What should I do?

[jaidynsmylilman]

Here goes. My sons father and I arent together and he has visitation. He picked up my son on good friday and made a verbal agreement to break up the visitation instead of a week long breaking it up into 4 days then going back again next week. In due to this I said I will just wait till easter monday when i pick him up to give him his easter things and spend time with my family. He doesnt answer my calls over easter weekend and when it comes to monday he calls me when im about to go pick him up saying he went to the cops and I have no right to come get him. He then refuses to let me see him the 3 hours that are alllocated for easter for me to see him. Im just sick and tired of his crap.
His gf threatens me My ex isnt allowed to talk to me and she thinks the worst of me. Mind you I didnt do anythingto her when he cheated on me with her i told her thanks for making my life a whole lot easier and i truely do hate the *****. My ex tells me she is scatty she goes off all the time tries to kill herself and her family and her hate my son. Im scared when my son goes with them cause she wont let me know where they live so i dont know where my son is staying it freaks me out. Im afraid she is being mean to jaidyn but i can't prove it.
How should I go about everything he treats me like crap when around his gf and makes me stress out. My son cries to me on the phone and a week is a bit too much for a 2 yr old to be away from me and this christmas he will be away from 3 weeks hes gonna break me and him cause he has never ever been away from me this week would be the longest. How do i go about dealing with everything and his gf threatening me and me not allowed to know where my son is staying. Im stressing to the max.

[delirium]

Is there a formal custody agreement in place? If not, I would get one.That way if he pulls this garbage again with not returning your child, you can call the police as a breach of the custody agreement.

[jaidynsmylilman]

Yer it is a formal court order but the solicitors said we can arrange different if need me and he agreed on letting him back for monday so my son can see my side of the family and i had things organised and nowi had to cancel the family and this weekend i have to find alternative babysitter cause i have a function to go to which my ex said he would babysit but turns out his gf wants him to go to a party s at the last minute tells me he cant babysit Im over both his and his gf ****.

[pennylane]

sorry to hear hes making life so stressful for you.

My dad just went through a similar situation where his ex refused to return my 9 yr old half brother to him and can I just offer some advice??

Firstly the police would NEVER tell him he doesnt have to return your child if theres an agreement in place,and if there isnt one they still wouldnt tell him that because they hold no standing when it comes to child custody disputes,only the Australian Federal police do and Im sure if they spoke to him they would tell him he needs to act within the guidelines of the set out parenting order or plan thats currently in place until he petitions the family court.

Might I suggest that you request a revision of your current order or agreement to make it easier on you?? Also if you are genuinely concerned for your childs safety regarding the ex's current gf,could you perhaps request supervised visitations for the time being??
Also,im not 100% sure as i dont know you current legal situation,but them not allowing you to know the address they reside at when in care of your child may also be in breach of any parenting agreement thats in place,so that may be something you would want to bring up too.I know i'd be demanding to know where my child was when in someone elses care.

Hope it all gets sorted soon :)

[warriorPRINCESSdaughter]

:iagree: Also document every conversation, every little thing about your concerns, use dates and times too... if there is something going on with the girlfriend you will be able to recall things with more clarity if need be. Keeping a diary will support your claim.
Hope all goes well,
Jodie:hugs:

[~Candy~]

The police actually wont do a thing :no:..he is the bio father and he's allowed to take his child unless there is a court order....this happened to me when my hubby and I seperated...he took 2 of my kids and there is no law against it and nothing I could do about it. Your court order needs to be tight and not messed about like it has been over easter and both sides need to stick to it.

I suggest you stick with what the court has ordered...if he doesn't have his son when he is ment to...document it and don't give him a makeup day. When he doesn't give your son back when he is ment to...again, document it and go see your solicitor and get a tight agreement done up :yes: