Another Lost

[lediva]

:gloomy: Just past 10 weeks preg and for some reason I feel the need to have a scan.... This worries me!
Because generally womens instincts on these matters are usually right - or at least mine are. I had the scan last Friday and a h/beat couldn't be found and the dating was coming in at 8w and 5 days. Only 3 days after seeing my ob and a h/beat!!
Life can be pretty cruel cant it
I cant believe my run of luck lately. Just last Sept I was diagnosed with a Molar Preg and had a D&C with complications, then had to have constant blood tests for 7 mths before we were even given the all clear to ttc again.
Then the 1st mth trying we conceived only to lose it now!
I've spoken with my Ob and have decided not to go with a D & C again but to have the mc process naturally. This is what I did the 1st time and I know its not at all pleasant but am comfortable with the decision. Still I have no cramping but am waiting anxiously for it. But it was the same time the first mc...If I hadn't had the scan and listened to my instincts you'd think nothing was wrong.
Like an ongoing cycle I'll need to have more b/ts to watch for the decrease on hcg before my ob once again gives us the all clear. Which could take 6-8weeks!
I am so heartbroken. Really didn't think this would happen a third time.
I'm going to be so on edge next time around. Just not sure how many more times I can go through this sadness.

[Mummy2my5]

Big :hugs: to you cara's mum I am so sorry for your loss. I just don't know what else to say,sorry just doesn't seem enough....big :kiss: and :hugs: to you and your family.

[maybe1more]

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I cant believe my run of luck lately. Just last Sept I was diagnosed with a Molar Preg and had a D&C with complications, then had to have constant blood tests for 7 mths before we were even given the all clear to ttc again.

Darl, i know how you feel, i had a molar pregnancy last year in august, i found out i had lost my baby at my 12 week u/s, i also had to wait 6 months before i could concieve again. The worst part was having weekly blood tests untill my levels got down to below 5, and having to go the the hosptial to have them where you see mothers with newborn babies walking passed you and thinking "why did this happen to me". People would say to me, "oh 6 months is nothing it will be here before you know it" Well for me its dragged!!!!
I got cleared in january this year and i fell pregnate the same month like you did, when i got thoses 2 blue lines, i tried to acted like i wasnt pregnant because i didnt want the disappointment of this happening again, lucky all is going well:fingerscrossed: and im 21 weeks but i still get extremely nervous everytime i have a doctors appoitment or an ultrasound.
My heart really goes out to you darl, its the toughest thing in the world to go thru, especially for you to loss another angel, its just not fair. I know right now you feel like you can cope, but please know that you have dont absoultely nothing wrong at all, and nothing you could of done could have prevented this, you are a great mother and you will have another baby. My thoughts are will you, and please feel free to pm me anytime.:hugs: Lots of cuddles to you. Jenn

[Cinta]

Im so sorry to hear of your loss. I have never been through that so i dont know exactly how you are feeling, but i know that if anything ever happened to my little one i wouldnt know how to cope.

I really am sorry, sometimes life can be so unexpected. Its so unfair that things like this happen to good people :( :(

Big :hugs: to you hun...

xxx

[dee dee]

I am so very sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you.

It is very hard to know exactly how someone is feeling, and what they are going through but this site can be an invaluable source of support and comfort.

Just know that I am thinking of you, and if you need to chat pm me any time.

Take care of yourself.

[dna13]

Cara's Mum- My thoughts are with you and your family.:hugs:

I too have just lost my bub, at almost 12 weeks. I didn't find out until my NT scan which was at almost 14 weeks. I am feeling really horrible because i had no idea that my bub had passed away and was looking forward to the u/s. I had a D&C on Wednesday so hopefully it all went well! :fingerscrossed: I guess i will wait and see.

I am thinking of you and am praying that this will never happen to you again and that you will be blessed with a healthy little baby next time around.:hugs:

[bronny-jane]

ok im posting this so you can keep your hopes up.

i had 2 m/c's befor ei concieved my dd 1, then feel pg 6months later with dd2, and about 15 months later concieved my baby im carrying now.

i think fo some of us it takes a while for our bodies to adjust to pg.

and i wish i could say that you wont have to worry next time, but the fact is, that after you have had one m/c you just expect it, so your worried the whole pg, then your worried about the baby once their born, and continue to worry for your whole life:D

:fingerscrossed: i hope next time you get what you want:wave:

[lediva]

Thanks everyone for you encouraging, supportive words.

BronnyJane; Yes the fact that we keep on worrying is absolutely true! With each pregnance their will be alot of worry and anxiety along with it. Not until I'm 12 wks will I be game enough to be excited, IYKWIM...

DNA13 - Your exp sounds exactly like my first m/c :-( I too was unaware of anything being wrong but just a few days before the us I had a bleed! Its a truly nasty experience no matter which way you have it!
Keep Strong Okay... I'm getting stronger each day and am waiting for the okay eventually to try again myself!

1st bub- thanks so much! and a huge congrats on your pregnancy....I'm glad you made it through:-) Molars are so horrible!

[flib]

Dear Cara'sMum

I'm sorry to hear that you've had such a hard time - my heart goes out to you. All the waiting is awful.

I hope letting the baby miscarriage naturally is OK for you. I've been through it at 8 weeks and it was pretty full on. Good luck.

Take care

Flib

[Bel1978]

Hi all, im really sorry to hear of your lost but i have a question if you don't mind answering it.

As i have spoken to you on a previous message i have had 3 M/C, 2 this year. You are all talking about waiting for levels etc to drop i know of this as i had to do the same but your talking months is that the same for a lot of you??

My 1st M/C that i had for this year, i was told by the specialist that the baby's heart was attached to the stomach, that it had hernia ( i hope thats how you spell it), its leg didnt form right etc that list went on... so i had a D/C which was hard as the baby still had a heart beat. That was 2nd March i was 6 weeks pregnant by the end of May but had a straight M/C with nothing showing on my scan.

So what i am asking when you say you had to wait and it can take 6-8 weeks etc is this common?

[Hokey Pokey]

I'm am so so sorry to hear this :crying: