How to deal with bossy 3 year old?!

[Benji]

My 3 yo DS was born incredibly strong willed.

I don't let him get away with whatever he wants, but he will put up a great battle with everything!!!

For example, his friend is here and she is watching cartoons. But, no, he wants to watch Spongebob. So he asks me, I say "no, why don't you play with ..... such and such" he storms over, turns the TV off, says "I wanna watch Spongebob" :hissy: about 50 times until I put him in his room.

He is in his third time out for today (it's only 8 am) and he is like this every day.

He tries to tell me how to make his breakfast, how to do the dishes, how to clean.. he just won't let anything be!

It is really driving me insane, I am getting to the point where I really don't want him any more because my poor head cannot take any more.

I have been sick for months, and this seems to make him worse.

Other than him being in time out 24/7 (I don't smack - doesn't work on him) is there anything else I can do?

[Skittles]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

I wish i knew how to help. but i dont. My DD is the same. I have gone back to work (in a nursing home dementia ward) to get some peace and quiet. :o

[Benji]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

I wish i knew how to help. but i dont. My DD is the same. I have gone back to work (in a nursing home dementia ward) to get some peace and quiet. :o

:hugs: I feel your pain.. I'm looking to get back into full time work for a break!! I'm glad you said that though (sorry hehe) because at least it sounds like it must be fairly normal.





I should add - DS seems to want to make me angry. The other day I took him to see my mum and she said "you're being such a good boy today" and he threw a tanty, proclaiming that he's a naughty boy. When he does things he knows I don't want him to do, he looks at me while he's doing it, waiting for a reaction.

Thing is, I very very very rarely yell and I don't smack :confused: so I don't see what he's waiting for! He just gets put in his room, which he hates. I so need a new strategy, he's too stubborn.

[Skittles]

DD does alot very similar. She will make messes simply because she knows it is wrong. Like pouring sugar all over my couch and carpet. She will tell me everything i am doing wrong. If i am not doing something properly i get a lecture (i didnt foild the tea towels right yesterday) putting DD into her room just does not work anymore. She jsut sits there and plays or sneaks out.ATM we use a naughty chair for bad behaviour and a sticker chart for good behaviour. I find if we focue on her good behaviour we have a better day. I think she doesnt understand the difference between good attention and bad attention..