is it wrong ????

[munchkin05]

hi everyone:wave:

just wanted to ask a quick question

ben is one on thursday the 8th june and is still being breast fed i dont have a problem with this and nor does he but it seems everyone else does have a problem

today i went to a mothers room to feed him and i got stares that could have killed and one woman asked how old he was so i told her and her responce was "and your still breast feeding isnt he to old ":eek:
it makes me feel like s**t :crying:
i think im doing the right thing by ben but im starting to doubt this is true all because some people have a problem with it

its strangers my family friends etc who coment
the only ones that i feel that are supporting me in this is dp and my neighbour :thumbsup:

should i wean him ??
is he to old ? and im just having trouble letting go ?

when did you all wean or plan to wean your kiddies ?

has anyone else experienced comments about feeding their bubbas

[borntobemummy]

Don't worry what ppl say. You are doing what's best for you and your family, they should mind their business! I plan to BF my DD til at least 1, it just has so many benefits!! Their are many ppl in the www that would agree, pm me for the link if you like, or just check out the Attachment parenting group, they seem to advocate BFing for a long time, it is the most natural thing in the world! :hugs:

[tanni_83]

NO NO NO dont listen to them. :mad:
You are doing what is right for you and your bub, dont be discourage by anyone! Elise is one and shes still breast fed (lots...hardly eating any solids). This is you and your babys journy, noone elsees, they should keep their rotten remarks to themselves. :yes:

If you need a buddy to get through it, PM me. I will give you all the support you need and so will this thread!

BREAST FEED AS LONG AS YOU WANT and let yourself and your bub decide when it is time to 'wean' its your choice, NOONE else's!!!

:hugs:

[FourAngelKisses]

Don't worry about them, you are doing the right thing by still feeding him. If he was 6, then it would be an issue. :laughing: I have a friend whose 2yr old still has 4-5 feeds a day.

[misskittyfantastico]

You are a fantastic mum.....don't listen to ignorant people. I plan to BF for the forseeable future and anyone who doesn't like it can get stuffed!

[becca74]

What a rude person to say that to you! Strangers, especially should keep their opinions to themselves :mad:

If they are going to be rude, maybe turn to them, give them a pitying look, and say....."awwww - you obviously arent educated about the latest research into breastfeeding, you poor thing...."

It is obviously the truth after-all.....

[munchkin05]

If he was 6, then it would be an issue. :laughing: I have a friend whose 2yr old still has 4-5 feeds a day.

well i think i would have stopped it by then :yes: if he was 6 then i would accept peoples comments but for gods sake hes only 1

its stupid but i let these people get to me and make me doubt myself as a parent and if im doing the right thing by ben :(
then i sit here at home and start thinking about taking him of HIS booby right this minute and get myself all worked up

i know im doing the best by ben but coments make you doubt it
and i guess i just need some reasurance from other mummies :wave:

[Grizabella]

Hey Ang :wave:

Stuff em! I know for a fact you're a great Mum, I've seen you in action, and I think Ben is a wonderful little guy!

Keep up the good work!:thumbsup:

[Oscar's mum]

I know the feeling Bens Mummy.

I am still breastfeeding my 15 month old and yes he still wants feeds when I am out and about, so I go into parent's rooms.

Ppl stare and ask me how old he is all the time and I find it disgusting.

My mother said Ozzy should definately be off the breast at his age, I don't understand why they feel this way.:banghead:

If Ozzy was on formula surely no one would question why he is getting fed at that time so what difference should it make if we are breastfeeding:mad:

[Sarie]

I really can't get over how rude some people are and why they think they have the rignt to comment on how anyone, especially someone they don't know raises their children.
I bottle feed my kids and my 14 month old still has bottles so why should you stop giving your bub BF?
While it's something you are both happy to continue doing it go for it! I know plenty of women who would love to be able to still be breastfeeding at 12 months. What is better than a happy baby and mum content with what their doing?!
Good luck to you and :thumbsdown: to people who think they know best!
:hugs:

[Oscar's mum]

I bottle feed my kids and my 14 month old still has bottles so why should you stop giving your bub BF?


lol thankyou! That just reiterated what I was trying to say!;)

[nats]

Ang, now you can respond to the ignorant with "My mates on Bub Hub think you should p!@@ off!!!!":thumbsup:

[kadownie]

People have a go at me all the time- I've grown thick skin now- my twins are 21 months- and I see it as my secret weapon. I'm so pleased that I haven't weaned, they love it, it gives me good calming hormones- and you need those with toddlers around. It's so good for their health, both physical, emotional and mental. The World Health Organization actually recomment that babies be breastfed until they are at least 2- that's not something you hear promoted all that often- don't know why though.

You are doing one of the most natural things in the world- and although you may feel like the only one still feeding your toddler- you're not- there's a heap of us lurking around. There's a book that I have a quick read of when I feel a bit down about the feeding thing- by Dr Sears- called 'The breastfeeding book'- it always gives me a pick up and helps to remind me why I keep it up. There's also another book- can't remember the name- I'll put it up when I remember it- haven't read it but really want to.

[JE's Mum]

My son is 15 months and we're still feeding. Just remember, the WHO recommends some breastmilk until 2! I don't think we will be going that long (will probably fully wean over the next month or so) but if the WHO is recommending that, who are we to argue! Just tell them that!

[munchkin05]

Ang, now you can respond to the ignorant with "My mates on Bub Hub think you should p!@@ off!!!!":thumbsup:


i will have to remember that one lol :yelclap:


Stuff em! I know for a fact you're a great Mum, I've seen you in action, and I think Ben is a wonderful little guy!

Keep up the good work!

thanks jude


I bottle feed my kids and my 14 month old still has bottles so why should you stop giving your bub BF?

i have never thought of it that way

i want to go feed ben and hope someone says somthing now :ecomcity:
thanks guys im feeling positive again :thumbsup:

[kymmy]

Ignorance is what it is.
Not everybody understands the importance of breastfeeding.
Keep it up for as long as it works, I say

[shed]

You are a fantastic mum.....don't listen to ignorant people. I plan to BF for the forseeable future and anyone who doesn't like it can get stuffed!


Ooh, I couldn't have put it better so I will just say "what she said" word for word!

[Mischief]

Hey Angela,

Thats great that you are still BF. The midwives, Dr, and CHN were encouraging me to BF until Ollie is at least 1...I'm going back to work part time when he is 8 months.... They said the health benefits are great and there are always ways around BF when at work.

People are rude. Its your choice!!!!

[joe]

Just lending my support - It's hard to believe you are copping flak about feeding you son breast milk but no-one would bat an eyelid if you were feeding him junk food...

[cheezelkat]

It's fantastic you're still breastfeeding - all those lovely nutrients and immunities flowing from you to bub! You cant get that from anything made from chemicals :yes:

I now a lot of people get flak after 6 months but what you are doing is best for you and bub. The longer you can go, the better! good work mama! :thumbsup:

[simjt]

Hey Bensmummy
I certainly wouldn't let it get to you...be proud!:yelclap:
My DS is 6 months, I intend to breastfeed as long as I have milk and as long as he still wants it. My friend was BF her daughter at 2.

[lukaelmo]

If Ozzy was on formula surely no one would question why he is getting fed at that time so what difference should it make if we are breastfeeding:mad:


Nice point :thumbsup: .

I am amazed at people's opinions, FFing mums cop flack for not BFing, while BFing mums get - "do it, but only until we say is appropriate".

I BF the dude, and never get comments, he is 10 months but only tiny, I guess if he were a bit bigger people might start taking notice. I also plan for him to self-wean. I get nothing but support from my family, most especially my mother who is constantly telling me what a good job I am doing. This is what normal people should be commenting to you - praise for doing the best job you can.

You just squirt some nork juice into their faces the next time you get a stoopid comment. That'll shut 'em up :laughing:.

[FourAngelKisses]

I guess if he were a bit bigger people might start taking notice.

A bit off topic here, but when Jacob was 8wks old, he was huge, the size of a 4mth old (6.5kgs and 64cm long), he would sit on my hip holding his head up properly, just like a toddler does. I was at the corner shop one day and the old guy behind the counter asked me if he would like a lolly. I said "uuummmm....I'm sure he would but he's only 8wks old."
People just look at your kids, assume they know how old they are and make assumptions about things. If they are big babies, they treat them like they are older kids and expect you to do the same. If they are small babies, they treat them like they are delicate and would break. KWIM??

[poshBecks]

People have absolutely NO right to comment on how others decide to do their parenting!! Though we all may not agree with each others styles all the time, what gives us the right to tell them!!! :banghead: Hello!!!!!

I say the next time you get a comment like that you should politely say.....

"Yes I still breastfeed my son. And since when is it any of your business?"

People amaze me they really do :mad:

[aprilbaby]

Just lending my support! I plan on BFing my DS for as long as we both enjoy it and would not care if every single person I came across thought it was wrong.

Trust your own instinct - you know what's right for your baby and everyone else should keep their opinions to themselves.:)

[*Chels*]

Look,its been said but....
YOURE DOING A GREAT JOB:yes:
Good on you for still breastfeeding!!my son is almost 8 months,I cant imagine him ever willingly giving up the boob:laughing:
Who gives a flying **** what people think!!!Its yours and bens choice,not anyone elses!!
Keep up the fantastic work:thumbsup:

[Mum&bubs]

Nothing is wrong with it at all. Summer is 14 months and still fully breastfed. If someone asked me that i would say why got a problem? that should shut them up!

[au01]

Congratulations on breastfeeded ur baby for this long..alot of mothers don't even keep it up this long.BUT I hope you continue until YOU are comfortable.
Don't worry about what others say it is none of their business.
I fed my daughter (now 3.5) until she was 18 months and I plan on doing the same with my baby(5mths).
I have never had anyone say anything to me about it or about feeding in public and god help them if they did..they have no right.
Keep it up and be proud...your a great mother!:hugs:

[Mister Noodle]

Whatever works, works.

I do find it kinda ironic, though, that so many people are giving their opinion that other's people's opinions are worse than useless.

Seems somewhat self-defeating.

[xkwzit]

And really other ppl's opinions aren't worth spit if whatever you are doing works for your family.

Of course that's just my opinion :D .

[jarrahsmumma]

just wanted to add my congratulations for feeding so well. i was unable to feed my son and so when ever i see a BF woman i give her a smile, especially when bub is 'older' or mum looks stressed.

i plan on feeding this child as long as he/she needs and wants it, they may just be 6 yrs:thumbsup: . did you know that the natural weaning age is between 2 and 7 yrs old

we need more mums feeding longer out there:p

[damien's mum]

who cares what people think darlz, atleast beno is little enuff to keep on ya boob, try having damien on there! Whatever suits you and ben, isnt that what is best for the child?? Bugger these other ppl, they dont understand ur sitution, or what ben is like, pft! :yelclap:

[Tarnya]

That just brought tears to my eyes you poor thing I couldn't feed with my DD #1 but did with my DS#2 and was feeding one day and got abused I was at a bus station a lady told me I was disgusting and that we people meaning mum's I guess should stay at home where we belong. Luckily enough in my fragile state of PND I was just about to walk the 4 km home so I didn't have to catch the bus with her and an older lady (65 or so )? jumped in a gave this woman what for! The ladies caused such a ruccus the bus driver pulled up and told the lady who had abused me to catch a later bus.

Your a mum and a good one from all the girls comments who know you here, stick with your guns as long as you want :)