*Parents of Lone Children* Keeping Up to Date #1

[Rabbity Babbity]

Everyone else has a KUTD thread...except for Parents of sole/lone children which seem to be the catagory I fall into...

Anyone else want to chat?

I have DD, who is 1 and is a delight. She is walking all around the place now which is beautiful. She is a very relaxed and easy child.
I work full time, which is not my favourite thing.

[KatiesMum]

Im happy to chat too ... :D

My DD is nearly 3. I work 1 day a week, and am home with her the rest of the time.

What do you do MLB?

[Rabbity Babbity]

I work on IT projects at a hospital doing business analysis. I am wanting to cut down to part time though to spend time with DD. What about you?

[Mum2Bug]

Im here! Im a single mum that works the occasional night fill shift (have cut down to about one shift a fortnight now). Bug has recently turned 4 and is becoming a very independant (stubborn lol) child. As much as I would love to give her a sibling (one that she lives with anyway) it just isnt about to happen.

[Rabbity Babbity]

Mum2Bug- I would love to give DD a sibling, but it isn't happening either for medical reasons. I am upset by it, but figure things could be worse and I am lucky to have DD anyway. Where abouts are you from?

[girly]

Hi girls. I think I will join. I have only one child. SHe is 5months old and her name is Sibel. She is a handful LOL. Only yesterday she started puuting her arms out for me. I thought it was WAAAY to early but yeh, DH was nursing her and she was pushing her self away from him and putting her arms out wanting me...

Do any of you girl find your child prefers one parent over the other ? Sibel ALWAYS wants me over her dad, it's quite sad really. :(

[Rabbity Babbity]

Shiraaa- DF does look after DD more than I do as he works part-time, and DD still choose me over him up untill a few weeks ago. Now she just alternates "favourites" :D I think it is totally normal for you DD to behave lik that- are you still breastfeeding?

[KatiesMum]

MLB - I am an accountant. I was working 2 days a week - which was a fantastic balance. I loved it.

I have some health issues though, and was finding it was too much for me, and I was missing out on time with DD, so I have cut back a fair bit.

I cant imagine working full time though, and then having to come home to a full-on toddler. You are amazing to manage that.

I would love to have another, but cant ... so sometimes find it a bit hard with all of my friends having 2nd and 3rd bubbies.

Hi De :wave:

Shiraa - DD is DEFINITELY a Mummies girl. Always has been ..... they get so determined sometimes.

[girly]

Yeh LOL as you can see from my avatar she is still loving it..hehe..

[Rabbity Babbity]

Katies Mum- I have health issues as well, I have read you story and find you very inspirational :goodvibes: I totally understand you cutting back hours, I am hoping my work allows it as I get way to tired and sore by the end of the week. DD is just starting to get to a really exciting age- walking and very interactive.

[Rabbity Babbity]

Shiraa- Haha I should have looked, it's so normal for babies to be extra clingy to mums....at this stage she lived inside you longer than she has on the outside world... ;)

[Chunkydunks]

I'll join in although I'm not sure if I really fit here cos we're TTC #2.....not having much luck though. DS turns 5 in just over a week. He's very much Dad's boy.

[KatiesMum]

it gets so much more interesting when they can walk and talk properly. They change so much and you just see them developing into little people. It really is incredible.

Anyway - gotta go. Quiet time is over, and chaos will once again descend on my house :laughing:

:D

[Mum2Bug]

Hi Julie :wave: :hugs:

MLB - we live in Perth on our own. I get very little help from my family, most of them cant handle my daughter as she is very spirited.

[Leeny]

Oh I just seen this thread now.. I see no ones posted for a month or so, but can I join in? :)

DD's just turned 4, and we're at that stage where we need to decide if we'll ever have another.. Its such a big decision :(

[KatiesMum]

Hi Leeny.

It is hard knowing what to do sometimes. Are you leaning one way or the other?

It is a big decision though. Specially when the one you have is just getting a bit more independent....will be at school soon and you get some semblance of a life back.

:hugs:

[Mum2Bug]

It is a big decision though. Specially when the one you have is just getting a bit more independent....will be at school soon and you get some semblance of a life back.

:hugs:

Leeny what KM has written above is exactly how I am feeling right now. As you know I had hoped to have more kids one day in the future but now Bug is at school im saying a big NO:laughing:

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. It is such a hard decision to make.:hugs:

[MsMummy]

Hi :wave:,

I guess I fit the category. I only have one. Maybe another one day, but my partner thinks one is great, and I'm not rushing back to the labour ward.:D Maybe in 3 to 5 years.

I'm just savouring every moment of the one I've got right now...plus work.:(

Are parents of lone children in the minority?

I guess it (just having one) is a bit of a taboo, and people always ask when the next one is coming along.:ecomcity:

ETA: Leeny - I see you're in Greenbank. Is it nice out there? We're selling our unit, and a colleague strongly suggested I look at Greenbank for acreage.

[Shepherd]

Leeny I know its at about age 4 it feels like crunch time doesn't it? My DD is 5 and now that time has passed we just haven't had the desire to go down the baby road again. It is true I think that once they start school you really get your life back. I feel I have my cake and eat it to in regards to having a loving child but plenty of time to myself and its pretty low stress!

I'm sure whatever way you decide I believe your DD will be just as happy as a person, I really do.

[tyler's mum]

Tyler will be 4 in sep she is a handful but can also be a angel:D

[SimplyMum]

I have a 'lone child' (for some reason I just want to say that than rip a pistol out of my holster!).

I really want another but at the moment, there are just too many benefits to wait.

Having an only child- I love our relationship. We do special things together and spend heaps of quality time together. As much as I do want another- I also don't want to lose what we have together, along with other things.

Leeny- great people were born on the 23/05!!!!:D

[Stella1]

Just the one son here, he is two and unlikely to have any siblings. We are starting to get a lot of pressure from family and close friends about "so when will we see number 2?". I really dislike that people think it's ok to discuss our family planning, and that they think it's ok to tell us we will regret it if we don't have more.

Anyway, we are happy with just the one. I worked part time until Christmas when we moved, have been a full time stay at home parent since then, but am about to start part time study.

[Domenicsmum]

Hi guys

Im 28 and have a 5 year old son named Domenic. I would LOVE to have more but unfortunately it hasnt been working for us!

We have kinda given up trying (it has been 3 years) and accepted that there wont be more. I love Domenic to bits and I am so lucky to have him. He is always asking about brothers and sisters and it always gets me down!

My husband is in the army and is away alot and I think god for Domenic cos without him I woudnt know what to do! :)