Not so peachy

[Oli'sMum]

Hello All.

I have a 2 year old son.

My partner and I are in the process of separating. We live together at the moment, we have to stay this way for a month or so whilst he saves for bond for his own place. We are purely parents to our child. Its so very sad, we have tried relationship councelling and other things, but I think the love died a while ago... we kept trying to breathe life into something that had grown so very hollow.

I study full time at TAFE, work part-time and
my little guy has just been diagnosed with 'high functioning' autism. Im going to have to quit my job 'cause it will be impossible to find a minder for him. Its all pretty heavy for me right now and Im not coping all that well.

I am so deeply wounded and hurting for the loss of my relationship with the father of my child. I really struggle with the living-in-the-same-house situation... it hurts so bad that I can hardly breathe sometimes... looking at him cuts me all up inside. He is a good man, a great father... but we are not compatible... after 9 years... oh the hurt. :gloomy:

[c2p08]

hi, i couldnt go past your thread without giving u some :hugs::hugs::hugs: im sorry i dont have any positive advice i can give you. i was in the same situation in regards to living with my ex (bubs dad) for a short time after we broke up, but it was very negative for me. i hope that things get better for you.

[spoon]

If it hurts so much...maybe it is not dead.

xx

[MummyDaddy]

Was the break amicable?

Could you perhaps try counselling?

It does hurt babe because you will now go through the grieving process of the loss of something that has taken a huge chunk of your life.

You might like to read up about grief online - it can be helpful.

Also - even if you don't do couples counselling you might find some for yourself as an individual helpful.

Good luck :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[frayzlilso]

It has to be hard grieving for your relationship breakdown, but at the same time not being able to completely register the situation because he's still living in the same house.

:hugs: I hope all goes well for you.

There are fantastic support groups around for mum's with children that have autism, lots of really good tips for how to explain the world, and also valuable information on their perceptions of the world. I've taken some really good training seminars while working as a teacher ... it's not really comparative with being a parent, but I hope a little encouraging that there's now so much information out there. :)