Meeting my Recips for the first time in 37 mins!!!!!!

[FOURtunate]

I'm about to meet my recipient couple in around 37 mins (but who's counting).
So many thoughts in my head right now.

What will they be like? I've spoken to her lots on the phone and via email. But appearance and body language count for alot.

Will they like me? Will she see my messy house, and decide against the potentially messy gene?

What are their plans for the future? If their child has an asthma attack at midnight, will they call me for medical history?

Will we hug? Or cry?

Should I introduce her to my children? And if I do, how will I do it?

Should we go to my local bistro for lunch? She's buying, and I don't want her to think she has to splash out. Maybe she hates pubs, and would feel awkward in the bistro.

Maybe a cafe would be better, but my community is small, and someone might hear us?

It's like a first date! I've had my hair straightened, and bought a new top.

Will let you know how it goes.

[WizzFizz]

Goodluck honey! I'm sure they will love you. :wave:

[FOURtunate]

Thanks Al!

Are you writing your Birth Plan yet?

[poshBecks]

tell us how it went!! :D

[WizzFizz]

LOL - yes I have jotted down a few things. I'm awaiting our new bedroom suite today but plan on laying down later on my with plan and revising!:thumbsup:

[FOURtunate]

Good girl!

[sarahstarfish]

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh - how very exciting, fingers crossed it all goes well, can't WAIT to find out how it all goes!

What will they be like? I've spoken to her lots on the phone and via email. But appearance and body language count for alot.

So many of us just seem to 'click' and then sit back and wonder what all the worry and concern was about...hope it is the same for you!

Will they like me? Will she see my messy house, and decide against the potentially messy gene?

Haha lovey - you are possibly giving them the opportunity to have a child....wouldn't start worrying unless it is 'A Current Affair'-let's-call-child-services messy! Recips are human too you know.

What are their plans for the future? If their child has an asthma attack at midnight, will they call me for medical history?

Nope, they will already know from your paperwork if Asthma is from your genetic 'side' and react accordingly.

Will we hug? Or cry?

Or both!

Should I introduce her to my children? And if I do, how will I do it?

Yes, would say they would definitely want to meet your children if they have decided on a known donation (would worry otherwise). Just do it - many go to parks or McDonalds etc so poor kids aren't on best behaviour for too long.

It's like a first date! I've had my hair straightened, and bought a new top.

Teehee this is so true! I remember actualy locating my toenails and painting them, and then my dear husband threw his suit jacket in the back seat of the car ...'just in case'..not sure of what.

Hope it all goes well - thankyou so much for sharing your story and last minute jitters. I can guarantee she is 100 times more nervous than you are, she has so much more at stake.

Love

Cindy

[FOURtunate]

Well. We have met. My lovely Recip arrived at my front door wearing exactly the same clothes as me, same hair colour and style, same eyes. It was bizarre. I was so nervous, and it turned out that she was as nervous as me.

We went to the pub for lunch. She did mention that she hated pubs, but that she liked the fact that the one we were at is a non smoking pub!

We talked about our families, medical history, our plans for the baby's futre regarding contact etc. I told her that I'd like to be "friends", and that we would tell our kids early in the piece about the way that we are all connected.

The only weird part was when the subject of covering costs came up. But that was to be expected. We didn't really know what to do there. What have others done/accepted?

I cannot believe how nervous I was. She was half an hour late, and I was looking out the window waiting....waiting...waiting. I was trying to keep myselof busy while I waited. Just as she pulled up, my phone rang, and I got stuck on the phone for ages. Luckily, she was on the phone in her car for a while. Probably getting moral support.

I have had to cancel this appointment today, as my Recips would like to go to another clinic. It's much further away, but I hear that SIVF has a really good success rate. My Recip is nearly 47, so we'll need all the help we can get. I just hope that this works out for her. I have committed to try as many times as I can.

If it doesn't work out for her, I'd like to donate my eggs to another couple, or non-partnered woman.

I feel really happy to have met her regardless of the outcome. She's a lovely lady. I just hope that we can make a bub!

I will be updating this, as sort of a diary. Any thoughts, q's or tips, and encouragement are welcome, as you bubhubbers are my only cheer squad in this game! I look forward to sharing this experience with you all.

[FOURtunate]

I did end up introducing her to my kids.

I took her to my son's kindy to pick him up. The Childcare Workers asked if she was my sister! I know that she will be a wonderful Mummy. She just adored spending time with my son.

As she was leaving, my daughters arrived home from school. I introduced her to them as my friend. She looked like she was crying, so I hugged her. Then she left. It was the most bizarre, surreal day of my life.

I phoned a couple of hours later. Just to say how much I enjoyed meeting her, and that I really want this to work out for her.

Appointments have been made, books are being read. And I am preparing my body for the onslaught!

[poshBecks]

I'm glad it went well for you!! :D

How bizarre that you were wearing the same cothes!! LOL!!

[WizzFizz]

Yay - I hope everything works out! :fingerscrossed:

[sarahstarfish]

Wow, sounds like it was very much 'like at first sight'! So glad it all went well, and once you start chatting, makes it so much easier doesn't it.

Re payment for expenses, depends how you want to do it. For my first cycle the clinic just sent a $250 cheque for out-of-pocket expenses. Some donors get reimbursed by their recipients as they go along, or some give donors say $100 or whatever towards expenses to start with, and then give them more as they go along if/when necessary. Best to be upfront about it all when you get started and work out with each other things like parking, petrol, taxi fares, time off work, child care etc.

Ooooo, all sounds good! Please keep us posted, and thankyou for sharing your exciting journey!

Love

Cindy

[nemosmum]

awww how exciting for you angeldoula:smiliedance:

Im sure shes going to love you:hugs:

I know I would if your were making my dreams come true:kiss:

and btw i really hope you like her too:yes:

[nemosmum]

ok sorry i just read your other posts.....:o

I had tears in my eyes reading about it, so glad it went really well for you both and heres to making a beautiful baby together heheheheh:D :fingerscrossed: