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Lallas' Mum
01-06-2006, 17:16
I have posted elsewhere, had a few viewers, but for once no one seems like giving me any advice. I am getting very stressed about what to do here so I am posting here to try and get some one's attention.

My 2 1/2 year DS today hit me with such a curve ball that I don't know what to do. He is experimenting with jocks instead of nappiesand today took his nappy off and put a pair of jocks on. Great I thought. He is really starting to get the hang of toilet training.

Then he hit me with it. He hitched his shirt up under his chin, pulled the fornt of his jocks down to expose himslef, squatted and proceeded to hump his toy car's wheel!!!You could have knocked me down with a feather. I actually had to sit down. I asked him what he was trying to do and he replied with "sexercises". I thought surely he meant exercises. So I asked him if that was what he meant and he was adament he meant sexercises.
I kept asking questions as to who showed him that. I eventually came up with the info that his 5 year female cousin had showed him. Now she is a pretty well brought up kid that goes to a good school and has never showed any signs of even knowing what sex is.
I spoke to my DH on the phone as he is at work and told him what had happened. The only senario that we can come up with is that the cousin walked in on her parents (DH's brother and SIL) while in the act and they explained themselves as doing sexercises. The do tell her some pretty silly things sometimes.

My dilema is what to do now. Dh and I have agreed we should tell his brother & SIL, but how on earth do you word that one?? I have told my DS that his behaviour is not acceptable and his is not to do it again. So far, so good. But what do i say if the behaviour starts to repeat itself. My DS2 who is one was already repeated the thrusting movements!!!


SO please HELP, HELP, HELP!!!!:gloomy:

misskittyfantastico
01-06-2006, 17:21
I know my DD is only 8 months but if it were me I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. The more rection he gets the more he'll do it...I thinkg it's like kids swearing. Just ignore it and they'll get over it in a few days. As for telling your bro and SIL, I'd just be matter of fact about it and have a bit of a laugh over it.

Ana Gram
01-06-2006, 17:28
Simply continue with what you are doing, don't make a huge deal out of it or it might confuse him if he ever catches you in the act.

And simply be straight forward with the brother and SIL as to what happened. However I wouldn't advise telling them off for what they said to their child.

nemosmum
01-06-2006, 17:29
I have replied in your other thread:thumbsup:

I would call your sil right now and have a good:laughing:

Then I would sit ds down (when hubby gets home) and simply explain its not called sexercise its called sex and only mummies and daddies do it, not kids.

Good luck

DB&O
01-06-2006, 17:31
I would downplay it, if he thinks that it will get attention from you (even negative attention) he's likely to do it more just to see your response.
Discuss it with your BIL & SIL in a lighthearted way & hopefully there wont be any repeat performances:fingerscrossed:
Good luck.