TTC With No Luck

[petenat]

Hey there
My partner and I have been TTC for 3 months with no luck, I know it's not an awfully long time but I'm beginning to think something could be wrong or we're going about this the whole wrong way.

I'm basically wondering what the most likely or "easiest" ways of conceiving are, I have been using an ovulation calendar to work out when the best time is.

We tried this month, but i haven't had a test yet, i'm going to wait and see if i get my period first, the past 2 months i have been getting it on the 25th of each month but haven't got it as of today but knowing my luck it's probably just a little late :(

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

(this is so embarrassing :o)

[ringneck]

First of all it takes a normal healthy couple 6-12months to conceive with only a 25% each cycle, so i wouldn't worry.
go onto www.fertilityfriend.com to chart your cycles. If you want to chart you will need a basal body thermometer, and ovulation predictor tests. If you don't want to get to obsessive about it you could just track your cervical mucous and position this is harder on it's own though.
I would chart with temps and opks for a few months so you get to know your cycle.
Good luck.

[Cat74]

No need to be embarrassed, we're all going through the same thing here. :)

TTC is a challenge with many ups and downs. The best thing you can do is get a really good handle on your cycles. I agree with Ringneck about OPKs, although I don't chart myself but many on this forum do and swear by it.

OPKs work for me. I find them easier than charting my temperature but you've got to do what you think will be best for you.

Knowing when you're going to ovulate is critical. And BDing every second day for the two or so weeks around ovulation (or everyday right about the time you're ovulating) will maximise your chances. Any more than once a day doesn't allow the sperm enough time to regenerate.

Most importantly, don't fret about it. I know, easier said than done. But stress will not help the cause and three months is not a long time when you're TTC. Having said that, and not meaning to alarm you, if you're 35 or over (like me) :) you should definitely talk to your doctor about your options if you've had no success after six months, just to give yourself more of a chance to explore other options if you need to.

I hope that helps a little!

[lovelymum]

when I starte TTC 8 yrs ago I made the mistake of having sex around day 12 & 14 not realising that I had a 34 day cycle once I broke it in half I figured I'd been doing it too early!! You say you have a 25 day cycle so break that in half, dont do the 14 day thing (I just assumed from all I had read that women ovulate on day 14 :laughing:).Ovulation kits are fantastic too. You could see your gp or gyno and have a 21 day blood test this will determine if you are ovulating, but as someone else pointed out it really is early days yet most doctors will send you away until you have been TTC for 12 months. Just try to enjoy the journey and for now don't stress (make sure you keep taking your folate ;))

[Green Mum to be]

go onto www.fertilityfriend.com (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/) to chart your cycles

:iagree: Best to start tracking your cycles online using a body basal thermometer. Only "some" (some tiny averge) people actually have a 28 day cycle and ovulate on day 14. So that will help with timing...

I would recommend using OPK's (ovulation prediction kits) too. I get mine from ebay as they work and are inexpensive.

Check that you are actually getting the timing right before you worry too much!!

Goodluck and :babydust2:

[Blueberry Crumble]

3 months is just 3 tries. Keep trying :)