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SassyMummy
10-02-2009, 10:03
Would you tell off your child if you found out they flushed another childs' underwear down the toilet?

Would you tell off your child if you hear they'd called another child a "d*ckhead"?

These things happened recently, another child my daughter was playing with (her mother was at work) did both of those things.

Now I can understand her not telling off the child, the child had already been told off, and she may not feel it's a good idea to just randomly tell her off after the event...

However, her response to the first (the underwear), was, "Oh well, they shouldn't be allowed to play stupid games."

They weren't playing, DD was on the toilet (she takes her knickers all the way off to go), and when she flushed, the other girl chucked her undies in there and they got flushed down.

The swearing got the response... "hahahaha."

She wasn't told about the events by me, but by her mother (who was here both times)... so perhaps her response may have been a little different if I had been around.

Now I know they're kids, and kids do these things... I don't expect her to flog her kid for it or anything... I dunno, I just figured if it was MY kid doing it, I'd tell her off, remind her not to swear, tell her not to go into the toilet while the other child was in there... etc etc. I'd be apologetic and embarassed.

I also know that had MY child flushed the knickers, or did the swearing, it would be WW3, and I'd be the worst mother ever, my daughter the worst child ever, and she'd be raving on about how much of a bad influence mine is on her poor sick daughter (she was sick as a baby, and has a mild condition with her immune system which she'll grow out of in a year or so, but she pulls the "sick child" thing out whenever she can).

I dunno, I'm just wondering... is the kind of response I should have expected? I mean, from her, obviously, but would other mothers respond in such a way, had they discovered their child had done the above?

Obviously nothing HORRIFIC, but still...

I'll just add that both girls are a bit beyond 3.5.

Manxie
10-02-2009, 10:14
yes I would tell off my child even if she had already been told off.

Is this the SIL again?? I hope you can get out soon as she seems like a complete nightmare:hugs:

Ana Gram
10-02-2009, 10:18
Yes, I would tell DD off.

beebs
10-02-2009, 10:20
yes absolutely I would. I hate it when parents don't do that. A kid the other day purposely pushed my DS off the play equipment at the park and the mother said nothing even though she saw the whole thing. I was livid.

BreakfastatTiffanys
10-02-2009, 10:23
Yes I would definately have words with my dd.

It does sound like your SIL finds it easier to blame your parenting and your daughter for everything she is NOT doing.

I agree with Manxie, she sounds like a nightmare.....

Jakois
10-02-2009, 10:30
Yes I would tell My DD off.

These issues seem to be cropping up all the time for you Stace.

I hope you get to move out soon:hugs::hugs:.

Queen
10-02-2009, 10:32
:yes: My DD would have been spoken too...Sounds like if she did not see it, it never happened.
The child is 3.5 not 1, she knows better IMO

sam's mum
10-02-2009, 10:51
If someone else had already done the big tell off, then I wouldn't do that again.

I would talk to them about what they had done (get them to admit it to me) and then tell them that I was sad and disappointed that they had done it, that it is wrong etc.

naiwen
10-02-2009, 10:58
If my child called another child a d*ckhead I would be thrilled as it would mean he could talk :laughing::laughing::laughing:.

Sorry LOL, but to really answer your question OP yes I have the same standards of behaviour for my child as I would for another child the same age.;)

forbetoel
10-02-2009, 11:01
Yes my child would be in trouble off ME.

I couldnt really care what had already been said. I take my kids behaviour pretty seriously. I would want to talk to them to make sure that they understood.

mum2bubba
10-02-2009, 12:09
Yes I would tell my kids off and I'd also be replacing the knickers.

I can't stand when people don't disciplin their children, its one of my pet hates especially when their child(ren) have purposely hurt another child. :shame:

Just Add Water
10-02-2009, 16:28
Yep, I would pull our kids up. I quite often get told to leave them be when there are other children present, but if they're being rude then the same rules apply, regardless of where we are, who we are with and how many other children are watching. Otherwise they get confused about what is expected of them. Keep it simple :)

If another child behaves inappropriately and my child laughs or starts to mimic it then I will explain to them that we have our rules and they need to respect our rules. I also remind them that everyone family is different and has different rules.

I don't even know if that makes sense. Yes, you had a right to be annoyed :)

Chunkydunks
10-02-2009, 16:35
Yes I would pull DS up on things he's done when I haven't been there. Its about reinforcing what is and isn't acceptable behaviour.