What dating sites have you been on?

[lovingmumof 2now]

And which ones are the best?

I have dabbled a little into these sites and was wondering if I could get advice from my fellow single mums and dads out there.

I am not really looking for that life long partner, but heck I would just like to date and have a bit of fun!!!! \

Are we all feeling like this?

If you feel up to it copy and paste your answers for the q's below!

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How long have you been a single parent:

Would you like to date or be partnered for life or stay single:

Have you used online dating sites:

If so have you dated anyone from them:

How did the dates go:

Hope to hear some replies, to help me out for my quest on getting a darn social life.

[mum2littleman]

How long have you been a single parent: since i found out i was preg DS father left us..

Would you like to date or be partnered for life or stay single:
i would like a partner

Have you used online dating sites:
yes i chat on adult match maker but most guys on there just want one thing but not all

If so have you dated anyone from them:
i met one guy of there but only because it turned out my sister new him we are only friends but we talk all the time

How did the dates go:
wasnt so much a date but he came over and we watched a movie i think it went well we saw each other a few times after that and still now but we just friends

Hope to hear some replies, to help me out for my quest on getting a darn social life.
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im still looking for my mr right i havent found him yet :(



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The Mummy-Louise 20 {Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6 months {Lukey}

[mum2littleman]

hmmm i started talking to a guy on adult match maker yesterday and after talking for 2 days he sounds like the male me! i havent even told him stuff about me when he tells me things that i like that he likes and so on strange or what anyways he has asked me to dinner at his place on thurdays night i said yes awww so scared now should i go or should i talk to him a little longer to get to know him?i could tell him i want to know him alittle more first, he told me he is a little shy too but so am i wat to do? do i take a chance? he sounds nice and looks nice i havent spoken to him on the phone or anything yet ..

let me know what u guys think?


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The Mummy-Louise 20 {Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6 months {Lukey}

[Femme-Fetale]

mum2littleman~ thats pretty cool that you have found a prospective partner. How ever i would suggest staying away from his house on the 1st few meetups. Keep his house private and your addy as well. Its not like ppl advertise they are stalkers or murderers etc, so you dont want to put yourself into a position where you could be taken advantage of. He prob is the best nicest guy and your prob very lucky to have found him, but id be a bit warey. Id suggest meeting up in public places the 1st few times, and then take it from there. Just for safety reasons. Good luck with it.

OK so now ill have a go at the Q's.

How long have you been a single parent:
Since my son was 12 weeks old when i kicked the father out, it was a long time coming.

Would you like to date or be partnered for life or stay single:
At this stage i would like to stay single and just focus on me and my son for a while, it makes a nice change not having to worry about another person's feelings all the time.

Have you used online dating sites:
Yes i have been on alot of dating sites about 6 mths back when i thought it was time to enter the dating scene again. AussieMatchMaker was my personal favourite.

If so have you dated anyone from them:
Yes i met a single father of 3 off AMM and we dated for 5 mths before i called that off too. He is still a great guy tho.

How did the dates go:
Yea it was great and we clicked right away.


Hope thats helped some what.

[babyboo]

I've been on lavalife, which is where i met my boyfriend of 6mths. Although we just broke up last week.

Its a good site and you can see them aswell or request to see them. Have also been on rsvp, but got swamped on that one.

[mum33]

stay away from adultmatchmaker...my cousin uses it and the majority of the men there are looking for one thing.

[mum2littleman]

thanks for the advice hott streak, yeh i think ur right im going to ask him if we can meet in public maybe over a coffee or sumthing..
im so self con now that after bubs i put on over 20 kgs and im still now 15kgs bigger than what i was :thumbsdown: but i guess its whats inside that counts not how big u are ..

ill let you guys know how it goes on thursday..

hoping for the best!:thumbsup:


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The Mummy-Louise 20 {Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6 months {Lukey}

[Mum&bubs]

When i was single i went on www.adultmatchmaker.com, lavalife & whatever was around. It is fun :thumbsup:

[mum2littleman]

When i was single i went on www.adultmatchmaker.com, lavalife & whatever was around. It is fun :thumbsup:



what is lavalife like???
are the guys on there just trying to get lucky or are there nice ppl on there?



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The Mummy-Louise 20 {Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6 months {Lukey}

[Mum&bubs]

[QUOTE=mum2littleman]what is lavalife like???
are the guys on there just trying to get lucky or are there nice ppl on there?


I found a few nice people on there but i think no matter where you go you get the occasional idiots that are just trying to get lucky but there are different sections you can go & you can indicate what you are looking for :thumbsup:

[mum2littleman]

[QUOTE=mum2littleman]what is lavalife like???
are the guys on there just trying to get lucky or are there nice ppl on there?


I found a few nice people on there but i think no matter where you go you get the occasional idiots that are just trying to get lucky but there are different sections you can go & you can indicate what you are looking for :thumbsup:



thanks! might have a look at that one ..


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The Mummy-Louise 20 {Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6 months {Lukey}

[Mum&bubs]

[QUOTE=mum2littleman][QUOTE=Mum&bub]



thanks! might have a look at that one ..


:thumbsup: you should give it a go, never know what you might find :) good luck!

[Femme-Fetale]

AS far as i was aware and everyone i know... Adultmatchmaker was made with Adult Intentions *wink wink* in mind.
Aussiematchmaker is more for a r/ship of long term stability prospects.
Lavalife was fun
DONT use plentyoffish - its free but i got stalked on there and so did my bestie.
RSVP was way to formal and dull and u had to pay for just about any function.
I recommend AussieMM

Oh and mum2littleman i wouldnt fret to much about your size. I put on 30 kgs when preg, and have only lost 10kgs a yr later, i cant budge the rest. I found if u find yourself comfy and happy with how u are, the guys wont even notice. Plus if u show real pics of how you are now, not what u used to be, then there are no faulse pretenses IYKWIM and things can work marvelously

[SweetSerenity]

I currently use lavalife and most guys are actually quite nice :) Ive made one good friend out of it so far.....Having guys friends helps alot when your single!
I personally think Lavalife's the best one...:)

[Jem]

I currently use lavalife and most guys are actually quite nice :) Ive made one good friend out of it so far.....Having guys friends helps alot when your single!
I personally think Lavalife's the best one...:)

:yes: Lavalife is pretty good..

[WeThree]

stay away from adultmatchmaker...my cousin uses it and the majority of the men there are looking for one thing.


sooo true sw33tne3ss, this site is a well know 'swingers' and sex partner site, the vast majority of people on that place are NOT looking for just friendship or a long term, serious relationship.

I met my dh on a Christian site :)
I went on a few dates with some really nice guys from RSVP as well when I was single :)

[lovingmumof 2now]

Thanks everyone for your replies.

I will not go on adultmatchmaker because my ex used to go on that when we had broken up once and I know all he wanted was that ONE thing!!!

I went onto RSVP but didnt show my pic as I am scared my ex will see it and sent me abusive emails as we only broke up a few months ago.

re your date mum2lttleman!! Last time I went full steam ahead too quick and ended up in disaster, I agree to take it slow and if they are worht it they will stick around.

Good luck fellow friend let us know how it goes. And if its not too personal I would love to hear how we all go in the dating game as parents of tiddly peeps. Its hard going but there are a lot of us out there apparently!!

[MissBrightside]

Im registered on findsomeone.com and rsvp. I havent had many ppl contact me, maybe cos I dont have a photo, but who knows. I have been chatting to one guy for about a week and we planned to go out tomorrow to the movies, but I cancelled cos I dont think Im ready yet. I have been single for 5 months after an 8 year relationship. I love the thought of having someone to share things with but also petrified.
I think I need to build up my confidence again and find who I am before I meet a potential partner.

Good luck to those of us who are ready and are giving it a go!

[babyboo]

yep, I found lavalife to be the best..

nicandbensmum - if ya put a photo up you'll probably get swamped :yes: thats what happened to me. Its really amazing how many single people there are out there looking for someone. I also came out of a 10 year relationship but it took me about 12mths before i felt ready to investigate the situation. I met this guy after about 3 wks of being on there, we met up and clicked instantly but unfortunatly didnt work out (5mts later). Now im just chilln and gettn to know myself a bit better, hoping that mr right will pop out the blue when i least expect it :rolleyes: But, i did meet a few nice guys on lava.

Its a shame we dont all live in the same area - would be great fun to all get together.:p

[mum2littleman]

has anyone else found that they dont really no how to talk to guys any more lol maybe just me but when a guy asks me what i like doing for fun i dont have anything to say because im always with bub i dont get time on my own so i dont even no what i like anymore i dont feel like the same person i use to be:confused:
think i need to find out the real me again i no im not just a mum im me too but i just dont know who i am anymore...



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The Mummy-Louise 20{Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6months{Lukey}

[lovingmumof 2now]

has anyone else found that they dont really no how to talk to guys any more lol maybe just me but when a guy asks me what i like doing for fun i dont have anything to say because im always with bub i dont get time on my own so i dont even no what i like anymore i dont feel like the same person i use to be:confused:
think i need to find out the real me again i no im not just a mum im me too but i just dont know who i am anymore...



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The Mummy-Louise 20{Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6months{Lukey}

I agree Louise, my whole life is my children so its hard to talk about other things. Everyone seemed to say lavalife so I went on there and started talking to a guy lastnight and OMG all he talked about was sex. Which is the last thing I am intersted in at the moment. It made me think maybe I am really not ready to date yet.

What is it with men and sex???? I just want to start dating and have fun but I dont want to hop into the sack with just anyone!!!

[mum2littleman]

hey lovingmumof2now,

yeh i no what you mean a date should be sumthing like a nice dinner maybe a walk along the beach maybe even get sum flowers if we are lucky not hi and right in to bed with them.... sex hmmmm whats that again??? lol



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The Mummy-Louise 20{Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6months{Lukey}

[Femme-Fetale]

Ange, i used to be on lava before and 2 nites ago i just rejoined. I think ull find that even tho some guys put profiles up in the dating or r/ships sections, they still are creeps and only want one thing. the only thing to do is when they start on that track, u say G'bye good luck, ur not my match. U gota be firm or u will get rolled over!!

As for wat to talk about other then kids! are u for real hahaha. We dont have our own ID any more, we are just mothers hahah kidding. Anyhow when im asked this Q i just talk about things i was into before i had my son and explain how i still love them but dont have much time atm to do those things. At least its a chatting point.

I think some men out there still seem to think that single mothers are just simply tramps and will put out for anything in the hopes that if they do, the man will hang around,.... wich is just NOT the BL00DY case!!

[mum2littleman]

hey guys,

though i would up date you! tonight was ment to be the big date{meeting the guy} but i dont no whats wrong with me i didnt go i sent him a msg telling him that DS was unwell so i couldnt make it out tonight and was hoping we could do it another time, he sent me back a msg saying he was really looking forward to meet me but that he understands..

i DO want a guy im just scared i sound so silly but i havent been out on the dating seen for a while i can go out with guy frineds if they ask me to dinner and things but not ppl i dont no..

i really want a guy in my life and i am ready... i just dont no why i didnt go"

so instead i spent a night at home playing blocks with DS and chatting on here.. im kinda made at my self now for not going but i guess i just didnt want him to not like me or sumthing.. i dont no :(

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The Mummy-Louise 20{Lou}
The Baby-Lucas 6 months{Lukey}

[onabreak]

The only site I ever went on when I was single was Adult Match Maker. The first few times I went on there this guy picked me out to have a chat. We clicked straight away and chatted for a few months and then finally met after two months of chatting. He came to my house where I was living with flatmates so I knew someone was going to be home and you would not believe it from that night he came over my life changed we have been married for nearly two years and have a 19mth old daughter. Fell pregnant the night I met him, how bad is that. But we are very happy together and wouldn't want my life any other way. I supose for me that I was lucky and found the right guy on Adult Match Maker.

But as some of you have said that place is full of idiots with only one thing on their mind.

[Mum2Bug]

mandymoo

falling pregnant the night you meet isn't bad! i did it too but i wasn't lucky enough to be able to make the relationship work and we spl:crying: it when bub was born. had two relationships since then which have got me wondering..........is there anyone out there who will accept me for who i am and the fact i am part of a package deal?

[jessi]

im not a single mum, but I met my DF off RSVP.com.au... sure, I got HEAPS of emails from guys- I think everyone does get abit swamped on there, but I know that a heap of people actually get a relationship out of it...

My advice is to suss them out HEAPS and then some... and go with your gut instinct- if it doesnt feel right, or sounds a little suss- dont go there.

[jennababe]

going off track just a little bit... not that im thinking of joining any dating sites just yet... but if you do.. where that little bit that asks about children!.. which is probably the first thing men look at!!.. do you leave it blank.. or is it better to be honest straight up.. and just tell the truth? i guess then only the genuine ones would msg you.. not judgemental or shallow..

[tyler's mum]

you should be very proud you have a baby dont hide it just be honest...

i join a few dating site i must say i have got many reply:confused: maybe they just dont think im pretty but ive been on dating sites b4 i had tyler and i used to get plenty of message and met a few really cool guys so i guess try just your luck you never know