Good Grief...........

[sopolicha]

My best friend from school (remember teenage years, blue light discos and pumpkin skirts) turned 35 today. She now lives around a four hour drive from me, but we stay in pretty close contact.

Anyway, I rang her for her birthday and I said 35 hey? She said yes 35 (I am about 8 months younger). The conversation went on and she said 'I can't imagine my mother having a 35 year old daughter. I said 'Yes you are right' and I thought it was funny. I then spoke to my mother and I said to her 'Oh, Wendy is 35 today'. She was shocked as well. Really?

I don't know why we are all so shocked. Are we a younger 35 than our mothers were. Why is it such a shock?

My DH just walked in and I said 'I can't work out why are all so shocked that we are 35. He says what about my brother he is 51 this year.


P.S MM, I see you have a Trans-Tasman namesake.

P.P.S My DD just explained emoticons to me..........very funny, will be back later.

[Funkychicken]

What i find scary is that we are just about considered middle-aged!!!!!!:p

[Funkychicken]

What i find scary is that we are just about considered middle-aged!!!!!!:p
PS Using this emoticon:p is me trying to make light of the fact I am about to turn 36! Really, I do still have a sense of humour.:D

[MammaMia]

P.S MM, I see you have a Trans-Tasman namesake.


Another one????? This is a public announcment: I am the One True MammaMia. I am the Original. Please do not confuse me with imitations. :D

As for age.... I have realised that I have stopped aging all of my friends. One of my dear friends is 39 this year, and I cannot believe it. Where did our years together go? Soon, we will all be attending 40th parties. Actually, it has started already.

And yes, it is shocking.

I continue to see myself in some ways as the uncertain 16 year old I once was. Not in every area of my life, but in some, I still don't believe I am a grown up.

My great grandmother once told me that in her head she was still a sweet 20-something.

My mum tells me that she still feels a shock when she sees photos of this middle-aged woman and realises that she is looking at herself.

I don't know what we do about aging....guess, we can only do it disgracefully!;)

[Funkychicken]

Hmm..I repeatedly think I am still an early 20-something. But then I get up (slowly) off the couch and it takes me at least 14 steps to straighten up and stop hobbling.:rolleyes:
THE MIND IS WILLING...BUT THE BODY 'AINT!:D

[lukaelmo]

Hmmm I must admit that even though I am very old and my body is starting to fall apart, I am glad I am not that 16 year old anymore. Funny looking, awkward, a social disaster, desperate to fit in instead of just doing my thing... At least now I have the confidence to go ahead with what pleases me...

And I will use some serious emoticons if any of you suggests that I am still funny looking.

[Bron]

I too am delighted to no longer be the person I was at 16. Completely lacking any real self awareness and I just didn't feel comfortable in my own skin at all. It is a much nicer view from this side of the fence!

[Funkychicken]

Definately wouldn't want to go back to any other age. I'm quite content with my age and where I am in life. If only I could stay up past 10pm though.........:rolleyes:

[rynosmum]

I remember sitting in the back of my parent's car, warm and snug in their care and safety. I gazed out my window as our 'provider' (my father) was taking ownership of white paper bags bursting with chippy and burger goodness. I remember thinking, 'those ladies in the drive through window are so in control of all things good. I wonder if I will be able to be a drive-thru girl when I grow up. They must be sooooo popular !!!"

I am turning 35 this year and apart from a GP helpfully telling me recently that I'd be flat out having more children at my age, I'm feeling pretty good about it all.

Happy ending here though - I reached my drive-thru dream when I was 16 years old - ahhhh, they were the days !....:p

[sopolicha]

Okay, I hinted before that my first DD had the emoticon thing figured out. She understands my typing on the computer as 'talking to other ladies about their babies and computers'.

:chef: when you cook mashed pears for your baby.

:bday: This is for Kaidens's (KM) Birthday Party.

:fingerscrossed: My babies fingers are tired, and I hope she goes to sleep, so give her hands a rest.


:banghead: I want to visit my friends' cousins and knock on their door. (I can't work that one out).

There are a many more but she needs to go to bed.

MM, we know that you are the original and the best.

LE, funny, but in a good way.

Here is a good Saturday night confession. My husband will be 50 before I am 40.

Sal008, your children are just beautiful.

[Funkychicken]

I am turning 35 this year and apart from a GP helpfully telling me recently that I'd be flat out having more children at my age, I'm feeling pretty good about it all.

What the???????? What sort of comment is that? Does your GP have inside knowledge of your bodily workings? Last year, at age nearly 35, I became pregnant-again-and we were in no way trying and as far as I knew I wasn't even ovulating when IT happened! Babies come to those they choose-and if they are choosing us oldies there must be some smart bubbas out there waiting for us!:laughing:

[rynosmum]

Well she wasn't my GP but was standing in whilst mine was away. She also didn't pick up a major issue so I went back and saw my GP this week to sort it all out.

I had to see my OB/GYN this week on other issues - he was horrified with what she had said...

[leenaomi]

I am glad I am not that 16 year old anymore. Funny looking, awkward, a social disaster, desperate to fit in instead of just doing my thing... At least now I have the confidence to go ahead with what pleases me...

I hadn't even kissed a boy at 16!! (apparently I've made up for lost time.) I'm definitely glad I'm not that girl anymore. Although, I wouldn't mind her girlish figure.....

[draught]

Rynosmum - I hate GPs who don't know what they are talking about!! (says the 37 year old who fell pregnant before we even planned to as it turns out) Sal is right - babies come when they are meant to, and often when we least expect it.

As for age - most of the time I just feel like me - an ageless late 20's, early 30's sort of person (and would not go back to being a teenager for all the money in the world). Then I realise that I will be 40 in two years. And the thought doesn't freak me out. My aim for turning 40 is to not be pregnant and not be breastfeeding - I would like to have a babysitter in and go out and have a nice few wines somewhere! I figure that with this aim in mind I am still "me" at heart - regardless of age! (If that makes sense?)

Sop - love the emoticons explanation! DD1 (3 yo) asks to see the dancing smilies - she doesn't know why they are there - just that she loves them!

[Maghan]

The ole yellclap emoticon is a favourite of DSno.3. He likes to physically copy it whilst I type!

Sop, you know that I struggle with this age thing.

Like your mum MM, I still feel shocked when I see photos of myself. I still think I am 21, it's hard to see the reality...

And on the topic of stupid GP's. I met one last week that as I was walking out the door after the consult called me back because she hadn't examined me. She was giving me all the antibiotics and tablets I needed just on my say so. Good for me, bad for business I think!

[red crayon]

rynosmum - my GP almost had me in tears because she was banging on about my age when i was trying to conceive at the age of 36. do they think we are stupid - we know about the whys and wherefores!

draught - i also think i'm still late 20s/early 30s - until i look in the mirror:laughing: i wouldn't go back to 17 for all the money in the world. it's a sh*t of an age.

[mykidzrokk]

Oh, i know where ur all coming from.....my friends and i all turn 35 this year...i cannot believe it.....i dont feel any different an i dont think i look any different...lol...i still have the pimples i had when i was 16,that's a good sign, right?????

[shed]

Well I conceived at 36 and will be a mum at 37.

I planned it that way. I always wanted to be an old mum, coz I had a young mum who was unhappy and unfulfilled. So I swore I would never be that.

And I'm not.

I'm bloody tired though...:laughing: :laughing:

[Nickster]

My old ribs are aching from laughing at sop's DS' emoticon explanation - love it!

[Ky]

I don't feel 36!

Mind you ... it helps when you are married to a 27 year old and look pretty young too ... everyone assumes that I am in my mid twenties and treat me accordingly!

This is exactly the age I feel ... how come 36 was really old when I was younger??? Did the ladies 20 years ago dress like frumps or resign themselves to their "old age" earlier than we are willing to??

I was talking to my friend in NZ the other day and I feel sad when she declares herself as "on the shelf" and "an old maid" ... doesn't she know that she could fall in love tomorrow and still be young enough to be a happy, healthy and vibrant Mum?

I will just continue to fantasize that I am about DH's age and ignore the grey hairs and wrinkles that I see creeping into the view in the mirror!

Ps . my ds stands by the pc saying ... "click on that one Mum" ... I get absolutely no peace ... hence the late night posting!