Sexercises!!! What the???

[Lallas' Mum]

I am really not sure where to post this or exactly how to word it so bare with me please.

My 2 1/2 yr old son had me absolutely stunned and caught me completely off guard this morning. He has been taking his nappy off and putting nickies (jocks) on instead and experimenting with toilet training. Yeah finally. But the shock came when he pulled his shirt up, tucked it under his chin, tried pushing his nickies down to expose himself, squatted and tried to hump (for want of a better word) the wheel on his little ride on car!:eek: I asked him what on earth he was trying to do and he replied with "sexercises". I said "you mean exercises?" emphasing the pronunciation. He said "noooo. SSSSexercises." I couldn't even speak for at least a solid minute as I sat on the floor in utter shock.
To cut a really long story short I eventually got out of him that his 5 year female cousin (who I shall refer to as A) had shown him what to do and that it happened when he played over at her house last which was about two weeks ago. She goes to an Anglican school and has never shown any sort of sexual behaviour in front of me before so I am a little stunned. Her parents can be a bit silly in explaining things to kids sometimes and the only thing that I can think of that may have happen is that A has walked in on her parents in the act and they have said they were doing sexercises. They are silly enough to say that.

I have spoken to my husband briefly on the phone as he is at work at the moment. We are both unsure what to do. I have told my son that we do not do things like that and that he is never to do that again. But I really feel that will only get me by for now. I didn't think I would have to start explaining things like that so early in his life. DH and I agree we should tell A's parents but have no idea how to go about it. Information from a two year old can be a little unreliable. He just can't have got it from anywhere else. He is nearly always with me. And the only person he spends anytime alone with is his cousin A. By alone I mean they are left to play in their rooms with their toys while the adults are in the next room. You can usually hear when trouble is brewing.


Sorry about the ramble. My brain is all over the place. Any advice on how to handle the situation. I don't want to bring it up with my son and highlight the issue again (unless the behaviour continues). I am hoping that I have said enough to him for now and I can somehow try to prevent any further exposure to that sort of knowledge. (For a while anyway)

As for telling A's parents. How do you tell them that you think that their darling only child may have corrupted you son?!?

[nemosmum]

Firstly I love your sig. so true:laughing:

Secondly it must have been hard not to fall down laughing when witnessing such a LOL moment with your son, I would have been like :eek: then :laughing:

I would ring your niece's parents right now and tell her the whole story, see what they have to say for themsleves:rolleyes:

Then I would explain to ds that its not called sexercise its just called sex and only mummies and daddies do that, not children full stop.

That should appease your ds's curiosity for the time being!

Good luck

[Grizabella]

Hi Tracey

WOW! That must have been a HUGE shock! I think you did the right thing with your DS by telling him that it is not acceptable to do things like that, I think he's a little bit too young to go into any further details.

As for A's parents, I think you should just be upfront. Don't be aggressive about it, just tell them what you witnessed etc. Try to avoid making it sound like you are blaming her in any way, some parents get very defensive when accusations are made about their children's behaviour.

I think the most important reason to tell them is on the off chance that there is something more sinister behind their little girls actions. Just in case she has contact with people who are doing things they shouldnt be. Better safe then sorry.

Hope all works out well.

[Seekrit]

I think the most important reason to tell them is on the off chance that there is something more sinister behind their little girls actions. Just in case she has contact with people who are doing things they shouldnt be. Better safe then sorry.
:yes: I agree completely on this point alone!

Hope it's all smooth.

[sugar n spice]

Hi Tracey

WOW! That must have been a HUGE shock! I think you did the right thing with your DS by telling him that it is not acceptable to do things like that, I think he's a little bit too young to go into any further details.

As for A's parents, I think you should just be upfront. Don't be aggressive about it, just tell them what you witnessed etc. Try to avoid making it sound like you are blaming her in any way, some parents get very defensive when accusations are made about their children's behaviour.

I think the most important reason to tell them is on the off chance that there is something more sinister behind their little girls actions. Just in case she has contact with people who are doing things they shouldnt be. Better safe then sorry.

Hope all works out well.

yes i to agree with jude on that one. definetly talk to the parents