Trying to toilet train DS with no success

[conansmummy]

Hi

I have been trying to toilet train my 19 month old son but im not having much success. Can anyone give me some tips? thanks

[OJandMe]

He sounds like he's just not ready.

If I were you.. I'd wait till next summer... trying to toilet train over winter is a nightmare... too many changes of clothes and too many layers.

Wait a while.

[Silvana]

I agree. I am TT my 2 year old now, and I just let her go with pants on because it is easier for her.

I am still trying though, soon as her bum hits a nappy for bedtime, she poos. Hopefully she will grow out of it. :fingerscrossed:

However, if you wanted to start now, just leave a potty out and take the nappy off. Encourage him, but don't force it. DD got it on her own, and they generally learn by themselves and by watching you.

[amandaw]

I agree with the 'wait' sentiment. We tried starting with our DD about 5 months ago (when she turned 2 and it started warming up)...to absolutely no success. Fast forward 4 months, and while we get the :barf: sleeping pooh too, she easily takes herself to the toilet, disrobes, climbs up, wipes and flushes without asking for us...and stays dry during day sleeps...all within about 2 weeks (we've had 1 accident in a month :yelclap:)

He just might need a bit longer

[NibbleCurlynBub]

:yes: He is pretty young, there is plenty of time.

I didn't start TTing DS until he was well over 2 1/2.

It has been a reasonably quick and painless train, though poops are a bit of a fuss still, day, night and out and about he is dry now.

Give him a bit more time, he will get there eventually. :)

[Knocked_for_six]

I agree with waiting, :yes: he sounds like he may not be ready. My eldest son took what seemed like forever to toilet train he was 3 years and 2 month when he was able to go without a nappy in the day and 4 years at night, while Oliver was 2 years in the day and 3 month later at night, we took their lead as to when they were ready. Every child is different and sometime no pressure or rush is best! :thumbsup:

[mum_I'm_hungry]

I would definitely wait. We just started our 2.5 year old last week and he was done in a couple days. Sure, we still pull the car over a lot on long trips, but seriously, he got the gist of it within 48 hours and now refuses nappies completely, poos in the toilet (a bit of bribery with jelly beans there...) and loves his Big Boy undies.

I really wouldn't push things, or it could really backfire and make things more difficult for you :yes:

[3blue&1pink]

I would wait as well. I was TT at 18months and so were all my siblings but my boys were not ready until around 2 1/2.

DS1 started earlier (around 2) at kindy.. he continued to go forwards and backwards... it was not until he was 3 1/2 that he had it down pat.

DS2 was trained at 2 1/2 and it took 6 weeks. One night we returned home after being out and discovered he had run out of nappy's.. no time like then. We explained he had no more nappies and time to use the toilet.. that whole weekend he gave us nothing but dirty looks but come Monday he was sitting on the toilet.. roughly 5 weeks later we had no more wet nights (he would get up to go to the loo), dry days and no accidents at all.

I would wait till next summer.

[delirium]

Kids will only tt when they are ready. He is showing you he is not ready yet. DD didn't tt until a bitover 2.5. She knew what to do but for some reason she just wouldn't go. When I laid off and just let her decide, she went from not one wee in the toilet to completely night trained in 2 months :D

and I agree that tting in winter in a big PITA.

[MrsMiggins]

I agree with waiting. I'm not big on toilet "training" as such. Sure, let them know the potty or toilet is there, encourage them to use it if they want to, but trying to "get" them to do it is only making it difficult and frustrating for both parent & child, when it doesn't need to be. 19 months is still so young. My DD decided at 3 (not long after her birthday) that she was going to use the toilet and that was that! We only had a few minor accidents (wee only - never poo) at times when it really wasn't her fault, and then she's been dry & happy ever since!

DS has shown an inerest in the toilet/potty for a while now, but is not yet at the stage where he can consistently tell me he needs to go before he goes, so until then, nappies it is! :D

[BaDaBing]

I have two sons and my first was trained 2 yrs 4 mnths but my second son who I started training before he was 2 took until he was 3 years 2 months!! It was a nightmare and in hindsight I wish I had waited because obviously he just wasn't ready and it caused me so much grief which wasn't necessary.

So speaking from experience if it doesn't seem to be happening and by that I mean he isn't telling you he needs to go to the toilet then I would wait until next summer save yourself the heartache.

Good Luck.

[OJandMe]

:iagree: with MrsMiggins.

I didn't toilet train O and J...

I just let them run around with no pants on. If they weed I said "quick, outiside" (much more space to aim than into a little potty)

And once I saw them playing around outside with no pants on then 'choosing' WHERE to wee (or more to the point, WHAT to wee on :rolleyes:) I just told them to go wee in the toilet :)

Oliver had had maybe 2 day accidents. And about 4-5 night accidents.

Jordan's had a few more, coz he gets caught up in games and doesn't like to leave them. he hasn't had any day accidents for about a year, but will occasionally wet the bed still.

They were both completely day and night dry by 3yrs old.

No fuss, no tears, no anxiety. Got rid of nappies after about 3 days.

[sandy cheeks]

I'm with the others with the waiting my ds at 2 toilet trained himself during the day but had trouble at night I found the pull ups horrid he never knew when he wet I swapt back over to cloth overnight and within a week and a half he was waking to wee insted.

[conansmummy]

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. He has done a couple of wees in the toilet and 1 in the potty but now he will sit on the toilet for a couple of mins then wants to get off. He sits on the potty (backwards) but seems to think it is a toy and won't stay sitting on it.

I really want to toilet train him as we are ttc baby 2 and I don't want 2 kids in nappies. I guess I just thought it was going to happen overnight but that isn't the case.

[MrsMiggins]

For what it's worth, my DS was born when DD was 17 months old & we had two in nappies for over a year and a half. It's not as big a deal as you would think. Far easier than having a newborn who needs changing constantly and a toddler having lots of accidents. :yes: