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swedeendie
09-02-2009, 14:02
Hi!

I am looking for ladies who might need some support in TTC journey. After trying for 30 cycles without success and being absolutely devastated and totally drained from this I thought we could share our frustration and pain and hopefully joy ahead. I am so NOT looking for comments like 'just relax and it will happen" because I think it rude and insensitive to me and other couples who struggle with infertility. This is my reality and it is very hard to go on months after months with the same negative result. Sorry but that is how i feel, even if intended in best way. If it was that simple i would be laughing.

Here we can discuss our problems, give ideas, ease our hearts and ***** over things that is beyond us. Share our fear and dreams and support during difficult time and hopefully laugh here and there!!!!!

My journey-

Me and hubby been together for 11 years and we always new we wanted kids but it was me who held it back. I just didn’t feel ready. In late of 2006 we decided that we both were ready to try. Stupid me thought it was going to happen within maybe 6 months. We just kept going as per normal and nothing happened. After approximately 6 months I started to check what I could do to time the BD a bit better and learn more about when I would ovulate etc. Nothing happened. In January of 2007 I went to my GP and started to do some tests, he wanted my hubby to do a sperm test as well. I was worried it was my entire “fault” because I had chlamydia as a young woman years and years ago and considered maybe that my tubes where blocked.
I did a HSG which was fine, very relieved. I took my hubby 6 months to give a sperm sample. After that we went to the GP together and we had a very bad result. Hubby was in disbelief. Due to the very bad count (10mil with motility only10% and non motile 75% normal forms 9%) He then had to do another one, which took him about 2 months before he did the test and the third sample another month. The second test was 7 mil with slightly better motility etc and the third sample was 18 mil but again very bad motility etc.
The GP send us to a IVF doctor which we were very positive about. He said that we had about 4% chance of conceiving naturally. Here hubby decided to change his mind about IVF and did not want to do it, he thought he could give me a baby anyway.

So here we are….trying. I am on 16dpo at the moment and again have symptoms (wishful?) as per usual. Until yesterday my temps been really high and i been very positive. Today i am spotting and i think AF is around the corner. It honestly is driving me nuts.:hair:
I want to give up, cry, scream and yeah, kick the door. This is inhumane.

Anyone who would like to join me here- be my guest!!!! I would really cherish other ladies input in similar situations that struggle to conceive in any way.:wave:

Endie

P.s i posted a similar thread in the wrong forum so i am trying again.:flowerz:

talia11
09-02-2009, 16:05
Hi Endie - sorry to hear your plight.:no:
Is there any reason why your DH doesn't want to do IVF? It seems a real big ask to wait on the off-chance it might happen - IVF is a gruelling and often heartbreaking procedure but I can't imagine any worse than hoping each month and having nothing happen??

The progress that has been made in IVF, especially with ICSI (which is what you guys would probably use) is amzing so that may be your best chance!!

Good luck!

ringneck
09-02-2009, 17:59
Endie why don't you come join us in the roller coaster thread there are many of us with massive road blocks in the way of our baby dreams and the ladies are lovely and supportive.

I myself have a few different fertility issues currently preventing us from falling pregnant my partner is in tip top condition. I have PCOS, Endo, Unicornuate uterus and a rudimentary horn. A unicornuate uterus is smaller then it should be mine is kind of shaped like a banana with the right side not being fully developed, the right side is also where i have the horn which is my right tube but it is tiny unattached and completely blocked.
We have been ttc since nov/dec07 and i have only ovulated twice in this time this cycle being one of them.
I see the dr on Wednesday to discuss removing the horn and proceeding to IVF.

You are definitely not alone in your struggle for a baby and it helps a lot to know there are others in a similar situation. :hugs:

greenapple
10-02-2009, 01:37
Endie - DP and I are also struggling with unexplained infertility so I can totally relate to you with your frustrations.

Come join the roller coaster thread, it can be very helpful and filled with lots of support!!