musicalmummy
04-03-2009, 09:16
court orders say we have kids EOW ,half hols ,and once a month on tues and wednesday nights due to mothers work commitments. we don't pay c/s because of having the kids 30% and also becuase bio mum earns more than double our combined income.
SS is 18 next month and in yr 12. since christmas hols he's decided he prefers to stay at the mums cos his mates are near there, all his stuff is there, and he can use the internet 24/7 (here we limit his usage due to the fact it's our modem for this computer he uses).
so since then, BM seems to be making us have sd10 more than we should. this month it was nearly every week from tues til fri + EOW. I made DH say no to one of the weeks. we simply can't afford it for one, and 2, it really disrupts alot and 3, i work from home now 2 days a week and sd disrupts that because she's in my face the moment she walks in. i know that sounds horrible but she is constantly asking what is going on, or what am i doign at the computer, then makes smart remarks, compares me to her mother...eg my mother doesn't buy home brand food like you do. she insists on hyping up dd2yrs. i love that they play and get on well, but when she constantly hypes her up, especially before bed it gets frustrating.
the biggest thing that erks me is dh not acknowledging my efforts, and the fact that i make sure she gets to the bus stop in teh mornings, chased up the bus company because she left her joggers on the bus, organise her friends to visit on w/e, encourageher to do her h/w, still keep the house tidy how he likes it, and and home here of the afternoon on the days i don't work simply because she's not yet mature enough to be alone.
thanks for the vent.
SS is 18 next month and in yr 12. since christmas hols he's decided he prefers to stay at the mums cos his mates are near there, all his stuff is there, and he can use the internet 24/7 (here we limit his usage due to the fact it's our modem for this computer he uses).
so since then, BM seems to be making us have sd10 more than we should. this month it was nearly every week from tues til fri + EOW. I made DH say no to one of the weeks. we simply can't afford it for one, and 2, it really disrupts alot and 3, i work from home now 2 days a week and sd disrupts that because she's in my face the moment she walks in. i know that sounds horrible but she is constantly asking what is going on, or what am i doign at the computer, then makes smart remarks, compares me to her mother...eg my mother doesn't buy home brand food like you do. she insists on hyping up dd2yrs. i love that they play and get on well, but when she constantly hypes her up, especially before bed it gets frustrating.
the biggest thing that erks me is dh not acknowledging my efforts, and the fact that i make sure she gets to the bus stop in teh mornings, chased up the bus company because she left her joggers on the bus, organise her friends to visit on w/e, encourageher to do her h/w, still keep the house tidy how he likes it, and and home here of the afternoon on the days i don't work simply because she's not yet mature enough to be alone.
thanks for the vent.