what did your parents teach you about parenting?

[mumof2brats]

So my question is, what did your parents teach you about parenting?

I learned from my parents...

(1) That even though I am the grown up, I mess up too. My mum messed up lots and never acknowledged or apologized for it (even now), so I make sure I always say sorry, explain and move on....
(2) To say I love you at every opportunity
(3) To praise my children lots:thumbsup:.
(4) To listen to my kids and to be there when they need me:hugs:.
(5) Accept that I can only do my best, sometimes my best isn't good enough, (and that no one beats me up more over that than me...) again, saying sorry goes a long way.

[Bubs'n'Roses]

My mum taught me that you can never say "I love you" enough, because I was a weird kid and never said it.
She taught me that it's okay to make a mistake.
And from example, I learnt that kids come first before you. She gave up so much for us and never said a word.

From my father, who taught me without meaning to, that the little things mean the biggest things to kids. And that you can love and dote on a child for ages, but the second you screw up, that's all they will remember.... but that's a weird thing to explain.

[sandy_1902]

My mum taught me that you can never say "I love you" enough, because I was a weird kid and never said it.
She taught me that it's okay to make a mistake.
And from example, I learnt that kids come first before you. She gave up so much for us and never said a word.

From my father, who taught me without meaning to, that the little things mean the biggest things to kids. And that you can love and dote on a child for ages, but the second you screw up, that's all they will remember.... but that's a weird thing to explain.



Second all this.


umm and you will always be there for your kids no matter what happens

[Fuchsia!]

The taught me how NOT to parent

[Teley]

The taught me how NOT to parent

Mine too:p

[tales]

That no matter what your kids do (or don't do), be proud of them and be there for them unconditionally. Oh, and kick them out for their own good once they're able to provide for themselves ;) (though welcome them back with open arms whenever they want to visit, need a good feed or otherwise have nowhere else to go..).

[Myztiks#1Fan]

The taught me how NOT to parent

my parents werent really ever parents. i would like to think i am better than them and doing a better job but i am pretty doubtful of it atm

[mum2bubba]

From my mum I have learned to have fun with life (or try to) that once you become a mother you're not JUST a mother, you still have friends, family, career (if you want), hobbies etc.

From my dad I have learned I need to work on my temper (I got it from him :rolleyes:) and also listen to my kids as he didn't really when we were younger (he is starting to now though).

[Leisa21]

Everything:goodvibes: I've learnt stuff along the way of course but they've taught me all I've needed.

[mum2bubba]

The taught me how NOT to parent

Hmmm, I think that can sum up my dad at times, though he is trying. He was married to my mum for a few years, then she died, then he got married to my step mum who was abusive and when we and other family members tried telling him what was going on (even DHS told him) he didn't want to hear it. I was angry at him for ages because of that. I am trying to build a good relationship with him now that I have kids though.

[bada]

My parents also taught me how NOT to parent.

Through their inadequacies and general absence I learned so much.



I will always be there for my children
They will always have a place to call home
I will always encourage them to try new things and I will support them in doing those things
I will tell them I love them everyday
If my partner and I have relationship problems down the line, I will keep the children out of it and always encourage them to have a good relationship with their father

[JasmineLouise]

:iagree:

What NOT to do! :dizzy:

[TripleTime]

Be patiant & do whats right for them no matter what.

My parents bend over backwards to do things for us, i just hope i can do the same for my kids.

And home will always be home, no matter what.

ETA - Its the little things in life that count the most.

[Cicho]

The taught me how NOT to parent

Same same

[Joju]

Like a few others, my parents also taught me how not to parent.

*My son will always know he is loved beyond measure ~ no conditons ~ and has somewhere he belongs, no matter what.

*He will never be the scapegoat or blamed for my inadequecies.

*He'll be encouraged at every opportunity to explore who he is and the world he lives in.

*He'll feel safe, secure and accepted , from birth. Attachment/natural parenting is how we plan to do that.