were you 100% sure

[supa_star323]

I do not want to start any debates, but am wondering, when you had your termination, were you 100% sure about it or was part of you wanting to have the baby?

I have some very negative affects from being forced to have one when I was barely 16 even though I know it was the right thing and I'm just wondering whether it is possible to ever be 100% sure?

[BazzasMum]

110%. I was on such a high after I could have walked on water. Didn't stop me grieving though. I had a cry and said goodbye and sorry to my baby and hoped that it understood.

I have never had any regrets. Hope you get your closure.

[naebie]

I sometimes still regret my decision to terminate- 5 years down the track.
At the time I stood by my decision, and then sometimes in hindsight I see that I probably could have gone on with the pregnancy, then other times I think that I am glad I made that decision because I have been able to better myself and my children's futures because of it.
So to answer your question, at the time I was 100% sure it was the right option, but at times since I have looked back with regret.

[crazymuma]

I had a termination almost 4 years ago and can honestly say I have no regrets.

When I first found out I was pregnant I was 100% sure I wanted to keep the baby - then I had to be realistic - after alot of thought I made my decision and have never looked back. I too walked out on top of the world - have had no greif or anything - although I would often think of one lady who was screaming hysterically as she came around - she was screaming that she had made a mistake - that they made her. I found her pain hard to deal with.

I think you need to detach yourself as much as you can from what happened - I think being forced into a termination and choosing one are two very different things that will bring about very different emotions.

4 years later and the only time I think about it is if someone asks a question or its brought up in here.

[melbabie]

Yea i was 100% sure i was doing the right thing nearly 5 years ago. I just had a baby and she was 2 months old when i found out i was preg and i knew i had to terminate. i have no regrets I know i did the right thing for me. I did grieve and sometimes still i think about what could be.
But I stand by what i did at that time.

[TripleTime]

Yes, i was 18 so 3 years ago. Was in an abuseive relationship that i needed to get out of. I have no regrets, reason being if i was to go threw with the pregnacey i would still have to deal with my ex for the next 15 years & wouldnt have the loving partner i have today.

Im glad the part of my life is a cloesed chapter.

[BayleysMum]

I was not 100% sure but I had a lot of people telling me that it is what I should do. I regret my decision and I find it so hard to talk to anyone about it because it is still something that people don't talk about. My partner doesn't understand the pain that I feel and I just keep myself busy so that I don't think about it. I have just noticed myself getting angrier and angrier about it and I am starting to resent my partner :(

[beebs]

I knew it was the right descion - but I still felt terrible about it - it took me years and years of grieving to get to a better place about it. It was for medical reasons that I had it - even though that was the case I was still guilty and upset for a long time. I'm no longer guilty about it, but I still get upset about it. I was never 100% - about 99% maybe - but there was always that thought in the back of my mind..

[ck2b]

I was also just 16, and 100% positive. I was initially going to go ahead with it but I thought about what kind of life I was bringing the child into and it was not the life I wanted for any child of mine.
Last year I gave birth to the child that I felt I had to give up 15 years earlier and she was born into a safe, secure, and happy family unit with a mature, and stable mother and a loving and dedicated father. I dread to think what kind of life I could have provided for a child back then...I had so much to learn.

[simba6]

I had a termination when i was 18,at the time i was at least 99% sure at the time, due to my young age,and not knowing if my partner and i would be together forever,i went ahead with it,but was still very upset.
13 years later and am still with my same partner,i have huge regrets to this day and feel very sad and guilty about what i did,now having my dd,it has had a bigger impact cause i realise how huge the decision was,if only i knew then what i know now,especially loosing so many babies,sometimes i think is it karma :( it's a hard decision, but only one each individual can make.

[cheezelz]

I was 100% and now looking back I feel 1000000% sure that I did the right thing. I was 18 at the time with both of my terminations (I know, very sill to get in the same situation twice). I found my ex partner whom was the Father the other day homeless, drugged & squatting infront of a shopping centre waving a branch over his head. My sister aslo saw him collection old cigarette butt sof the floor. Apparently he has been in jail too. I know I made the best choice for me and those children.
I also know I wouldnt be in the great position I am now with my DH & 2 DD's. We have our own house, are financially & mentally stable and love eachother and wanted and planned for the bubs we do have which can make a huge difference.
Im not saying that I didnt grieve because I did. I was only just dreaming about my ex this morning although it wasnt a nice dream. He comes into my head along with our past every now and then.
Your past never escapes you so you have to be sure your doing the right thing..

[lil miss]

i have had to face this situation twice in the last 12 months.

The first: I was pregnant to my (now ex) dp, who is also the father of my 1st child. Very abusive relationship. He told me if i didnt have an abortion he would leave me. I knew i couldnt live with having an abortion and i really wanted to keep the baby, but i was so desperate to hold onto him that i finally agreed (didnt help my mum was pressuring me to abort as well). I booked it and I started bleeding while he was away. The night before I was meant to have the abortion, i miscarried. It still kills me to this day, because i keep thinking that the baby could feel it wasnt wanted (i know its not true but its the way i think). He left me for another woman the same week and denied the baby was even his. I found out when i went to hospital that the baby had actualy died a few weeks prior. Again, I blamed myself.

The second: was about 4 months after i miscarried. I had just started dating my now dp, and it was a total shock to find out i was pregnant. I knew I didnt want to keep the baby (for many reasons, but mostly cuz i knew i couldnt handle it emotionally), but i was against abortion as an option for me personally. He was really good and said he would support my choice no matter what (he also has a dd from a previous relationship). At first I decided to go thru with the preg and give the baby up for adoption, but after a lot of thinking, i decided to terminate. Dp was there for me the whole time. The day of the abortion, i was scared, and almost backed out when they told me how far along i was (6 weeks to the day), but I knew i was making the right choice.

I will admit, I do have my days when I wonder what would have happened if I'd have kept it, but I never feel guilty or think i made the wrong choice. But thats natural. I know however, I would have been a train wreck if I had of terminated the baby I miscarried. I dont know why I felt so different about the two, I guess my situation had a lot to do with it.

But Im glad everything has turned out the way it has, and I dont regret doing it. I know I probably wouldnt have handle it so well if I didnt have such great support though.

[HowCrazyCool]

I was a 100% the second i saw the lines. i back flipped a few times but always went back to that point in time.

my life has continued on and there have been times of sadness, but not regret.

[Help Me Please]

I was 100% certain and still am.I already had 2 dd by the time I was 18,one at 16 and next 18months later.DH and I both decided it was the best thing.He was there the whole time.I think about it now and again but never regreted it

[BigRedV]

No, we were 100% comfortable with our decision.

[KMGG]

I regret mine and wish I had been strong enough to say no. Mine was for medical reasons, everyone else thought it was a the best thing to do.
I keep trying to think about how bad it would have been if I hadn't terminated but all I can think is that he hadn't given up and that little heart beat was going at 147 beats per minute and I stopped it.