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KCsunshine
01-06-2006, 10:19 AM
From an early age I had a plan. My prince would arrive, we would be first loves and would marry in our early twenties. The big church wedding with a huge fluffy white gown would be swiftly followed by three perfect children. I would be a wonderful wife and mother, we would grow up and grow old together. The plan was revised in my early 20s; some amendments were made in my late 20s; and, there were significant crossing outs by my early 30s. The plan was a well-used and much loved piece of paper.

Still, my prince did arrive. Not on horseback but holding the hand of his three year old son. I wasn’t his first love, nor he mine. The most joyous day of my life was a small, private affair in a garden, creating an instant family of three. Give or take a few changes, the plan was now back on track. Three miscarriages, numerous IVF cycles and at 39 the doctor’s words that my eggs would probably never have the energy to carry a baby to term and the plan, now in tatters, seemed best placed in the bin.

Time has passed. Now is the time for a new plan.

Step families are not easy but through hard work and mutual respect, all three of us have worked hard to create a loving family. Throw two dogs into the mix and our home is often in the state of happy pandemonium. We both work hard but have achieved a happy and healthy work/family life balance. Any baby could expect to be showered in love; encouraged in any endeavour; develop curiosity about the world surrounding us; be spoilt by loving and supportive grandmothers; and, cultivate a strong love for shoes ;) and sport.

To fulfill our new plan we need the help of a kind and generous woman aged between 18 and 35 who is healthy and preferably, has completed her own family. While we reside in Sydney, we are prepared to travel interstate or assist you to travel to us. We will cover all medical costs and expenses incurred.

We would be happy to "talk" to anyone who may be interested or would like to know more. We can be contacted by pm or at mkmdoh@bigpond.net.au

Kath

sarahstarfish
01-06-2006, 01:48 PM
Oh Kath...will come back and post when the tears have cleared!

I have no doubt someone somewhere will soon be scribbling you into their own life plan.

Hugs to you and your dear family, and fingers crossed for grand things to come.

Love

Cindy

Melanie&Lucky
02-06-2006, 10:14 PM
Hi Kath :wave:

The plan you had sounded like the plan I had too! I mapped mine out when I was a littel girl, but there have been so many detours, I can't read this map anymore and I don't know where on earth it is going!! Wish I had a GPS!! Life just never turns out how we expect it to and sometimes we wonder why we have to ride this roller coaster and go through such heartache. :( I keep thinking that there must be some sort of message in all of this and hopefully one day soon, I will learn what it is. I wish you all the best in your search for an egg donor. Your story touched me. Good luck.

sarahstarfish
04-06-2006, 10:50 PM
WHAT!! Are you STILL here Kath, I would have thought you would have been snapped up and dragged off for a counselling session by now!

Hang in there, I know it must be awful to have to wear your heart on your sleeve and share such personal and painful information with the world at large...I am sure many people will be stirred by your words, and that one of them won't be able to get you out of her head until she contacts you! Seriously.

Love

Cindy (and thankyou for your kind help on that other 'thing', was like an episode of "Lost" until you stepped in!)

sarahstarfish
17-06-2006, 07:38 AM
Hey Kath

Bumpety bump.

Love

Cindy

babydreams
17-06-2006, 08:44 AM
Just a little note to anyone thinking about donating...

I know our lovely Kath (KCSunshine) and can give you an unqualified recommendation to go in her direction. You couldn't meet a sweeter, more considerate, loving person. The world will be a better place when Kath becomes a Mum and I for one will be crying tears of joy the day it happens.

I know there's a kind donor out there finding her way to you Kath, hang in there.

Babydreams :hugs:

wa mum of 4
24-06-2006, 10:33 PM
Just bumping you hon...
:fingerscrossed: Still for ya'

KCsunshine
28-06-2006, 05:46 PM
Great news! We have found our wonderful donor:smiliedance:
Met our very generous donor and her husband and they are just lovely. Drs appointment is at the beginning of August - seems sooooo far away - but hey, we have waited this long, what's another month (35 days, but who's counting:p ).
Thank you all for your comments, support and bumps - never thought I could do this and now look!
Cindy - not sure if we are a Bubhub match - I will have to check where she actually found our ad.
Love
Kath

mauve
28-06-2006, 06:39 PM
Kath, this is perfect news!
I'm glad you've found your angel and look forward to following your journey!
Cheers
SQ ;)

babydreams
29-06-2006, 09:33 AM
Just popping in to say another "Yippeeeeeeee" to you :yelclap:

Sing along everyone...."Oh happy day (oh happy day)"

Can't wait for us to be comparing our big fat preggy bellies Kath...but you know I'll win. I have a big head start :laughing:

Love, Rain xx

PMS
29-06-2006, 11:12 AM
Lol Rain!!
A very big congratulations to you Kath!!!:smiliedance:
Wow; that is one magical ad you have ! You have found your donor angel within a month of posting it. It was definately meant to be then!:yes:
Look forward to following your journey. And I hope there is a BFP in the not too distant future!!!!!



Cheers, Peta:D

sarahstarfish
29-06-2006, 02:10 PM
Awwwwww.......absolutely awesome news, I only hope she is aware of what a find she has in you.

Yes, would love to know if she found you via here.

Love

Cindy

leisurly
11-08-2006, 10:27 PM
Hi how is it going

just checking in L:wave: