frayzlilso
07-04-2009, 21:43
This week ... I seem to be more often than not butting heads with my two-and-a-half year old.
So this is more of a vent than a question on 'how to deal' because ... quite frankly there's not much I can do that's different. This week is more stressful than others because a few deadlines have come up in a row and her father hasnt been able to have her for the mid-week night, plus my mother decided to extend her stay from two nights to ... five ???
I work every day of the week, so that means being super organised, making lunches early along with our breakfasts, packing the daycare bag with spare clothes (or checking they've not been pulled out the night before). And that's fine, and I could cope with that, only it's not about 'just' doing those things, there's a person that I've got to convince to go along at the pace I need her to in order for me to make it out the door in time, to get dressed, brush teeth, hair, shoes on, select which toys get to come in the car and which ones are staying at home :rolleyes:
Currenlty with my DD it feels like it's always a fight for independence, battling to keep things going, always running, of late not sleeping so well, feeling a bit like an awful mummy for being so strict and stern so often. I question how much I ought to be standing my ground ... but i think my DD is clever enough to start working out when she gets away with things ...
There's no autopilot now though, not like when she was little and I could whisk her along with me, get her ready and have us out the door. Or back in the door!
It's just so stressful, talking all the time, being asked repeated questions all the time, getting activities to keep DD occupied while I sort out tea at the end of the day once we're home from work and daycare, bouncing back and forth from kitchen to lounge to check on her, or near burning things to better supervise her 'helping' in the kitchen!
But then there's the 'challenging' moments, where she'll deliberately defy me - and I'm getting the feeling it's more to guage my reaction than actually 'not' do what I'm asking of her.:(
By the time we've done dinner, a little play, bath, teeth, pyjamas, stories and kissed goodnight, I want to trudge into my room and collapse.
But doing that would mean there's no 'me' time whatsoever ...
:ecomcity::ecomcity::ecomcity: yes yes, I know. "Blah blah blah" but I'm glad to be able to at least come here and have the space to have a vent like this!
So this is more of a vent than a question on 'how to deal' because ... quite frankly there's not much I can do that's different. This week is more stressful than others because a few deadlines have come up in a row and her father hasnt been able to have her for the mid-week night, plus my mother decided to extend her stay from two nights to ... five ???
I work every day of the week, so that means being super organised, making lunches early along with our breakfasts, packing the daycare bag with spare clothes (or checking they've not been pulled out the night before). And that's fine, and I could cope with that, only it's not about 'just' doing those things, there's a person that I've got to convince to go along at the pace I need her to in order for me to make it out the door in time, to get dressed, brush teeth, hair, shoes on, select which toys get to come in the car and which ones are staying at home :rolleyes:
Currenlty with my DD it feels like it's always a fight for independence, battling to keep things going, always running, of late not sleeping so well, feeling a bit like an awful mummy for being so strict and stern so often. I question how much I ought to be standing my ground ... but i think my DD is clever enough to start working out when she gets away with things ...
There's no autopilot now though, not like when she was little and I could whisk her along with me, get her ready and have us out the door. Or back in the door!
It's just so stressful, talking all the time, being asked repeated questions all the time, getting activities to keep DD occupied while I sort out tea at the end of the day once we're home from work and daycare, bouncing back and forth from kitchen to lounge to check on her, or near burning things to better supervise her 'helping' in the kitchen!
But then there's the 'challenging' moments, where she'll deliberately defy me - and I'm getting the feeling it's more to guage my reaction than actually 'not' do what I'm asking of her.:(
By the time we've done dinner, a little play, bath, teeth, pyjamas, stories and kissed goodnight, I want to trudge into my room and collapse.
But doing that would mean there's no 'me' time whatsoever ...
:ecomcity::ecomcity::ecomcity: yes yes, I know. "Blah blah blah" but I'm glad to be able to at least come here and have the space to have a vent like this!