how could they do this 19 days from my wedding !!!!!

[angelickaren]

well ladies i am very very stressed and upset due to after my out burst well not really but caught him in a lie

Our bestman yesterday rang df and said look mate i am sorry to tell you this but me and his gf cant attend our wedding due to he cant support us so he has pulled out WOW.
hey all over i stood up to him beacause he lied to me
i feel so hurt and like i have broken up with someone very much in grief as this 2 people were such a huge part of our wedding his gf is a training celebrant she was going to do most of our wedding with another celebrant to witness it by law we had to do that

so i am just shattered my df is very upset because now he has lost his best friend of 9 yrs
the bestman has said to df that him and his g/f can no longer be our friends

also his g/f didnt know about the stripper and he told her as he thought i would off so i guess she was angry they have taken us off there facebook and everyone who we are friends have also been cut off so now im 19 days from my biggest day of my life and now i have to find a new bestman or at least groomsmen but i feel like my day will not be the same now as they will not be a part of it as they were a huge part of our day

sorry for rumbling but i so confused and hurt words cant descride how i feel :crying:

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

I don't know what happened that caused the problems in the first place, perhaps you could just try and smooth it out. Maybe your fiance could go and see his ex best man face to face and try and resolve things.

Weddings are very stressful, perhaps if your DF explained to them the amount of stress you are both experiencing and that despite the issues that you both value their friendship, it may make a difference. I do think it's selfish to pull out right before a wedding.

I hope it is all sorted soon for you.

[Nowhere]

HUGS your day will be more perfect with out people like that

[WorkingClassMum]

that is so not fair :hugs:

It's best that you found out now and not the day before I suppose :rolleyes:

Do you have a brother/bil that can step in? :confused:

I hope you get it all sorted out :hugs:

[Starlet]

Aww *hugs* My hubby had to step in as a groomsman at the last minute for his sister because a similar thing happened.

I ended up firing a bridesmaid 10 days before my wedding too.

*hugs* I hope you find someone to step in!

[tyler's mum]

Thats harsh i dont think he has the right to be called a friend:no:

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[hailsntwang]

Hun is this all because you asked him not to bring a stripper into your house?:confused:

If he doesn't want to "support" your wedding because you didn't want a stripper in your home then that is absolutely ridiculous!!!:eek:

So much for friendship and friends being honest with each other.

Whose wedding is it anyway. Whose bucks night was it. It's not as if you were forbiding him from having strippers at his own bucks night. It was your husbands night and your house.

I'm beyond words. How immature!!

I am so so sorry that these parts of his personality are showing now and not before.

[angelickaren]

thankyou for all your replies i just cant process this in my head i feel so numb but get this yesterday when fil rang to see if his family was still coming as we invited them as we are close to his family as well his mother said oh yeah sorry they are at erina fair shopping together WTF i mean hello why dont they feel like us devestated no they went shoppung :thumbsdown:
we are thinking about replacing him with another
good friend i just cant believe it :no:

[mini-moo's mummy]

oh my god!!! you poor thing!!!

i thought we had issues coz our bridal party can never make themselves free for this or that but your situation takes the cake.....

if you still feel like u want them to be apart of ur lives then id put every effort into trying to sort things out but by the sounds of it they dont deserve u as their friend after they have done this to you.

everyone knows how stressful planning a wedding can be and to do this is just horrible....

i hope u have someone special who can stand in if thatys the option u choosr and im sure ur day will be so special and happy u will forget the dramas running up to it!!!

[angelickaren]

I don't know what happened that caused the problems in the first place, perhaps you could just try and smooth it out. Maybe your fiance could go and see his ex best man face to face and try and resolve things.

Weddings are very stressful, perhaps if your DF explained to them the amount of stress you are both experiencing and that despite the issues that you both value their friendship, it may make a difference. I do think it's selfish to pull out right before a wedding.

I hope it is all sorted soon for you.

well it has all happen i have another thread in the wedding section but long story short is the bestman had included me in every aspect of df bucks night me and our 3 kids left our home for the night and they had the bucks night at our place and he didnt tell me he had hired a stripper and i was so upset as this is my family home and where my kids lives he told me everything that he had planned right to to times etc but he failed to tell about the stripper and i was so upset he lied to me as i asked if he was going to have one early on and he said no but i found a email on fil computer which said he had organsied it before he lied to me he is angry at me for getting angry which i had every right too so thats it

[HunterzMummy]

well it has all happen i have another thread in the wedding section but long story short is the bestman had included me in every aspect of df bucks night me and our 3 kids left our home for the night and they had the bucks night at our place and he didnt tell me he had hired a stripper and i was so upset as this is my family home and where my kids lives he told me everything that he had planned right to to times etc but he failed to tell about the stripper and i was so upset he lied to me as i asked if he was going to have one early on and he said no but i found a email on fil computer which said he had organsied it before he lied to me he is angry at me for getting angry which i had every right too so thats it

That is the most immature thing i have ever heard. Stand up and take it like a man not a little princess school girl. I'm sorry but if they are gonna act that way IMO they dont deserve to be in your wedding. Cutting you off as friends and facebook :rolleyes: hang on did they say your not invited to my birthday party anymore - i remember my LITTLE cousin who had a similar fight. Hunnie they are not worth the extra stress. This day is about YOU AND HUBBY no one else. Keep your eyes focused on that and you will have a perfect day :hugs::hugs: