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[munchie]

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[Bubmum]

You have been through so much, but don't be angry at yourself...you were trying to do the right thing.
It's right...there should be a line that is drawn, a point of no return, where "rights" are reneged. All you have done is to try to support a relationship between your child and FOB. You are not at fault at all..you have gone beyond the call of duty.
:hugs:for every time he did something that made you doubt yourself.

[Benji]

:hugs: hun I truly believe if somebody has a short temper, they could lose it with anybody.

Children and babies are frustrating at times with even the most patient people.

When a father hurts somebody's mother, how is that not hurting the child too? I don't geddit :no:

Keep all of your evidence. Good luck xoxoxo

[munchie]

Thanks girls:hugs::hugs:

[MimiGrace]

When a father hurts somebody's mother, how is that not hurting the child too?
Thats what i keep wondering too.

Don't let the comments of one or two people get to you.

And i agree with the other girls, document, document document. Start a diary where you write down everytime he called you.
Use an [internet] phone where you can hit record the second he calls (and tell him obviously), that way you have proof of what he says to you. (can you hide a video camera or tape recorder on ur body somewhere next time so you get it all documented?), sorry i'm :ecomcity:

Take care!!! :hugs::hugs:

[Jakois]

after reading another thread..

I'm assuming all my 'evidence' of the times I made an effort for my dd to see her dad- travelling interstate!! he abuses me, hits me while I'm feeding my child, spits in my face .. it all goes out the window if he ever takes me to court because I'm an IDIOT, there is a DVO against him, so we are not supposed to have ANY contact AT ALL. So I guess there is no point in keeping a record, all his messages.. one that reads "No wonder I bashed you all the time"!!! That would look GREAT in court HA!.
Would I be charged to admitting we both had contact, would he?

This is not frikn fair!!! I am annoyed at that other thread.

"Just because he has shown abuse to the mother, does not mean he would be like that towards the kids" ........ PFT YEAH RIGHT. How do you know?

I detest the legal system. I detest dropkick lowlife scum like my ex and I am pi$$ed off with myself for being so STUPID.

Descent, contributing, loving, good ROLE MODEL men, this does not include YOU!

All the rest can go to HELL.

When do second chances run out???????

Keep ALL your documented items.


It goes on a case by case basis and I can say that with my XDH his irrational and abusive behaviour DID work against him with access to our boys.


They courts will try to determine what will be in the best interests of the child.

Sometimes this is shared care, sometimes this is access.

Many :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: to you...

[munchie]

Thanks heaps ladies.

Guess I just have to play it by ear. I know this predicament is on the cards,its just a matter of when. I need to prepare myself emotionally and I just want to do the right thing, by everyone.:yes: