I need more help again (stealing a name)

[mum2bubba]

As you know I am considering Noah for my son, however I have a cousin with the same name. My sister thinks I shouldn't use it because we already have one in the family but I think its fine because we haven't seen him or heard from him for about 10 or 11 years (we met him once when he was 4 years old). He is on my mum's side of the family and we hardly see them anymore. Do you think its ok if I used it, he won't be named after my cousin, its just coincedence (sp)

Also, a friend of a friend is having a baby boy also and shes due at the end of June. She keeps going on to me about stealing her name (her and I haven't told each other what our name choices are, I have only told Grant and my sister so far) if we DO end up calling our sons the same name is it stealing (since she'll give birth before me)?
I've liked the name Noah for ages even before I was pregnant. She is a friend of a friend and only see her about once every 3 months or whatever, I'm worried that if our sons have the same name shes going to get all annoyed at me.


ETA: I wrote on my Facebook page that I had chosen a name for a boy (and a girl in case the ultrasound is wrong) and she replied with "hopefully we don't pick the same name" then later on "I'm due at the end of June so you'll have plenty of notice" Why? Because she is due first she gets naming rights over me? I really hope we don't end up with the same name but I'm not going to make a huge fuss about it because a) Noah is already quite popular anyway and b) we see one another only every now and then. I told her I've had the name picked out since before I was pregnant.

[Bambibambino]

I wouldn't worry about your cousin at all, as you said Noah is pretty popular anyway.

Your friend sounds a bit spiteful :confused: given you've never discussed names with each other how could you be accused of 'stealing' it?

Stick with Noah if you love it :yes:

[EmPowering]

i wouldnt worry about it, go with the name if you like it:):)

[gizmoduckus]

Well as for having the same name as your cousin, I don't think it is a big deal. If you haven't seen him in 10 years I doubt it would be a problem.

With your friend, I would say to her the next time she brought it up about picking names is that you have a name picked and you are still going to use it even if she accidently picks the same name. If you make it clear to her before your babies are born she can't really get upset if it does end up happening.

You could also say to her that you have picked the name Noah and if she likes the name too, then you are more than happy to have her son named the same as yours.

[mum2bubba]

Your friend sounds a bit spiteful :confused: given you've never discussed names with each other how could you be accused of 'stealing' it?

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Yeah see this is what I think too. Its not as though she has just given birth and said "I've had my son, his name is Noah" or "I plan on naming him Noah" and I've come along and said "oh, I love that name, I might use it for my son." I haven't told anyone my name choices (for boy or girl) to anyone apart from Grant and my sister (and apart from people on the internet just to get some advice etc) so its not like I am "stealing" it. She doesn't own the name, right? If we DO end up naming our sons the same name, it'd be annoying but I'm not going to make a huge fuss about considering a) Noah is already quite popular anyway and b) she is actually a friend of a friend and we only see each other once every few months anyway.

[Baldie's Mum]

TBH i would even worry! Silly people with stealing names, your not even close friends!!! And your cousin....you should say "oh him, i forgot about him, havent seen him for so long" :laughing:

ETA: my bil and his gf said they like talia and may want to use it if kids come up.....now we have been ttc for 3 years and for 3 yrs we have said we will call our little girl talia clare.....and made it very vocal......if they turn around and use that name, i will be devestated! :yes: not to mention soooooo pi$$ed off!!!! :banghead:
so some name stealing isnt okay, but cassie, i recon you should use Noah!

[sandy_1902]

I cant remember the name anymore(haha shows how much i liked it) but my cousin is named the same thing..

I wouldnt use it but mainly becuase im selfish and dont want them to share a name :laughing: for a stupid reason really, i want my own names.

I would be really annoyed if a family memeber used bailey and whatever im calling this bub..

[mum2bubba]

I feel like saying to her "look, I've chosen the name Noah" (without knowing what shes chosen) that way she can't accuse me of stealing because I don't even know what name/s shes picked. But I really don't want to tell anyone because I don't want people saying "oh I don't like that" or whatver.

[Baldie's Mum]

well maybe just say to her, look the name we have has been picked since before the boofhead was concieved! (boofhead in a lovely way)
and if she gets b1tchy just say, "well sorry hun, i am not sure how fantastic you think you are, but trust me i am not copying you....." :devil:

[benzjewlz]

my advice is choose whatever name you want it is your baby and your choice there are plenty of people out there with the same name "so what" :D.

[mum2bubba]

I said to her (on Facebook) that I've had the name picked out before I was even pregnant (I had a list of about 3 or 4 male names) it was even on the list when I was pregnant with my other kids but since they're girls I obviously couldn't use it.

[Baldie's Mum]

i say use it! :hugs:

[~Candy~]

I say use it too :yes:

Sounds like a very loooong distant relo...One of my girls has the same name as my looooong distant step sis who I have never met...but I liked the name anyway :)

[bingo]

Just get a blanket or top with the name Noah and show it to your friend and show how excited you are about the name and how its in print already :laughing:.

[tyler's mum]

We have a large family and there are heaps of the same name. It so hard sometimes because when talking about them its like big hannah or little hannah big suzi or little suzi iykwim. But its a bit different i guess if you dont see or talk to him. The way i see it call your baby what you want.

[Mimismummy]

I think you should use it. Noah is a lovely name and it doesn't matter if the two boys have the same name they will be very different in personality and looks anyway. My BIL's gf wants to use Maddison for a girl if they have one - they're not pregnant - i'm due in 5 weeks and don't know what i'm having, and like Maddison for a girl and Hudson for a boy. I've liked Maddison since I was pregnant with DD1, now 20 months (I named her Mia). Maddison was my second choice. So I suggested a good idea, neither of us should use it if we both love it so much. She didn't like the idea and said "Not if I have a girl first" So I don't know if I will use the name if I have a girl. I'm not sure about having two girls (Mia and Maddison) but DH and I haven't found a girls name yet either. But BIL and I having girls with the same name would be too close, but I think you're safe to use Noah. I wish there wasn't issues with names, it puts a tamper on a special part of the pregnancy (choosing the name).

[hales83]

Noah IS a very popular name! I wouldn't worry. She does sound spiteful! You shouldn't have to tell her the name you have chosen, she is the one with the problem!!

[Californication]

I wouldn't worry about your cousin at all, as you said Noah is pretty popular anyway.

Your friend sounds a bit spiteful :confused: given you've never discussed names with each other how could you be accused of 'stealing' it?

Stick with Noah if you love it :yes:

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[rainbow road]

What a wally!!! :rolleyes:

Use Noah if you like it, don't even justify it to her, for all she knows Hayley and Skye were both Noah's in the making!!!

As for the cousin, bah humbug, it's only an issue if they see each other regularly.

[mum2bubba]

What a wally!!! :rolleyes:

Use Noah if you like it, don't even justify it to her, for all she knows Hayley and Skye were both Noah's in the making!!!



It was on the list when I was pregnant with them. :yes:

[Crazydaze]

I think your facebook status should read "Well we've picked names! Noah for a boy and .... for a girl. If anyone copies us I will be ****ed" hehehehehehehe Hopefully thats clear enough for her! That way if she DOES use the name Noah then you can make the comment to her that wont it be nice to have our kids with the same name seeing as you copied me LOL.

[Nan]

I would say to her the next time she brought it up about picking names is that you have a name picked and you are still going to use it even if she accidently picks the same name.
:iagree: This is great advice because then you aren't telling her the name you've chosen, but she still knows you chose it before her bub was born, so you didn't copy her.

[grass is always greener]

Your cousin would have a different last name to your son, so technically there isnt one already in the family. Your Noah will be the first.
I say use it. Regardless of what she picks.
My Ds1 has the same name as one of my besties lil boys. Neither of us accused the other of name stealing as the names have importance to our families, DFs middle name is William and her DF's tradition was to name the first born son William, Bill, William etc.
I also have a friend whose son is Will James, my son is William James. We never spoke names while we were pregnant together, there is 6-8 weeks difference.