diagnosed....

[TwoBlue]

Well i have been diagnosed with PND....

Its taken me ages to post this thread because to be totally honest i feel embarrassed and ashamed....

I always thought i'd be on top of things
I have always been a coper... I am strong woman
i just dont get it..... :(

Anyway i guess i am looking for support from people who really understand...

I am seeing a counsellor starting from next week and hoping to avoid meds if possible....

[Elfin]

Please don't be ashamed there are so many women who suffer this, you are not a failure in any way. I think you are so courageous getting help for this, it is not always an easy first step, even 'copers' can reach their limits. Facing up to the problem is one of the bravest things you can ever do.

There are plenty of PND support groups out there, maybe this could help so you know you are not alone in this. It might help to be around other mum's who are going through PND too. Best wishes to you:hugs:

[MamaSage]

:hugs: Be strong.

[sugar n spice]

i have suffered pnd 2 and im sure i will the third time. each time it started in the pregnancy. Anyway personally i found medication to really help, im not on it anymore but i prob should go back on it. I think i will need to anyhow after this baby is born. With help you will soon feel better, normal if thats the word you want thats what i said to my dr i wanted to feel normal again. I took zoloft for it and it really worked. I tried counselling first and i do agree that is a good way to head first. I was so against meds before. hope you can get well soon:hugs:

[Peaceangels]

I haven't got any personal advice, but I just wanted to send you some :hugs:
I think talking about it on here and gaining advice and support will be a great help.
You've taken a huge step already by starting this thread, because talking about things (or writing in this case) really helps.

[razzle]

:hugs: to you Tracey. We're here for you sweets!

[Mum2AandJ]

I hear you loud and clear. I am usually a strong, unemotional person. After my first son I didn't have PND. But I had my second son 8weeks ago. I had PND for about 4 weeks. But it was the longest 4weeks ever. Now I am a different person. I am still stong in my beliefs and the rock in the family. But I have tunes into my emotional side and I see things alot differently. I think it was a big eye opener for me. I have always been a very hard person when it comes to expressing myself and emotions, because that was the way i was bought up. But PND was a blessing in another sence because it changed me in a good way!
If you wanna cry- do it no matter how silly it may feel or how silly the reason! Just go with it.
Say whatever you want to say because holding things in when you have PND is not good, because you will explode into a sobbing mess (comes from personal experience).
Don't feel ashamed about it. 1 in 3 women get it! Chin-up :hugs:

[angcaltam]

It isn't something to be embarrassed about. There are lots of woman that get it, it doesn't mean that your any less of a mother, just remember that.
Big :hugs: and :kiss: to you.

[TwoBlue]

Thanks guys for your support :hugs:

I am still baffled as to how this has happened but i think it got worse when DH's new job kept him away so much....
and having no other help with the boys...

I am always fine when with friends or family but as soon as i am alone with the boys ... yikes !

Hoping some time, support and counselling will get me "back to normal"
as you say sugar n spice.

[Jem]

lots of ((((((hugs)))))) for you......:)

[TwoBlue]

I hear you loud and clear. I am usually a strong, unemotional person. After my first son I didn't have PND. But I had my second son 8weeks ago. I had PND for about 4 weeks. But it was the longest 4weeks ever. Now I am a different person. I am still stong in my beliefs and the rock in the family. But I have tunes into my emotional side and I see things alot differently. I think it was a big eye opener for me. I have always been a very hard person when it comes to expressing myself and emotions, because that was the way i was bought up. But PND was a blessing in another sence because it changed me in a good way!
If you wanna cry- do it no matter how silly it may feel or how silly the reason! Just go with it.
Say whatever you want to say because holding things in when you have PND is not good, because you will explode into a sobbing mess (comes from personal experience).
Don't feel ashamed about it. 1 in 3 women get it! Chin-up :hugs:

You sound just like me Krytalaa ! It was very reassuring to read your post, i am also an unemotional person and perhaps this will be a good thing for me too!
glad your feeling better :thumbsup:

[draught]

Tracey you have been through a lot over the last few months - lesser women would have crumbled a long time ago. PND is not a sign of weakness - you are obviously still incredibly strong to have come this far. Be kind to yourself, take all the help that is offered and you will pull through this - and there is always the bubhub cheer squad to keep you going!

I will be thinking of you - and sending a few thoughts to the bloke upstairs to keep an eye on you too!

[Bron]

Tracey - I'm thinking of you. :hugs: :hugs:

I'm right here if you need a chat.

[Pixie]

Tracey you poor lass, I was checked the other week I just felt so alone too, big :hugs: to you, you are a great mum, and wife and we all enjoy your input here :) It must be very hard with two kidlings..I hope the counselling works for you.

[Percy]

:hugs: For you

Please dont be ashamed or embarrassed.
I hope you find the support you need.

[xkwzit]

Hi Tracey
Just wanted to say that I'm thinking of and praying for you.

But please don't be embarrassed, PND is a disease, you have no control over whether you get it or not. It'll take some time and some treatment, but you will overcome.

Hugs and Prayers

[tickle]

Tracey, I absolutely agree with X.
Hope you are feeling better soon.:hugs:

[bubbles28]

You have nothing to ashamed of, any woman is at risk of getting it. I wish you all the best and hope you overcome it as soon as possible. That's great that you are seeking support for it.
take care:hugs:

[RedPanda]

I am so sorry to hear that Tracey! If I can do anything to help, please let me know. You're such a great mum and such a support to me (and so many other bubhubbers out there).:hugs:

[Funkychicken]

:hugs: to you tracey. We'll have to have more Melb mums meets so you can lean on us when you need to.:D

[Tea Lady]

You poor thing Tracey :( I'll be praying for you. :hugs:

The others are right - it's not a sign of weakness and it's not your fault (anymore than getting some other illness is your fault). Do let me know if I can help in any way. :hugs:

[TwoBlue]

Thanks so much to all of you for your support and prayers

:hugs:

Saloo8 - definantly need more Melbourne meets :D

Draught - Yay for the bubhub cheer squad !! :smiliedance:

You are all truly wonderful friends and supporters, its great to chat to others who understand that motherhood is a tough job at the best of times and that we should not feel alone...

[poshBecks]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

WE ALL LOVE YOU TRACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[TwoBlue]

Awwwww your too sweet Becky :hugs: :kiss:

[clairbear]

Hey Tracey big :hugs: to you sweetie! I am in a similar boat to you....yes it is a shock and I understand you feeling the way you do, I have always been seen to be a strong woman with lots of focus, lately I have felt like a failure as a parent, unable to think clearly and make concrete decisions as well as just feeling overwhelmed by it all.
Tracey, although it's a bit of a shock to be diagnosed, hope you feel sorta relieved at the same time. Remember, this doesn't mean you will never cope again, or even that you won't have good days and bad ones too! You are just having a bit of a hard time right now. I hope counselling helps, you need some time just for you...to focus on YOUR feelings and have them validated, which is what a good counsellor should provide! No wonder things have gotten on top of you with two little boys with very different devt stages/challenges etc, and not the usual support from your partner, it must feel very overwhelming at times....:eek:
I also hope there is a family member or friend that can let you have a break for yourself and do something special to make you feel like your old strong self again!
Pm me anytime for a chat if you like!

[TwoBlue]

lately I have felt like a failure as a parent, unable to think clearly and make concrete decisions as well as just feeling overwhelmed by it all.


This is exactly how i feel most of the time ! :hugs: to you.. its so hard isnt it !


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although it's a bit of a shock to be diagnosed, hope you feel sorta relieved at the same time

Yes absolutely is a relief.. now i can start to help myself get better :)


I also hope there is a family member or friend that can let you have a break for yourself and do something special to make you feel like your old strong self again!

Unfortunately this is an area that i lose out in... my mum is very busy running a retail business.. she hates that she has little time to help me.. My SIL who i trust with my boys lives a fair way away, has 3 of her own and is currently dealing with her mum being terminally ill so i dont feel i can dump on her at the moment iykwim? My IL's are a pack of no hopers... I have a great bunch of friends but they all have littlies of their own or are pregga's so i dont like asking them for help either.....
I am planning to join a gym soon that has a creche.. put the boys in the creche for a couple of hours, have a great workout and the boys will have fun no doubt.. i think that will be good....

Thanks Clairbear PM me anytime, i hope you feel better soon too :hugs:

[lukaelmo]

Hey Tracey,

I certainly didn't have anything so serious as PND, but I did go completely barmy for a while after the dude was born. You are certainly not alone, in fact you are possibly in very good company :D .

I am glad you are getting the help you need, well done to you for seeking it out.

[TwoBlue]

but I did go completely barmy for a while after the dude was born.

:laughing: :laughing:

Actually i have been completely barmy most of my life....

[lukaelmo]

:laughing: :laughing:

Actually i have been completely barmy most of my life....


Ah yes, some rude people might suggest that I did not have too far to go :laughing:.

[TwoBlue]

:laughing: :laughing: