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14-02-2009, 16:35
Everyone
I've had a crap week, so I'm going to have a rant, so please forgive me if I go on.
My eldest has mild autism and started regular school 2 weeks ago. His sister, who is 5 next week, started school too as the school felt she was ready. She has sensory processing disorder (although everything else quite normal).
Well, last Sunday we noticed all my husband's blood thinning drugs and my vitamins were missing. We immediately looked to my naughty 3yo (who has a habit of raiding what he should not) and panicking, took him and his usual accomplice (the 21 month old) to hospital with a suspected overdose. 9 hours later (over 2 days) and 2 painful blood tests later, all was well (it turned out DD4 had stolen them, fortunately not eaten them).
My sister, who is a speech pathologist and thinks she's an expert on everything, said that we should be doing more constructive play with the younger ones. She said we dont know what normal play is like because our older ones were not normal (I think she feels she is superior because her children are 'normal'). This all said whilst I was anxiously waiting in hospital to see whether my 2 youngest had OD'd).
Then on Thursday my kids school said they dont think my daughter is ready for school because she doesn't listen (she has auditory processing disorder - I gave them the factsheets on this and pre-warned them that they would have to take extra time with her) I was wild - how can you make that sort of judgement only 6 days into term! Most kids are uncertain when they start prep! So I frantically rang around until a miracle kindergarten were able to offer her a spot that had just become vacant. But that meant rescheduling our whole schedule from speech therapists to creches. Not a fun thing to do.
I guess what this all comes back to is, why does everyone else feel they have a right to an opinion when you have a child with special needs (with me they feel they have the right to comment on all of my children, as they feel my judgement has been impaired because my eldest 2 have special needs and that the youngest 2 'must be affected' by my warped view of mothering as well)? And why do people not listen to you when you say your child might have a problem and all they need to do is be a little patient? Instead they just condemn you and give up on the child.
It's hard enough having your 'perfect child' bubble burst when you realise that not is all ok with your precious child, without everyone else further tapping away at your vulnerability with their heartless comments.
I just wish some of these people would give me a break and step back and see what it might be like to be the mum who has to deal with their demeaning attitudes as well as the juggling act life has given them.
:gloomy:
I've had a crap week, so I'm going to have a rant, so please forgive me if I go on.
My eldest has mild autism and started regular school 2 weeks ago. His sister, who is 5 next week, started school too as the school felt she was ready. She has sensory processing disorder (although everything else quite normal).
Well, last Sunday we noticed all my husband's blood thinning drugs and my vitamins were missing. We immediately looked to my naughty 3yo (who has a habit of raiding what he should not) and panicking, took him and his usual accomplice (the 21 month old) to hospital with a suspected overdose. 9 hours later (over 2 days) and 2 painful blood tests later, all was well (it turned out DD4 had stolen them, fortunately not eaten them).
My sister, who is a speech pathologist and thinks she's an expert on everything, said that we should be doing more constructive play with the younger ones. She said we dont know what normal play is like because our older ones were not normal (I think she feels she is superior because her children are 'normal'). This all said whilst I was anxiously waiting in hospital to see whether my 2 youngest had OD'd).
Then on Thursday my kids school said they dont think my daughter is ready for school because she doesn't listen (she has auditory processing disorder - I gave them the factsheets on this and pre-warned them that they would have to take extra time with her) I was wild - how can you make that sort of judgement only 6 days into term! Most kids are uncertain when they start prep! So I frantically rang around until a miracle kindergarten were able to offer her a spot that had just become vacant. But that meant rescheduling our whole schedule from speech therapists to creches. Not a fun thing to do.
I guess what this all comes back to is, why does everyone else feel they have a right to an opinion when you have a child with special needs (with me they feel they have the right to comment on all of my children, as they feel my judgement has been impaired because my eldest 2 have special needs and that the youngest 2 'must be affected' by my warped view of mothering as well)? And why do people not listen to you when you say your child might have a problem and all they need to do is be a little patient? Instead they just condemn you and give up on the child.
It's hard enough having your 'perfect child' bubble burst when you realise that not is all ok with your precious child, without everyone else further tapping away at your vulnerability with their heartless comments.
I just wish some of these people would give me a break and step back and see what it might be like to be the mum who has to deal with their demeaning attitudes as well as the juggling act life has given them.
:gloomy: