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dilemmaelise
25-04-2009, 10:27
My name is Emma, long-time lurker, first-time poster, in search of a little advice.

I miscarried a nine-week pregnancy on New Years Eve (Happy New Year indeed). Since then my fiancé and I have been careful in terms of conceiving, he wants us to wait until the end of the year when we are more financially sound – smart and sensible really and I love him all the more for it, but it’s left me heartbroken because I still feel a bit robbed and lost without my little Peanut :(

What I’m getting at – I’m wondering if we may have conceived a little early. I can’t really remember any early symptoms from my last pregnancy (basically I think the shock of a miscarriage was enough and I’ve completely blocked it out, I don’t even remember being in the hospital and I’ve struggled with this for months because I have no real sense of closure). Wondering if anyone could possibly put my mind at rest? I don’t want to get my hopes up and then be so disappointed again.

- My period isn’t due until Thurs/Fri but for the past couple of weeks we have noticed things that are raising a little red flag – I had breast pain for a few days (to the point where I was checking for lumps because it was so isolated, then I thought I had just slept wrong, possibly with my boob smashed up against the hard plastic control on my electric blanket!) and now they both just feel heavy, not really sore, but a few twinges/pinches here and there.

- I wake up about four times to pee during the night, and two weeks ago I was racing to the bathroom every half hour (which I remember from the first pregnancy as being the red flag for conception), Thursday two weeks ago I had a very sharp isolated pain in my lower abdomen, which then ebbed for an hour or so and went away (I was working a late shift so it’s easy to remember when), at the time I thought it was strange since it was so out of place in my cycle.

- I feel queasy and nauseated – the smell of my shampoo made me want to gag two nights ago and I can’t wear my perfume, and I’m also starving – I was awake for hours last night with a sick feeling to my stomach and then a mild case of heartburn.


- I'm really rundown and tired, a bit like catching a flu, lower abdomen is really hard, nipples are a bit sensitive and possibly spread (though this might be my imagination) and my back and feet have been aching - maybe I'm just coming down with something, I don't know.


I am very confused because we have been so careful, charting ovulation, using condoms, etc; I think I am only 8DPO but symptoms can’t have hit me this early, can they? I want a baby so badly and I’m hoping this is not all in my head.

Any insights would be appreciated.

Em x

Electric Boogaloo
25-04-2009, 10:45
Hi Emma
first of all, I'm sorry to hear about your m/c :hugs:

I can't give you any advice based on personal experience as we are still ttc our first. But all of your symptoms sound like they *could* indicate pregnancy, but the only way you'll know is to poas. It's only early so unfortunately that means you'll have to wait another few days :eek:!

Given all the precautions you and your fiance' have been taking, if you actually are pregnant, then this little one really wants to come into the world at this time. :yes:

Good luck, let us know how you go with the testing.:)

shaz77
25-04-2009, 21:35
so sorry for your loss Em :hugs: :hugs: With my first pregnancy I didn't have any symptoms until AF was late but we were trying so I did POAS before AF was due and it was a very faint positive that got darker with time. But my second pregnancy we know when it happened because it was a one off without contraception (moving house - last night in our old place, condoms were already packed!!) anyway, I felt 'symptoms' within a week of DTD and avoided alcohol as I just had a feeling....it took another week and a half to get a positive test, but I knew. So best of luck to you...I hope you get the outcome you want :)

by the way, my first was a DS and the second was a DD so I have a theory that preg symptoms are much more pronouced much earlier with a girl (or multiple birth!!)