starting to question myself. I take fenugreek tablets sometimes wen i feel low but i didn't know about the nuts.. thats handy to know. & kar it wasnt a 'know it all' reply... it was very helpful!
HubnBump- i was so sure that Z wasn't going to sleep in bed with us... but ur soo rite. Its just so much easier than getting in & out of bed & he sleeps longer so works out for every1 :) I don't think u can overfeed. Can't wait till my little man is pudgy!
TracySelena- that outfit is absolutely adorable!! I want 1.. he has nowhere to go but he can wear a little tux around the house for his mummy :p There shudnt be too much of a gap btw the Losec kicking in after the Zantac as they both irreversibly block the acid-producing cells in the tummy.. just by different means. I'd say its a combo of the immunisation & the change in med... which both shud settle quite soon. I'm a pharmacist btw... not just making it up!
Hi smashlee.. Congrats on u little boy! Wow.. 6-10 hours... i can't wait till i get there!! Im such a sook wen it comes to not getting enuf sleep.
Speaking of not enuf sleep.. mite go take a nap while my little man sleeps... he's a bit cranky today so i'm sure it won't last long! Dammit.. he's crying already...
melbryan
03-05-2009, 17:37
Hi to all and thanks for all the kids thoughts on facebook I haven't forot you all don't get much time to do anything computer at the moment.
Ashton is going well so far had a toe infection but on the mend now.
Leah is doing great has some wind problems but other than that is pretty good girl. Thank god for my rocking swing it has been a god send for a crying baby when I am in the middle of doin other things.
super cool tracy
A question re going to bed time... F has taken to screaming the house down when it is time for bed and he gets put into wondersuit and then wrapped. Now, because I am so paranoid about control crying I am convinced I have scarred him for life by trying to make him sleep in his cot after the horror week a couple of weeks ago.
This isn't 'witching hour' crying, it is definitely related to going to bed. Does anyone else's bub do this and what have you done to try to assist them with not flipping out? Is it a developmental stage because they are starting to join the dots about things and don't want to go to bed?
We have a nice feed, massage and bath and then when it comes time for the suit to go on he cracks it. We have started wrapping him and cuddling him wrapped during the day without putting him to bed to try and break bad associations and also not taking him straight to his room for bed but having a quiet time cuddle before going to his room at night but aside from that I don't know what to do. At the moment we are not putting him down awake because he is too agitated, have taken it back a couple of steps.
As much as we both love bringing him into our bed we don't want to do full co sleeping and that wouldn't solve the problem at 7pm anyway and once he is in his bed asleep he happily wakes for feeds and settles straight back down in his cot until about 6.30/7 when he normally comes into bed with us for an hour or so for sleepy cuddles.
Is it just a matter of continuing with what we are doing until he starts to settle about bed time?
Going to post this in no cry sleeping thread too.
Any advice please!
tinytotsmum
03-05-2009, 19:07
i would say to keep going with what you are doing it is hard listening to them cry but even when they are 5 or older they will stay crack the shets when it is bed time i dont think bub would be scared adn it is kinda good he knows that when bub has suit put on then wrapped it is bed time our little miss cries when it is bed time and dh puts her into bed but during the day i try and get her to put herself to sleep as i dont want her to rely on us to go to sleep every night. so yeha i would say what you have done is great wish we had a routine like that i struggle to bath her every day but it chages everytime as to when we do it.
ManekiNeko
03-05-2009, 20:32
Kar Austin does this most nights because he's pretty exhausted even if he has only been awake an hour. I assume he does it because he is tired and frustrated that he can't sleep. I just let him have his cry while I comfort him. I don't really think about the cring I just do other things. I know eventually it will stop because he will be completely tired and fall asleep. There is one thing I do do before it gets to just letting him cry it out which is wedge him betwen two pillow on my bed so he is cuddled into them on his side and I pat him. Mind you I would never leave him alone like this but it does send him to sleep then i wrap him up and put him in the mosses basket. Babies get frustrated too and I guess they need to vent and for them the only way is to cry which is why they need to do it sometimes. Did you know that t's normal baby behaviour to cry a total of 2 hours a day?
As for the scarring with control crying I wouldn't worry. As I said I don't believe in cc for infants because it can be dangerouse but I did use a gentle form of cc with Ruby when she was 11 months where I left at intervals and kept coming back to calm her down and let her know I hadn't abandoned her forever. Within a week she was sleeping on her on and I can;t see any harm emotionaly with her now.
Thanks Tracy, DH thinks it is probably just about venting the day out too with a bit of general sleep resistance (which he clearly has) thrown in.
ManekiNeko
03-05-2009, 20:57
My biggest problem with Ruby was that she never wanted to miss out on the action and she wanted to be with us rather than go to sleep so she would always fight it. She has actually started doing it again in the last 6 months it's rare we get a night where there is no protest of "NO NI NIGHTS!"
i thought it sounded ludicrous but i really really think he doesn't want to miss out on anything!!
we will see when he can talk...
he lies in my arms all snoozy and fights to keep his eyes open.
ManekiNeko
03-05-2009, 21:20
Defiately not crazy she would start up the crying as soon as she realised she was getting put to bed and would keep fluttering her eyes no matter how exhausted she was. I definately see the difference between her and Austin it's as if he doesn't care to go to sleep where as even now Ruby loathes to stop playing and go to bed.
Girls, Michael is exactly the same! I have had such trouble getting him to bed at night from when he was born! He always (and still does) wanted to go to bed late and wake up late. Ella seems to be the opposite. SO far she's happy to go down early but won't go back to sleep after the 5.30 am feed. Not good for me - at least if they had the same sleep patterns I would sleep more! She's only little yet I guess.
Anyway, must go and get organised. We are going to a BBQ later today (public holiday here in QLD) so want to do some jobs first.
Hope everyone is keeping well.
JLeesmum
04-05-2009, 07:28
good morning everyone, i hope u all had a good sleep... well as good as u can get.... J slept from 7pm-1.30 then 2am -6... were off too get his 8week needles today...im soooo nervous!! poor lil guy...well, hes awake again so ive gotta go get my smile for the morning:cloud9:
Kar - Tracy is right about the crying for 2 hours a day, the nurse told me that it will hit its peak around weeks 6 to 8 and then it should start to ease off. Obviously every baby has their own personality so some will cry more and some will cry less than others.
I find that Cady is really grouchy in the evenings, no matter how much sleep she's had throughout the day. She has her routine of bathtime, cuddles and sleep also. It's weird, but I find the more tired she is the harder she is to put to bed. It can take some serious work to settle her if she's really cranky.
We don't do control crying but we're also trying to get her to settle on her own in the cot. We have a chair next to the cot. She gets put in while she's calm, gets tucked in and one of us will sit with her for 5 mins or so just patting and stroking her. She might have a grizzle but we still sit with her, giving her a shush and a pat/rub on the belly. If she gets really distressed well she comes out and we start again, but most times she'll doze off. I usually move further and further away while she's still awake(ish) and stand out of her view but still shushing until she's asleep. I find that she might wake up after an hour or so, but 9 times out of 10 she'll settle herself back to sleep withing a minute or 2.
I don't think that you could of scarred bubba, it sounds alot like just being overstimulated and cranky and frustrated at the end of a very long day for bubba.
24 hours for adults isn't really very long but for a baby that 6 weeks or so old, well, 1 day is 2.38% of their entire life. If we had been awake for 2.38% of our lives then we'd be pretty cranky to ;) for me at 22 years, 2.38% is 27 weeks ... 2 days of activity makes me cranky lol
Kaz, your analysis is brilliant! LMAO
Mamaafrica, what are the side effects of losec? you should never have disclosed your profession, you will be inundated with questions!
JLeesmum
04-05-2009, 09:26
i guess im lucky when putting J to sleep, (at night that is) cos hes awake all day usually, i just put him in his bassinette, about 7ish tuck him in tight (he doesnt like being wrapped) say ni ni's and tell him i love him then walk out..he grumbles a tiny bit then goes straight to sleep, then wakes up at 2-3ish for a quick feed, then back tosleep til about 5.30-6am....occasionally he'll cry when i put him down, then i just bring him back in to the lounge room in his rocker for 10 mins then try again..it usually works!
hes even slept from7-5 a few times!!
ooo were off to get his needles in 15 mins :(
i bought him a black vinyl jacket with black cordroy pants...its got 'baby biker' written on it... SOOOO cute!! im gona get my dads bike helmet and taKE a photo of him in it :yelclap:
ManekiNeko
04-05-2009, 09:46
I have a spare moment for so personals now forgive me if I missed you.
HnB I used to co sleep with Ruby till she got too big I loved it makes you feel close to them.
Mel I'm so sorry to hear about your lil boy best wishes coming your way hope he has a speedy recovery.:hugs:
Mama thankyou so much for that info it was very helpful. I agree wit Kar haha you are about to be bombarded with q's.
Smashlee wb good to hear things are going smoothly for you.
Mks hope you have a good time at the bbq and lil miss is back to being healthy.
To everyone else hope your bubbas are doing well n you r enjoying your long weekend (if you have it):wave:
mamafrica, ohhh, you are going to be bombarded! and lets start here:p J has started the arching back and grizzling, sooo, after much thought, i have started him on zantac. (doc prescribed it, but the thickened formula helped him enough, till now) can i mix it with something to help him take it?? he hates it! how long does it 'usually' take to kick in?
is losec better tasting? what is the difference?
ok, il stop now... feel free to tell me to bugga off and go and get my advice elsewhere!!;):o
smashlee, sounds like J has his sleep under control! i hope the needles go ok, im freaking out about them already,lol.
kar, oh, sounds like a smart little pumpkin! lol!
well, J grizzled most of yesterday, was taking feeds every 2 hours or so, just was not happy... the back arching is stilll happening, not power spewing, but i think he might have the burning going on, poor boy. so i gave him his first dose of zantac today, i think it takes a few days to kick in, we'll see how we go. He hates taking it...
He did sleep from 11.15pm, till 7am this morning, which was good, but dh turned round and said
'good if he'd do that from now on',
i said 'he only did it cause he was so knackered from grizzling all day long',
'oh, well it's alright if he does that and then sleeps all night':hair:
or not!
i said' yes, and mummy will do her head in if he is like that everyday, thankyou very much!!!':geek:
maybe if he was the one here all day with a grizzling baby, he might think twice before that little wish!
sometimes i think he has no clue how hard it is all day everyday, he is out working, long hours, away from us, and comes home grouchy, then wonders why i tell him to snap out of it, i cant deal with a grumpy husband AND baby...
oh, ok, vent ova... for the time being anywho...
ManekiNeko
04-05-2009, 10:29
It took about 2 and a half weeks for the zantac to kick in with Austin and just under 2 weeks with Ruby so hang in there don't be disheartened if after a few dyas he isn't better (I was with Ruby until someone told me it takes 2 weeks). Ruby was the same would be so knackered from crying she would sleep through til morning. As for the zantac i would try sticking his dummy in if he has one and sticking the syringe down the side up the back. This trick used to work with ruby she'd suck the dummy and swallow the zantac. When she got older and realised what I was doing it got harder. I also do a little bit at a tijme so they can't spit it back out easily. With Austin because he's not a great suck I'd hold hm while standing up him lying on his back put a little in at a time and rock him from lying to an upright position and back and it seemed to make him swallow it. The strange things I've done for my children haha.
JLeesmum
04-05-2009, 11:24
well a t last, he's had his needles....the poor lil bugger screamed:crying: the hospital down, i didnt realise they have 2 needles, one in each leg... i gave him a bottle and he settled down quickly..got home and layed down with him in our bed:hugs: and he went straight to sleep (he isnt a day sleeper so thats unusual) the CHN said it will take 4 hours b4 any side effects occur...if they do..:(
tommo- men just dont get it do they...they must think we get it easy...my dh cracks it when i ask him to do 'a' night feed...well ive only been doing it everynight for 9 weeks...and then il get up to feed Jy at about 5-6am and he's snoring in bed till 9am..grrrr...men...
smashlee, i know! haha, i said to him 2 weeks ago he was gunna have to do a night feed cause i just couldn't cope with no more sleep. he cracked it, he said i was making out like he does nothing, bla bla bla,
yes hun, BUT, i get up and do every night feed, and we have that 6ish feed as well, so im lucky to get maybe 3 hours sleep at a time (if your V lucky!). oh, and we bottlefeed, so i have to actually get up, wake up for about an hour and a half, then try and get back to sleep...
So suck it up sweet heart, you helped get this baby here, no bl00dy well get up and give him a feed:laughing:;)
although, i dont push this issue very often, cause he works lots, but then i think to myself, well im here workin all day and night as well.
(honestly, a day job is SO much easier than a baby!)
JLeesmum
04-05-2009, 12:02
lol, yep tommo, i FF 2 so i know what u mean... and DF works hard too, so its hard to ask....but we work 24/7! we deserve a break sometimes!
ManekiNeko
04-05-2009, 13:10
I'm the oposite I am an absolute control freak I never let wade feed Austin because he is difficult to fed because of the reflu. I think it's only ever ben 1 time he has in 9 weeks def wasn't at night and Autin was crankier after it. Wade can't seem to feed him without tiring him out completely which then makes my job harder because he won't sleep. I wish wade as able to expres milk i'd make him do that if he could produce it cos its annoying haha.
Oh you know with the needles too when Ruby was a baby it ws 3. So lucky for the lil poppets now they get 1 less. I think one nedle does 2 things now.
JLeesmum
04-05-2009, 14:55
trac- i was like that the first few weeks cos Jyden used to have probs drinking.. he would just dribble heaps if i didnt burp him 10 times, i didnt like anyone else feeding him cos they couldnt do it 'properly' lol...and when i was expressing i got RSI so i would sit on DH's lap and he would pump me LMAO:yelclap: he only lasted 5 mins at a time...
and isnt it crazy, the feelings we get when we stop:no: BF, i felt like i was abandoning him..i was only getting about 40mls pumping in the end, (and he drinks 120ml) buti could bring myself to stop.:confused:.i did that for 3 weeks....i dont know why i bothered..but at least i didnt suffer from mastitis or anything:thumbsup:
ManekiNeko
04-05-2009, 15:27
Haha I still can't let go. A ouple of weeks back I almost gave up and my milk almost completely dried up but I've ben working so hard ot increase it. If I think about quittinga litle voice in my head tells me not to its wierd I can't shake the guilt if I were to stop so I wl kep going till I dry up completely.
Smashlee + Traceyselena - I thought it was just me!! I'm only getting about 40-50mls when I express and William drinks way more than that but I feel so guilty about stopping.
JLeesmum
04-05-2009, 19:44
lol, i havnt been BF for 4 weeks and i still think about putting him on my boob!!!(i still have a wee bit of milk beleive it or not!)
i got the flu when he was on Formula and he didnt get it:yelclap:.. im proud of that ...
ManekiNeko
04-05-2009, 20:06
Yeah pippa I feel a little like odds are stacked against me. I have low suppl and attachment problems as well as a reflux baby who not only refuses breast at times but also bottles. Austin had tongue tie had that cut and still had attachment problems. Paed told me it's because he has a high palate and his bottom jaw goes in too much. So I do try and put him on now but it stress' and tires him out so I mostly express now and in a whole day I can manage about 200 mls. I fgure it's beter than nothing though so I am gona kep going till it's gone completely.
I just wanted to show off my lil bubas on style collective too http://www.stylecollective.com.au/juniorstyle/rubyandaustin.html
i got the flu when J was 3 weeks, and although he got a bit sniffly, not a full blown flu, which was a plus!
hands up who loves their swing!! (fisherprice rainforest here!)
**shoots hand in the air**
J has been pretty much zonking everytime i put him in now:smiliedance: i know, i know, bad habit, but, geesh, it works! we cranked it up to the 4th setting, and he loves it.
im uploading a video of J smiling on facebook, so have a sticky :) (if it every finally loads,lol)
Tracy, that article is ace, I'm sure Wade loves that Austin's style is a little bit rock and roll. Loving that he is wearing some items that Felix has in a fashion article!! And of curse Ruby is just plain old gorgeous.
AFU, we had bed time without hysteria tonight. Moved massage to after 4pm feed then a nap, swapped order and did bath first then feed and we had a bub who went down without too much protest tonight.
ManekiNeko
04-05-2009, 21:35
Haha sounds like you hoodwinked ihm Kar! Maybe you should send in F as a junior fashionista too... They are sending me a goody bag of their sponsers so I'm wondering what wil be in it.
Tracy - your kids are so funky, and oh so cute!! I can't wait to hear what you get from the sponsors!
Morning Girls,
Jeez it must be disheartening when you really want to breastfeed but you can't get your supply up :hugs:I didn't realise that it was such a common problem for so many women. Mind you, over-supply can be a pain in the butt also. Cady gets quite ill from it at times poor bugger, she gets bad belly pains, i get boob pain and blocked ducts really easily. Why is it that our bodies can't just do exactly what they're supposed to do without all this fuss from one extreme to the other?
DP has been trying to convince me to DTD. I know it's bad, and I should just go and do it but I really really don't want to. The thought of it makes me cringe and I don't know why. I'm fast running out of excuses though. First it was "can't till 6 weeks coz of stitches" then it was "need condoms...not getting pregnant again" then it was "I want to have my check up with the gyno first" That appointment is today, then I'm going to be out of excuses :(
One thing we talked about, which I've been trying to tell him since Cadence was born, but he just didn't get it was that I really really really don't feel comfortable about my boobs being touched, they're off limits. He didn't listen and would try to cop a feel, last night I just cracked it. I told him its really upsetting because for me, they're not a sexual object any more, it's too confusing, they either need to be used to feed Cady or for sex but I can't have them doing both... He just looked at me really blankly and said "why?" I said, well, could you imagine how much it would mess with your head psychologically and physically if you had to use your penis to feed your child 8 times a day and then at the drop of a hat flick a switch and use it as a sexual utensil for your partner?
He got really grossed out by that comment and said "oh, yuck, that's just wrong" and I said "EXACTLY!!!!! That is how I feel!!!!" Then he took a step back, and goes "OOOOOOH I get it now..." DUH.... He hasn't tried to feel them since
karice, i was feeling tht way about my boobs before the birth, i think it affected my sex drive in a big way. so i can understand what you mean. and you had a huge birth trauma! geesh, maybe ask if he'd pushed a lemon out of the tip of his penis, then had it all stitched up, how sexual would he be feeling? it can take 6 months or even more to feel up to it, hun, dont do it before you're ready, only you will know when its right:hugs:
ts, what absolute spunks! ohh, freebies, hope you get something nice!
tinytotsmum
05-05-2009, 08:23
karice as for the sex thing i am totally with you on that but it good cos i can tell my partner and he doesnt really seem to mind and i think my problem is, is that with everything going on i am tired stressed trying to sort out my headspace and at the moment are dreading the thought of falling pregnant again as this firt time has just been drama after drama and i know when i do eventually fall pregnant again i know everything i will have to go through with all the tests for preclampsia the not driving cos of high blood pressure it just seems way to soon and em needs me heaps at the moment and i am finding it hard to cope with one baby never loan 2.
well on the em subject we off to see our ped today yay she had gotten bad again so havent been going anywhere was ment to go meet my mum frieds yesterday but both em and i pretty much didnt sleep and she decided to scream the house down so yeah i pretty tired but today is the day yay:yelclap::smiliedance:
i am about to wake felix to take him to a seminar to learn how to sleep.
aah the irony.
well, after he spent all of yesterday spewing all over me, squirming and screaming i have folded and started the losec that has been sitting in the fridge for two weeks this morning.
we will see how it goes.
Karice - that's about the best analogy I have ever heard to get him to back off from your boobs. Mind if I borrow it? I've told mine he can look, and he touches gently now and again but so far he hasn't tried anything else because he's afraid of hurting me (bub's clutching fingers have actually bruised my boobs in places so it's obvious to him just how delicate and sensitive they are - and how easily I still bruise, an unfortunate hold over from pg). But in the throes of DTD I don't trust that he won't get carried away and go for the grope. I was going to DTD this weekend just been (finally got a bit in the mood after a couple of.. er.. 'frustrated' dreams lol), but then my pelvic floor and stitches started hurting a few days ago for no apparent reason, so that put me right off. /sigh. Guess it was my body's way of telling me I wasn't physically ready.
Good luck kar - I hope the seminar makes a positive difference for you.
tj - good luck to you also at the paed with em. Sounds like you need a break, hon.
Abi is not doing too bad. She's starting to sleep a bit longer at night, and I'm trying to get her into her cot at night to sleep but it's slow going. Doesn't help that it's starting to get really cold in her room at night and we haven't got a heater for it yet - there's one on the way, a little ceramic one which is supposed to be low energy. Until then I'm not going to push it. I sleep perfectly well if she's lying on me so that's still how she sleeps at night. During the day she happily sleeps in her rocker and occasionally in the cot. I am starting to think it is definitely a temperature thing. She wakes up about 9-10 minutes after I put her down, which would probably be long enough for her to get cold, I think. Otherwise she sleeps fine. We still have 2-3 hours of crying, grizzling and screaming right before she flakes out at night, but I'm hoping that eases off soon. I have no idea why she does it at the same time every night. She seems to be in pain (like reflux or wind) half the time, but it seems strange to hit her at the same time every day if that's the case. Wierd.
JLeesmum
05-05-2009, 09:59
karice- LMOA what a great way of explaining the boob situation....i love it
i brought myself to DTD after 5 weeks... i was so scared, (i had stitches that were still in) but it was fine, it didnt hurt at all! i think the trick is to just relax, it hurts when u get tense iykwim!
and as strange as it sounds... i have been more interested in it than i ever was, since he was born.. i dont know why.. im not complaining.. either is DH ,its just finding the time ...lol
:ecomcity::ecomcity:
sorry i'll shut up now...but i need to talk to someone..ive been stuck in the house for too long..:geek::hair:
JLeesmum
05-05-2009, 10:09
Tales- we must have been posting at the same time... Jyden used to scream the house down every night at 4-6, it was also like a painful cry..he doesnt do it anymore but they say that between 6-8weeks babys intestines r changing so they get more wind and tummy upsets, but its supposed to settle down around 8 weeks...jy doesnt do it anymore...also is it around dinner time? they seem to sense when were busy or stressed...
and also, i do think the cold plays a big factor when there sleeping...ive started putting a heater in the room, and put a hot watter bottle in his bassinette before he goes to bed so its warm and hes sleeping even better! he made it 7 hours last night
:laughing: I don't mind at all if you want to borrow that analogy, go for it!!! You should of seen the look of horror on DP's face as he was processing what I had said, priceless.
oooooooh also, remember last week how I was getting the sh!ts with DP coz I was buggered from doing everything myself but if I asked for help then he'd either ignore me or say I'm nagging or tell me to do it myself? Well, I seem to have found a solution to that problem. It started out that it was more to organise myself, I wrote out a big list of things on sunday of everything that I need to get done this week. Every single housework chore is on that list, even things like doing the dishes every day, then a list of appointments, and then items that I would like to do for myself (there's only 2 things on that list....go out for coffee on friday and finish knitting Cady's pants...) but I filled up the entire A4 page and stuck it on the fridge. I've been ticking things off as I go and I noticed that DP must of looked at the list, and he's actually just gone and done some stuff on the list and ticked it off for me!!! :eek: At least he knows now that I don't just sit around on my ar$e all day, I actually do have alot of stuff on my plate to fit in around Cady's needs.
Might be worth a try girlies, and hey you never know, they might look at the list and think, hmmm, I could do that for her... :thumbsup:
JLeesmum
05-05-2009, 12:07
ive thought about doing that but not putting it on the fridge... great idea! im off to go write one...they might realise how much we do.....:yelclap:
Kaz you are full of good ideas! And kudos to DP for doing some tasks on the list off his own bat. That is a good way to show how much has to get done in the week.
MamaAfrica
05-05-2009, 17:36
Hi ladies...
Damn.. shudn't hav revealed my secret identity! I dont mind giving advice but it mite be a bit dodgy seeing as i haven't worked for a while and i've got baby brain!
Tommo- I wudn't mix the zantac with anything. Its better to use the ts's suggestions about the dummy, etc or else bf straight away to distract him and get the taste out of his mouth. The losec and zantac essentially do the same thing = stop acid secretion in the stomach. They just act on different parts of the acid producing cells. It starts to hav its effect within a couple hours but giv it up to a couple weeks to maximise its effect. Sorry.. no idea which 1 tastes better!
Kar- from my experience with babies on Losec there doesn't seem to be too many side effects. But I know with adults they can get a little nausea, headaches & diarrhoea but side effects r pretty uncommon.
How r ur babies going on them??
As i said... not sure how good my info is cos i don't hav my usual pharmacy resources on hand! So please dont sue me :o
TS - ur kids r gorgeous :) I was going to ask u where u got the tux shirt from cos i just remembered that i hav a wedding to go to in June but i got the info from the article... Did u buy it recently??
My little man is doing well.. he has the same sorta thing as some of the other bubs... rly unsettled for a couple hours at nite. He hasn't started yet tonite so :fingerscrossed: he's ok. Been trying the Brauer colic relief... think it helps a bit. Think i'll be bringing the heater out as well... see if that helps to keep him settled at nite.
Hope every1 has a good nite!
trifecta
05-05-2009, 19:58
Hum Jacob has been out to it since 5:30?! Very unlike him for this time of night, bedtime is usually 7pm and then it takes 30 mins to settle him. He hasn't even had a bath today and looks like its getting too late for that. Very strange..... it was SO weird cooking and eating dinner without trying to organise him as well.
We got his passport photo taken today, it's so cute! The lady said he was the easiest baby she's ever taken a passport pic for as you cant have any hand showing, eyes have to be open and mouth closed. Easier said then done but he got it in one : ) Yay lil man. - He is used to having his photo taken though :yelclap:
Hope all the sick bubba's are getting better and everyone is going o.k.
Great info MamaAfrica.
I feel like I'm going to be physically sick. The internal sales person that DH hired 2 weeks ago quit today. Well, she sent an email 10 mins ago. I have to tell DH - I won't be able to sleep if I don't(he's not home yet) but he's going to take it so badly 'cause he had such high hopes for her and she was perfect for the position. I don't know where it went wrong? I'm feeling more and more like Indie will end up in daycare and I will end up in the office which is the absolute last thing that I want.
Right now I'm feeling so down and out. I hate being a business owner sometimes(ie right now!) and am feeling like we should just give up. We've fired 3 staff members this year for not performing(they literally did nothing all day!) and now 1 quitting(who did more in 1 1/2 weeks than any of the others did in months of working for us). I wouldn't be surprised if DH feels the same, but we've battled so much to get to where we are today with the business that giving up now feels like such a waste of 3 years of such hard work, many many sacrifices and so many hopes/dreams for the future that both dh and I had. I really don't know where to turn to next. At least we have a good storeman now:rolleyes:.
Ohh yay, DH is home:(
mamafrica, thankyou so much for taking the time to tell me that stuff, i really do appreciate it:goodvibes: i started the zantac yesterday (did the dummy thing, worked pretty well), and he does seem to be improving, his back isnt arching, and he isnt grizzling *most* of the time.
i didnt know if i was imagining it (the improvement) or not, but now i do think that the effects of the zantac can be seen already. his reflux isnt extreme, so fingers crossed this zantac be enough will do the trick:fingerscrossed:
ive got the bauers trial pack, with the colic, tummy and teething releif, havnt really used them yet, but ive heard very good things!
i hope you got away with not having an unsettled bubby tonight!
hubnbump, ohhha, passport photo, where are you all off to?
kar, how did sleep school go?
tales, one of the other girls commented on unsettled-ness at the same time each night, thought it might have something to do with trapped wind building up during the day? i hope she starts doing some nice long stretches for you:)
smashlee, thats ok, i get the same, just wanna have a chat to someone, but mainly have a chat to someone who knows what im going thru;) so feel free to talk all you want, i check BH quite a few times a day:) and will happily chat back.
oh jess, im sorry, i know you thought this one was going to be good! did she say anything at all about why she was leaving?
you put your heart and soul into your business, it is hard when things arnt going right (and make you feel physically ill, been there).
:hugs::hugs::hugs:
Dont give up, i know its hard hun, you have put sooo much in... you know where i am if you need to chat:kiss:
oh jess, im sorry, i know you thought this one was going to be good! did she say anything at all about why she was leaving?
you put your heart and soul into your business, it is hard when things arnt going right (and make you feel physically ill, been there).
:hugs::hugs::hugs:
Dont give up, i know its hard hun, you have put sooo much in... you know where i am if you need to chat:kiss:
Thanks tash dh and I have just been talking through our options... Still feel like crying though. She's given no reason so we've asked for feedback - negative or positive
Just Add Water
05-05-2009, 21:29
Oh Jess, that sucks! How horrible. I don't understand people when it come to small business, we have had people start with us and then leave for no apparent reason. I hope she gives you some feedback (and I really hope it's not that she applied for another job but took yours in the meantime... I hate people that do that!!).
We've talked about getting rid of our business as well but we've done so much to get where we are and we just keep on pushing on.
*big hugs*
Just Add Water
05-05-2009, 22:13
It's surprising how you don't realise you want something until you realise you don't have it.
DH & I dtd about 10 days ago. AF hadn't returned and we didn't use anything. I became convinced that I was pregnant again and strangely really excited about it. AF arrived today and I am really bummed. I said to DH that I was bummed about it as it was probably my last chance to have another baby as I know his feelings. He did say "well I think 4 between us is enough."
I'm really surprised at how disappointed I am.
(Oh and NewMe - it wasn't the milk! Aimee was right LOL)
I'm so slow this morning Nomadic - at first I was think "what is this woman on about, then realised, ahhh yes, damn, wish it was the milk then". :hugs: Sorry to hear your feeling bummed. I too had that fleeting "omg could i be pregnant" feeling yesterday(there have been many signs/symptoms, all which can be attributed to other things - with exception to hot flushes:confused:), but I've convinced myself I'm not because I'm just not that lucky:p. DH doesn't want another, so if it were to happen by accident, that'd be the only way it's happening.
Neither DH or I thought about the angle of her quitting for another job, but DH's best friend pointed that out to him last night. She was away "sick" on friday, so it all falls into place for being a high possibility of that. We just don't understand. DH even spoke to her at about 4:30 yesterday afternoon and she seemed happy and was talking about a supplier online meeting that was happening on wednesday - so looking to the future, then bam by 9pm she's quit and said she's returned the keys in an express post bag. Meh, I give up trying to understand some people.
On the up side, Indie slept through from 8:30 - 5. And I'm so glad she did, I didn't end up getting to sleep until about 11:30(and I normally crash out at 8:30pm not to be woken except by a crying baby). So yay for me! I had a late night and still got 5 1/2 hrs of solid sleep. I'm positive it won't last though, because she had her needles yesterday, so I'm sure that's all it was.
Well I've got a super busy morning this morning, which hits full speed sometime in the next 10-15mins when DD1 wakes and try to intercept her before the first tantrum of the day begins. Ohh Yay me!
Thanks smash and tommo - I was starting to suspect if maybe she was getting a build up of wind pain - and your comments of the changes at the 6-8 week mark make sense too. I'm going to the pharmacy today to get some wind drops of some sort and talk to the pharmacist about administering them. Can't hurt to try. Was also going to get some baby paracetamol while I was there (as I never thought to buy any before now). My mother (and SIL, whose bub has just turned 1) swear that giving bub a dose half an hour before her vaccinations (which are due in a couple of weeks), and then every 4 hours for the following 24 hours will help stave off any debilitatingly high fever (and give me time to get help for her if needed after the fact). Has anyone else done this? I hate deliberately infecting my baby with diseases, but I know people close to me whose lives have been saved by immunisations, so I will do it anyway. I just want to minimise any possible side effects and make sure she's ok.
Kaz - Good on you for making a list (and DP for doing a few chores off his own bat - says more than any amount of arguing possibly could, hey). Plus it's so nice when they just DO things without being asked!! Mine likes to get super-cranky at me for leaving the washing basket (full of bub's washed and folded clothes and nappies) on top of the chest freezer every day (apparently it doesn't live there, but it's a convenient folding spot), when it never occurred to him that instead of chewing me out, he could go and put them away for me. Apart from that, though, mine is pretty good. He acknowledges that I'm on the go 24 hours a day - especially since I haven't been to bed in about 2 weeks (except for a few hours here and there, and after he goes to work - I won't sleep bub next to him because he rolls into the middle of the bed) and that I get no down time. He gets frustrated that he can't help and I tell him well, the only thing I can do that you can't is feed her and while that does take up a large portion of the day, there is plenty of other stuff you could do, like bath her, settle her to bed (or try to), put the nappies on to wash, hang them out, fold them up (put them away *shock*), do OUR washing, stack/unstack the dishwasher, feed the animals, clean the cat litter... the list goes on. He quieted up after that. I don't actually expect him to do a lot of this stuff - I manage to get most of it done during the day and will be expecting the same of him when I go back to work, but why he says he can't do anything to help just baffles me, because if he really wants to help there's plenty he can do. Anyway, I digress.
:hugs: Newme.. sounds like she went and got herself another job (and had it in the pipeline when she started with you). Still sucks for you guys. I hope things sort themselves out for you, honestly.
Abi's griping started early last night, about 9pm, so she was asleep by midnight and has just finished her early morning feed and gone back to sleep. It's frelling cold out here so I'm going to put the heater on and crawl into bed - cheeky dog snuck her way in last night so hopefully she left some room for me. She does make our bed nice and toasty, but she's such a big heffalump that she kills your limbs dead by sleeping on them..
eeyorethedonkey21
06-05-2009, 06:09
nomadic...i'm glad i'm not the only one suffering with af...mine came back yesterday too. :(
hi to everyone else. sorry i dont post much anymore. being back at work i dont really have time as i'm usually in bed by 7pm. i hope u're all doing ok. :yes:
Eeyore I didn't know you were back at work. Such a shame to have to go back so soon. I thought I was crazy enough handling our books from home(with the odd bit of running around). I really take my hat off to you. I went back to FT work when DD1 was 6mths and that was hard enough, let alone any younger. Any time you want to chat or vent about the challenges of handling work and a bub, I'm all ears open(or eyes open as the case would be on here:p).
Thanks Tales - unfortunately that's what we're thinking too. Just wish people could be honest. If she had of said to us 2 weeks ago that she was waiting to hear back on another position we may have held the job open for her for a few weeks, but we'd gotten her all settled in, meeting customers, spent a lot of time and effort into training her. Just such a waste of resources on a small business that doesn't have the time to waste. DH is over-stretched as it is, working til very late almost every night and still not getting everything done. I'm doing the best to help him as much as I can, but having both kids 2 days a week as well as having DD2 every day, plus the housework and making sure I make some time for myself in there to catch up with friends to save me from going insane, really stretches your resources. Anyway, Just rambling still. When DD2 wakes up we're off to continue our busy day. Luckily DH took DD1 into the office with him for a little while this morning to give me some time to catch up on a few things around here while DD2 is snoozing.
Morning! - Warning, I'm in a crazy hypo mood this morning, no idea why...
Eeyore :eek: OMG I didn't realise you were back to work already! How do you manage?!!! Quick! Someone fetch this superwoman a beer!
tales - alas...man brain...i do sympathise. I swear men are like horses with blinkers. They can only see a few feet in front of them, nothing else in the world exists beyong that feild of vision and still you need a strong arm and a whip to get them going in the right direction, away from computers, tv, beer and buddies. I have the urge to get a tube of glitter and spinkle it around the house, when DP comes home and ask what it is tell him its fairy dust left behind by the housework fairies :devil6:
Jess - :hugs: What a bugger!!!!! That sucks so much. I swear some people just don't give a rats ar$e about anything other than themselves. I agree with the girls though, it sounds like she's gotten another job. I'm here if you want to talk or anything.
Nomadic - is there any chance that DH might come around in the future? It sounds a little bit mean that just coz he's had 3 kids previously you can't have another one
hnb - passport photo hey? :detective: do tell...do tell...
big :wave: to everyone else that i've missed out on.
Has anyone heard from Missyk, pebbles, GO, suby or LIH, lochie&coopers mum or Rach in a while? COME BACK GIRLS! WE MISS YOU!!!!! (Not to mention the countless others that my poor frazzled brain can't seem to conjure up that have slowly drifted away)
AFM - I'm a little confuddled On one hand, I've been told that babies shouldn't be awake for more than 1 and half hours at a time, and they should sleep for at least 1 and half hours. But then, I've also been told that babies need to clock up 16 hours sleep in 24 hour period. Well, Cady is a pretty good night sleeper 60% of the time. She'll go down after bath time around 7ish, wake at midnight for feed and change, then 4ish, same deal and then again at 8, so that mean over night she's getting around 12 hours sleep, leaving 4 hours for the rest of the day. She hardly ever sleeps during the day, maybe one more morning sleep and maybe one in the arvo. Which means she's awake for HOURS on end, and can get pretty darned cranky by the time bath time rolls around. Is this healthy for her? Should I be getting her up during the evening or just let her go and battle through the grizzly arvo?
Also I find that she'll have one day where she'll be awake most of the day, will not sleep and then she does that awesome 12 hour night sleep with feeds in between, then in a few days she'll be really sleepy all day and just want to sleep, then by the time the arvo comes she's super alert and is a real pain in the butt to put to bed, she usually won't settle until midnight. I'd say that it's a 3 day cycle. Is anyone else finding this?
Well, I got the all clear from the gyno yesterday :crying: Weird I know but I kind of wanted her to say that something was wrong so that I have another reason to not DTD for a few more weeks.
My MIL fell preggo with DP's bro when DP was 8 weeks old... there's no way I could imagine being preggo right now, this very second. *shivers down my spine* Although, if I did ever fall pregnant again I think I would keep it to ourselves for as long as possible.
I'm really really really loving not being pregnant anymore. I can sleep on my tummy, touch my toes (see my toes) shave my legs, walk up and down stairs, sit behind the wheel of a car comfortably, walk at a normal pace, fit into clothes with a button and zipper again, drink coffee, eat sour cream, eat kebabs, have a little occasional drink, get up out of bed and chairs in one go, pee in one go and forget about it for the rest of the morning, not have someone practice for cirque do solet in my belly, no heartburn, no leaking or oozing from my ladie parts (AF excluded) and the list goes on and on and on.
JLeesmum
06-05-2009, 08:03
Jy had his 8 week needles on mon, he screamed, then i was crying..:crying: i felt like such a wuss.....but he hasnt had any reaction so thats great, i havnt even givin him any panadol!!:yelclap:.........and then...yesterday, my BIL whom i DO NOT like (he drinks far too much) happened to catch a lift with us and had a 5 weeks old kelpie with him...(i didnt like the idea of it in the car in the first place because it isnt vaxxed..i dont know if im over reacting or not) we stopped cos the car was leaking water, i lifted the bonnet to have a look and he put the dog on the back seat and told it to sit (thhis is a 5 weeks old pup) it took me a few seconds to realise what he did. i looked over and the dog was ontop of jyden licking him, so i dropped the bonnet and ran too him, grabbed the dog and threw it at BIL told him hes a f**k head and that was a stupid thing too do. ( infront of everyone, in town) then i find out that the dog has worms...:banghead::hissy::geek: im stressing out, i changed his clothes and washed him straight away....im scared hes gonna get them now :hissy:
and tommo..i think we spoke ages ago when we were preggers on here...i didnt have the net for a while thats why i went quiet...
EVIL EVIL EBAY!!!!! :devil6:I just won an auction on 2 bouncers and a play gym for $31, not a bad effort I'd say. Need to get DP to pick it up from Everton Park though.
So far, one of my dresses is up to $17 + postage woopwoop! (I made it for around $5)
2 baby clothes items that I made are only going for $1 + poastage at the moment, but, that's all it cost to make them so can't complain.
ManekiNeko
06-05-2009, 11:20
You girls are a chatty bunch I haven't read and caught up on it all yet. Just wanted to pop in and say hi though and hope all your bubs are well.:wave:
Karice wouldn't mind chekcing out your lil dress' I'm so jealous I want to learn to sew and I would love to be able to knit. I am a bit of a shoppahollic so i think the internet altogether is evil:devil:
Happymumma
06-05-2009, 11:54
Hi ladies
long time no see , wow took me a while but i skimmed most of the pages and not sure if any of you guys remember me or not it has been sooo long since i even posted i cant remember if i even came on after my bubba was born? As you all well know its hard to find time now lol.
Well just to update i had bubba Jackson on 27th Feb by c-section same day as Tee from memory? he was 8lb 2oz 51cm long and just perfect!!! He was in ICU for 3 days thou rapid breathing but all good!!
So any way he is 10 weeks on friday already wow hey it seems like only yesterday we were all on her wingin bout our big uncomfy bellys :laughing:
It has taken me so long to get motivated and get back online to chat with all again to winge about a whole new set of baby issues lol :laughing:
Since Jackson was born we have moved house so i have been quiet busy but all settled now and look forward to chatting yay
I remember a few names but sorry if i double check at some points sorry lol
any way take care
Crystal
LivingINhope
06-05-2009, 13:09
WOW! I am finding it so hard to keep up with this thread these days. I appologise for lack of personals I am going to make a brief selfish post.
Lucius has been sick and was in hospital last night he has RSV and suspected whooping cough :o man it really is hard having a little one so sick. Fortunately I am keeping him hydrated (not nearly as much as I'd like but reasonable) and comfortable. He has been started on the antibiotic for whooping cough and we'll get results tomorrow hopefully. It means the whole family will have to have the antibiotics.
I have decoded I will try to have our next bubba in spring like I did DS1 he was not sick for the first time until he was about 10 months. SO much easier to deal with it when they are older and the options available are better.
Anyway that is my sleepless winge, hope your all well. Make sure your babies are vaccinated and get the free booster yourself and all the adult family members.
Happymumma
06-05-2009, 13:26
Hey there
Living in hope Whooping cough is sooo worrying i cant imagine how ya feeling we got the free shots as soon as Jackson was born!!
Hope baby Lucius doesnt have it poor little man!
I'm so far behind with this thread!
:hugs: to all the sick babies, hope they are all better soon.
We're having a really unsettled week after a good one last week. William is struggling to sleep in his cot during the day and is wanting to be held all the time, so I've got him in the sling to give my arms a break. By late afternoon I tend to take him back to bed with me so I can get a nap. We did however get our first smile from him last night so that makes it all worthwhile. :D
Happymumma
06-05-2009, 14:06
Hi Pippa
Not sure if i met you from the pregnancy thread before but hi!!
Congrats on William :)
Jackson does the same thing in the day??
How does William sleep in the night?
Jackson pretty much catnaps all day and wants to be held to sleep but of a night he sleeps from 7pm til 6am with just a dream feed so not sure what the go is there not that im complaining its just so hard to get stuff done in the day when he catnaps so much!!
oh, amanda,big hugs to you and yours, how trying. it brings home that need to vax, i have been looking into it, to make sure it is the right thing to do, and i just cant bring myself to not have him have them, the risks of getting the diseases are just too high, i would never forgive myself. Its so hard that the vax's cant get done earlier, i cant imagine how hard things are for you at the moment.:hugs:How are YOU feeling? you have had such a hard time,with everything, oh hun, my thoughts are with you.
hi EFB! id been wondering how you were going! so how did the birth pan out in the end? you're so right, we went from whinging about pregnancy, to babies, hehe, look foward to hearing your woes too!:D
smashlee, we did keepp asking about you my dear, you were here, then no one heard from you, we did get a bit worried,but it was all ok, just a lack of net access!:D
ts, you are so true, internet shopping:cloud9:, LURVE it!!!
tales, tee gave great advice a while back, hands waving, needs burping, and infacol will helps, legs being bought up, needs farting, and infants freind will help with that!
newme, hope your days is going ok...:hugs:
speaking of shopping, i ended up getting that hola pram, with the bassinet that faces you, that converts to a normal pram, for $50, its pretty much brand new!! has all the extras and all. i do love my el cheapo pram tho, its so snuggly in there for him, ho hum, im sure il be going between the 2 till i make a proper decision of which one i like 'best'
went and had my eyebrows tinted,waxed and eyelashes tinted today, yay, i have a face back, LOL, my eyebrows are so fair, they fade away without the tint, haha.
going to have my hair done tomoz, fingers crossed J is well behaved (ha!)
i stubbed my toe yesterday, no hang on, belted it to kingdom cum, it is purple, and puffed up, and oh, so, so sore! im limping!! :doh:
ok, my bologanaise is ready, need to get this lasagne together before J gets up!
supposed to be going to a first aid course tonight for the mothers group, ah, night time is not a great time for us to go out...
Happymumma
06-05-2009, 14:36
Hey Tommo
Ochh on the toe :(
I know what you mean bout takin bubs out at night its a bad time hey you think they would have done it earlier in the day i was lucky that i have already got my senior first aid course from work!
Yeah i ended up with a c-section which was what we knew any way Jackson was meant to be a Macrosomic bub according to the 34 week growth scan but was only 8 lb 2 so not that big at all having said that he is now over 13ld lol he is a little piggy hehehe
The c-section was fine i had no probs and was up walking at 6:30 that night had him at 10:16 but i prob shouldnt have i made them take me to him because he was in ICU because he had rapid breathin but no complications other than that i didnt like one of my midwifes she was really mean to me and they wanted to discharge me before Jackson was out of ICU so i flipped it at her they just wanted the beds and didnt care about me wanting to stay with my baby!! (she even said we need the beds) :no:
Couldnt wait to get him home though since then he has been a little angel he is such a good baby!!!
So i know you said J is that short for something we havent shortened Jackson yet but i have my little names for him like Monkey Bum and stuff lol
I thought i would pop on and chat to you ladies cause im starting to feel a little lost and bored at home i was actually in tears the other day even thou Jackson is sooo good i still feel like i need a break it sounds bad i know but im normally a really social person and am struggling at home by myself all the time it doesnt help that hubby works seven days 12 hour shifts at the moment we never see each other so i thought i would do the next best thing socially and chat with you ladies!!:)
Blah! MY daughter is so confusing! Just when I think I've got her sussed out she does something to prove otherwise!
I went to child health this morning for her weight in etc... (She's 5.3kg btw) and I told the nurses about her bad day sleeping, awesome night sleeping and the swaddling issues (she's been getting the swaddle loose and pulling it across her face, scaring the hell out of me). They said just try wrapping her, let her have her arms out. i was convinced that it wouldn't work coz I thought that she needed the security of having her arms held tight:rolleyes: I gave it a go and the little bugger is out like a light... She rubbed her eyes for a few mins, I had to stay near her to assist with dummy retention lol she kept accidentally flicking it out of her mouth, and then she was asleep with her arms way up above her head. I just don't get it...
trifecta
06-05-2009, 15:00
Hi EFB, good to see you back here to chat. Where do you live? I know a few girls catch up every now and then. My DH works 7 days 12hrs too, so I know exactly what you mean - sometimes just a conversation even if it's on the net can make your day.
Jackson sounds a great baby, do you have a sling or something to carry him around in during the day to get stuff done? My little Jacob is a bit like that, but he's getting to the stage of sleeping just about anywhere (his bed only sometimes during the day) so I don't mind too much. He's always been a great sleeper at night. For some reason he sleeps just about the whole time if we go out, so I make sure we do something every day even just a trip to the supermarket. We go for a walk too and I stick him in the bjorn - a great way to get him to sleep.
Karice - I wrap Jacob and always leave one arm out : ) It's enough to keep him happy. Quite often I'll wake him up and the wrap is just around his waist and nothing else, I'm like - how did that happen? Crazy babies and their sleep.
Ohh Target has all new winter stuff out, there's some quite cool stuff out. I stocked up on a few things for when we go to N.Z in July as its going to be freezing. There was the coolest lil black biker jacket, TS I think you would have liked it! Unfortunately they didn't have the size I wanted so couldn't get it.
Happymumma
06-05-2009, 15:03
Hey Karice
my little monkey was doing the same thing getting out of his wrap little houdini lol
until my friend who is a midwife suggested we stop using the stretchy wraps and get larger ones (they sell them at woolies) and from then on he didnt get out of them and slept better cause he kept waking himself up with his arms out lol they constantly change on ya cheeky little buggers hey just out of curiosity what did they say bout the day sleeps being lousy and awesome night sleeps cause Jackson does that too?
Happymumma
06-05-2009, 15:11
Hey hubnbump
sorry must have posted at same time lol
yeah i live in NSW near wollongong???
Your right sometimes even a chat online helps :)
I have a Bjorn too so i often put him in that he sleeps any where really just doesnt stay asleep long lol
i went to target as well cause Jackson is growing out of his 000 so i have to get more anmd they have the cutest things hey
Happymumma
06-05-2009, 15:15
oh hubnbump just relised Jacob was born on my birthday yay picses are the best !!!
hmm, J has been down since 1.15, he never usually sleeps this long.. oh well, enjoy it eh!
efb, j is for Josh, i just get slack on here and just write J:o
the course is run by the MCHN peoples mothers group, dh is fully cert'd, but not me, but it is just such a crap time! and the hubbys are supposed to be gonig, i thought it would be a nice social thing more than anything. still dont know if we'll go, it'll put my whole night out!haha
yes, dh is a workoholic too, he doesn't *mean* to, but we have our own business, and it always seems to come first.
dont feel bad for wanting a break! we're on 24/7, thats a big job!!!
trifecta
06-05-2009, 16:42
Very strange, for the second night in a row Jacob has gone to sleep at 5:30. Last night he didn't wake again until 11:30 I couldn't believe it, wonder if he will do the same tonight. I think cause it's getting dark earlier maybe he's getting his signals to sleep a bit earlier. Does anyone reckon really windy days makes a difference to bubs? It's been super windy the last two days, I know it always tires me out. Spose I really should be making the most of the quite time and start dinner ready for when DH gets home...
EFB - I think there is a few NSW girls here, but I have no idea where Woolongong is in relation to anywhere else. Your lil man is in 00 already? woo hoo are you BF or FF? The jacket I brought J is 00 and I'm considering taking it back as it comes down to his knees at the moment, but we aren't going to N.Z until July so not sure if he will fit it by then?? Ha decisions decisions. He is growing like a weed, but is only just going into 000 now.
Tommo - it's hard to get the motivation to head out at night hey, unless it's dinner somewhere for the 3 of you it just seams so much hassle! Have fun either way, enjoy your quite time now.
Blah! MY daughter is so confusing! Just when I think I've got her sussed out she does something to prove otherwise!
I went to child health this morning for her weight in etc... (She's 5.3kg btw) and I told the nurses about her bad day sleeping, awesome night sleeping and the swaddling issues (she's been getting the swaddle loose and pulling it across her face, scaring the hell out of me). They said just try wrapping her, let her have her arms out. i was convinced that it wouldn't work coz I thought that she needed the security of having her arms held tight:rolleyes: I gave it a go and the little bugger is out like a light... She rubbed her eyes for a few mins, I had to stay near her to assist with dummy retention lol she kept accidentally flicking it out of her mouth, and then she was asleep with her arms way up above her head. I just don't get it...
Millie is just like that at the moment, especially the flicking the dummy out thing! Maybe I should just let her have her arms free - hmmm! Cady and Millie seem to be so alike, can't wait to see her again on Friday!
****NEWSFLAH****
ok, so i bought the 'sounds for silence' cd and book, i put the cd on at J's afternoon nap, he slept for 4 hours (NEVER sleeps that long during the day) (in his cot too.)
Just now, He was crying cause of his reflux, put the first track on, and he quietened within seconds... and was asleep within 60 seconds...:cool: wowza...
if anyone of you lovely ladies that have helped me so much through all of this would like a copy, please PM me;)
(i havnt tried to copy it yet, but im sure i can,lol)
the first several tracks are like the sounds in the womb and white noise, the rest are mozart.
Hi ladies, nothing much to report here. Felix has cracked 5kgs - 5.165 today at 10wks.
He is most 000 with 00 in wondersuits which are too big but he doesn't like being constricted.
He slept most of the day away today - 2.5hrs in our bed this morning, 1hr in my arms at mothers group and another 2 x 45 min naps, one while we were out in the bjorn and another late afternoon. Then BF to sleep which he never does and went down into his cot at 7 without waking.
I wonder if it is possible that the losec is starting to have an effect already? Or just coincidence.
Kaz, I am thinking about trying the sleeping bag out soon. F always gets his arms out, but I think he still needs them contained to settle, but maybe not.
Tash - how weird re having something like that on at night, makes no sense at all. I NEED to get my eyebrows (and the rest of me) done asap. I am looking completely horrendous. Hmm, haven't had them done since the week before F was born. Think I better make an appointment for the w.end.
Jess, so sorry to hear you have lost your staff member. that really sucks.
Night ladies, time for me to go to bed.
kar, ah yeah, im looking hideous:o, ah, i wont even talk about my feet:o:o:o, they need serious attention, but at the moment, i barely have time to put my hair up let alone give myself a pedi...
mamafrica was saying that the losec/zantac do start working quite quickly, the maximum effect was after 2 weeks though. but i think both J & F don't have a 'serious' bout of reflux, so i think the medication is having a good result so quickly.:yes: with any luck anywho!
ManekiNeko
06-05-2009, 20:34
HnB don't tell me that I have spent a fortune today alread just on e shopping.:laughing: I really have a problem with those pettiskirts I can't believe I ordered 4 one is a gift htough but still I am a total clothesaholic. I guess I kind of indulge in my childrens clothes when I feel crap about myself and can't find anything that doesn't make me look frumpy. I can't believe how tiny jacob is I can't imagine what Austin would look like next to him as he's wearing 00 now.
Welcome back efb! I was starting to think my baby was the only one in this thread into 00 gosh they grow so quick before we know it they'll be leaving home.
Jeca I'm excitied about friday too can't wait to see all the bubs again and how much they've grown.
Tommo I got that cd too isn't it amazing. It's funny though sometimes when it stops Austin starts to grizzle and rouse. I also got the vacuum cleaner one and I put that on for him when he's having his naps. Poor Austin is still grizzling I'm hoping the losec kicks in soon you guys are lucky ducks for it working so quick. I am also sick of being flooded with milk vom haha.
Kar I am hearing you on getting things done. My hair was hideous until I got it done yesterday. I had 11 weeks of regrowth and in desperate need of toner. I have just been living in tracksuit pants as well I am not feeling the best about myself lately. I have a wedding to go to on the weekend and im cringing at the thought of finding something to wear.
AFM am totally looking foward to the meet up on friday and then I've got that wedding at the coast on the weekend so I will be spending mothersday at the coast. I hope it's a nice day. I am not sure what I am going to do about the kidlets like get a baby sitter but I am not looking foward to the wedding. I have to go back to the hotel room to express and I might have to stay in the room with the kidlets come bedtime at 7pm so It's not going to be the most hassle free night for me. I also dont know how they will go sleeping in a strange place ahh well guess I'll find out.
Hope everyone else and their bubs is doing well:thumbsup:
JLeesmum
07-05-2009, 07:46
morning girls, i hope ur night was full of ZzZzZzZ"S...
i acctually got out the house yesterday and went shopping!
humnbump, we might have bought the same jacket? i bought jyden a black jacket aith matching pants..he looks like a true biker in it!
and as for the swaddling thing, jye used to end up woth the blankets ofer his head, so i put him in a gro-bag...he loves it!, i used to leave his arms in, and he would work out how to get them out!
also, i have a question
i went for my 6 weeks check up, and went on the pill, AF hasnt reaturned yet, but im have way thru the pill and have had abit of breakout bleeding, then yesterday i had a clot come out about the size of a 20c peice, but it was really dark (brown), ive had very SLIGHT aches in my belly, but uve never been on the pill b4 cos we were ttc for 3 yrs.... should i be worried? or is it just my body cleaning its:confused:self out still???
Happymumma
07-05-2009, 07:52
Hey ladies wow I cant believe how much quieter it is in here now adays I guess we are all super busy !!
Thanx for all the welcoming back nice to know people still remember me lol
Kar – My little Jackson has cracked the 6 kilos at last check and he is ten weeks tomorrow!!
Tracey- I know hey they grow so quickly hey my little boy is defiantly a beef cake lol 00 already its weird to think he was so little just 10 weeks ago
Hubnbump- I was breastfeeding for the first 2 weeks then had to FF cause my milk dried up to quickly so I guess that’s why he is so chunky lol
As for the whole hair and stuff I haven’t had my regrowth done for 15 weeks!!!!
Yikes and we wont even go with the shaving thing lol lets just say its not pretty I really should spruce myself up again for hubby lol having said that im going for a relaxing massage tomorrow (present from the girls for havin bubs J)
So that should be good!!!!
Any way should go clean or do something productive I guess catch up later
Have a good day ladies
Crystal
Ps Smashlee i wouldnt be too worried ive been on the pill for 7 years and i would say that thats just normal and your body giving a good clean out wait til your next cycle and if its still not normal period get it checked then i would say!
EVIL EVIL EBAY!!!!! :devil6:I just won an auction on 2 bouncers and a play gym for $31, not a bad effort I'd say. Need to get DP to pick it up from Everton Park though.
So far, one of my dresses is up to $17 + postage woopwoop! (I made it for around $5)
2 baby clothes items that I made are only going for $1 + poastage at the moment, but, that's all it cost to make them so can't complain.
if you haven't already organised it yet i can pick it up today and bring it with me in the morning?
is indie just really long? shes in 0's for suits - doesn't seem to matter about the brand as its all in her body:confused:
Happymumma
07-05-2009, 09:47
maybe she is just long dont stress thou how old is she?
the bigger they get the better!!!
means they are thriving:)
Morning
As far as the good night sleeps and bad day sleeps goes, the nurses pretty much just said try to persevere, some babies do try to fight sleep to stay awake and be "involved" lol :rolleyes: Just stick to a routine, same place to sleep every time, dark relaxing place. They reckon the more predictable you make sleep time, the more boring it is and therefore more likely that babies will go off to sleep. They seem to think that if babies are put to sleep in a variety of places then they develop the habit of having a whinge on the chance that they might get to do something more interesting than go to bed :laughing: cheeky monkey's. I have found that she is having a bit of a whinge when she's being out to bed and she's rubbing her eyes and having a massive figit just when she's about to doze off, it's like what I do when I'm driving a car and I'm tired and what to be awake, so i guess she's trying to keep herself awake. meh, too bad chickie, its bedtime!!!!
newme - awww thanks for the offer, that's lovely. The person sent me an email this morning saying that they'll only be home tomorrow and on monday, it looks like its only 20 mins from DP's work so I'll get him to swing by tomorrow night. Thanks anyways :thumbsup:
smashlee - yay for going shopping! I find it can make the world of difference to just get out and do something or see different things to the everyday house.
tracy - I found that Harts dress shop in chermide had some great bargins in it when I had to get a dress for MIL's wedding. They've got heaps of lovely dresses on sale and they're really helpful. I said I needed a BF-friendly dress for a wedding, and within 5 mins I walked out with a dress 60% off!!!
Kar - today we're trying to half swaddle, one arm out one arm in :laughing: I find having both arms out, although she may want it, is just too much for her at the moment. She flails them about and keeps herself awake. I just rest my hand on her out arm till she stops figiting and wait for her to doze off and then leave the room.
Jeca - :iagree:I'm really looking forward to tomorrow also. It's funny how badly they want their dummy when its gone but they just cant stop flicking it away. Although, I'm starting to notice the difference between, "oops I've lost my dummy" and "if I spit it out, mum will come back into the room". She's such a bugger, she's started playing this game at bedtime, and I know its a game! I watched her from the door of her room, she wriggles around, tries to find me, has a squawk, then spits it, then squawks again, I come back, MASSIVE smiles and a giggle... hmmm....:shame: I usually take the dummy away for 5 mins, then she really wants it back and has a whinge, she usually stops the "game" then. It's so hard to not smile and laugh back at her, but I don't want the game to continue all bloody night which I know it will if she sees me laugh with her.
RE the size thing, Cady's into both 000 and 00. She's got a long body and really short legs but a big belly, so the legs in 000 tend to be a perfect fit, but its snug everywhere else. I think it can depend on the brand also. I find Big W to have the biggest sizes and target to be tiny, best and less and pumpkin patch are both in the middle somewhere.
I have a question for the BFers out there: You know how the babies "root" (do that wild thing with their mouth wide open and shake their head from side to side), well, what could it mean if Cady's well attached, half way through a feed, but does that, then pulls herself off, reattaches and does it again and again and again? Am I running out of milk???? or is she wanting to swap boob for dummy?
Kaz, maybe she needs to do a burp or fart and it is just a bit uncomfortable for her? F does that sometimes and i usually find he needs to burp (of course, for him that actually means spew!). WHen he is having a wriggly distracted feed I work on really trying to get some burps out and it generally seems to help and then he settles in.
OK, this is weird. F had a 2 hr sleep this morning. He woke at 45 mins and I went and held him to rock back to sleep and he wouldn;t close his eyes fully so I put him down in his cot to go to the toilet and he immediately went back to sleep for another 40 mins.
Kept him up for 1.5hrs because he was happy and cheerful and playful having had such a sleep then I held him for 10 mins of protesting, put him down in his cot and he has taken himself off to sleep without any crying. This is a baby who can't sleep except when being held during the day.
Opinions - Losec which we started on Tuesday or coincidence?? He is definitely doing more farts (think this is what initially woke him in his first sleep) so must be getting a decent dose down as this seems to be the most common side effect.
We have had no pain related crying at all.
Kaz - I agree with Kar, definitely wind - Millie does the exact same thing but usually after putting her upright for a few moments she'll let out a great big burp and then suck away again happily. If she's not getting enough milk her nappies won't be wet, dehydration and she'll have weight gain issues - I doubt there's anything wrong with your milk! Millie does what you describe where there's too much milk as well LOL!
Tommo - I used that CD with refluxy DS1 and I agree, it is a god send and really works :yes:
I just have to boast - Millie slept from 8pm until 5am overnight!!! I am feeling so much more rested and relaxed! Must run though DS2 is being a monkey and won't rest grrrr.
I just have to boast - Millie slept from 8pm until 5am overnight!!! I am feeling so much more rested and relaxed! Must run though DS2 is being a monkey and won't rest grrrr.
:smiliedance:
Does anyone else have a noisy sleeper? DD2 snores so loudly that I'm tempted to put her back in her cot because it's starting to give me a headache(she's sleeping in her rocker next to me).:o
Kar - Hmmm, can't give a reason why, but enjoy it! DD2 hates being helped to go to sleep of a night time and first sleep of the day, but afternoon likes to be helped(cuddled, rocked or fed).
Kaz - Yep, sounds like wind. With the way your girl is growing, there is nothing wrong with your milk! BTW, you mentioned af has returned - if so this will upset your milk supply so you may notice she wants extra feeds during that time.
I've had such a full on week that my head is ready to start spinning. I'm looking forward to catching up with you brissy girls tomorrow, my only real 'down time' for the week, then I have to head straight from there to the office to see someone that Dh is having a meeting with. I am so looking forward to the weekend, though sadly though not mothers day because I know dh hasn't had the time to even think about mothers day, let alone organise anything for me, although I'm sure DD1 would have made me something lovely at kindy:bee:(she's not very good at secrets though so I'm sure she'll be raving to me all about it as soon as she walks through the door tomorrow afternoon.:laughing:
Anyway, back to sorting through stuff.:rolleyes:
Happymumma
07-05-2009, 15:16
Hey
Kaz i would say its wind to cause Jackson does that to with his bottle and he is on formula so maybe just burp a little more.
Ok so advice Jackson is as i said before a really fussy day sleeper! I have had so many conflicting things as to how to help him settle and im soooo confused do i let him cry it out do i rock him? im worried if i rock him he will get too used to it but im also worried he does not know how to self settle and i want him to be able to self settle cause as it is i wake up a few times at night to put his dummy in???
Im so confused any advice would be good cause most of the advice im getting is from people that were mums a little while ago not that thats bad but you ladies are in the same position as me like right now and im just wondering if anyone has any tricks of the trade so to speak i guess im just desperate lol cause i know he needs sleep cause he has been sooo cranky today!
Any way whinge whinge i know i shouldnt even complain cause he sleeps so well at night its just im worried him not sleeping throu the day will make his night times all screwed up?
efb, i find J uses the dummy to soothe while getting to sleep, we might have to go in 4 or 5 times (depend on the night) to pop it back in while is is going off to sleep, but once he is out to it, it hangs out his mouth and we take it away. also, we will rock, or whatever to get him to the 'sleepy' stage, then put him down. i find he has to go down while still awake, as if he wakes not in your arms (ie, diff place), he will get flustered and cry.
pm me your addy and il send that cd through, my gosh, i think it will really help!
oh yeah, it is heaps easier to keep up in here now, we're all MUCH busier!LOL
jeca, wow, what a great rest! its amazing how just that 1 nights sleep can make the whole world much brighter!
smashlee, i hope the AF probs have sorted themselves...sounds a bit scary.
karice, even the bottle fed babies 'root' for the teat, as all the others said, its wind, i find if i burp J for a bit longer, then try him, he is more than keen to get on with it,lol.
Kar, haha, J is a fart machine, :laughing:, he is always farting! i hope its the losec kicking in. Ive seen an improvement in J for sure.
J had a pretty good night, went to sleep in his rocker at 9pm, did a dream feed at 10.30, slept till 4, back down by 4.30, then up at 8am.
wish i had of been able to sleep for that time...
is anyone else having trouble getting to sleep??? i think its because i will be up so soon afterwards (or i dont know how long i will get to sleep for), that if i dont get to sleep quick, i get frustrated cause im losing valuable sleep time, and then i get so wound up that i end up thinking, oh well, better just stay up now...i went to sleep at 11 last night, woke at 1, then couldnt get back to sleep till 5am:( damn it...
so went to the hairdresser, yay, no more regrowth, haha.
um, so can i sing the praises of this cd from the roof tops??? J started his unsettled thing just now, tried all my usual tricks, none worked, put the cd on, and in no word of a lie, 10 seconds, screaming stopped, eyes closed... wrapped him, popped him in his cot, out to it:smiliedance:
ok, better get to some of this housework!!
tash, which cd do you have again? the one i got for F is rubbish i think. plus it really drives me crazy. i have trouble getting back to sleep too.
i cuddle F to sleep normally then put him down during the day and try to sleep in bed together once a day. i know that lots of people would think this is developing bad habits, but i figure some sleep for him and some time out for me is better than none, which is what we had been having.
i figure when he is ready we will move toward self settling. actually he did it spontaneously twice today. i almost drove myself crazy trying to get him to self settle in his cot. much happier now we are not bothering too much.
jeca, hurrah for you!
efb - current advice is not to leave bubs to cry it out until at least 6 months. LIH and Kyleighb have previously provided some good advice about teaching to settle without control crying.
ManekiNeko
07-05-2009, 20:24
Kar it's called "sounds of silence" It also comes with a book about settling. I have that and a vacuum cleaner one that goes for an hour... lets just say I am growing used to the sound of it on repeat.
EFB - sounds like you need to try to Sounds of Silence CD that's working wonders for Tommo!! Don't controlled cry - he's far too little. I still lay down beside Millie when I put her down for a sleep sometimes when she's feeling a little unsettled - I had the cot side car style - and keep reassuring her til she falls asleep and that's with two boys running around the place! I guess what really helps here is putting Millie down as soon as I notice she's getting tired - and that's pretty much at the hour mark here at the moment, wrap her while she's still calm/happy and lay her in her cot. I stay with her to make sure she's settled. Good luck and I hope he settles better for you.
EFB - I agree with what the other girls said. I find it helps to get Cady to the dozy stage in a nice quiet place (not silent just calm and soothing with some background music) I put her in still awake, we use a dummy to help soothe her, she spits it out once she's asleep, but some ladies find it helps to take it away, I think it might depend on the baby. I usually sit near the cot until Cady starts to really settle in, sometimes she justs need the reassurance that I'm near. I ease away from the cot and stand near the door for a bit until she's asleep, just incase she knocks her dummy out before she's ready, as this can wake her up also.
SOmetimes she has a slight grizzle in the cot, but I find that a shush and a pat on the tummy or a stroke on her forehead helps to settle her back. If she starts to get distressed then I take her out and we start again, although that doesn't happen very often.
One thing that I found that really helped to speed up the process of self-settling in the cot was that I placed a shirt that I had worn that day and the cot with Cady. I think her being able to smell me really reassured her that the cot was a pleasant place and she started to settle alot easier. Might be worth a try?
BIggest thing of all that I find helps is to do the same thing every time I want her to sleep. She's so hard to get to sleep anywhere else in the house, but once we go into her room, her music is on, she gets wrapped and is given her dummy she recognises the sleep cues and seems to settle much quicker. However, each baby is different, just because it works for us, doesn't mean it will work for you.
Everyone - thanks for the advice on Cady's funny rooting. I've given the longer burping a go and it seems to have helped today, I haven't noticed it so much. Does anyone elses bubs take a really long time to bring up a burp? It was no wonder she was doing massive farts!!! The belches that come out of that girl would out most blokes to shame!
Happymumma
08-05-2009, 07:12
Thanx for the advice ladies cantwait for the cd now lol!!! will give it a go and see what happens i guess.
I never really liked the cry it out method so will totally throw that out thank god !
I guess i will just have to stick with the settling we are currently doing cause it sounds like what most of you are doing i had a terrible night last night up every half an hour from 2:00 til 5:30 to put his dummy back in and he kept smiling at me every time like it was a game :no: Cheeky Monkey ! I ended up putting him in bed with me from 5:30 til 7 when he was due for a bottle just so we could both get a sleep!!
Thanx ladies
Happymumma
08-05-2009, 08:57
Ok so today after Jacksons bottle at 7 i put him in his bouncer which he loves he happily played for bout an hour and a half and then i saw him yawn and get quiet i thought yep tired sign time for bed so i wrapped him gave him his dummy and put one of my shirts in his crib next to him went to the toilet and came back the little bugger was fast asleep !!!!! wow maybe it was the shirt !!! (still cant wait for the cd i reakon that would top it off!) So i thought ok i have bout 45 mins before he wakes up so will do the usual shower bottles blah blah still not a peep the whole time it is now 10:00 and he is still fast asleep!!! Oh my god i dont know what to do with myself hehehe its great lets see if he does this for every nap!! (oh yeah his dummy fell out shortly after and he didnt even cry so i just took it away!!!)
Makes me feel so much better now even if it is only this sleep he does it for i know he is capable of it!!! Maybe i was keeping him up too long???
Oh well fingers crossed it lasts thanx heaps ladies!!!!
Crystal
:wave: everyone. I wrote a big post yesterday and lost it! Can't really remember what I wrote now. I had my 6 wk check up a couple of weeks ago. OB suggested that I get the Mirena inserted instead of going back on the pill. Am a bit nervous about it though. Hope it doesn't have any side effects. The way we are going at the moment though, don't really need contraception!!! I think DH was more scarred by the birth than I was! (and I am just too tired!) Ella is crying so I'll come back later..
SORRY BIG DP RANT
DP and i have very different perspectives on what is going on in this house at the moment. barney last night not resolved (on my behalf) this morning.
i told him i find it very frustrating when he comes home, plays with F for 45 mins then sits on the computer when there is **** loads of things to do around the house and i would like some conversation. he told me he gets home cares for felix, puts him to bed and cleans the house and doesn't stop until felix is asleep.
this is absolute bull****. maybe once max twice a week this happens. he gets home, plays with f i run around like a mad woman doing all the things i haven't got to during the day. he tries to settle felix and if it doesn't work within two cracks tells me its my turn.
i didn't realise that playing with his son for 1 hr was such a trial, i will stop tweaking felix's afternoon feeds and naps to try to maximise his awake time between 5.15 and bed time. During this time I hear about 10 times "could you just..." insert whatever it is he 'needs' but can't get because he is holding F.
Who does he think prepares F's wrap for me when it is nap time, gets me a nappy when he spews, holds him while I change my spew drenched clothes, gets me a drink of water.
when he is home i feel like i have more to do half the time because he can't do anything other than look after felix and makes a f**ing mess that he finds impossible to clean up because he is looking after f.
Howd'y all
EFB - glad that you got bubba down for a good nap :fingerscrossed: it continues! I really do think that the shirt in the cot thing worked for us.
MKS - not sure if what you're talking about is the same thing as I had, but before I went onto the pill a few years back I had Implanon, which is a small contraceptive rod that gets implanted in your arm. Don't mean to be a downer but I would not recommend it to anyone. After 12 months I had mine removed, not only did my weight balloon (as in I gained 25 kgs and nothing in my lifestyle had changed) I went from a size 12 right up to a size 18. I also developed an ovarian cyst (sp?) which ruptured. bad bad bad :no: Also, a friend of mine has had the same thing for 6 years, now they've been trying to get pregnant for 2 years since removal and she has almost zero fertility.
:wave: to all the brissy girls. I loved catching up today, it was great. How cool is go wild? I'd never been there before but it was awesome. Before everyone arrived, there was a Dad taking his toddler around the big play area, I swaer he was having more fun than she was :laughing: He was going right up to the top and then going down the big slides with her. Eventually, his wife came and asked him a question and I heard him say back "oh, ok, um...instead of climbing down I'll just go down the slide..." LMAO!!!
If anyone would like to put in an order for woolie pants let me know. I've got a great little knitted pattern worked out at the moment, and I don't mind whipping up a pair. I'm almost finished Cady's so next time we catch up I'll bring them along and you can have a look. For the girls that aren't in Brissy I'll post the photo up on facebook later in the week and you can check it out there.
Kar, must have been the night for it, dh and i got into a huge blue last night too. :hugs:
rant about dh**
He works long hours, ect, ect, so i get up to all of the night feds, make sure the house is clean, get dinner ready, ect, ect, everything we all do.
he just seems to 'minimise' what a hague job taking care of J is, he said to me last night, 'fine, you go back to work, and il stay home and look after him'
yeah, thats all fine and dandy, except for the fact he has a MUCH higher earning capacity than me...
I cracked it cause it just always seems like his life is SO hard, and i do everything i can to make it easier, but he still bl00dy well complains.
Here i am at home, with a screaming baby who chucks on everything, who wont sleep, while trying to recover form major surgery, and recvoer from pregnancy, with maybe 2x2 hours stints of sleep a night, and contunueing to do the books for the business, and keep the house... yup, sounds like a real easy job to me:cool:
He just made me feel so small..agh.
i want him to do something nice for my first mothers day, he wont...
i wish he would appreciate waht i do...
:(:cool:
i am getting a nappy bag for mothers day. i sh*t you not.
admittedly a nice one of my choice, but that is a really crap present. and it hasn't been ordered yet apparently so i won't be getting it at all. i was emailed some links and told to choose.
ps - that wouldn't work tash, then you would be working full time as well as doing everything else.
Girls I think most men don't understand what it's like to be home all day with a crying baby. DH and I have had our fair share of arguements since Ella was born. Just the other night I was SO annoyed with him cause it was time for Micahel to be put to bed and I was feeding Ella. DH was watching a show he wanted to see so couldn't possibly help me out. Then he complained about the fact that Michael was making too much noise. On top of it that was the day we threw Michael's dummy in the bin (he has done well though - no dummy for 2 days now!!!) so I had one baby on the breast and the other one in my arms crying and needing comforting cause he didn't have his dummy. What does DH do?? Stare at the TV and ignore us all until 8.00 pm!
Karice it isn't implanon - he suggested that after I had DS but I had heard too much bad about it so I said no. This is inserted into the uterus and lasts for 5 years unless you take it out earlier. I know of one person who has it and she is fine with it. I am not sure whether we will have any more children. I am quite undecided - I want to but at the same time don't know it I want it enough so at least this will give me a few years. I think I'll wait until Ella is at least 2 before we start trying (if we do) so I have a minimum 3 year gap instead of 2 like it was this time. Having said that, Ella might be a much more placid child than Michael (my little terror!! :laughing:) so I might want another one sooner...
Oh and as for Mothers Day... well on my 1st mothers day (2 years ago) I got nothing. I was told that Mothers Day is like Valentine's Day - a day for the retailers! I guess I kicked up a big enough stink cause last year I got a facial and pedicure voucher. NOw I can't complain cause when DS was born, DH bought me a beautiful ring but all I wanted for Mothers Day was a card! Motherhood is hard so acknowledgement is nice... I doubt I'll get anything this year cause don't know when DH will get to the shops. I know his every move!!! :laughing:
Great seeing everyone today. I've just finally gotten indie to sleep again for something more than 5 mins!
On the mothers day thing all I've ever gotten is what dd1 makes at kindy for me... So that's what dh gets for fathers day too LOL! Actually neither of us are bothered by it as we each acknowledge how much effort goes into each and every day in many different ways.
I'm starting to crash out this afternoon I'm so tired and still sitting around in our office as dh has been caught up with people all day! Maybe I should just lay on the couch for a snooze LOL!
Tash I was having trouble getting back to sleep too until dh suggested I pop an audio book on the iPod and it works a treat. I'm listening to the Chopin manuscript ATM and I'm usually out in 5 mins or less
DP and I were arguing (sp?) almost every day until I put that "to do" list on the fridge for the week. He's stopped picking fights with me, stopped being ungrateful and insensative and he's even helped out with a few things without being asked.
Seriously girls, give it a go!!!! I put EVERY little thing on that list for the week, even "do dishes - monday, do dishes - tuesday... wipe kitchen benches monday morning, wipe kitchen benches monday night" I kid you not. I put EVERY little chore that has to be done and then tick it off with a big fat black marker...dp scrubs it off completely lol :rolleyes: It filled up 2 columns of A4 paper but we're getting along so much better ever since. DP can see how much needs to be done every day with just the three of us and he's starting to twig how hard having a baby is ( i may have given him some tough love and left the house for half an hour while I picked up some take away...Cady was well fed so I wasn't required to be by her side :devil:)
karice, oh, it isnt the house work that is the problem...far from it, dh is gone ALOT, and having our own business is a huge stress. Like he will get home from his jobs at 7 or 8, then there will still be 2 hours of phone calls and paperwork. its alot of hours, and alot of stress. he just doesnt have time to think about me.
dh is fine with doing housework, he'll put washing on, ect, we're all just having a tough time adjusting to having to fit J into what was an already very busy schedule. but we'll get there eh.
newme, i realised yesterday that im not getting my 'reading' time when i go to bed, i have ALWAYS read before going to sleep, but now i go to bed and try to get to sleep quickly, which doesnt work:laughing:, so i need to spend that half an hour reading, and then try and go to sleep, well, we'll see how that goes.. (oh, i need to be asleep before dh, otherwise he'll snore and keep me awake!lol.)
mks, they really dont understand eh....
kar, yeah, good point.....
Tash isn't it funny how we have our own sleep cues. I can't go to sleep when dh isn't home but as soon as I hear that garage door buzz open I'm out so fast that he can't even wake me by the time he walks upstairs. I totally hear you on the work front. 8pm on a Friday night and dh has been on skype with a supplier since he got home. Through dinner and all and I know there was heaps he didn't get done today because he spent 6 straight hours in meetings today. It really is full on but at least you're giving it a go and not working such crazy hours for someone else!
Karice you're braver than me I couldn't bring myself to go out without indie so I dragged both kids out with me tonight to pick up Chinese. Dh and dd1 were supposed to go but dh was caught up in his conversation and it was already past dd1's bedtime!
I'm still trying to get indie to sleep, just laying imbed feeding her til shes either content or in a deep sleep then hopefully I'll get to go to sleep too!
Jeca you were right!!!! After 2 days of Cady not sleeping and wanting to feed every 2 hours she finally slept. Took all evening to put her down, but at 10pm she went to sleep! We got 6 hours straight, a quick half hour feed and change, then another 3 hours, up again and she's still down for a sleep although she's getting restless so I guess she'll be up again soon.
OMG I feel human again, i might actually get around to doing the million and one things I need to do around the house.
on a bad note....DP's father phoned last night to announce (not ask...just announce) that he will be arriving on Monday :gloomy: Didn't say how long for, just that he'll be here. Damn it... He drives me round the bend
tinytotsmum
09-05-2009, 09:28
hi ladies im back well took emily to the specialist was in his office for 10 minutes and he just sent me straight to PMH and they were waiting for me.
emily was really dehydrated adn said that her pyloris was an emergency.
so i have finally gotten out of hospital yesterday was in there from tuesday.
they decided not to operate for her pyloris as they recon it is slowly healing itself but if i had gone to them when it was first discovered like the doctor should have told me to do they would have operated but now they have discovered she now also has really really bad reflux so she is on the losec and the anti reflux formula and i have to go back and see the surgical team on wednesday to see if it is getting better or not and if it isnt thenthey will have to operate on the other end of her stomach so if it isnt one end it is the other. she seems to be going ok so far still very constipated but i just give her a shot of the coloxyl and she calms down and then poops not long after but i have to keep check on her hydration and they said that if she gets unsettled and stuff again just to take her straight back to PMH. well anywho that has been my week oh and to top it all i started my first period yesterday and god i swear it just about killed me i couldnt look after em it hurt that much so i got dh to come home so he has gone to work today.
oh and i probably wont get on here tomorrow so " HAPPY MOTHERS DAY EVERYONE"
tinytotsmum
09-05-2009, 09:32
karice dh's father does that to so all we do is arrange to leave home on that day like last time he just said he would be here for easter didnt ask or anything and just said he would be so we went to albany with my family instead and when he rang ****ty that we werent there we just said that we thought that there was another reason he was coming over as he didnt ask if we were doing anything and we were so sorry but we will be back in 2 days and by then he had gone back home lol mean i know but it taught him a lesson he always asks now.
So i subtly told dh that i was going to get some photos done up for mum of J for mothers day, did he want me to do the same for his mum?
he replied, oh she sh!ts me, we wont get her anything,
so i said 'well i sh!t you, do i get nothing for mothers day?'
:cool: I think that got it thru to him...
So when he came home last night he made a point of saying that i couldnt go to the ute...:rolleyes:
so il keep you informed of how we go, lol.
Hi everyone! :)
Just a quick one from me tonight....
I wanted to wish all you mummies a :flowerz: Happy Mother's Day :flowerz:. Hope you all enjoy your day with your precious new bubs (and your other kids of course if you have them).
I have been working on a post with a few personals and an update but am too tired to finish it at the moment.... hopefully I'll finish it tomorrow. I've just got Lily down for her sleep so now I will do the same.
We are off to Botanic Park for a picnic lunch with my MIL, her partner and my BIL. Should be a pleasant and relaxing afternoon.
Enjoy your day and hope at least some of us get a decent stretch of sleep... and who knows maybe breakfast in bed!
Catch you all soon,
Lisa :hugs:
melbryan
10-05-2009, 01:21
Happy Mothers Day to all .:):flowerz:
Thinking of you all and hope you get spoilt.
My Dh got up tothe baby lat night so yay I got to sleep till 6.30 might make it a habit I think. I don't think I have slept for ages.
happy mothers day girls!:yelclap:
we deserva a rest and a pamper, i just hope we all get it!:yes:
josh got me the best present ever, sleep!!!
he went from 11-6.15, i got to skeep about midnight, so i got 6 uninterrupted hours of sleep:cloud9: i might feel half human for mothers day:laughing:
Happy Mothers day girls! Abi is fast asleep in our bed (cheeky little sausage), so I'm doing the brekky thing - though DP is cooking me breakfast. What a sweetie :)
Hope you all have a wonderful day!
JLeesmum
10-05-2009, 11:09
:wave:happy mothersday!
ive been busy, had mum n my sis here yesterday (my sister bought 'me' a motherday pressie...5 jumpsuits for Jye lol)....
WOW guess what i got from DP? i got flowers, a card, AND chocolates!! im in shock:eek: hes never done anything like that!
TJ, so sorry to hear about emily, i hope shes ok now.
TOMMO, i think it was u saying that u cant relax till the house is clean? ditto. i went off yesterday at DP, quote.."new rule, NOTHING is to be left on the coffee table, couch or floor in the lounge room at all times"
:laughing: then we went shopping and the first thing i did was put everything on the couch..:footinmouth:
and do u all manage to feed bubs any type at the same time?....im SO not that talented *yet*
LOL, i can hear DP trying to "show" Jyden how to burp.
oh, and DP said that i get the "day off" today....what does that mean???:no:
i hope everyone has a wonderful day, and the kidlets r behaving!
oh...what kinda of MCN should i buy? and what do i need with it?
eeyorethedonkey21
10-05-2009, 19:24
hey girls
i hope you all had a great mothers day especially tho who haven't had one until now :)
really tired after having james' birthday yesterday and my future daughter in law's christening today as well as today being mothers day. definitely off to bed shortly.
:hugs:
JLeesmum
10-05-2009, 19:48
wow, very quiet in here, that must mean everyones having a good day!, i hope.
DP has been doing everthing today, hes done every feed, changed every nappie (every 2 hours...lol), did the dishes, put the spare tv back in the bedroom like i asked, 'bought' lunch:o. very impressed! im still shocked about the flowers!
i bought my first MCN on ebay today.. a minky denim blue cushie tushie! not the basix, the otherone, ive forgotten what its called...:yelclap:
well im going to go give jyden his first bottle of the day, DP doesnt want me to..i appreciate the day off but i dont mind feeding him!
trifecta
10-05-2009, 20:08
HAPPY MUMMYS DAY EVERYONE! :hugs:
Tommo - What did your DH get you that was hiding in the ute?
Smaslee- That's really sweet of your DP doing everything for you, I've been the opposite and have been really clingy to Jacob all day :) My DH has been at work today, but I've really loved that my little man has brought me my first mothers day, so he's had extra cuddles today. And new clothes, I just can't resist.
So I've spent the day shopping with my lil man, just the two of us and we had lunch out too. I think I kinda regretted the large coffee I had though, as it took a while to get him to sleep tonight! oopps, I don't have one very often and I really enjoyed it. Shopping these days means shopping for Jacob, he got some more winter clothes and I couldn't resist buying him his first flano shirt. lol it's so cute.
As my FB friends know, DH got me a beautiful black and white photo of Jacob and me blown up and put onto canvas. I nearly cry everytime I look at it! Ahh such a softie these days.
Oh I can hear peeps, better go as DH is in there asleep. No luck of me getting any action tonight... :p
Later special people...
JLeesmum
10-05-2009, 20:41
HnB- sounds like u got spoilt too!-apart from DH being at work... my sister gave me a canvas print of jydens ulsrasound pic at 13 weeks for xmas, so sweet!.
i really didnt care if i didnt get anything for mothers day, my son is the best present i could ever ask for:valentine:
any who, the 3 of us r off for cuddles in the bed..sweetdreams (oh and DP's on night duty feeds tonight! :sleeping: 4 me!...no doubts the lil bugger will sleep thru tonight!
smashlee - are you starting out with MCN or are you already using then? I still find my basic Baby Beehinds and covers are fantastic, but being a lazy thing I LOVE AIOs and my favourite on Miss Millie are Bubblebubs (which I wasn't too keen on on DS2), Ittis AIOs, Twinklelilys (so trim) and I am waiting to try out Mini Lalas - got some on the way! If you've got some fitteds already there are some lovely covers out there - I've got some gorgeous blueberry minky covers which are so funky and cute. Oh and if you're going to get some cloth wipes I can't rate the itti ultimate wipes highly enough, large, thick velour and are superb.
Happy Mothers Day to all our lovely mummies. I had a lovely day and I am about to go to bed - yay!!
Happymumma
11-05-2009, 06:44
Hi Ladies
Havent been on all wekend cause hubby had the WHOLE weekend off i was so happy my first mothers day was awesome Jackson was an angel he sleeps through already so i got an extra long sleep in til 9 and hubby did the mornin feed at 7 and then he made bacon and eggs for me for breaky i got a book and some new slippers yay !!!! We then went shopping all day just the three of us and had a really good time!!! Jackson slept at all his nap times for two hours or more best present i reakon lol!!!
Apart from that not much else is happening sounds like we all got spoilt love it!!!!!
Any way back to the weekly chores pop in later
Take care
Hi everyone, well DH did everything except feed obviusly for pretty much the whole weekend. I just did the 'fun things'. No settling for me this weekend! Plus he took F out and about so I could get some rest.
He also cleaned out the kitchen cupboards and did all the housework and cooked me a roast for dinner.
Combination of my Friday night meltdown and mothers day, so I am feeling refreshed for the week.
F has had a couple of nights of going down without any protest and has had some good sleeps. I just wish we could lose the 5.30am - it is just cruel, almost time to get up and start the day but not quite. Oh well, all in good time.
He is so so cute and is laughing and playing all the time. He is a much happier babe since we started on losec.
I had one decaf coffee on Saturday and he was beside himself for the rest of that day and that night. Aah, my sensitive child!
OK, must get in a shower
Hi Girls,
Happy Mothers Day for yesterday to everyone.
I had a quiet day yesterday. DP did most of the nappy changes and cooked lunch and bought dinner so that was good. He got me my fav cooking magazine and 10 balls of fancy wool so I've got lots of knitting projects in the pipeline for Cady :)
My day wasn't as relaxing as I would of liked though, my Dad came over to visit, then we have a friend staying for a few days, plus DP's father arrive stonight from Melbourne so I've been (trying) to clean the house. At the same time I've had sleeping and feeding issues with Cady for a few days so I'm buggered. No idea why, but she's gone back to newborn habits, she's waking every 1 - 2 hours during the night, its been happening for a while now. She's also been resisting the boob which is upsetting for me. I know she's hungry but she just won't attach and start sucking. I've had to trick her a few times. Give her her dummy and hold her in the feeding position, then take her dummy away quick and pop the boob in.
SHe's not a refluxy baby, she rarely vomits, she gets a good burping but out of no where she's decided she doesn't want the boob :( She really fights it, pushes away with her arms and feet, turns her head away then starts to cry if i pursist.
JLeesmum
11-05-2009, 09:24
well its good to see most people enjoyed there day
Jeca- im new to MCN...i bought my first on ebay yesterdday! a demin blue minky baby beehind! not the basix..the other one (its meant to last up to 8 hours.....
i cant wait to get it!:yelclap:
Jyden rolled over again! yay!
Kaz, that is distressing re the feeding, maybe give the ABA or your MCHN a call?
Karice - are you getting AF back? I've heard sometimes babies can go through a phase of breast refusal when that happens, or occasionally for other reasons. It's supposed to just be a phase, though. She might be waking every 1-2 hours for a feed because she's not feeding much when she does. Persevere if you can and I agree with kar, some tips from the ABA might help. :hugs: I hope it works out.
Mothers day was mostly lovely. We went up to Caloundra for lunch with DP's mother and step-dad. They enjoyed spending time with Abi of course. I would have been happy to spend my first mothers day at home with Abi or just doing something as a family. But DP didn't think of that when he made plans with him mum. He spent the whole day apologising to me for it (genuinely), especially when we got stuck in the traffic from hell at Caboolture at lunch time, and had to pull over at Moorayfield to change and feed bub who had been screaming her poor little head off for a few km. Took us and hour and a half to get from Nudgee to Moorayfield. It was attrocious. So lunch was late, I was fighting off a sore throat (which seems to have diminished today thank goodness), and I was exhausted, but it wasn't a bad day. I still did all the mummy stuff that I do on a normal day - but I didn't mind :) I still enjoy it. Even washing nappies. :laughing:
My gift was a beautiful card that DP wrote the loveliest things in for me (and on behalf of Abicakes), and a little hardbook some of you might know called "Guess How Much I Love You" by Sam McBratney. I thought it was perfect. :goodvibes:
DP is home with my sore throat today, poor boy. But bubs hasn't seemed to pick it up.. hooray for breastmilk antibodies lol :smiliedance:
Well we had an alright mothers day, J slept form 11.30pm till 6.15am, :cloud9:Best mothers day gift he could have given me!
Dh got me a beautiful crystal heart necklace, some yummy candles and some beautiful words in a cute sparkly card.lol.
my little sisters got my a heart locket pendant as well, they are having it engraved, but they wanted my opinion of what to have put in there first. going to have 'Our Angel, Joshua, 27.3.09'
I still did all my usual duties, he didnt really give me the day off or anything...:rolleyes: Its hard, cause yesterday was his day off, so yeah, cant expect too much. we went out for lunch with mum and my sis's, and my sis came down from melbourne for it too. She wanted lots of cuddles from josh, lol.
It was a nice enough day tho.
For the girls getting the cd, copied today, posting tommorrow:yes:
smashlee, did dp have to get up, or did he sleep thru?? oh, rolling over, look out!!:D
tales, oh, thats a long time to get to lunch! im glad even tho you didnt get the day to yourselves, you still enjoyed it.
Kar, i hear you on the cruelness of a 5.30am feed. J ranges from 3.30am, right through to 6.ooam, up untill 5 i can handle going back to bed, but you start wondering if its worth it when it gets past there eh!
efb, sounds like a great day all round! :-)
Living in hope, how are you and lucius going? you've been in my thoughts.
Karice, i hope the aba has some good advice for you.
hubnbump, sounds like a lovely day with J, just bonding:goodvibes:
ok, be back in later.
ManekiNeko
11-05-2009, 15:03
I just wanted to say I hope you all enjoyed your mothers day and got spoiled.
I am totally exhausted and there seems to be alot to catch up on here so I won't attempt personals yet.
Went to a wedding on saturday and stayed over night at twin waters. Had a beautiful mother's day I got a journal and before that Wade payed for me to get my nails done for the wedding and a sitter to come to the room to watch the kids while we were at the reception. Also had a lovely breakfast by the lake at the resort so I enjoyed the weekend even though I was so stressed about it and didn't want to go initially.
Tought I'd share a cute pic of Ruby at the wedding.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/photo.php?pid=1706707&id=658522883&ref=mf
JLeesmum
11-05-2009, 15:03
Tommo- he slept from 8pm-2.30am, so DP got up once (but i was awake anyway:no:) then i fed him for his 6.00am feed.. cos i get up at 5am every morning:yelclap:
AF arrived today:mad:. with NO PAIN:smiliedance:. its a miracle! (i used to be in bed for 8 days) i wonder how long it will last this time......... and i sooo cant wait for MCN to arrive from ebay!
Karice - I agree with tales - if you have got af back, it really can mess with your milk, so it may just be that(and if so some BF cookies, fenugreek or brewers yeast - tastes foul but brings on the milk! should all do the trick. As exhausting as it sounds, just keep perservering, she is not going to starve herself, so if you keep offering her plenty of feeds she will hopefully settle back into the swing of things in a few days. It wouldn't hurt to ring the ABA, even in the middle of the night when you're feeling exhausted and down about it, they will reassure you that you are not alone, many many women experience what you are experiencing(I did with DD1, although it was AF related) and many woman find it is the end of their BF relationship, but it doesn't have to be. :hugs: I completely understand how devistating it can be when they don't seem to want to feed properly and your exhausted from being up trying to feed them all night. Is there somewhere you can park yourself for the night(spare bed or kick DP out to the couch) so that you and Cady can co-sleep and hopefully give you the chance to get a bit more of sleeping in.
Wow everyone seems to have been spoilt for mothers day. I thought I'd at least get something that DD1 had made at kindy - but they didn't even send anything home:(. Didn't see either of our mums yesterday. DH wanted us to go see his mum, but I just wasn't in the mood and in the end it went in the "too hard" basket(note to self, I really need to get rid of that "too hard" basket - it's just negative vibes).
Anyway, need to dash while the house is quiet.
Karice - I agree with tales - if you have got af back, it really can mess with your milk, so it may just be that(and if so some BF cookies, fenugreek or brewers yeast - tastes foul but brings on the milk! should all do the trick.
I sprinkle a generous teaspoon of flaxmeal on my muesli every morning, and snack on raw peanuts during the day. Helps me keep a good flow of breastmilk :) Only thing, you have to eat the muesli quickly before the flax absorbs all the milk lol, otherwise it goes a bit gluggy.
TS Ruby is so cute!!! She must have loved her pretty dress!
Glad to see that most of us had a decent mothers day. We had a busy day - breakfast with the in laws, lunch with my family and afternoon tea with my grandmother. We were out from 8 am to 5 pm! Considering it was a long day, both children behaved very well! Michael made me a card at daycare and he also gave me one on Sunday morning which DH assisted in which said Michael and Ella's gift to mummy was Daddy's permission to go and buy something for myself which costs $100!! I laughed cause it was such an easy way out for DH but I can't complain and say he didn't get me anything! He thinks he's so clever now. Anyway, I will be going to buy myself a few things that I need and I think I would like a handbag too. The mimco one I am eyeing off costs $400 so I don't think I'll get that one but I'll find something.
I have a cold at the moment so feeling pretty miserable and I am really worried about Ella catching it off me since she ended up in hospital from the last one she caught! I am taking her to the dr today for her needles anyway so I'll talk to him about it I guess.
Is anyone else still feeding 3 hourly? Ella was doing a stretch from about 6.00 pm to 1.30 am but for about a week she's gone back to having another feed again. Not sure what that's about?? I get a 5 hour gap at night and then back to 3 hourly again. Michael was almost sleeping through by now I think. I know that at 12 weeks on the dot he was sleeping 8 pm - 6 am.
3 hourly maximum during the day here. Normally more like 2.5. We usually dinner at about 6pm ish then two more feeds before morning feed which is usually about 7ish. We occasionally get a stretch through to 1.30 - 2.30 but it is rare and if we do it is straight to 3 hourly after it.
I'm not forseeing even dropping down to one feed anytime soon. He is definitely hungry at these feeds, really chows down!
Felix has a cold. He seems to just be very snuffly though and quite grumpy. No fever or anything so I guess I will just leave it. Considering some saline drops to try an clear his nose. I have been waving a jar of vicks under his nose but only seems to help for a few minutes and don't want to actually put any under his nose.
JLeesmum
12-05-2009, 09:11
mks- Jyden still feeds every 3 hours (200ml) but every night he will go from 7.30pm-3.00am, then 3 hourly again.. i think the more they drink in the day helps them sleep at night:confused:
**DP rant**
OMG, DP and DS were having a snore-off last night:banghead: i got huffy n puffy then DP woke up and he was like "WHATS WRONG WITH U?" "oh nothing...*sigh*".."was i snoring?" "yes" "F**CK ME I ONLY JUST GOT MY f****** HEAD ON THE PILLOW, I WASNT F****** SNORING" (he was asleep for 30 mins) i recorded him on my phone and showed him this morning..
"oh baby, im so sorry just wake me up when i do that"...LMOA, i did and look what happened..
tinytotsmum
12-05-2009, 09:40
mks em went to a stage where she would sleep 5-6 hours before a fedd then i took her to hospy and now itis every 3 hours day and night.
We're still on 2-3 hourly feeds here. In fact she starts getting grizzly earlier than that sometimes, but I try to hold her out to at least 2 hours (to give myself a break, mostly). Night time is still a heavy feeding time, day time is very much a top-up thing. She still sleeps a lot during the day, but I can tell that her night sleeping is gradually getting heavier and the day sleeps are gradually getting lighter (it's getting easier to wake her during the day).
smashlee - they never believe you do they. Mine doesn't either, though he seems to never have a problem telling me when I snore (and unlike him, I believe that I do, from time to time).
:yes: ive read in quite a few articles, feed them more frequently during the day, and they will sleep better at night, sortof keeps the fuel tank full.
i find J naturally wants much shorter times b/w feeds in the evening.
its 3 - 3 and a half hours during the day, by the time we get to about 4or 5 in the evening, its every 2 hours or so.
smashlee, dh can konk out in a matter of minutes too, and start snoring, then i nudge him:laughing:
this day time cat napping is really starting to push me over the edge... i can't lie down with him for every sleep.
i know he has a cold atm but he really needs to sleep and i need a break.
have to remind myself that 40 mins in the cot is 40 mins more than we were having two weeks ago. i just can't get him beyond one sleep cycle 80% of the time unless he is exhausted through having not slept for the rest of the day. buit he sleeps well and self settles with no problem at night.
i know i shouldn't complain.
Morning ladies,
I have a rotten cold and am croaking away due to a very sore throat, horrible headache and feeling SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO tired, blah. I hope I get over quickly. I'm sure little Millie is going to get it - at least breastmilk has some antibodies in it so hopefully it won't be too bad.
Karice, NewMe, aidansmum, tracyselena - I can't make a get together this Friday but how about we get together again next Friday? Friday's are a good day for me!
Kar - I completely feel your pain with the cat napping - DS2 was just the same :(. Millie sometimes wakes after 45 mins so if I hear her stirring I rush in, pop the dummy in her mouth, shush her and gently rub her belly and she'll usually go back to sleep. Does Felix take a dummy? I couldn't convince my boys to take one - nothing would substitute for boobies - but I have found it a godsend for getting sleep out of Millie. I hope he sleeps a bit longer for you today - it's so hard cos you know they're still tired :sleeping:
Feeds - Millie is going 3-4 hours between feeds now, but still only taking one boob per feed - anyone giving both breasts at a feed yet? I can't remember when the boys went to two boob feeds.
smashlee - I wake DH up if he's snoring and he gets cranky at me too!! Then tells me that if he's snoring I should wake him LOL!!! Did your nappy arrive yet?!
karice - Fenugreek worked wonders for getting my milk supply up - when I had DS2 my thyroid went beserk so I was put on PTU to control it and it completely dried my milk in two days. I managed to bring the milk back with Maxolon and Fenugreek - works a charm - and whenever I needed to boost my supply I used it. You have to take masses of the capsules though - I think I was taking about 10 a day! Hope Cady's settled a bit now.
I think I'm getting AF back - WTF?! :confused: :rain: With both the boys I got AF when they were 7 months - Millie's not even 8 weeks. I'm spotting and have period pains. I guess it might not be, but since I stopped bleeding nearly 4 weeks ago I don't think it's lochia anymore. Seriously fuming, breastfeeding was going to be my birth control until 6 months!
Well, I MUST do some housework - my house is a mess and I've masses of washing to hang out - haven't done nappies for 3 days :eek: - naughty Mummy!! Have a great day all.
HI GIrls,
JUst a quick one from me, we've got a house full of visitors so not much time to post
Thanks for all the advice and encouragement RE Cady's weird feeding and sleeping issues at the moment. Took her to see the child health nurse yesterday, all she could tell me is that some babies do try to wean away from the breast for no apparent reason, she doens't have a temp/fever and doesn't vomit or scream in pain so it's unlikely to be a health issue. Some babies just try to do that. All you can do is A) switch to formula or B) just try to persevere.
So I'm going with option B, she still gained 200g in less than a week so she's obviously still getting something and I guess that means that my milk supply is still good. I'm going to re-weigh her on thurs just to make sure that she's still getting enough from me.
So instead of fighting with her, just like newme said she won't starve herself, so when I know it should be feed time, I offer it 2 or 3 times and if she protests well then boob goes away until she's REALLY hungry (it can take about an hour or so) she's still getting wet nappies and she's well hydrated so perhaps her feeding pattern is just starting to stretch out for the longer feeds??? she's 8 week now. SHe her good feeds are around 4 hours apart now, and a bit more frequent in the evening. It seems to be working coz shes actually gone back to her normal night sleep pattern and she's gone down for 2 day sleeps so far :fingerscrossed:
How often should they be feeding at this stage? is 4 hours on average too far apart? she's about 5 hours then 3 and 2 during the night and in the late evening just before bed its snacking over 2 hours.
OK, well let's see how long this lasts!
I have to think positively, he is going down quite easily most of the time now during the day, sleeping for the first cycle then waking. Objectively this is a big improvement in a couple of weeks without any leaving to cry. I have moved to putting him down pretty much as soon as he closes his eyes rather than holding him until he is in a deep sleep and usually he opens his eyes when I put him down and he settles off to sleep.
Resettling just doesn't work much for us at this stage, have managed it a couple of times, but most of the time he tries for about 10 mins to settle back then cracks it. He doesn't have a dummy, I think with number 2 I will just go straight to having a dummy. I don't actually remember now why we have resisted :laughing: but at this late stage it would seem ridiculous to give him one. Probably wouldn't take it anyway. DH is quite opposed, guess I will give him this one!
I am starting to wonder whether he is a baby who the 'overtired won't sleep' doesn't work for and actually needs to be really tired to go to sleep. Going to experiment with keeping him up until either 1.5hrs or he is grumping, whichever comes first. Putting him to bed at the first tired signs sure isn't working. Just kept him up for 1.5hrs despite the fact he has barely slept since 6.45 this morning and he was eyes shut before I could get from the lounge room 'quiet time' chair to his cot (about 10 steps). So, will see whether he can stay asleep.
Kaz, sounds like you are taking a very sensible approach. She is not necessarily self weaning, just making some adjustments. She might just be ready for 4 hourly feeding. If that is it lucky you! My MCHN was saying last week that if your boobs can store a lot of milk bub might not want to feed so often as they can completely fill up at each feed.
Felix has always had both boobs except when we had the issues re fast let down and thought he may have had lactose intolerance. Why do you only give them one as a matter of course? The advice I was given was to always offer both, and Felix always takes it! I think I have a small storage capacity but make plenty of milk so both boobs often in our house.
Jeca, feel better soon and good luck with the kids not catching it! - The cold that is, not AF!!
eeyorethedonkey21
12-05-2009, 12:28
jeca ive had my first af already infact i got it 6 weeks to the day after nathan was born. at least i'm able to go back on the pill now. i feel your pain i hope for your sake its not tho :hugs:
LivingINhope
12-05-2009, 15:16
Hey girls I have not been here awhile Sebastian and Lucius have been really sick, they have tested RSV positive. Its a nasty virus they can do nothing about so its been fun. I have been at the doctors and hospital very few days getting them checked out for breathing issues and then got it myself :(
I see some of you are having feeding and sleeping problems, while Lucius has been sick I have fed him non stop and I wish I was joking. He has been snacking all day and night and just staying hydrated, man am I exhausted. I have just started to try to get him past 2-2 1/2 hourly feeds he was on between 3-5 hourly before and thriving.
Kar - It sux but when your bubba is sick you have to feed as much as possible to keep them well hydrated.Especially when they have snuffly noses and sore throats, they are egerally eating less at a feed but more frequently. Until he is well I would perservere. :laughing: I was against dummies with No1, but after 2 tressillian visits and years of sleepless nights I offered Lucius a dummy straight away and it is my saving grace.He uses it to calm down or sometimes go off to sleep, but really alot of the time he is just happy if its near by like a security blanket.
Smashlee - arghhh!!! DH does that also when he is really tired and his response is much the same when I wake him and tell him. Thankgod its not every night:yes:
Jeca - hope you feel better soon and hope AF is not back already. I still have coloured lochia and Lucius is 8.5 weeks old so could it be that?
Karice - I like you feed form only 1 breast every feed, I always offer both and Lucius may attach for a few seconds but usually only has one. He is thriving, I went through this with Sebastian also. Everyone finds it hard to believe it works out but it does, every baby and every mum are different and sounds like your little princess is very efficient. I love how they always assume giving up breastfeeding is the way...
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Well I am off to start dinner with my eyes hanging outta my head from exhaustion, have a googd night girls.
yeah I was going to add that I do have fairly large boobs that tend to over supply and store up alot of milk. Even though shes not feeding very often, she feeds from one side but only for around 10 or 15 mins, but its skool skool skool when she does, and she completely drains one side. I usually give hera burp and a nappy change and then try to offer the second side, depending on the time of day sometimes she sill half drain the second and other times she will refuse totally.
She's been awake for HOURS now, she's clearly over tired but not whingy yet, just figity, clenched fists and is rubbing her eyes. She still hasn't had a feed since 1:30pm but every time I offer she refuses me :( Might try again and see how we go
Ladies I'm going to be out of this for a while. I've got my MIL staying and never seem to find a quiet moment to get on here. Will be reading as much as I can but doubt I'll have time to reply.
MamaAfrica
12-05-2009, 20:39
Hi girls,
I just thought i'd leave a quick note to say hi. I've got the same problem... just can't find the time to post on here! My little man has been really whingey for the past week & a half. Every evening he cramps up & cries the house down :( I've also been having the strangest pain in 1 boob for a couple of weeks. Its like a deep burning pain up the side after a feed. The dr i went to last week was of no help really... said it cud be thrush or cud be a staph infection but rly didn't offer a proper diagnosis or treatment. She referred me to a lactation consultant. Another dr i asked said thats rubbish & he thinks its just a blocked duct... even tho the pain is def different from the last time i had blocked duct. Arghhh... so confused & frustrated with them.
I know i'm delayed.. but happy mothers day for Sunday! Sounds like every1 got spoilt.. I got no pressy but DH made waffles for me in the morning so that was sweet.
Have a gud nite... im off to :sleeping:
LIH, RSV is what Ella had (and it turned into bronchialitis) so she was hospitalised. She is better now but still a bit snuffly.
As for feeding, with DS I offered both sides from day 1. With Ella I was feeding 1 side for a few weeks but very quickly I saw she wanted more so have been feeding both sides for more than a month now. I'd say my milk supply isn't great. Both kids thrived and put on lots of weight (Ella was born 2.63 kg and at 9 weeks today weighed around 4.7 kg) but I mustn't make enough on one side.
Happymumma
13-05-2009, 06:58
Hey Ladies
Smashlee- I hear ya on the snoring hubby does it ALL the time and gets cranky when I wake him too lol
Kar – I know what you are feeling like bout the cat napping I was goin through the same thing bout a week ago and now Jackson will sleep 2hrs in the morning 2hrs in the middle and maybe 1.5 in the arvo im not sure exactly what changed it all but I put a shirt of mine in his cot and I also feed him then let him play for as long as he wants in his bouncer after feed as soon as I see he is getting wingy and yawning I put him straight down! Sometimes its only an hour after he has gotten up but he seems to be thriving on it I thought crap he is sleeping like 5-6 hr a day now great now he wont sleep tonight (he is also an awesome sleeper at night) But it hasn’t effected him at all hey he will still go down at 6:30 have a dream feed at 10:30 then out for the night til 6-7 am!
I was also thinking maybe it was a growth spurt or something or a stage they go through maybe he has grown out of it now I know he is taking more milk now too 200ml EVERY bottle 6pm bottle bout 250ml!!
Not sure if that will help but I know anything is worth a try!!!
As for the feeding thing I know its prob different for me cause im bottle feedin but Jack will go bout 4hrs generally but in the morning cause he has gone so long without a feed he tends to be three hrs! Must be doing ok though little porker was born 3.53 kg and now 10 weeks on he is 6.6kg!! He is so heavy now lol glad I don’t rock him to sleep or my arms would be killing!
So we went to the pediatrician yesterday Jack had a slow descending left teste so my doc wanted to make sure all was good pedi was happy with it just wants to check him over at 6 months, also asked bout these two little hard white bumps on his gums??? When I first felt them I thought they might be teeth my MIL and SIL reckoned they were teeth but I was like that’s too early wrong spot for his first teeth bottom left not the front ones! Doc said might be what’s called Epstein Pearls basically a milk spot on the gums and goes away by itself no biggy but said to ask pedi when I go as well, so ask him and he said could be a tooth???? Time will tell???
So now im utterly confused Epstein Pearl or tooth either way I spose its not bad but I just wanna know I guess. He hasn’t been like teethin or nothing not fussy or overly wingy but he does dribble more now?
Wow this post is way longer than I thought it would be hehehe
Best go Take care ladies
Crystal
tinytotsmum
13-05-2009, 09:30
hey ladies cant stay for long DEAR GOD em had her 8 week shot last night and bloody hell he cries almost constantly has kinda gone off her food and just wants to be with us alllllll the time so sling it is today i guess. back off to the hospy today to report on her reflux which hasnt been the best but is better than what it was. sooooooo tired though i ended up falling asleep outside cos em was crying didnt want cuddles from me wouldnt drink and was just really getting on my nerves so i just left her and went and sat outside mind you in was at 1 in the morning so was bit cold lol and df took her and cuddled her and she went back to sleep little witch anyway better go she is crying again and may as well make another bottle for her not to drink :(:sleeping: chat to you all soon when things dye down in the stress level i am ready and keeping up with everything though.
EFB - I am just hoping it is a stage he will grow out of. If he just didn't need much sleep that would be fine, but he gets so so grumpy as the day progresses. However, as I said in my post a couple of weeks ago he wasn't sleeping during the day at all, then only for 20 mins if i held him to deep sleep, so, to keep things in perspective we are making progress. I do the same basic routine as you, have the shirt in the cot but still he can't sleep past the 1st cycle, but he does it at night with no problems.
spoke to soon, crying after 15 mins :no:
Felix has in injections today, wonder which way he will go - 9 hrs of sleep or 12 hrs of crying??
LIH, so good to hear from you, I was thinking about you yesterday. Hope your babies are better soon.
bedprincess
13-05-2009, 11:29
Hey all its me Alexa, just got the net at my new place..its been a while. is it ok if i join your march group as thats when Alixander was due but he came 4wks early. wld luv you guys 2 give me a little update on ur little ones.:)
bedprincess
13-05-2009, 11:33
tjanitzeski-just looked at ur litte sig thing..how cute u had a little girl. u had her a day after my son was ment 2 be born!!:yelclap::yelclap: how was your birth?
Just a quick one from me.
Jeca maybe we jinxed ourselves talking about af returning on Friday because today it appears that af has returned.
Ooh bugger got to run!
Happymumma
13-05-2009, 15:59
This is prob a really stupid thing to ask but when you guys talk about AFwhat are you refering to????
AF=aunt flow, our monthly freind we havnt had to worry about for 10 months, lol.
very very quick one from me - currently juggling cooking, putting cady to bed, keeping damned FIL away so he doesn't interfere and/or wake cady up AGAIN :banghead:
Spent the arvo with a child health nurse, finally got some good answers as to our current issues, very interesting stuff
Verdict: As babies get older and start to approach different developmental milestones, this can throw their feeding and sleeping out of whack, and what do you know, this week Cady started to roll over and started to put toys to her mouth so it does make sense. Aparantly, over the next week while her brain fuses all the little cognitive connections together she should settle back into a rountine again, and yes she probably will want feeds slightly less often also. She tells me that the two things go hand in hand as they get older.
Also, Cady has a VERY subtle "im tired sign" being that her fists are clenched and she doesn't make so much eye contact waaaaaay before she cracks it and waaaaay before we getthe jerky movements. They said that i should start to settle her to sleep as soon as I see the clenched fists as Cady is not the sort of baby that will settle easily once she's overtired. Also makes sense.
Had to persevere for a few hours, but she did get some day sleeps in, and we've had some pretty good feeds also. DOuble checked her weight and she'd gained 40grams in 2 days so I'm not worried about that.
Had no screaming from exhaustion today for the first time in a week so :smiliedance:
Maybe she'll have a good night sleep coz she's settled better?
So sorry girls, I'll catch up when FIL buggers off, he doesn't give me much of a chance to actually read anything
LivingINhope
13-05-2009, 20:05
Karice – I like you feed for 10-15 minutes max and bubs is putting on heaps of weight, heaps of wet nappies. Sometimes he goes 5 hours between feeds and other times around 3-4 hours, sounds like your doing all the right things. Sometimes when babies are over tired they will just refuse to eat, try to put her down and she may work herself up an appetite.
Sounds like the ECHN you saw today was great, I bet within a few days you’ll see improvements.
MamaAfrica - I get that sometimes and its usually when I have nipple thrush, which I get sometimes cause I feed Lucius in bed and doze off and he is a bit rough on my nipples. Treat the thrush and if that doesn’t work get antibiotics ofor staf/mastitis infection.
MKS - OMG! Its so scarey isn’t it, I can’t wait to niot hear Lucius cough and have a clear nose.
EFB – I have herd of babies getting teeth as early as 8 weeks so its possible.
TJ – hope em starts feeding and sleeping for you.
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Well Sebastian is at the after hours doctor as we speak his asthma has been bad since this RSV thing, I hope we get something to help him last night was scary. Lucius is getting better, he feeding better and sleeping a little better so that's great.
Hope you all get good night sleeps :D
NewMe - stupid AF - I can't believe we jinxed ourselves!
Hi everyone! :)
Just a quick one from me as I can hear little miss starting to stir for a feed.
Well, so much for posting again on Sunday... I ditched the post I had started as it was too out of date. :o I should stop thinking that I'll get back to posts that I start earlier in the day.
I've been reading along this week but just haven't had the time to post. Thinking of you all though, especially those of you with sick bubs (LIH, tj, and anyone else I've missed) - hope they're better very soon!
Karice - glad the child health nurse was helpful to you.
Well, sorry to cut this really short... Lily is starting to arc up now. I hope to come back tomorrow with an update on us... all is well just very busy and I have a touch of a headcold atm.
Thinking of everyone, including all the mums who haven't posted in a while (Suby, Nomadic, MellyMumma, Missyky, Nae and others) - hope you're all well.
Gotta dash!
Good night all,
Lisa :hugs:
Happymumma
14-05-2009, 07:07
Hey Ladies
Ahhh of course Aunt Flow lol was racking my brain to figure out what it meant I thought it was that by the conversation but I couldn’t figure out the whole AF thing lol
Yeah this is the second time ive had my monthlys since Jackson was born which is a bout right I guess I bled for bout 2 weeks after he was born then 4 weeks later bam it wasn’t too bad the first one but this second one is really bad I went back on the pill as well so don’t know if that has anything to do with it but its also REALLY heavy this time round and ive never been this heavy and its like bright red blood which never stops getting me a little worried???
Kar- Yeah Jackson was the same I was missing his tiny little tired signs and that was it he would go from peaceful to screaming devil baby and of course he was overtired at this stage which equals harder to settle which equals bad sleep which also equals catnappin once I knew I had to get him in bed as soon as I even heard the slightest grizzle it has been bliss!! Yay for rolling over already and the toys Jackson has “accidently” rolled over and “accidently” put things to his mouth but nothing definite yet lol I think he is just to chubby to move lol nah he will get there soon I guess J
Quick question for you ladies how much tummy time do you give your bubs Jackson loves his bouncer so I try to have a bit of TT in between bouncer time but im not sure im giving him enough his head control is really good but im not sure what is enough ??
Gee it feels like everyone is pregnant round me now and it’s the best feeling in the world to NOT be pregnant and to have all that behind me lol
My friend which some of you may remember from early days had a miscarriage when I was bout 20 weeks, well she fell again and is doin really well she is 18 weeks then I also have a friend that is 20 weeks a cousin that is 21 weeks another cousin who is 23 weeks
(they are sisters) So yeah lots of preggers ladies lol
Anyway best go hugs to all the ladies that are struggling and have sick bubbas I feel for ya take care
Crystal
EFB, it is Kaz' bubba who is the advanced roller and toy player, not felix! And he is one of the oldest bubs in the thread but no suggestion of a roll here.
I think it is recommended you start with just 5-10 mins/day of TT and work up as they seem to be enjoying it. Have to say, we are completely slack about it because F doesn't like it. DH was just saying last night we should start doing it.
Kaz, how is Cady's neck going?
Hope to hear an update from you and Lily soon Lisa
Mamaafrica and Pippa, hope you have time to pop in now and then and give us a quick update.
Welcome back bedprincess.
LIH, hope the boys are on the improve.
AFU - Felix has just slept through the 40 min mark, :smiliedance: Tash, I have the vacuum track on in his room , heard him stir and do a little shout at 40 mins, then...silence! That was 20 mins ago.
Coincidence??
Felix slept last night 7pm - 2.30. Could be injections related, but he does do this occasionally, gives me hope we might only have one waking one day in the not too distant future. Then of course had the dreaded 5.30 am, at which we had to change the bed and him because he had spewed from gorging at 2.30. Had just started to settle into a sleep and DH's alarm started, so a long morning here.
:wave: to everyone
:yelclap: F!!!!!
i hope it works Kris!
J slept 10.30-6:eek:
then 6.30-9am:eek::eek::eek:
we have been cluster feeding of a night, 5pm, 7pm and 10pm feed, (there abouts...) and i think that is a HUGE factor in him sleepping thru.
we have done the clster 3 nights now, and long sleeps each one... just thought id pass it on!;)
oh, tt, j hates it, he loves lifting off our chest when diagonal, and is very strong, but hates tt, i think i would to if i suffered reflux eh.
so we only do maybe 2 or 3 minutes a day, maybe...
OMG, he has almost made it to our goal time of 1.5hrs!! Heard some mumbling again didn't eventuate into anything.
Tash, I do a similar thing, feed Felix at about 5/5.30ish off one boob before his bath then really try to get him to settle in for a massive feed at 6.30. Seems to help here too. Might start trying a dream feed again, but I don't think it helps him that much. I also can't stay up until 10.30 ish anyway and he normally doesn't wake until after midnight. I am loath to muck around with our nights as they work well. I am actually quite fine with the two overnight feeds anyway and figure that he is still small and needs to fill up the tank.
I read on an american website that babies will rarely if ever sleep through before they weigh 13pounds because they just can't physically take in enough to sustain them. Think that is about 6kgs?
Of course, reflux, that would be why F hates TT too. He does the same thing on our chests and loves it.
I saw my GP today and she thinks that my bleed isn't AF back, but a bleed due to breastfeeding hormones - I hope it goes away, it's really annoying.
trifecta
14-05-2009, 10:44
Morning ladies, well nearly afternoon..
I've been up quite early, Jacob did a huge poop first thing this morning that needed a bath and change of clothes - lovely way to wake up! I still haven't managed breakfast yet though, a friend phoned while J was sleeping earlier which tied me up.
He's currently sleeping in the bjorn while I sit here as he was terribly grizzly and refused to be put down.
We still seam to feed at least every 3hrs during the day unless we are out and about and he is sleeping. Nights I still think are good even though he still wakes 3 times or so. We also do a cluster feed to get ready for bed from 5pm, he's usually fast asleep by 7:30.
Hope everyone's bub's are getting better, there has been a few colds getting around. Poor munchkins.
Jeca - What is this hormonal bleeding from BF? I've just started spotting again and I'm waiting for it to either get heavier if it's AF or to disappear. Very confusing?!
Oh DH just phoned, his job is coming to an end up here and he has just been given his notice so we may only have 4 more weeks of Bowen! If so we will spend at least a month in N.Z :yelclap: Can't wait. Then come back to Brisbane and buy a house.
BUT he still may stay on and transfer over to the next job but his company is so CRAP that no one is been told who is staying. All the guys are getting fired up and very pi***ed off, so it's all a bit interesting.
Better go hang my 3rd load of washing out and get something to eat.
JLeesmum
14-05-2009, 11:57
hey girls, its been awhile since i posted, been busy here...
well, the night b4 last night, Jyden slept 12 hours solid! from 5.30pm-5.30am:eek: and so did i!, and then last night he slept 11 hours solid! (so sorry, i dont mean to brag..) but the last couple of days hes been screamning the house down at night for about 2 hours, went to the hospital last night, cos its just so not like him, they said could be reflux, but sounds like colic....i think he could be teething...(i think someone else here was having this prob). hes chewing on his hands heaps, but im not sure if thats cos hes just foundhis hands..he was also drooling heaps (i was burping him and it hit the floor!) and has red cheeks...hmmm
the nurse was shocked when i said he feeds 200ml every 3 hours..but then i told her how well hes sleeping and she said thats fine.
**DP RANT*
DP is a shearer and id hands are like on big callous, so ive come to the conclusion that he cant feel how hot the bottle is when he heats it up, ive just realised its DAMN hot. so hard to tell him when hes trying to help me out..
aslo, when i heat a bottle up, i use the microwave, but i heatthe water up, not the milk. he heats the milk....rrr
we both got our $900 yesterday! i exeeded the spending limit on my card...whoops..lol
oh, well, i never do it so im glad i did...thats what rudd wanted us to do with it..:thumbsup:
but on a lighter note, for sum reason DP did a washing day yesterday, he did about 6 loads, i didnt even ask him! (but folded it all up half- wet:o)
EFM- Jyden weighed 3.080 and now is 6.3kg! and in 00
I GOT MY MCN!! im so in lurve..:cloud9: i thought it was a baby beehinds, but it was a mink cushie tushie! i thin kits a tiny bit big still, but so soft and cute... im going to buy another one now :D
o, and AF arrived for me too last week, but not half as painful, or heavy !!! i havnt taken ANY codine (i used to i live on it for 8 days cos it was so painful)
Jy has a strawberry mark on his neck! (about the size of a match head)... so cute
i bought myself some netball shoes yesterday.. ok i gtg, mums here.... have a good day!
felix has had another good sleep, i am now suspicious it is immunisation related.
This is just too funny not to share.
I just had both the girls in the bath and dd2 decided it was a great time to do a poo. dd1 was inconsolable for ages, crying and screaming. i had to ring dh and tell him because i needed someone else who saw the funny side of it. i bet we'll have a few days where she doesn't want to bath with dd2 now:laughing:
:laughing::laughing::laughing:
I still think the funniest part was watching her face as it registered what had happened. So classic - just wish I'd been able to freeze that moment so I could run and get my camera:laughing:. They all poo in the bath sooner or later
Happymumma
15-05-2009, 06:17
Hey
Sorry Kar and Kaz got ya mixed up lol
Ok so i decided im going to the docs today with Jackson he woke up this morning with gunk on his left eye and it is all watery even after i cleaned it with a cotton ball not sure what it is?? Gunna ask them bout my heavy AF too :no:
Jackson has been sleeping really well lately hoping to play cd for him today as well so hopefully his afternoon nap is a bit better morning nap and middle nap are good arvo one not so good which means come dinner time he is soooo grumpy and have been putting him down early at night like 6:00 which results in a 5:00 wake up time before it was 7:00 so gunna try to get him back to 7:00 today and the next few days.
I really hope his eye gets better soon and its nothing serious:no:
Oh well will keep you all posted on the eye situation hope you all have angel babies today and they dont give you much greif
Have a great day
Crystal:flowerz:
yesterday was a fluke. back to 40 mins. :(
I am working on a resettling plan - just did the first round and am already doubting myself.
the plan is to keep resettling him when he wakes until it is time for him to get up, ie, my goal is 1.5hrs from when he first goes to sleep.
i am going to do this every single time for 10 days. if that doesn't work i will throw my hands up and give in completely.
i am not leaving him to cry but we are staying in his room and trying to resettle in the cot, but if he gets distressed i will resettle him in my arms and we will work on it over the course of the next 10 days
well, first round he almost resettled in the cot, then didn't and then full on screamed in my arms for 20 mins. it was horrendous. i just wanted to bring him into the lounge and let him play/feed.
BUT he was so happy yesterday when he had good sleep and was happy all day and was even alert enough to have some good play time with his dad at 5.
Girls (esp those who share my views re cc) , can you please be honest, do you think this approach sounds reasonable, you all know my views about CC and I really struggled to keep going with resettling even in arms when he was clearly hating it. BUT 40 min sleeps are just not feasible and we end up just going up and down all day which i don't think is good for him.
After resettling he has now slept for another hour and 15 so far.
Tash, with the CD is the idea that you put it on loud to help with settling then turn it down but leave it on when asleep? Had no effect whatsoever when he was hysterical but I don't think it was loud enough. Also used one of the womb sound tracks but I think he likes the vacuum.
the environmental tracks (first 6) you play when they are screaming ect, needs to be louder then their screams, HAS to be, dont be afraid to turn it up!!. Once calm, put the track on repeat, lower a bit.
comfort bub, then when they are showing sleep signs, pop them down, lower it, but keep it on repeat.
i know this sounds tacky, but i watched the raising children dvd in the bounty bag. They talked about the fact that if you leave a newborn cry, they will cry more, and louder, because they dont think they are getting the message through to you that they need something.
they said it was complete cr@p that leaving a baby(newborn) to cry will help them self settle, be indepandent, ect, They dont have the capacity to understand. they Do need you to go to them, and if you attend to them at each cry, they will learn they dont have to turn the volume up. well thats what the dvd said:p
J manages about 6 maybe 7 hours of a night now, but he is FF, which im sure makes a difference.
efb, blocked tear ducks are very common in 'newborns', massage the area very gently, your prob at the docs now, so i hope they give you the answers :)
newme, J farted as i put him in the bath night before last, it was pretty funny!
smashlee, we're lucky in that J takes room temp bottles, it makes life SO much easier. when we changed to AR formula, you have to pretty much give it to them at room temp, as when warmed it thinkens up (so when it belly, thickens, stops it from coming back up) could you try offering cooler bottles, and try going to room temp? might make everything easier.
yay for lots of sleep!
sorry, have to leave it there, J is awake:wave:
I completely agree with that and won't leave F to cry in any circumstances. why i am anti any form of CC. Although, I take it a step further and believe it is harmful to their development, not just that it doesn't help/
The thing is I feel terrible even holding/rocking him while he is crying when I know he would stop if I brought him out to the lounge room, but there is just no sign of him learning how to get passed the 40 min mark on his own and he just is exhausted by 12 when he doesn't get a proper sleep and it goes down hill from there.
Have reverted to the vacuum track for this attempt at sleep, I think it is is his favourite. Actually did work to calm his going to bed crying i think.
He ended up sleeping for 1.5hrs after I got him back to sleep. He clearly needs it.
EFB, apparently it is quite normal for that last sleep of the day to be a short one or not happen at all, at least when babies are getting a bit older. But I sure hear you on grumpy overtired bubs
Kar - I think that's a great approach(cos it sounds similar to what I try:p). I did CC with DD1, but she was much older, there's no way I'd just leave DD2 to "cry it out" at this age. At this age, IMO, if you react to their first cry or whimper then you're setting them up to know that their needs will be met in a timely fashion without them getting hysterical. Remember, there is no right or wrong thing to do, just trust your instincts. I know it's better for Indie to be having longer sleeps at each sleep, but I'm not going to stress both of us out trying to make it happen, if it does great, if it doesn't, well no harm(though it makes the day 1000 times easier when she's not tired and grumpy).
Crystal - sounds like it could be a bit of conjunctivitus to me(if it's all gunky). If you are able to express a drop or 2 of milk that really helps clear it up pretty quickly.
My weekend has just gone from nothing on to full on in the last hour. I was already planning to head to the baby markets on sunday, but DH's friend has his b'day party tomorrow night and dad just invited me to mums birthday lunch on sunday, plus DH might be doing some work over the weekend and we have a few things to fix around the house(which need to be done this weekend otherwise it has to wait 3 weeks until DH is back from melbourne and I don't want to wait 3 weeks!)
DD2 has just gone down for her second nap. By the time she wakes and is fed again it will be time to pick DD1 up from kindy, then home for baths, dinner cooking, bedtime - no wonder the days seem to fly by!
Jess I had been going with the flow re day sleeps for the last couple of weeks thinking he would just work himself into some sort of rhythm, which I am sure he would eventually but he is just so so grumpy I think he needs some assistance! Yesterday he had two great day sleeps (immunisation related i think) and he was just so happy and playful all day.
So, I came to the conclusion that he really really needs more day sleeps in decent blocks rather than catnapping and I am going to have to try and help him although it is really hard! That's being a mum isn't it - doing what you think is good for them, not necessarily what is easy!
Thanks for the vote of confidence. OK, 40 mins has just clicked around I must prepare myself for round 2 :laughing:
PS - Your schedule is insane, I only have one baby and decline most invitations I can possibly get out of!
F has been talking to himself for the best part of 20 mins. Well, he is edging closer and closer to getting up time!
trifecta
15-05-2009, 13:26
Kar I'm sure the hard work will pay off for you, keep us informed on the progress. I usually put Jacob to sleep on his belly come the mid afternoon sleep, he always goes at least 2hrs. I know some people aren't comfortable with tummy sleeping, but I always put him in our bed where the mattress is a bit firmer and check him regularly. He loves it.
*Typical just as I was singing it's praises, he's just started crying after 5mins. He has a bit of a sore belly and is grunting to get a poo going poor wee thing. He's lying on the mat here farting away : )
Better go rub his belly....
Yes it is a hectic schedule. You don't even want me to run you through the rest of my weekday schedule! I don't even think about it because I just cringe with how much I'm supposed to fit into so little time then get angry at me when people expect me to still be able to do things "on time":rolleyes:. I'll shut up now otherwise I'll start ranting and raving about people's expectations!
I have never tried F on his tummy, he hates tummy time so i assume he would hate to sleep on his tummy. I do however put him on his side on occasion.
resettled him twice since 3.45, once in cot and once in arms.
Tash, I think the vacuum is helping.
HNB, it is always the way. I firmly believe that you jinx yourself when you say a babe does something a particular way if it is good :laughing:
Well, I think Day 1 has not been too bad. We have had 3 pretty solid sleeps with resettling and only one major screaming session.
Hi Girls,
I'll try not to make this a totally selfish post but we've gotten some bad news today, DP lost his job :crying: couldn't have come at a worse time, his boss can't afford to keep him on so he's been given his 2 weeks notice. Not looking forward to raising a baby on the dole alone but i guess we'll just have to tighten the belt once more until he finds another job.
SOmeone asked about Cady's neck (so sorry girls) its slowly starting to show signs of improvement but one month one and myself and the CHN's are still chasing the specialist for the so-called-referral that's supposed to be happening. No luck yet
Still chasing Centrelink for money, I sat in their office today and took a bag of food and said that I'm refusing to leave until someone finalises my claim and I'll go to the local MP if I have to, I have a 2 month old baby, getting deeper into debt and now my partner hasn't got a job, how are we supposed to support our daughter? They said that my claim has been held up because they've been waiting for a supervisor to push the "approval" button WTF??? I should get my back payments into my account by tuesday, however, they have missplaced the other part of my claim, being the partnered parenting allowance so I have to re-frigging-apply. We're just going to do that when DP goes to apply for the dole, otherwise I'll have to update it in 2 weeks anyway.
As far as Cady goes, things have been going much much easier since I saw the CHN on wed. I've given up trying to put her to sleep in her cot, it's just too hard (Kar - I think this might be similar to what was happening with you) SHe might doze off for a little while but she would be awake again within half hour easy. So now, I wrap her up, plonk myself down on the lounge in front of the TV and let her doze off in my arms, I usually knit around her while I'm holding her lol then I put her down and she's much more settled and seems to stay asleep for around 1.5hrs and has at least 5 good day sleeps now. On Wed night I thought it was a fluke coz she slept for 6hrs, then 4 then 3, but last night she slept for a solid 9hrs! :eek: I woke up at 4am with bursting painful leaking boobs but it was the first decent sleep I've had since she was born. I really do think that there is a strong link between their day and night sleeps. It seems that the better sleep she gets during the day, the easier she is to get to sleep at night and stay asleep. I also put a cot dooner on top of her blankets coz her room gets quite cold so I think that's helped aswell.
If she stirs in the cot before I'm ready for her to get up, then I pat her belly, but keep my eyes closed so she can't make eye contact with me coz that seems to wake her up even more. 9 time out of 10 (aftersome serious persevering) she seems to drift back off with some gentle tummy pats. Occassionally if she gets too upset then I need to take her out for a cuddle again.
:iagree: with what tommo said RE about how the sooner you tend to babies at the first mutter or moan the less they cry in the long run.
ok ladies, thanks for the vent, i might pop back on soon, i've still got FIL and our friend here so its pretty busy.
:hugs: to all
tinytotsmum
15-05-2009, 18:05
hey all well what been happening god so much going on wont be doing many personals as i have a rather large headache at the moment well run down is em WONT be operated on for the pyloric as it is starting to heal itself so i just have to go along with things till it is completely heal and have discovered via docs at hospital em has really really bad reflux as well so she is on losec and AR formula to help out with that seems to be doing an ok job other than making her seriously constipated. and today visited the pysio via referal and one of ems muscles in the side of her neck is shorter that the other so i am back of to them again next week after doing some exercise they showed me quickly.
Tummy time is important and the pysio said that if they winge to leave them for a bit as it is pushing past there limit in building up the muscles in there neck and is very important for them to crawl.
oh and kar with there shots they are prone to sleep heaps after them em did and i was told it would happen cos em was sleeping up to 5 hours and now have gone back to sleeping only 2-3 hours.
and way i have to go back to the hospital again next week or so about ems reflux as they may still operate on that but it is just really a waste of time i go there and they tell me to come back in 2 weeks so over it but hopefully it will all end soon ( cross fingers ) well anyway better run headache getting worse.
quick question has anyone heard of using chiroprator to help with reflux i just had my midwife mention it and 2 other ladies in my mums group has a friend or family member that has tried it and it worked so yeah let me know??
chat soon
Just Add Water
15-05-2009, 18:10
Oh Karice, that sucks! *hugs* Hopefully he finds another job soon. Are you still making things to sell on ebay? I hope that all goes well and makes you some money. Still waiting for you to post the link so we can spread the word for you :)
I was actually going to send you a message... I was reading a thing on baby hammocks and apparently they are really good for kids like Cady (I can't remember what her neck thing is called but know that it was what I was reading about). Because the hammocks are softer than a mattress they lessen the chances of a flat spot on her head and help with the straightening as well. Perhaps you could make one? Though obviously if it's getting fixed then it really doesn't matter...
Hi everyone... I have been reading along but been a bit of a space cadet late LOL. We have had few problems with Bayley in regards to really bad wind. He has been screaming so much with the pain, poor little man. We were giving him infants friend & gripe water with each feed, plus coloxyl here and there to soften things up for him. I ended up changing his formula on Wednesday night as he wasn't really sleeping due to being in so much pain. He would get a few hours early evening and then just wake up with this blood curdling scream that was god awful. So we kicked the Karicare Gold + and we are now using Bellamy's Organic Formula. He had his first feed with it on Wednesday night and started farting halfway through his bottle and hasn't really stopped since LOL. He slept really well on Wednesday night and then had proper sleeps yesterday and then he slept well again last night, though he did get a small stomach ache at about half six this morning but it was over quickly. Bit concerned now as he has now got green poo... blech. But he is definitely more relaxed, much happier and just back to being my chilled out little man.
I had a lovely mother's day - the kids gave me some amazing presents - a soft toy air freshener, a glass full of m&m's and a photo frame. Oh & a DSi :) We took my MIL out for a late lunch and then had close friends over for dinner which was a great end to the day.. unfortunately it hadn't started too well as the kids were over at their mothers and DH had had to get the police over there the night before as she was threatening to kill Miss 6 as she didn't like her behaviour. They did a welfare check and decided the kids were fine to stay overnight... then Miss 6 tells us that she got hit with the belt on Sunday morning. They also got told that they shouldn't be doing anything with me for mother's day. So it has been a hard week with the kids as their stress levels were up and it is all confusing for them (and for us too!). I really wish she'd die. I've been told I'm horrible for saying that but I really do. She has done such horrible things to the children and we can't stop them from seeing her. At least if she was dead we could pretend with the kids that she was a half decent mother. Master 9 apparently told his teacher that his mother didn't love him and that he didn't care about her either *sigh*. No wonder they're so messed up.
So anyway, that's where we're at. I'm hoping we're going to Adelaide to do show and tell with Bayley and that we'll go to the morning tea there but still to confirm it.
kaz, thats terrible about your dh! is he in a trade where he is likely to get work again? maybe moving back to your old town might be in the future now? i know you were talking you would like to go back.
i read somewhere about the eye contact, so i avoid it when settling J too.
tj, which AR formula is she on? we started on s26 AR, and had to give J coloxyl drops, cause he got VERY constipated, we switched him to karicare HA AR, and no more constipation. all bubbas are diff tho.
im still so surprised they didnt see to you quicker, when they suspected J of the same thing, they had him in for an U/S within 2 days, and were talking of sending us an hour away to have it done the next day, they didnt because his symptoms eased. but they were getting on top of it so quickly, its really poor that they have been so poor at looking after you.
kar, i take the sleep school was a bit of a no go then?
even if it means a resettle in the arms, starting to get him into the longer sleep patterns will help im sure.
nom, J has green poos too, ive posted a couple of times asking if anyone else has the same:o, its all to do with the formula. i was reading in the sounds for silence book, (written by a pead), that all poo colours are normal except for the st.kilda colours (white, black and red).
im glad the new formula is going well, its amazing how they all differ so much, ive heard alot of good things about the bellemys.
Geez, the ex sounds shocking, im sorry you have to deal with what sounds like a vile women.
oh, re day sleeps, the MCHN said that sleep is condusive of more sleep, so if they sleep more during the day, they will sleep better at night. i must confess, i was worried if he slept more during the day, that he wouldnt sleep at all at night, but he generally is doing at least one good day sleep
where as when he wasnt doing day sleeps (agh), he was lucky to get 3-4 hours at night, might be nothing but, might be something too??
he wasnt a sleepy baby, but has been so much better in the last week or so, dh siad to me, you're looking so much happier the last few days...
yeah, funny how a bit of sleep and a baby sleeping for some of the day and not SCREAMING all day helps you feel a touch more zen eh:rolleyes:
so as you can see, j has been sooooo much better, i feel human, like i can cope with all of this! still unsure about the next one tho:laughing:
i must apologise for my very poor grammar and spelling, its getting worse each day, i try to type so quickly (and usually one handed!) that i just type it in, and dont bother with the logistics, so i hope you can all handle my very poorly written posts:o
ok, must dash, dh has gone to get take away for dinner. should be back shortly, yay for no cooking, LOL.:wave:
we didn't go to sleep school, was just a seminar with some tips and advice. it was by my guru Pinky McKay, but i would have to say it wasn't actually very helpful and was really just a marketing opportunity for her. she was pushing her books HARD. Was quite disappointed actually and i know a couple of ladies sent complaining emails. All she did was provide the info that is in her books and available online.
spent about an hour on why cc is bad for babies. everyone who was at the bloody seminar would have been anti cc, that is why we were there!! help us to encourage sleep without cc.
Didn't actually provide any real advice for dealing with sleep issues. Her advice re catnapping babies was "well, resettling is often a stressful waste of time. lots of babies don't need more than one cycle, but if your baby is waking up grumpy try resettling".
gee, thanks, very helpful :rolleyes:
Oh Kaz, that is terrible news.
OK, i am going to bed, i am stuffed after this week for some reason.
yeah we may as well go home, we're no better off here in fact, we're in a worse position. The whole point of moving to the city was for his job and for that we sacraficed our friends, family, community, our home and our lifestyle only to be told, yeah we can't afford to employ you any more. pfft, what a joke... at least DP could get cash in hand work back home working as a farm hand and working for his step dad. hmmm now we just need to save $2000 to move home...:gloomy:
Just Add Water
15-05-2009, 22:16
Tash - sorry I must have missed you asking that... though Bayley only started doing them today so perhaps I did read it but it didn't process properly since I couldn't help you - like I said I am a total space cadet lately... sorry, hun! I thought it may have just been the formula - thanks for the info (yet again :) ).
I'm pretty sure he's teething too.... I said it to DH a few days ago and he said he hoped not since DSS1 teethed early and his baby teeth were really chalky. Then today we've got red cheeks, lots of drooling over the last couple of days, rubbing his gums with his hands or his dummy (he spits it out and then pushes it back with his hands). I've given him some panadol and he's having a sleep so hopefully he'll feel better tomorrow.
I feel a bit odd at the moment about this whole parenting thing, which if I'm honest is part of the reason I haven't been posting. I have three older step kids who I feel like I've been "pretending to parent" for the last 3 years. Now that I've got Bayley I feel like I'm now entitled to be a proper parent, like I've finally come off my learners... but then I read all the posts about sleep routines and settling issues and I don't really fit in there either. So here I am with 3 kids who I didn't give birth to but who I would kill for and a baby who has just slottled into the family and I'm really relaxed around. We don't have a routine for him, he generally curls up on the lounge with one of us at night and then he'll go in his bassinett at some stage, or he'll stay with us. During the day he'll nap either on the lounge, in my arms, in his bassinett or swing or even on the floor. He loves lying on a blanket on the floor and quite often falls asleep there mid conversation (the roof is getting used to be cut off LOL). I didn't freak out about his needles, I actually had him and DSS2 done at the same time, but then I keep hearing that other people have ended up in tears from watching their children get needles, I know friends who have felt absolutely devastated about taking their children.
Maybe I'm just too practical - it's needs doing so I do it. I don't know. Just unsure of where I really fit at the moment. Don't feel like a new mum, but don't feel like an old one either.
Ok so now I'm just being a miserable git and a rambling one at that!
Happymumma
16-05-2009, 07:57
Hey
Kar- try not to stress yourself hey I was like that trying all sorts of things to get Jackson to sleep longer and the more I tried the more down I got so I just gave up and thought screw it im a mum now and if he wants to be held to go to sleep so be it I was going insane this was never meant to be easy I said to myself so if this is what I have to do suck it up and do it !!! I couldn’t let him cry I wasn’t confident enough and my instincts told me that’s not what he wanted he just wanted me! So I gave up and low and behold the little bugger went down the next day for two hrs in the morning!!! I was shocked mind you the next couple of sleeps were 45 mins but I remembered the same routinue and stick to it now some times it works sometimes it doesn’t but I TRY not to get to dishearted when he wakes after 45 mins its hard but tomorrow is a new day!! Now he is getting better every day I think he sensed my stress levels and now that im not stressing he goes down longer!
(That’s if your into positive thinking) Chin up it will get better.
Tommo- Thanx for the cd again lol haven’t really needed it yet but im armed and ready just incase oh sorry I tell a lie I put the Mozart tracks on low for him yesterday he seemed to like it lol
Smashlee- our bubba has room temp bottles now too it was too much heating them all the time tell your hubby as well that microwaving bottles causes hot spots in the milk so it may feel ok to us but there could be a hot spot in there that can burn there little mouths L
I too agree Karice with the link between day sleeps and better night sleeps !!!!!
TJ – Yeah I have heard of chiro for reflux not too sure on the info but it would defiantly be worth it I say !
Nomadic- Occassionally Jack will have a green poo here and there nothing to worry bout apparently !
That’s so sad about the kids my hubbys nephews are in the same boat lately and his brother is trying so hard to get custody of them she is basically a dole bluddger she has seven kids to 4 different guys and her most recent bub who is 4 months was born so she could get more money and didn’t have to look for jobs and she will tell you that as well!!!
Hopefully things will get better eventually!
Don’t worry im the same as you I don’t really stress but all that much and Jack is an awesome bub sometimes I think its meant to be harder sometimes but you sound relaxed so your bubba is relaxed nothing wrong with that you fit in with your life style your friends and your family if you were someone else then you would not fit in!!! If that makes any sense lol I still don’t feel like a new mum I feel like ive been doing it for years and im only 26 lol Its because you are so happy and relaxed!!
As for us Jack has conjunctivitis I think someone said it could have been that got him some drops which I was a bit worried bout giving him cause last night he threw up his WHOLE bottle all over both of us I had to change him and myself and clean the lounge!! It was weird cause he has never done that before he had a slight temp as well so was freakin out all night but he woke up this morning eye a lot better and he was happy as took a full bottle and no throw ups so not sure what that was all about I guess he just wanted to keep me on my toes!!! Lol
Other than that every thing els is just peachy!!!!
Any way I think I covered all the personals sorry if I missed anyone this post is huge oh well take care chat soon!!
Crystal :flowerz:
oh tj, we take J to the chiro, he's been every week since he was 2 weeks old, we're scaling back now to once a month,
j is so calm the day we have him done,lol, they work on getting everything right, we still have j on medication, but i think its def worth a try to help, just make sure they are qualified for babies, cause babies chiro is heaps different to adult chiro:)
Crystal, we had been just going with the 'whatever' approach and F is just getting crankier and crankier. He had got to the point where he could only be up for about 45mins before he started to crack it and then would only sleep for 20-40mins and the cycle would repeat until by about 3pm complete hysteria (his and mine!) had set in. We have been doing this since he was about 8wks old and he is almost 12 now. Unfortunately I think some intervention is required. I still hold him to sleep and am not even thinking about moving to trying to get him to self settle at the moment, just settle at all! I actually love cuddling him to sleep, just not when he is screaming in my face :laughing: We NEVER leave him to cry.
Hope the conjunctivitis clears up quickly.
Nomadic, I think you should just trust yourself as a very instinctual and in tune mummy. I didn't have a fit about the immunizations either. Needs to be done, he will cry and then he will get over it. Precisely what happened. Goodness, teeth early, what a pain!
Tash, your spelling and grammar is forgiven, must confess I hadn't noticed it was bad.
TJ, hope Em gets the treatment she needs soon.
Have a good weekend everyone.
LivingINhope
16-05-2009, 20:10
Karice – I am so sorry to hear DP lost his job and that centre link are less than helpful, holy cow can’t believe cady slept for 9 hours. I hope you save some money quickly to get home to your support network.
TJ – glad to hear little em is getting better and has avoided surgery, great news! Thank goodness the reflux is diagnosed so much easier when medicated. I am talking to an osteopath about Lucius reflux and it has been known to work.
Nomadic – Glad to hear baileys belly is getting better, little Lucius has wind like no tomorrow also actually he outs his father to shame :D It always breaks my heart when I read about your Dhs monster ex and what she does to her children, thank goodness they have you. I hate to say it but if she just wasn’t around it would actually be easier for the kids I agree with you, maybe you can convince her to move interstate…
Kar – bummer the seminar was a fizzer, your ECHN would know of other sleep seminars I am sure. It does sound like its time to sort out the sleep cycle with Felix, its really not fair for either of you when he is overtired. Gosh DS1 was just like that no one believed me until we went to day stay centre, the problem is they fight sleep so much and don’t settle which makes them worse and if they have reflux even worse again.
EFB – conjunctivitis poor little Jack, I am glad to hear he is feeling better.
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Well DH has been with his mother for the past 3-4 days helping her move house, so I have been juggling 2 sick kids, sleep deprivation and eventually yesterday ended up with mastitis. I feel so bad I have yelled at Sebastian non stop and even told off Lucius for crying, I am so exhausted and sick and DH is so involved with his Mum he really should not leave me in this condition.
When I get mastitis I get crazy and I am not supposed to be alone its like being severely post natal. I can't work anything out even turning on the stove when I have it is bad, DH idea of being here for me is getting home between 10-12 at night and getting up with Ds1 for a few hours and leaving. I am still waiting for him to come home he was supposed to be here before the kids went to bed, yet again we take a back seat to my MIL.
Well I am off to finish cleaning the house and get ready for our Sydney trip tomorrow and sleep, no doubt I will be responsible for everything again tomorrow.
amanda, hun, i dont blame you for being over it! look how much you have on your plate!!!
you have so much to deal with, dh really does need to help you, the last thing you need is getting PND too, which wouldnt be at all surprising with your situation, i dont know how you you are managing, i wish i was closer to help.
you are doing a fantastic job, absolutley fantastic, you are an amazing women.:hugs:
Gosh, quiet in here this weekend. Guess most people have better things to do :laughing:
Amanda, :hugs: Like Tash I really don't know how you manage with everything you have on your plate. DH really needs to work out his priorities. It is understandable that he needs to help his mum move, but he needs to be there for you and the kids while you are sick.
Why oh why do they fight it so much?? Since starting on losec we at least can get felix down during the day now, it is staying that way that is now the challenge. We still have a 2-10 minute scream (which i have learned to live with and not take as a sign he is traumatised by going to bed. i actually think he needs to have a yell before sleep, he does it in his pram too. will be happy as larry, start yelling and then be asleep within a couple of minutes) when i swaddle him, then he goes straight off to sleep. And wakes exactly 40 mins later.
The good side is he sleeps at night. longest stretch ever last night, 7pm - 3am :eek: Needless to say exploding boobs! Then up at 6.40, so only one night feed. The dog however woke me at 1 barking to come in. Felix actually woke at 1, talked to himself for a couple of minutes then the next thing i knew it was 3!!
:laughing:kar, i was gunna post a bit of a nudge cause it was so quiet, lloks like i have about as much as you to do!!:laughing::laughing:
yay for the long stretch, not so yay about the dog eh!
poor J is doing those horrid farts, you know, the ones that burn:o i hope you know what im talking about, i hope its just the change in his digestive system (6-8weeks, he now 7 weeks)
ok, he is down to sleep, must go and put my feet up with dh for his only day off, YET AGAIN!:(
(oh he let me sleep till 11 this morning, :o yay)
3 days in and I think I am giving up. I just don't have it in me to deal with the screaming. Today he has not resettled once. Has just screamed in my face for 45 minutes with no sign of stopping. He is miserable, I am miserable. But, he can seriously only stay up for 40 - 45 minutes before he is cracking it. This has been going in cycles since 6.30 am this morning.
I don't know what to do and DH is useless because he just says "whatever you think". I know 3 days is not long enough to expect any change, but I just don't think I can do this for another week. I get so frustrated and upset that the tension is just running out of me into him, so there is no chance of him resettling.
God, have a pregnant friend coming over and I am in tears, good advertisement for having a baby.
tinytotsmum
17-05-2009, 14:17
Kar - i would take bu to a hospy if you can fill them in and just tell them what is happening as there could be something else and if not they may keep you in for a day or 2 just to give you a bit of a break and make sure everything is right i had 4 days in princess margret and they were great and we found the really bad reflux which is helping so might be worth a go and if i can just say if your df says what ever you think just go my dh was like that with em when i was thinking of taking her to hospy cos she was the same and i waited another week till i saw the specialist and got rushed there so just go and i am sure they will try to help you out.
just a thought from someone who has been through the same with em and really wish i had tken her sooner.
tinytotsmum
17-05-2009, 14:21
kar em is on losec as well and it worked well for a bit but it is starting to not work as well i dont think and her vomits are getting bigger and bigger again but i have to go back and speak to the surgeons again anyway mind you with em the losec worked straight away and i thought that was what was ment to happen so i would take bub to hospy for sure just to make sure it is working correctly speaking of whichy poo she is up better run.
kris, i so wish i was closer to you to give you a break!!:(
i know how horrible that 'whatever you think' can be, why cant you bloody well come up with some answers?!?!!
i know what you mean by the tension running from you to him, when i get frustrated i try my best to focus on calming down, but gosh kris, after 45 minutes of screaming, i dont know how i would refocus, is dh helping??
do any of the hospitals have sleep specialists on hand to help, a girl said to me down here that one of the midwives is trained in sleep therapy, and to see her if J doesnt improve.
oh, as for talking to pregnant women, i am not an advocate for this baby caper yet either, dont worry;) you're not the only one.
:hugs::hugs::hugs:you know where im at if you need to chat, i know just how miserable things are at the moment kris.
just remember, you are a great mum, you are doing SO much for felix, i know there seems like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but there will be, :hugs:
TJ - felix has been pretty spewy again in the last couple of days. Doesn't have any pain though.
Well, I added it up and F has slept a total of 2.4 hours out of 12 (well, he still hasn't gone to sleep so 12.5 hrs and counting) today. And that was in four different goes none of which lasted longer than 40 mins. I am steeling my resolve to stick with the plan for the allocated 10 days. By his feed tonight he way quite hysterical pulling on and off the boob, eyelids bright red and swollen. Falling into a coma sleep on the boob then jerking out. He is utterly exhausted. Barely has cracked a smile since 1pm.
As hard as it is to witness and deal with his screaming at going back down, it is seriously for his own good. Days like today just cannot be good for him and as anti intuitive it feels to support him through the crying rather than get him up/out of his room I have to do it.
DH is actually very supportive in reality. When I was talking about whether it is worth it, he said that we really do need to stick it out for at least a week to expect any noticeable change and that as hard as it is it really is for his own good.
I just need to try and work on some strategies for keeping myself calm thought it and not ending up in tears myself.
Hi everyone!
Hope you all had a good weekend.
Kar - :hugs::hugs: I’m so sorry that you're having such a rough time at the moment… all that crying would be extremely difficult to deal with. You are doing a fantastic job with Felix under the most trying circumstances. It probably doesn’t feel like it at the moment, but things will get better. I went through a difficult couple of months with DS2 when he was around 3-5 months old - I could not BF while we were out anywhere, he would just scream and even at home I ended up feeding in a dark room lying on a bed. My DH was supportive (well as much as he could be) but I probably could have made it easier on myself if I sought help. I remember crying to my DH saying that I thought it was supposed to be easier with the 2nd baby at home, it certainly didn’t feel like it at the time. Thankfully, DS2 outgrew this phase and was much more settled after a couple of months. I would definitely seek some professional help as the amount of crying you are having to deal with seems quite a lot - if you don’t think it’s to do with his reflux it may be worth talking to your Child Health Nurse to see if there are any day clinics you could attend to help with settling (not sure if it’s the same in Victoria, but here in Adelaide the Child Youth Health centres often have day-stay facilities). As a short term measure is it possible for you to take a short break outside the house while DH (or another trusted family member or friend) looks after Felix? I hope your friend’s visit went well today… not a bad thing for her to get a realistic picture of what life with a baby is like. I’m always here if you need to chat. Hope you have a good night tonight. …Just read your latest post, wow 2.5 hours isn’t much sleep in 12 hours no wonder he is so out of sorts - and you’re right, this can’t be good for him (not to mention you!). I hope he has a decent stretch of sleep soon so he can get himself into a better pattern. If you think the plan you are using is what’s best for Felix then it’s worth sticking with the plan and not chopping and changing before it’s had a chance to work - I hope you and DH can enlist some support to deal with this phase.
LIH - :hugs: you poor thing, dealing with mastitis and 2 sick little boys. It’s a shame your MIL couldn’t get someone else to help her, as you need all the help you can get. Hope your trip to Sydney went okay. Hope you’re feeling much better soon Amanda, not easy looking after little ones when you’re sick yourself.
Karice - :hugs: so sorry to hear that DP has lost his job. I hope that a better opportunity comes his way very soon!
Tj - I hope that Emily doesn’t end up needing surgery. I hope things get better for you soon, you deserve some good luck.
Nomadic - I think you’ve been a “proper parent” for some time now. Parenting 3 step children as well as you do is admirable, particularly with the vile ex - those kids are so lucky to have you. A mother doesn’t just give birth to a baby… as you said, you would kill for those kids - it’s what you do after the baby is here that makes you a mother. It’s great that Bayley has just slotted in to your family and you are so relaxed. Sounds like you don’t need to worry about routines, settling etc. Hope you make it down to Adelaide soon! I’ve seen a thread with details of the planned BH morning tea in Adelaide, so I’m keen to try and make that too.
EFB - Hope Jackson’s conjunctivitis is getting better. He may have thrown up due to having a fever.. our boys have done that before. Sounds like his sleep is going well, good for you!
Tommo - hope you got a chance to relax with DH on his day off. Hope Joshua’s little bottom is okay after those burny farts.
NewMe - it must be the week for pooing in the bath! I had the lovely job of fishing out DS2’s work tonight and then disinfecting everything and re-bathing DS2 - thankfully DS1 wasn’t in the bath with him. He hasn’t done that in ages… not the loveliest job for a Sunday night!
A big hello to everyone else too! And hugs to those who are having a difficult time at the moment. Sorry girls could only manage personals for the last 2 pages of posts. Thinking of you all and hope you and your bubs are doing well.
AFM - I am trying to kick a bout of laryngitis which I came down with on Friday afternoon (just as I was getting the boys ready to go away for the weekend with their Dad, 2 uncles and granddad for the first time). I could barely talk yesterday and am doing my best Bonnie Tyler impression today. So it’s been reasonably quiet here at home over the weekend (apart from my coughing!), lovely to just spend some time with my little princess. The boys had an absolute ball while they were away, it was lovely to see them when they got home tonight though. I managed to catch up with a couple of friends I hadn’t seen for a while and did some clothes shopping for the kids this afternoon. I even managed to test out the Nintendo DS that I got for Mother’s Day… started my Brain Training!
Lily is doing very well… I’m so loving all the smiles, giggles and cooing. She still wants to be mostly awake between 9pm and 1am - it can be quite difficult to get her down for any length of time during this time of night. Her day sleeps are quite good and she is starting to do 5-7 hour stretches at night (not consistently but getting there). I can’t believe she is going to be 12 weeks old on Tuesday.. she is getting so big now!
Anyway, must get to bed… hope you all have a good sleep!
Talk to you soon!
Lisa :hugs:
Morning Girls
Kar - I didn't realise just how little sleep F is getting. I agree with others opinions. If you've got the patience and determination to hang in there another few days to try to see some improvement on the re-settling, than it's definately worth trying. But if you think it's just stressing you out, I would stop now for your own sanity and enlist profession help - CHN is a great place to start, but make it extremely clear to them that you are against CC(whilst CC is their most common approach, they do have settling and resettling options that are not CC). A lot of it will be things that you've already tried, but the difference might be in you having some support from someone who is not upset and stressed from the crying. They also may notice something that you're missing(not saying you don't know F best, just that in there may be something underlying there that the trained eye might pick up a bit easier/faster iykwim). Now I wish I was going to go to melbourne this week, I would gladly have offered some help/support where I could, but unfortunately I've decided not to go. :hugs:
Karice :hugs:. I'm so sorry to hear DP has lost his job. I will keep my eye open for anything going and let you know. When DD1 was about 3 mths old DH lost his job. It was an extremely upsetting, stressful and worrying time. Thankfully back then DH was able to pick and choose the job and conditions he wanted, so he took a easy going, average paying job for 6 mths while he set up the company. I know it doesn't seem like much of a comfort atm, but things will improve, whether that's staying here or heading home. I'm here if you want to chat. :hugs:
Jeca - find any bargains yesterday? I didn't end up buying but it was an eye opening experience. I couldn't believe the line up when I got there - crazy!
Lisa - Sounds like a lovely weekend for you and great that the boys enjoyed their weekend too. Hope the Laringitus clears soon.
LiH - I hope that MIL's move is finished so that you've got your DH back. I hope the boys are on the mend :hugs:
At this time of the day that's about all the personals I can muster:o. I got up just after 4 and won't sleep again til tonight now and yesterday morning I was up at 3, so I'm feeling a little weary already and know I'm going to be buggered come dinner time tonight. DD1 has kindy today though, so at least that will take some of the pressure off me.
Things have been ok here. I've been feeling really down for about a week now. Going to have a check in with the gp today - better to get on top of things early.
Saw my parents yesterday for my mums birthday lunch. Was a nice day out. Mum told me that dad's looking to go back into the defence force again. He's been offered a really good paying desk job here in his old regiment, so he'll probably take that. Hopefully it won't take him around the country again so that they aren't moving away from the girls.
DH is off to on friday for basically 2 weeks to melbourne. Should be an interesting time. I'm worried about how I will go with both of the girls and having to keep an eye on the business too. I don't sleep well at the best of times, so I often listen to an audio book to help me drift off to sleep but I don't hear the kids so I can't do that, and I already sleep awfully when he's away, so I suspect I'm going to have rough sleep for the next few weeks. Tempting to even go spend a few nights at my folks place just so I can get some sleep:o.
Anyway, the household(expect for DD2) is wide awake and rearing to go, so I'm back to bed to watch the morning news.
subaruforestermum
18-05-2009, 07:51
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thanks girls, am going to book in to a day stay service for this Thursday through my maternity hospital. can't believe i could get in so fast. am just waiting for them to call me back so i can explain my views re CC and make sure we are in sync. in our pre natal classes run through the hospital they were quite anti CC so I assume it will be the same.
when it is your first it is hard to recognise what is not just being a baby and needs some support.
i completely agree that an objective and professional eye may well be able to point out some things that we are missing.
sorry girls, self absorbed at the moment. will try and do some personals later - i have exactly 27 mins to shower and clean my teeth have breakfast and get a cup of decaf tea!
Kar - that's great that you can get in so soon!
SFM - Thanks for the vote of confidence. My moods have been a bit all over the place, especially the last week or so, hence why I'm so worried about being home alone with the kids.
I really need to stop looking at MCN's this morning, my wish list is $650 and counting:o. But I just may have to get rid of some of that off the wish list and just buy some(just a few:laughing:). I figure if I buy some now then they'll arrive just after DH goes away and it might help distract me from the fear of being out numbered by the little people. Or at least I'll keep telling myself that;)
tinytotsmum
18-05-2009, 12:18
kar glad you can get help self absorbed no your not you have an unwell bub and i know how hard it can be especially when it your first good luck with your stay hope it helps.
Kar - I am sorry you're having such a rough trot. I was similar with DS1 and ended up calling out a baby whisperer when he was 10 weeks old. It cost me $200, but it was worth every cent and improved things no end.
NewMe - you know I'm here if you need some company or some space while your DH is in Melbourne - call me anytime. My DH is going away for 6 weeks in June/July back early August as I mentioned the other day so I'm going to be ringing you LOL!! Got a couple of bargains. I picked up "Sleep Right, Sleep Tight" for $2 - I haven't read it, but thought it might be useful if we get sleep issues with Millie. I also got the cutest pair of little leather soft shoes for Millie - they're pink with kitty cat faces on them - brand new too, so adorable. Got a couple of other things too, but it was CHAOS wasn't it. I've been going to those since the first one and that was definitely the craziest I've ever seen it. I hear you on the lack of sleep - Millie's getting really congested overnight and being a baby she doesn't know to switch to breathing through her mouth, so she gets sadder and sadder - I've been sleeping with her propped up on me while I sit up in bed for the last 3 night and I'm shattered, can't relax properly so wake every 20 mins or so - I so hope this cold passes soon.
Suby - good to see you about! Gotta love the dummy! We got Millie onto hers with the Nuk brand ones too, now I'm buying the Coles own ones which also have a half cherry and she loves them.
My house is quiet, both the boys are having quiet time in there rooms and Millie is just grumbling (darn, was hoping to say she was sleeping so I could get a rest, no such luck - grrr). Just shoved the plug back in - I'm so glad she takes a dummy :)! Other than Millie's horrible cold we are all doing well here!
TuesdaysPrincess
18-05-2009, 12:39
Hi girls
Sorry to read about people being sick and having struggles with babies not sleeping. I truly hope things start to get better for you all soon, and hope that Thursday helps you get a bit more settled time Kar. :hugs:
Just a quick note to say hi, I read all the posts but have little time to write anything. My parents came over from Perth for the last week to meet Benji and have Mum's 50th, so it was so nice having them here. They left my house about 20 minutes ago to fly back though, so I'm pretty upset. My mum's my best friend, and I get so lonely when she's not here.
Benji is going along really well, waking only once a night (usually about 4am). Thank goodness for Losec, we had to increase his dose but it has made the world of difference to us. He's all smiles and giggles now, it's just lovely.
Sebastian will be 2 in six weeks, it's so scary! It goes by so fast! I can't believe Benji will be 10 weeks old on Wednesday!!
Anyways, we are all doing well - I've lost about 13kg since having Benji (and I've still got a fair bit to lose!), we're just trying to be really healthy and set a good example for Sebby.
LOL to those whose little ones like to poo in the bath - that seems to be Sebby's favourite game at the moment!! Cheeky monkey! At least Benji is too little to bathe with Sebby, otherwise that would be too gross to even think about!
:hugs:to you all!!
Happymumma
19-05-2009, 06:33
Just popping in to say hi no time for personals sorry guys but will pop in this arvo and see how you are all doin
Have a good day
Crystal
trifecta
19-05-2009, 07:42
All the best with the day stay Kar, I would be interested to hear what they say. You are doing a wonderful job, don't get to disheartened with what you believe is best for Felix. So hard though, your a stronger woman then I.
Kylieb- Nice to hear from you, good on you for loosing 13kg! That's awesome. I've lost 10kg so far, so only 4kg off what I was pre preggo, but would like to loose a bit more. Still can't fit half my clothes that I could wear upto about 18w! Don't understand that one.
Jeca and Suby, Jacob still doesn't take the dummy, he just gags on them. I've tried every shape there is and he occasionally takes the avent ones, but he really doesn't like them. He has such a strong suck reflex too, so it's his hand at the moment or just his little jaw going up and down on it's own which is quite cute. A dummy would make things a bit easier though to calm him down.
We have our needles at 10, he's still fast asleep so hopefully he wakes soon so I can feed, bath and dress him before then. Then the cat is getting her annual injections tomorrow! Ha a house full of grumpiness.
Hi to everyone, have a good day.
Just Add Water
19-05-2009, 09:08
Morning,
Just a quick one as we're about to head out... thought I'd post this link for those who aren't on my facebook :)
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=110625&id=602177834&l=6b451758d9
Because obviously you are all as keen to see my baby as I am! LOL.
eeyorethedonkey21
19-05-2009, 10:39
hey everyone been a while since ive posted. i'm reading along just dont have the brain strength to post really. big :hugs: to everyone.
took nathan for his 8 week needles yesterday. poor buggah absolutely hated me yesterday for it. good thing i took the ergo with me as we had to go into the city afterwards cos dh had a meeting to go to. man i love my ergo. :yes: nathan now weighs 5.3kgs (well he did last wednesday) so he's definitely not as quick a grower as james was. i've only just got him into 000's
oh crap gotta go foxtel guy is here. :wave:
Does anyone want a 3yo? OMG she's driving me nuts today. I was over it before 8:30 this morning, so we went out and I parked at the opposite end of the shopping centre to what I needed just so that she would have to walk the length twice and hopefully wear some of her energy out of her.:laughing: But then I made the mistake of buying her a hot chocolate and a plate of pofferjes to share with me... woops!
I've finally got her settled playing with her little people, but I can feel tomorrow is going to be another "mummy's feeling crazy" day if this weather stays up(miserable rainy day here and too cold to even play in her playground which is under cover). Oh well.
Indie's cracking it now, better run!
J had his needles yesterday too, took them alright, had a scream, by the time we were out of the doc's office he was sleeping in the pram, we went out for a walk afterwards and he was ok. when he did wake he was a cranky so and so, but he's been cranky for a few days now, so, hmmm.
can anyone help with sleeping?
So he is doing a fairly good sleep over night now, but he doesnt go down till SO late!
he doesnt go down till 11.30-12.00pm, wakes around 5.30 for a feed,
back down at 6.15ish till 8, then another feed, pretty much sleeps thru, then awake around 10.
by the time it gets to 11pm im shonked! any ideas on how i can change him to going to bed earlier????
his last feed is 9.30-10.30, just depends on when he wants it really, and i try settling him as soon as i've finished, but he honestly takes that 1-2 hours to get to bed of a night.
i hope we improve soon!
DH RANT
i got ultra snappy with dh, (just h today thanks!!)
anywho, he said he would do the morning feeds a few weeks ago, so the 7ish feed he would do, J has woken at 5.30, 6.00, 6.30, 7.00, 7.30 on numerous mornings, not once has he got out of bed!!! they are too early, or too late, bla!
j went down at 12.30 last night, up at 5, down at 6, back up by 7.30, back down by 8.00, up at 10.30, soooo, when i went back to bed at 6, it would have been *nice* to perhaps sleep till 8.30, get 2 hours. but no, i got up,
he got up about 10 minutes later, got his brekky, bla b;a bla, doesnt offer me anything, i snapped at him, put j to bed and went back to bed myself!
so he cracked it, 'i have to get to work', yeah yeah, seems it doesnt matter what time J wakes up, oh, dont have time!!
Booo!! :hair: ok, sorry to any one who actually read that, im so annoyed with him at the moment, the business is just SO much more important than us...
and im so sick of everyone singing his praises! agh, no, he is not a frickin prefect husband! he works constantly, is a grump half the time, and everyone thinks, oh, he's such a nice guy tho, he must be a great help, uh, no, i do all the housework, all the cooking, all the bookwork, look after J for hmmm, 23.5 hours of the day...:dizzy: ahh, rambling, just not happy with him at the moment...
so after getting all that out, ive run out of time, il be back for personals in a bit... maybe once i calm myself down!:cool:
hubnbump - My boys were both exactly the same, I couldn't get either them on a dummy and they now suck their thumbs for all they're worth most of the time! Don't stress if Jacob doesn't want one - he'll learn to self soothe which is much easier than replugging the dummy!
LivingINhope
19-05-2009, 15:58
Kar - :hugs: DS1 was the same as Felix and I did day stays and eventually residential full week stays. We woman think we should do it all by ourselves, sadly that is what people make us feel like. We used to live in tribes and all of the woman especially the elders were in charge of taking care of the children and assiting the mothers. I hope you catch up on some much needed sleep also while you are there:hugs:
Jeca - DS1 wouldn't take a dummy but DS2 loves it I'm with you having a sanity plug is great:laughing:
Kyleighb - Oh my Sebi went through the whole poo in the bath thing around the same age, infact if he was having trouble I used to give him a bath and whip him out and oput a nappy on:laughing: I think you've done a greet job with your weight loss and think its great you are loosing weight and getting helathy to show your boys how to live, I am in the process of doing the same thing.
Hubnbump - I know its to late now but the best thing you can do is BF after the needles so bubs forgets all about what happend. Hope all went well.
Nomadic - bailey is gorgeous (god I am soooo clucky, I know its bad) and I love his little outfits.
Eeyorethedonkey - glad to hear Nathan has out on good amount of weight and hope he is coping well with the aftermarth of his shots.
Newme - pity we don't live close by our 3yo could wear eachother out, this rain is a killer. I have taken Seb out as much as possible to stop the wrath that is a bored cooped up 3yo but alas it has still been trying.
Tommo - Most Dhs are oblivious to how much we do and say things just like your DH, mine was up at 5.30am with our 3yo and when I got up the house was a mess and he had just napped on the lounge. When I told him I needed a shower he got mad and said he needed to go to work:banghead: needless to say my head span backwards and some garbled demonic stuff come out of my mouth...so I had a lovely shower in the end.
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Well I ams till very sleep deprived and exausted but getting a little better, the haze is lifting. I am finding myself wanting no3 already am I insane...man I tell you the whole body clock thing must be in top gear. I suppose I am 32 and would like to have all of my kids before I am 35 so no time like now...well maybe I'll make myself wait till next year to start trying.
I am off to cook dinner!
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