Xmas baby...opinions?

[my*lil*munchkin]

Okay this is probably a silly question...

DH & I are going to start TTC next month (YAY!!!!) I think I am due to O around 28 March - 2 April, which would mean IF we do get a :bfp: then I would be due on 23 Dec... XMAS baby! Now I know I'm probably getting ahead of myself (!!), but I'm just wondering if anyone else has a Xmas baby?? My bday is the end of Nov & I think that's close enough to Xmas, let alone 23 Dec!!
But...I don't really want to wait another month to start trying.... :hair:
Any advice or stories much appreciated :)

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Brett's son was born on the 30th of December.

Honestly, a baby is a baby and a birthday is a birthday, close to christmas or not.

Will still be super super special. :p

[angeleish]

Hi :wave: lotsahugs

I understand what you are saying about a baby close to Christmas, however, I agree that your baby will be special regardless of when it is born.

Personally after TTC for so long I actually think that a Christmas baby would be just the kind of Christmas present that I want!!

I say go for it!!

Good luck on your journey:babydust2:

[MimiGrace]

I just want to say, i'm so happy to know i'm not the only one who considers when the bub would be born :p

Somehow in my family march and september/october just have heaps of birthdays, so i would try to avoid them. and christmas is to be avoided to :o

Then again, i would still start trying if i were you. Imagine if you waited a month to start TTC, and then had the bub come a month early, and still arrive on christmas? :p

[pkbub]

I say go for it! :yes: :D If you have decided you are ready, why wait? It may happen straight away or it may take a whole roller coaster of ttc - you never know.

My bday is Dec24...it has always kind of sucked, but my family made it a separate event from Christmas. When I was young I always had a party with friends over in July sometime as my half-birthday instead, otherwise I would have never had a real party with friends over.

Good Luck:fingerscrossed::babydust2:

[Looshkin]

Some would say I am being ridiculous but I was thinking about this as well.

We are going to have next month off TTTC .. well unless I am already you know.. utd, which I think is incredibly possible and most likely probable but.. anyway another blah for another time.

Everyone I have ever known born in december/close to christmas has a whinge about their birthday and I don't know... I'm just not going to actively try around O or keep track of charts or anything like that.

I'm one that believes the universe provides everything you need in the right time and space sequence sooo.

If it happens it happens.:p

[Chumps]

I have a 3 year old xmas day baby. Was my EDD and he arrived in the middle of the day. To be honest, although it's not ideal, if you are ready to conceive now, then go for it. It's more important for you to feel ready and happy with the choice to start a family than it is to worry about if & when a baby 'might' be due. You never know what lies ahead :)

[GraceUnhearing]

nothing wrong with a christmas baby!

[my*lil*munchkin]

Thank you so much for your replies ladies :yelclap:

It's official....we are going to start TTC next month, Xmas baby or not! :smiliedance: YAY!!
I really wanted to, but think I just needed to hear it from others too :)

Thanks again ladies!!

[NibbleCurlynBub]

:hugs: Best of luck, I hope you get your :bfp: soon!

[Sammilee]

My DS was born on Xmas Eve (EDD was 31 Dec so he was exactly a week early). And TBH (I hope I don't offend anyone) but I think it sucks. I too thought about EDD when TTC, but as it was our first month of trying I honestly thought we wouldn't conceive LOL! DS obviously had other ideas! If I had known I would have fallen so quickly I would have either tried a month earlier or waited another month before trying.

Reason for not being a fan of a birthday so close to Xmas is that it feels like DS's birthday is a bit of a rush job and an afterthought 'coz everyone is caught up in the Xmas excitement. I don't think it's intentional (well, I hope not!) but because most people make Xmas a huge celebration my DS's birthday isn't a focus IYKWIM. For example, when we had his first birthday party we only had about half the people turn up 'coz they were either busy with family Xmas get-togethers, or Xmas work parties, or they had to work, and that was even after we deliberately had his party on the 14th Dec (10 days early) and giving heaps of notice in hope that our friends and family would be available and not be busy with other Xmas get-togethers. So I do feel sad for DS, maybe not so much now as he's still a baby, but when he's older I hope he doesn't miss out. That's one of the reasons why DH and I have thought about the idea of having a 'birthday in July' celebration for him so he can have his birthday party with school friends then rather than trying to squeeze it in at the end of the year before school finishes and everyone gets caught up in the excitement of Xmas.

Of course, with regards to DH and I and our immediate family we make DS's birthday as big as ever and don't let Xmas get in the way. The 24th Dec is his day, and then the following day 25th is Xmas, no doubt about that :)

Anyway, enough of my ramblings :o. If you and your DP feel it's the right time then go for it, it's not the end of the world with having a birthday close to Xmas but I personally would rather not have my DS's birthday then.

[sunshinebub]

Go for it! My first child was born 23 Dec, my second (due xmas day) was born 27 Dec, my third born in March. We have been ttc #4 for 3 yrs and would be overwhelmed and excited to have another xmas baby. It is so very special and makes that time of year just magical. Best wishes!!

[kady1978]

My partner has two kids older than our DD. Their birthdays are as follows

His DS1 - 17 Jan
His DS2 - 10 Jan

Our DD - 8 Jan

My DP's bday is 30 March. Guess he's had a few pretty good bdays hey?

If we decide to have more, we'll definitely be thinking ahead on the time of year we conceive that's for sure! It won't be March/April!!

However, I don't think Xmasish babies are a problem. A bday is a bday, special anytime!

[ringneck]

My cousin who lives my parents was born on Christmas eve and he hates it, we go out of our way to make it special for him but he never gets any friends who are allowed to stay ON his birthday because xmas is the next day.
One of my friends is born ON xmas day and absolutely hates it his parents are great and do stuff for his birthday but it's still xmas and everyone still makes a bigger deal over that.

If you want to start ttc then go for it because chances are you aren't going to fall pregnant straight away anyway.

[carla25]

Hi there :wave: as someone who has a Christmas birthday - Dec 21st - I've never found it to be that bad. All my family have always kept it very separate, although growing some times friends would give a present for 'birthday and Christmas combined' which isn't all that important, but growing up was no fun as I always thought "well, when your May bday comes around I'll give you a present and say, this is for Christmas too" haha. The only other problem was that friends were never available for birthday parties as it was during the school holidays, I think I only ever ever had one party.
Aside from that there were no problems and I don't even think about it now. I love having a summer birthday as we would often spend it at the beach, Dreamworld or Wet n Wild. My DH also has a Dec bday and it never fazed him.

If you're ready, then just gor for it. Being the very 1st month ttc there's no guarantees it'll happen 1st go anyway (although I hope it does for you!!) All the best :D

Carla

[Green Mum to be]

We've decided to give the month which would result in a Xmas baby a rest.

Thought it wouldn't be very nice to be born that close to Christmas. Also, it is time for a break for DP anyway, I'm going a bit crazy and we would have had 5 tries by then.

Mind you if it was my first month of trying there would have been NO WAY i would have cared about the xmas baby. Baby lust takes over in times like these! :laughing:

I have to remind myself as well that despite what the due date is a baby will come when it is ready and that could be early or late hence throwing out the Xmas baby avoidance all together!

So, all in all there are a few pros and cons but if you are ready to start trying. GO FOR IT!!!

:babydust2: to you

[PookieLady]

Im in the same boat, im going to put off TTC for just one more cycle as we have a massive xmas planned.

[bgbgbb]

Having been in exactly that situation, I'll warn you on one thing, when bub is a little older, trying to get kids to come to his/her birthday party mightn't be easy. My friend's little one is 5 days before Xmas and she has a dreadful time getting people to make it to a birthday party when they're going on hols or preparing for Xmas. (My DS3 came early December so his birthday still falls in the 'school' term).

Also, be mindful that if you are heavily pregnant over summer, it's HELL! You're automatically 3 degrees hotter than everyone else. If you live in SA, WA or Victoria, that could have you at nearly 50 degrees some days!

I personally, if I could choose another baby, would try to conceive between November and February as a winter pregnancy is much easier to deal with (but the world isn't ideal)

[bgbgbb]

One positive aspect would be that if you went private, the big 20 week bill that usually pushes you over the Medicare safety net threshold, is earlier in the year so you get to enjoy a lot cheaper medical for the rest of the year!

[Areca]

I know people born either side of christmas (24th Dec and 26th Dec) and they hate it.
I would skip March if ttc to avoid that possibility.

[heatherm]

we are trying for a late november baby or early december baby.
that is why we stopped our break from ivf and started again this month.
dh and i work retail and dh would love xmas off so i thought it we could have a baby in december he would have xmas off.
dh has his birthday on new years eve and he hates that.

after trying for almost 4 years we just want a healthy baby at the end of the day no matter what sex or when it arrives.

good luck with your ttc a xmas bubba.

ps, babies dont always come on time, u could have a premmie or u could have a baby that comes at 42 weeks.

[mrswhynot]

Well it's an interesting topic, isn't it??? :D

As my birthday is the beginning of June, I have never, ever been able to have a pool party!!! Sounds silly doesn't it??? But let me tell you, as a kid with a sister who's birthday is 17th Dec who could always have great birthday parties, it sucked!!!! :hissy:

When we decided to TTC, we waited until the baby would be due in the warmer months. I always thought anytime between Sept - April would be great so hopefully it happens for us soon! :fingerscrossed: