Does dd have an attitude?

[DB&O]

Hi, as some of you may remember from an earlier thread my dd has been getting hurt by another toddler at d/care.
My sis mentioned it to a work colleague (sp?) of hers that has 5 children & her response was to say that my dd was being targeted by this child because 'she had it coming to her & that she has an attitude problem'. Now this woman has never met my dd but has been told the normal cute & funny stories by my sis, who is a very doting Narny (auntie) but thinks that we let her 'run wild & don't discipline her'.
DD is a really well behaved little girl & only occasionly mis-behaves but neither DH or I beleive that we need to crush her spirit & enthusiasm.
Do we need to be more stern with her or should I tell this woman where to go?

[MamaSage]

An attitude? Your'e joking right? :eek:

[nemosmum]

Tell her to mind her own beeswax, :mad:

How you discipline your child is your business and she should keep her opinons to herself unless they are asked for by you!

I am a firm believer in gentle discipline, my son responds really well to this style rather than a heavy handed, authorative approach. If your style works for you and your child then I dont see what the problem is:thumbsup:

[Grizabella]

Wow. It's amazing how easily people can make a judgement of someone's child and the way they are being raised, just through stories. Not by actually meeting the child in person and knowing them well enough to make a fully informed conclusion.

I agree with the others. Ignore this silly woman. Just because she has had 5 children, doesn't mean she is expert on your DD's behaviour!

[Baby Girl]

I think I know who the one with attitude is.......:shame:

I can't stand presumptious people who think they have all the answers!!!

[reAllytee]

Errr ok i think i know where i would tell this woman to go !
I think she has more a jealousy issue that she either thinks your DD is a better child than her own or maybe she is jealous that you allow your DD to "run wild" so to speak in that she has more free will than her children have ever had.
Who knows but maybe your sister is best not telling any stories to her from now on !

[DB&O]

Thanks for the support ladies, I don't know why I let what other ppl think of me & my family affect me so much. You're all right, she has never met DD & we also beleive in gentle but firm discipline, after all she is only 1.
It's hard enough to be sure of & commited to the way you parent without other ppl shooting you down, I think I will have to grow a thicker skin & tell her where to shove her 'advice' next time.
Ciao,
Brooke.

P.S. My sis also told me last night that she never has anything nice or complimentary to say about her own children so now I definately know not to listen to a word she says. I'll do the whole, I see your mouth moving but all I here is 'blah, blah blah, blah' trick :D

[suemp]

your daughter is only 1 even if she was lashing out it would be only to discover what she could get away with not because she had an attitude!!! and as she grows you'll notice its the kids with attitudes that do the bullying on the quiet mannered ones...so this so called expert has it around the wrong way anyway!!!:rolleyes:

[Mum&bubs]

Tell her where to go!! :banghead: