I had an ectopic last week...

[MilkOnTap]

I was 6 weeks pregnant last wednesday and was rushed to hospital from work after fainting. I have just had an ectopic pregnancy.

I had laprascopic surgery last wednesday night to have both my first baby removed and my left fallopian tube.

I dont know how to handle this. My partner and I were so excited about being pregnant, and in one swift week it is all taken away from us - and I am left with but one fallopian tube to do the work of two.

Everyone who has tried to 'give me advice' has had a miscarriage - but to my mind it is totally different. A miscarriage is natures way of voiding a pregnancy, but an ectopic pregnancy you still have to sign the line for the doctor to terminate your baby... ultimately its the babies life or your own.

Does anyone know where I can go to talk to someone about this? Or has anyone else gone through the same thing?

[Briannabear]

You poor thing. Thats awful. I havent experienced what you're going through, but my heart goes out to you.
You have lost a child so you have the right to be grieving. Maybe your doctor can put you in touch with a councillor who deals with this sort of thing.
I hope your pain eases with time.
Feel free to chat to me anytime. (You can just vent if you like!) mjskehan@bigpond.com

[bubhub]

Hi Ally

So sorry to hear of your loss. There is an organisation of professional counsellors who could help you - it's SANDS at http://www.sands.org.au/ They deal with early pregnancy loss right through to loss after birth. Phone numbers and locations for your state are on their website.

I hope they can help
Hilary

[maybe1more]

Sweetheart im so so sorry to hear that you had an eptopic pregnancy, and no i dont think its the same a a miscarrage, your baby had to be taking because it was growing in the fallopium tube, other then that there was nothing wrong with your angel, i know how exciting you were when you found out you were expecting, my heart goes out to you and your man. If you need to talk dont hesitate to e-mail me jenn007andahalf@hotmail.com
Sending you love and lots of cuddles your way.

[MilkOnTap]

Thank you so much for your support and wishes. My partner and I have just realised how hard it must be for people to try and express their sympathy in a situation such as this.

All of my friends who have called to share in the loss have been unable to sympathise with me fully. And they all realise that such a situation as this they may never be able to fully sympathise.

I snapped at one of my 'friends' when she started trying to give me 'perspective' saying that she had a miscarriage once. Because I so strongly believe that there is a huge difference between a miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy I wouldn't accept her sympathy - I really regret it now.

Next time round I am going to wait til we are 3 months before making announcements... It was so hard to tell everyone the bad news, barely a week after telling them good news.

Thanks guys once again - and I will be back when we are pregnant!!!

[clairbear]

Ally84 sorry to read of your loss.after all that excitement and happiness for you and your partner. Hope you get some counselling, you are on the right track having acknowledged that it will hopefully be a good thing to do in terms of dealing with this. Ectopic pregnancy DOES sound scary and serious when comparing it to miscarriage............on the bright side I do know two women who went through what you did and went on to have beautiful healthy babies. Best of luck with counselling, then its one step at a time with your partner by your side ;)