Dating Dilemma

[MummyDaddy]

Ok - advice please ladies! It's not often I ask :o

So I have a date tomorrow night ... i'd like to go ... that's not the problem.

Basically I asked one of my exes who remains a good friend and is actually my child's Godfather if he would babysit for me.

Okay - so I was desperate.

Anyway, he has now come back to me and said he would really like to do it and asked if he can bring his girlfriend.

Now, I don't have a problem with the girlfriend - I never have - I actually helped him win her back after she dumped him.

BUT - she has a MASSIVE problem with me.

She is very insecure and even told him he had to choose between her and my child. She's immature.

Anyway, I'm not so keen on having her in my house now.

On the other hand - I want to go on the date.

And I also have nothing to hide.

And maybe it would be good for her to see that I'm not a threat.

On the other hand I'll be looking hot - which is part of her problem too - that she feels threatened.

She doesn't even kind of get it.

She has MASSIVE bazooka's where as mine are average. I know the ex so well that I know he'd never leave those jugs for my post breast feeding pattacakes :laughing:

Anyhoo - what do you all think???????????

[rainbow road]

Personally, if it were my babysitter I wouldn't want them bringing anyone or anything which may divert their attention from caring for my child.

As a babysitter, I wouldn't even ask.

However, many people offer to let me bring friends/boyfriends around (pfft like I have one :crying:) so I can see it's not an issue for some parents.

Honestly, if you're uncomfortable, then I wouldn't do it, if you're okay with it, then I don't see the problem, as long as you're comfortable with the decision - you don't want to spend the date worrying about her!

good luck on the date btw ;)

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

I say if he is a good friend and you trust him with your child, then you trust his judgement and it should be fine.

I can't understand why she is jealous, after you helped them get back together, and you are asking him to babysit so you can go out on a date.:confused:

[MummyDaddy]

Yeah ... I don't really want her in my home to be honest.

I offered to meet her for coffee so many times and got rejected so many times that now I would rather not go on on the date than have her here.

I also agree that it's not appropriate to bring friends around to babysit.

I don't really want them pashing and carrying on - on my couch. Apart from the fact she was be devastated if she knew what the ex and I had done on that very couch.

I'd rather meet her the first time somewhere neutral and with baby.

As it is my baby will be asleep and all they will be doing is sitting on my couch watching tv or fooling around.

Hmmmm ... we'll see. I told him over email I wasn't comfortable with having her there. So we'll see what happens. He owe's me big time because without me - there is no way he would be back with her. We'll see what he says.

[MummyDaddy]

I can't understand why she is jealous, after you helped them get back together, and you are asking him to babysit so you can go out on a date.:confused:

Ne either! I said to him so many times 'did you tell her I helped you' ... I don't think he really has told her to be honest ... but she's also very insecure.

Also - I don't like the tactic of her coming over with him knowing I will be out. I think that's sneaky and a cop out - especially after I have offered so many times to meet her on neutral territory to show her that i'm no threat.

I'm freakin 12 years older than her for starters!

haha :laughing:

Sometimes I have to say to him 'and she knows i'm a single parent right' ...

Insecurity and jealousy can never be rationalised unfortunately!

[MummyDaddy]

Just an update - I emailed him with all my concerns and said that no I wouldn't be happy for him to bring her seeings as I had never met her and being in my home is a priviledge not a right.

I suggested I meet her over coffee another time.

I managed to get someone else to sit for me ...

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

I am going out on a date !!

hehe :)

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

That's great news. At least you will feel good about it while on your date.:yes:

[Bubmum]

Honey..Have fun tonight. Don't drink too much sangria..And don't let that woman anywhere near your couch. Dd was conceived on a couch..I call them babymakers.
She'll never get over the jealous thing. She's young and insecure, and needs about 20 years to get over that. Poor little dumpling.
I wish I was coming out with you..I love mexican..and I love sangria. Yum yum yum.:smiliedance: