Siblings Fighting

[LuvMy4Babes]

PLEASE tell me all you mums of many that your kids fight too???

There are some days worse than others naturally, but gosh it seems some days that my kids fight from the minute they lay eyes on each other in the morning till the minute they go to bed!

Mostly it's the older 2, a boy and girl. The 2 girls 99% of the time get on fabulously, as do #1 and #3, #1 and #4, #2 and #4, #3 and #4 it's the combination of #1 and #2 that just do not mix! They have rare days where they're all lovey dovey and will play nicely and laugh all day long, but they ARE rare :laughing: In fact, when it happens I look at them and think to myself "What the????" :p

Anyone else in the same boat?

[Cheeky Little Monkey]

Yes, my 2 yr old and 3 yr old fight as well.
No stepford children here.

[~Candy~]

Luvmy4babes....yes!!! I have a similar combination as you with the kids too! (boy 10, girl 8, girl 4 and boy 2.5)
....it's usually miss 4 annoying master 2.5 who puts on the biggest tanties! Then there is the 2 girls who either get along great or it's a battle field :hair:
We have good days and bad days.....easter holidays and RAIN RAIN RAIN does NOT help either...LOL arghhhhhhhh

[OJandMe]

oh yes.. from sun up to sun down...

O J and G are at each other...

It used to be just O and J, but now G is coming into the 2's... so he's got his own ideas...

Them fighting and the baby crying... from 5am to 7:30pm... no sleeps... thats my paradise:laughing:


:dizzy::hissy:

[tallara]

[quote=LuvMy4Babes;3642627]PLEASE tell me all you mums of many that your kids fight too???

yes they fight... funniest thing i ever heard was a mother of one say *oh i dont understand why your kids fight with each other- i never had a problem with my child fighting....oh...slipped up there* lol

they dont fight all the time and i find that usually if i butt out they sort it out themselves- but there is no rhyme or reason with our kids- any 2 of them are fine together but add the third one and there is always problems... it doesnt matter which third one...

yet when we add foster kids to the mix all my kids tend to get along better- im looking forward to when Bio-baby #4 comes along...although if the last foster baby was anything to guide us by, all my children will be fighting with me because they want to take off with the baby :-)

i look at it this way- in my house i have a minimum of 4 very strong personalities (me and my 3) at any one time... we are bound to clash but they are learning how to negotiate and cope in the real world...


interestingly the fighting got worse when my oldest returned to school- the extra stress from school etc meant he lets it out on his sisters more.

[loving6]

My kids fight, never. They play war instead.:laughing:
My two eldest (6 yrs age gap, G15yrs, B9yrs ) fight the most.

[Just Add Water]

Fight? No, not in our house. Speak down to each other, refuse to play with each other, steal each others toys, refuse to help each other, dob on each other, laugh at each other... yes... wait, is that the same as fighting? ;)

All kids fight. If I pick the kids up and there is a "bad vibe" in the car I get out when we get home and tell them to "let it all out", so I shut the doors and they all scream as loud as they can - it gets out some pent up energy and they have a laugh and tend not to snarl quite as quickly at each other.

(Of course having separate rooms helps, as does having a supply of choclate in my room and a lock on the door LOL).

[Hooves]

Oh yay, other people who get this too:yelclap:

I get so sick of my children fighting, it isn't funny. BUT it is always my two boys. Rarely my daughter.

If she is going to fight with anyone, it will be DS1 who is 5, but usually only because she stands up for DS2.

I have another boy on the way, and I am scared whitless, of having three of them.

AND what makes it worse, is two will always have to share a room.

[Starlet]

ALL the time...except when we are out so none of my friends believe me.

I can hear DS1 and DS2 fighting right now...over where the toys go(they are cleaning up the toy room).

[MyFab4]

Yes they do. Especially #1 and #2 ( boy, girl ). They often start arguing as soon as we get out of school in the arvo. They still look out for each other though and are good with the younger one's. ( I have 5 aged B13, G9, B5, G2 and B 3mths).

[LoveMyBoys]

yep mainly the older 2! its amazing how quiet it seems when one of them isnt here!!

[BlessedWithBlue]

yep they dont seem to stop either and now baby bug is getting in on the action he's 15 months but doesn't let the bigger babies push him around.
They dont seem to be picky around here either they all fight amongst themselves.

It seems to never end tho i even heard one of the twins call out in their sleep a few nights ago "maaaaamma Wyan (Rylen our oldest son) hurt me" so the poor little buggers are even dreaming about it ;)

does it get better as they get older lol i can only dream i guess

[MyFab4]

does it get better as they get older lol i can only dream i guess
I don't think so, my older 2 are 13 and almost 10 and they fight the most. Sorry to shatter your dreams:p

[Hooves]

Blessed with blue, my boys, have dream fights too.

At first it was only my 5 year old, crying out, and saying things in his sleep. BUT I recently noticed my 3 year old, does it too.

It is not bad enough, that they can not get along in RL. but the fact that they fight in each others dreams, is just too much.

AND I know they have issues with each other. Cause they often tell each other off, by name.

:laughing:

[fozzie]

yep mainly the older 2! its amazing how quiet it seems when one of them isnt here!!

Thank goodness it's not just mine then. Although my 2yr old has got in on it too just latley and he pick on 7yr old DS2 :rolleyes:. I think he's getting him back for when he starts bugging him.:laughing:

[JabberJaw]

:yes: Mine fight. #2 and #3 are the worst. Sometimes they all get in on it if #1 is playing with one of them the 3rd one gets in the way and they bicker about that.

My 13 month old DD has found her screaming lungs now too and lets it be known if she does not like something, i think she is going to be the loudest,bossiest and the biggist fighter of the lot :laughing:

Its normal, my sister and i fought like cats and dogs and there was only the 2 of us, matter of a fact we stil fight to this day :p

I tend to seperate mine, have quite time in the room for half hour or so ( not punishment, just to chill out and collect themselves before big trouble starts) and when they come out thay play fine again. Anything that seperates them for a short amount of time usually works.

[Reve Breiz]

Ok so everyone has children that fight. But whats the answer here? How do we stop the fighting and create more peace in our home. Sure, its normal, but that doesn't mean it has to continue from dawn till dusk?
I have 4 children. The two older ones fight constantly. I don't mind them using there feelings to tell each other whats upseting them. I just want the noise to stop...or fear I may go insane!!!
My Question is How can we create more peace in our homes, less noise, and more love??? Anyone have answers please please let me know.

[A Party of Five]

Mine have been on school hoildays for three weeks now and are driving me mad with the fighting :hair:

[bgbgbb]

My lot are always squabbling. Having been the eldest of 2 (my sister was spoilt little brat) I was always blamed for everything, whether I did it or not.

So as not to repeat this, whenever my lot squabble, I send them all to their rooms (or those who were obviously in the combat zone) and take their toys off them. Then I become the enemy and they are forced to side together against me. And I will always win, so in the end the squabble ends up dying a very quick death.:laughing:

[Hooves]

:laughing: That is a great strategy, boygirlboygirl.


I find with mine, I really need to give them their own space. My two boys, fight lots, and I am finding the fact that they share a room, is half of the problem.

WE are trying to fix this one. BUT until we can, I have been making sure they get some time out, away from each other.

It is a lot more peaceful at the moment.

Mind you, they are all over the new baby, at the moment, and their father is on holidays. SO that may have something to do with the peace.

[OJandMe]

Well... at the moment we're hitting temps down to the minuses in the mornings....

So I tell the boys if they keep fighting, they can do it outside....


They make peace quickly enough. :laughing::laughing:

Or I just tell them that since I don't know who started it I'll punish them both. :laughing: And they cut it out pretty quick. ;)

[A Party of Five]

Well the fighting has stopped now that the older two are back at school but little miss Felicity still has her moments but that's just her, drama queen :rolleyes: